Question for those experienced

[Cucky45015]

I'm not experienced, mistress is. I recently made an introduction in the new member post section so I'm not going to rehash that info.
I'm curious of the reality of cuckolding, when mistress feels it's time to cuck me, are we going to have issues finding a 3rd. I ask because she's Dominant. Already had unsolicited advances on her because I simply posted I'm a new cuck and found a mistress. In another group. That's what led me here so cocky dudes don't flood her inbox.

I'm not entirely sure she intends to dominate the 3rd but she will not tolerate being dominated. She seemingly doesn't even like the term Bull. She associates that with cocky. Is this the reality of cuckolding or are these types watching to much porn and locked into their own fantasy?

Any advice on ways to look when she is ready. To be clear don't inbox me saying you want to be our 3rd. She's not looking. She will be very clear and tell me when she is ready. She is my domme, I have no say in this.

[Cdncuck]

Why not let her look. In my experience women looking for some action can usually make it happen. About guys on the internet, you will find a lot of flakes. However, if you are patient and persistent, you can find some great guys. It takes time.

[Pressingher]

Dominant has moved away from a description into an identity in the mainstream. This has created a problem where men falsy self identify as "dom". If they really are they aren't going to spend time trying to convence you of it. A good comedian doesnt have to persuade you into thinking he's funny, he tells his jokes, you laugh, so he's funny.

Dominance is the same way. I imaginw your wife tells you what she whants, how she wants it, and what her expectations are, and you do whatever you can to fulfil her desires, if you have to deny your self to satisfy her desire you do so and it pleases you. It's the same for women.

My suggestion for when you do look if you don't want to get cocky wannabe "bulls" is avoid using lifestyle titles when trying to hook a 3rd. Instead just describe what you are looking for and get to know those who seem to fit in best with the dynamic of your relationship. Most of the women in flr I know, very much enjoy submitting to the right one. It's a huge turn on to naturally submit to someone when you aren't usually a submissive person.

Good luck

[mrdnrm]

You have received good advice from Pressingher noted above, I agree with him. From my perspective as we have been married for over 35 years now and have been a Hotwife and Cuckold since 2003. I can tell you if she is a dominate person as you say she is, I highly recommend you communicate very well and truthfully with her. Allow her to be the one to chooses a 3rd or lover. Discuss with her about going out to a club and first ask her just to point men that attract her and why. Learn what she wants and what her desires are, and never throw it back at her. Allow her to feel free to do it.

You may also try signing up on a an adult website such as swinglifestyle or swingdateclub as examples (I have no ownership interest and not promoting either site). Sit with her and ask her to control the search for a man. Have her comment as she searches as she goes through the profiles and let her decide who she wants to contact. Discuss and build a set of boundaries you both would like to try to stay in. But most of all communicate well with other. Good luck

[parklife]

Will you have problems finding a third…. No. Will you have problems finding the right third, quite possible, maybe even likely.

The issue in life is that there are many people that talk the game online which makes it hard to find the right for. And barely anyone in the real world talks at all which makes it hard to find the right fit.

My only advice on ‘ways to look’ is to not look at all. It’s more a mindset to be open to possibilities. My wife has stumbled into her relationships primarily, not necessarily gone out searching for them. She is not a prolific hotwife which many new men and adventures but that’s not what she’s desiring either. No issues for those that are and perhaps you need to do some more looking if you want constant new but a woman being open, flirting or even being just playful with men she’s interested will quickly separate the wheat from the chaff so to speak.

I believe looking for thirds pulls in too many options and makes the while process all the more difficult. (Said by a couple that has never used a dating website or hook up app, so take it with a grain of salt)

[2inUPMichigan]

Finding compatible men that respect your marriage is a challenge. Finding willing and available men is easy. I too have no interest in men who refer to themselves as "bull". Those that do tend to focus on what they get out of it and put the focus solely on themselves.

I have never been interested in playing with vanilla men. A man with a profile on a lifestyle site understands (or is more likely to) that you are not his girlfriend, that your family comes first and that if you are a hotwife your husband not only wants you to play he may want to watch or join in!

I do not want to meet anyone who lives locally. I do not go to clubs or bars and the "social life" is limited locally. Online was the perfect solution because I could make contact with men from outside my local area that would visit on a regular basis. Come to town, play time with me, then go home Works for me!

[Mgcouplemn]

Finding men isn't an issue, their ability to step up is. My husband and I have swung for many years before doing the Hotwifing, what we find is going out their are many guys that have that look of "I would love to fuck her" when I'm dressed for the hunt, but very few have the balls to step up and ask. So what usually happens is that I tease a guy that I am interested in having sex with. If the guy won't ask me then I have my husband step in, he usually tells the guy that he wants to watch him fucking me and asks if he would. If they say no we move on, but 80% of the time it is yes. Very few times do we go home without a new guy, when we do we have some back-up guys to meet us at home with just a call.