Men are men. And I'm sure his thought process was at least not far off from your own. He is dipping his toe in the water to check the temp. And she isn't quite there yet. She is warming though, as I am sure the sexual implications of his comment didn't go unnoticed. And then for her to openly call herself his girlfriend. Yeah, your innocent wife I believe has secret dirty little mind she has been keeping tucked away. I would suspect that if they continue to text and you two continue to talk, things will progress forward. Even if nothing happens with him, she will have opened herself up.Mlghten wrote:Appreciate the reply and you following our journey.D_Lited_HubWife wrote:So happy to read this update from you!
I'm glad things are going well, and yeah, life does get in the way from time to time.
Is texting with her friend a new behavior? Like something she started since you brought up hotwifing? If so, then rest assured that it is on her mind. And she will continue to work this in her mind on her timing. You can't force it, nor should you. And her, even jokingly, calling herself his "girlfriend" is a BIG step it would seem. As i don't believe your wife would have said something along those lines before. Sometimes those things are tests, her trying to see how you will respond. It's okay to "push her buttons", but don't push too hard. You're more than likely going to experience some more x steps forward and 1 step back before she decides it is what she wants and makes it known to you.
Great progress. Thanks for keeping us updated!
She has only text him a few times that I know about. I read them both and there were a few comments he made that could have been an attempt to get a sexual response from my wife. Example, she was texting him late in the evening and she said, I’m surprised your still up. He said I’m always up. Maybe I’m reading into this, but I saw it as an opening and my wife didn’t, or was afraid to bite. There were couple of other messages that I thought were interesting comment that left a sexual opening my wife didn’t take. Hope I’m not reading too much into this.
This is the same guy I asked her how he was feeling because he had a cold and she told me, I don’t know, I’m not his wife. Then immediately said, I’m his girlfriend laughing saying, I’m just kidding. HUMMMMM!!!
Never bring judgement into the equation. Always make her feel loved and accepted. The moment she feels judged is the moment she hides, and that helps no one. You are doing well, my suggestion would be to let her develop this in herself. Don't bring it up. Fall back a bit and see where she is. If she brings it up herself in the form of questions, or inquiry, or talking about her friend more. Then I think it's safe to say she's in. But she may still be at the place where she requires your prompting. Either way, your journey will be different than everyone else's, keep that in mind, and do what's best for the two of you.
Look forward to your updates!