How has your relationship type evolved over time?

[toreaddave]

Those that are now in the lifestyle (hotwifing/cuckolding/any other form of non-monogamy), how has your relationship type evolved over time? For example: monogamous -> open relationship -> hotwifing -> cuckolding. It's a little hard to list all combinations in a poll, so I'll simplify the poll to just whether your relationship started as monogamous or non-monogamous.

[knight4princess]

relationship --> cheating --> relationship --> hotwife --> swinging --> FLR hotwife --> FLR Hotwife / cuckold.

[toreaddave]

relationship --> cheating --> relationship --> hotwife --> swinging --> FLR hotwife --> FLR Hotwife / cuckold.

Oh wow, cheating. Did you have cuckold interests before that incident?

[readerofthings]

My wife has a very high sex drive. She was cheating on me from the beginning when we moved in together and now it's turned into cuckolding with her seeing multiple boyfriends in any given week. She's not shy about treating me in ways most would see as humiliation but for us it's more of a fun game that we laugh about together. I thought the cheating was just with an ex but recently (as a birthday present) she sent me a link to a video online of her with a then next door neighbor in our bed. Apparently he was into making movies and brought over some higher end recording equipment. They strategically shot the video so her face was not seen and his was blurred out when it came on screen. For those interested it started with him on his back and her on her hands and knees with her backside facing the camera, both completely naked. She crawled up his body and kissed him, then blew him (both not seen directly), then she rode him bareback, and finally he turned her around and fucked her doggystyle, with her hair hiding her face.

[jw_kk]

My wife KK has never been happily monogamous, even from the time we were just dating. She has always been a cheating adulteress...

Early on, at least at first, I was unaware. As my awareness increased over various incidents, I lived in denial, but perversely found her cheating to be stimulating and erotic, so I chose actively, deliberately not to confront her. We had a monogamous relationship for about the first six months of our marriage, before KK went back to her cock-hound ways.

Over the next twenty years, we both carried on affairs, from one-night fuck and suck events to more complicated relationships - mostly creating misery for ourselves and others. Then we crossed into the hot wife domain, and life has never been better... 20+ years later, we're both happier than we've ever been, with KK fucking whomever she pleases.

[toreaddave]

My wife KK has never been happily monogamous, even from the time we were just dating. She has always been a cheating adulteress...

Early on, at least at first, I was unaware. As my awareness increased over various incidents, I lived in denial, but perversely found her cheating to be stimulating and erotic, so I chose actively, deliberately not to confront her. We had a monogamous relationship for about the first six months of our marriage, before KK went back to her cock-hound ways.

Over the next twenty years, we both carried on affairs, from one-night fuck and suck events to more complicated relationships - mostly creating misery for ourselves and others. Then we crossed into the hot wife domain, and life has never been better... 20+ years later, we're both happier than we've ever been, with KK fucking whomever she pleases.

My wife has a very high sex drive. She was cheating on me from the beginning when we moved in together and now it's turned into cuckolding with her seeing multiple boyfriends in any given week. She's not shy about treating me in ways most would see as humiliation but for us it's more of a fun game that we laugh about together. I thought the cheating was just with an ex but recently (as a birthday present) she sent me a link to a video online of her with a then next door neighbor in our bed. Apparently he was into making movies and brought over some higher end recording equipment. They strategically shot the video so her face was not seen and his was blurred out when it came on screen. For those interested it started with him on his back and her on her hands and knees with her backside facing the camera, both completely naked. She crawled up his body and kissed him, then blew him (both not seen directly), then she rode him bareback, and finally he turned her around and fucked her doggystyle, with her hair hiding her face.

Thanks for sharing! That's three in a row now for monogamous -> cheating -> cuckolding. This has me thinking it might be better to just skip the first two steps LOL.

[MartasBoy]

It started as very monogamous but she came around big time. It also took me a long time to convince her that I'm submissive and that I enjoy her being dominant, and humiliating me. Now she embraces it a lot.

It also seems that she has come to enjoy how her dominance over me amuses lovers. Any worry a guy might have, goes away as soon as they realize that I am submissive.

[Caribwaters]

Monogamous for the first 7 years, then her cheating, then honesty, then discussion and agreement on an open marriage, but for only her, then a full fledged cuckold, that evolved into FLM. She has enjoyed 6 lovers over the years, 3 of them long term relationships.

[AnotherOneTrying]

It started as very monogamous but she came around big time. It also took me a long time to convince her that I'm submissive and that I enjoy her being dominant, and humiliating me. Now she embraces it a lot.

It also seems that she has come to enjoy how her dominance over me amuses lovers. Any worry a guy might have, goes away as soon as they realize that I am submissive.

Sounds amazing and inspiring) I'm yet to convince my wife to enter the lifestyle but I'm trying to do so by slowly changing the power dynamic in our bedroom majorly by her pegging me, relying more on dildo then my dick for penetration and some dirty talks and fantasies where I have clear submissive role and theoritical bill. How did you achieve this transition?

[PANTIES]

It started one night when I asked her since we have been married have you meet anyone who would want to get in your panties. When she said, yes and told me who all I could say was for it it. Wow did she ever. Later when she meet a different lover and this guy became the male in life I was told to move out of our bedroom and to use the guest bedroom. I have been there submissive and sleeping in that bedroom since March 2019.

Pauline

[Johnann2227]

We started dating at 19ish (me)/18ish(Ann) and were monogamous. Both had had other lovers before. About a year into our relationship we had a drunken night while camping with friends and haf a surprise 4some. After a lot of talk the next day (where we found out they were into swinging), we decided we enjoyed it and played with them weekly. After about 6 months they took us to a swingers club where we played in a group room with a number of couples. We were all in. After a few years we decided on an open marriage (and to live as nudists at home) where either of us could fuck others we met on a night out or could date people we met. We did that through our marriage until our kids were old enough to start questioning where was mummy/daddy at breakfast? We kept swing though even if it every 3 weeks or so. We then evolved into Ann hotwifing when she was late 30s. We both loved it. I have always loved sharing her and giving her the most pleasure has always been my aim. Now in our late 40s Ann is in her sexual peak. We swing weekly with a group of 5 other couples (who we have been together with over 20 years). Ann has regular boyfriends. She usually dates 2 days per week (Tuesdays and Fridays). Recently our 20 year old daughter and 17 year old son found out that we are swingers and Ann is a hotwife. After a lot of family discussion they accept it and are supportive. They wish us a fun night when we are leaving for our Saturday night group party. Our daughter helps her mother get ready for dates. Only our family and most of our vanilla friends do not know.

[isinlarsa]

First wife: monagamous to swapping to cheating to hotwifing.

Second wife: Started "non-exclusive" while dating to monogamous to hotwifing.

[MartasBoy]

It started as very monogamous but she came around big time. It also took me a long time to convince her that I'm submissive and that I enjoy her being dominant, and humiliating me. Now she embraces it a lot.

It also seems that she has come to enjoy how her dominance over me amuses lovers. Any worry a guy might have, goes away as soon as they realize that I am submissive.

Sounds amazing and inspiring) I'm yet to convince my wife to enter the lifestyle but I'm trying to do so by slowly changing the power dynamic in our bedroom majorly by her pegging me, relying more on dildo then my dick for penetration and some dirty talks and fantasies where I have clear submissive role and theoritical bill. How did you achieve this transition?

First we started a bedroom roleplay, with an imaginary lover, we made up. I would start by "confronting" her by saying I could smell his cologne and new she had been with him. I demand to know why she sees him. She would tell me all of the things he can do for her, that I can't.

I would beg her to have sex so I could reclaim her. She would make me beg. With everything I'd try to do, she'd tell me that her imaginary lover did it better. I initially coached her to do this, but she learned that she enjoyed how this challenge made me really work hard to do everything the way she instructed. She'd say, "Well, what you're doing is "OK", I guess, but what he does, that I really like, is...." She came to enjoy that this made me jump through all sorts of hoops, to do it as well as her "lover".

Through this role play, my wife observed that this really turned me on and caused me to have the most intense orgasms. To "claim" her back from her imaginary lover, she would make me give her foot rubs, a whole body massage, and give her several orgasms by orally pleasuring her. Then she made me beg to be inside of her. After all of this, I had intense orgasms. My wife loves making me jump through these hoops to pleasure her.
She was amazed how much it turned me on, for her to make me jealous.

Then we started taking the fantasy more toward reality. We started going to cocktail lounges at nice hotels. My wife felt she was no longer that attractive. She dresses up cute and sexy, and sits at the bar, while I sit at a distant table. We wait for her to be hit on. She was amazed how often she was.

At first she just chatted with them and declined offers. Then we would go home and fantasize about it. I'd ask her who she found attractive or interesting. Then I'd ask her to imagine going with one of the guys and what her night with him would be like, and what they did.

She came to like the fantasy, and how it turned me on, and made me jump through hoops to serve and pleasure her.

It took time to develop her interest, and convince her that she was not hurting me, or being a bad wife.

[tiedyeHotwife]

- Many monogamous years.
- Hotwife fantasy slowly evolving as my husband would often be away for weeks at a time.
- took the plunge. two men in two weeks. amazing. fun. but too much to process
- years stuck with nothing further except fantasizing about my hotwife experiences.

Then came the revelation of "slut training". slowly working through the obstacles and embracing my pure sexuality. All the usual games. Bar game, sexy girl at the gym game, dress too sexy at work game. Etc. Then fucking one of the guys I hotwifed with a couple years ago. Was super hot and fun.
- one week while husband was away we tried me being a cam girl on AFF. awesome fun and it unleashed something.
- the past year I've been on chaturbate. LOVE it. The unexpected thing was how other sites aggregate chaterubate models videos - so once its out there - its REALLY out there. Full face. Toy play. And I love it. I'm my husbands porn star - for real. Videos are everywhere now. Makes us both insanely hot.

And now back to hotwifing - but without my internal obstacles - and its been crazy amazing.

I cam with wedding rings off - which my husband finds super hot - and now hotwifing is as a single girl - rings off. I don't wear wedding rings when I fuck my husband either. Super sexy.
That's the current state of things but still deeply monogamous (except for hotwife sex). I belong to my husband - I just have learned how to let my inner slut out to torture him just the right amount (and maybe a bit too much).

[toreaddave]

Monogamous for the first 7 years, then her cheating, then honesty, then discussion and agreement on an open marriage, but for only her, then a full fledged cuckold, that evolved into FLM. She has enjoyed 6 lovers over the years, 3 of them long term relationships.

Sounds like you two have been together for a long time and that the only reason for her cheating was wanting something extra with her sex life, rather than there being something wrong with your relationship itself. Am I correct in this assumption?

[toreaddave]

It started one night when I asked her since we have been married have you meet anyone who would want to get in tour panties. When she said, yes and told me who all I could say was for it it. Wow did she ever. Later when she meet a different lover and this guy became the male in life I was told to move out of our bedroom and to use the guest bedroom. I have been there submissive and sleeping in that bedroom since March 2019.

Pauline

Very hot. Was it your wife or your wife's lover who suggested you move out of the bedroom?

[toreaddave]

We started dating at 19ish (me)/18ish(Ann) and were monogamous. Both had had other lovers before. About a year into our relationship we had a drunken night while camping with friends and haf a surprise 4some. After a lot of talk the next day (where we found out they were into swinging), we decided we enjoyed it and played with them weekly. After about 6 months they took us to a swingers club where we played in a group room with a number of couples. We were all in. After a few years we decided on an open marriage (and to live as nudists at home) where either of us could fuck others we met on a night out or could date people we met. We did that through our marriage until our kids were old enough to start questioning where was mummy/daddy at breakfast? We kept swing though even if it every 3 weeks or so. We then evolved into Ann hotwifing when she was late 30s. We both loved it. I have always loved sharing her and giving her the most pleasure has always been my aim. Now in our late 40s Ann is in her sexual peak. We swing weekly with a group of 5 other couples (who we have been together with over 20 years). Ann has regular boyfriends. She usually dates 2 days per week (Tuesdays and Fridays). Recently our 20 year old daughter and 17 year old son found out that we are swingers and Ann is a hotwife. After a lot of family discussion they accept it and are supportive. They wish us a fun night when we are leaving for our Saturday night group party. Our daughter helps her mother get ready for dates. Only our family and most of our vanilla friends do not know.

Your daughter helping her mother get ready is...wow! Are you familiar with FamilyCuckold's thread?

[toreaddave]

- Many monogamous years.
- Hotwife fantasy slowly evolving as my husband would often be away for weeks at a time.
- took the plunge. two men in two weeks. amazing. fun. but too much to process
- years stuck with nothing further except fantasizing about my hotwife experiences.

Then came the revelation of "slut training". slowly working through the obstacles and embracing my pure sexuality. All the usual games. Bar game, sexy girl at the gym game, dress too sexy at work game. Etc. Then fucking one of the guys I hotwifed with a couple years ago. Was super hot and fun.
- one week while husband was away we tried me being a cam girl on AFF. awesome fun and it unleashed something.
- the past year I've been on chaturbate. LOVE it. The unexpected thing was how other sites aggregate chaterubate models videos - so once its out there - its REALLY out there. Full face. Toy play. And I love it. I'm my husbands porn star - for real. Videos are everywhere now. Makes us both insanely hot.

And now back to hotwifing - but without my internal obstacles - and its been crazy amazing.

I cam with wedding rings off - which my husband finds super hot - and now hotwifing is as a single girl - rings off. I don't wear wedding rings when I fuck my husband either. Super sexy.
That's the current state of things but still deeply monogamous (except for hotwife sex). I belong to my husband - I just have learned how to let my inner slut out to torture him just the right amount (and maybe a bit too much).

That is awesome.
- Do you wish you had started sooner or do you think those monogamous years helped your relationship?
- I don't suppose you would drop us your chaturbate username?

[Cdncuck]

My wife and I discussed her fucking other guys when we were dating before we ever had sex. The fear she would leave was extreme but whatever this is, it's part of who I am. It's not going away. It was difficult but it got done.

Much to my shock and surprise, rather than being offended or angry she was curious and even excited about the idea. She has a high sex drive. Perhaps that had something to do with her attitude.

Once we started having sex, we were monogamous for a few months. Then we tried mfm, she continued to do mfm but also began dating other guys without me there. We were married 2 years later. We continued with mfm and her dating activities but we tried swinging.

We both loved it and that was all we did for a couple of years, then she began dating on her own again. She took a job as a server in a bar and she had lots of opportunity. After we were married about 6 years she became more dominant and moved us into a cuckold relationship.

[SRKnight]

Marriage—->fantasizing in bed about HW LS—->cheating—->embracing HW LS

[toreaddave]

My wife and I discussed her fucking other guys when we were dating before we ever had sex. The fear she would leave was extreme but whatever this is, it's part of who I am. It's not going away. It was difficult but it got done.

Much to my shock and surprise, rather than being offended or angry she was curious and even excited about the idea. She has a high sex drive. Perhaps that had something to do with her attitude.

Once we started having sex, we were monogamous for a few months. Then we tried mfm, she continued to do mfm but also began dating other guys without me there. We were married 2 years later. We continued with mfm and her dating activities but we tried swinging.

We both loved it and that was all we did for a couple of years, then she began dating on her own again. She took a job as a server in a bar and she had lots of opportunity. After we were married about 6 years she became more dominant and moved us into a cuckold relationship.

How did the topic of fucking other guys come up?

[toreaddave]

Marriage—->fantasizing in bed about HW LS—->cheating—->embracing HW LS

So you two already openly fantasized about it in bed with each other but she still cheated?

[SRKnight]

Marriage—->fantasizing in bed about HW LS—->cheating—->embracing HW LS

So you two already openly fantasized about it in bed with each other but she still cheated?

Yes. It was basically a matter where we enjoyed fantasizing/role playing in bed but she wasn’t sure I would actually be ok with her being a hot wife.

[toreaddave]

Marriage—->fantasizing in bed about HW LS—->cheating—->embracing HW LS

So you two already openly fantasized about it in bed with each other but she still cheated?

Yes. It was basically a matter where we enjoyed fantasizing/role playing in bed but she wasn’t sure I would actually be ok with her being a hot wife.

Interesting. How did the fantasy get brought up in bed and what was the discussion like after you found she cheated?

[SRKnight]

Marriage—->fantasizing in bed about HW LS—->cheating—->embracing HW LS

So you two already openly fantasized about it in bed with each other but she still cheated?

Yes. It was basically a matter where we enjoyed fantasizing/role playing in bed but she wasn’t sure I would actually be ok with her being a hot wife.

Interesting. How did the fantasy get brought up in bed and what was the discussion like after you found she cheated?

I had actually brought the fantasy up in bed while dating, telling her about my previous hot wife (RIP). Actually found out about the cheating after she had told me she was meeting an ex boyfriend who was going to be in town for a couple of nights for dinner and we planned her outfit.