How to make my nice girl feel safer to be a bad girl more regularly ? I think that she’s afraid to make me feel bad or afraid humiliate me even a little.
We are in our late 50’s. My fiancé and I enjoy a reoccurring fantasy of me watching her with a muscular much younger man.
She also goes crazy when directing me to lick her while he’s fucking her and she always wants me to blow him.
Now She’s always very careful in our fantasy (and reality) not to be a bad girl because she’s a very good girl who is only sometimes very naughty.
I’d really like for her to become more dominant where she chooses a particular man and tells me that she’s going to have seX with him because SHE WANTS TO HAVE A MAN LIKE THAT and that I will have to watch and wait until they are done …. or some OTHER variation of dominance.
How can I get her to do that? Just ask her? Is there a way that I can get her to do it on her own without me directing?
Ps, she recently attended a wedding as a guest with her adult daughter. Later that night she left me a voice mail, unprovoked, describing she had danced with a very cute and muscular younger man who was very much into her. She said that it got intense and she finally had to break away. This led to us talking about it on the phone and it was hot. I think that she’s going in the right direction but she was still a bit careful.
Any recommendations to help her become more comfortable being a bar girl would be appreciated.