Once cuckolding begins is there any going back?

[kellycuckoldsmark]

Our cuckolding life has been a journey of over 20 years and we have found different elements to the journey over that time. Our communication is regular and for the past 12 years we have been very deliberate in agreeing what we want and don't want to be doing for short blocks at a time. At this stage of life anything more than a 3 month view is impractical for us! In another thread someone wrote that 'we are the movie stars at the other men at just bit players' and that is a pretty way to sum up our view and why we know we can stop and why when we are in dry spells it isn't a problem. Kelly seeing other men enhances our own experiences so are built on a strong sexual foundation and marriage.

We did stop for a few years after we married. That was 10+ years into some pretty heavy playing starting off swinging then involvement to finally cuckolding. Kelly wanted to take a break or stop indefinitely after we married apart from my best friend who she saw 1-2 a year max. After about 6 years and our son being born we started to talk about whether we wanted to play again. We did.

This time though it was totally different. Pre marriage and children it was a central theme of our relationship. We would plan weekends/date nights around her being with other people. Now with very different flexibility we started to move to more irregular meetings. She also wanted a little more relational (she doesn't believe emotional) attachment and put rules in like no sex on the first date. She wanted some 'wooing' back and enjoyed a date with a guy and then if both were interested a second date. She prefers married men and as we live near a major airport, we found the best path for us were business travellers. They were horny and had a hotel room! We could quickly shrink the pool to those who would go for drinks/dinner/movie with Kelly with no sex (surprisingly high # just wanted company while out of town); and that allowed her to decide if she wanted to have sex with them. Most come to town 1x a month or 1x a quarter. That fits out schedule much better. She could see someone every night if she wanted but that's not practical so maybe 2x a month now. That's pseudo stopping in Kelly's opinion! She slowed down when pregnant with our daughter but fulfilled my fantasy of seeing one of her 'regular' guys when 7 months pregnant.

Then another break for a year or so before slowly going back to meeting people.

All the way through the 20 years through the good and bad experiences, we have always promised to be able to stop if either one wanted to. We have taken extended breaks for this reason or for life events. The infrequency of now gives us comfort that we could stop because she only sees someone when we both want that high.

Everyone is different!