Thank you so much Jeff. He will be home in a short while, but I really want him to see this post. This is exactly what he needs to hear from another man. Wonderful post!JeffBingham wrote:Willingtoo,
Insecurity is closely related to, and often the cause of, jealousy. A couple of guys have responded that they don't understand why your husband should feel any of that. But if you read a lot of the threads of experienced guys, jealousy, insecurity, pain, exclusion, all these emotions come into play with us. It's great if those lucky few don't feel it, but most do - it's totally normal. But the thrill of the adventure outweighs these negative feelings, and as time goes by, we actually start to crave these negative emotions as part of the thrill ride that is hotwifing.
Look at it this way. How would you feel if your husband was with another woman last night? (I know, I know, not quite the same thing). Would you feel less secure in your relationship this morning than you did yesterday? Just because it's something that turns us on like nothing else does, doesn't mean that we won't have any scary feelings. It's your loving reassurance to him, and his loving support of you after last night that will bring your bond to new heights.
It often seems to me that husbands underestimate the feelings and emotions a wife goes through as she gets into this journey. But it also seems that the vast majority of hotwives on this site don't fully appreciate the emotional struggles their husbands deal with in reconciling this strong kink with reality.
Bottom line: your husband sounds totally normal to me. It's a shame he couldn't be closer with you today to reconnect.
Jeff
Carrie