Losing my Erection

[BiGalBrklyn]

Most of the time, I fail to give my wife a proper orgasm naturally, without the cock extender and toys. But there are some times when I start to hit the right spot and at that time the worst thing she could say is "Don't Stop". Because the second she starts to unleash the don't stops in rapid succession, is when my mind goes into sexual overdrive and I blow my load early, leaving her wanting more, the look on her face says it all. Thinking about not cumming makes me cum. Sometimes she would beg me to go deeper, (deeper, deeper, deeper) but like Scotty on the Enterprise, I am giving her all I got and not able to go any deeper. This is a fast track to losing my erection. I also lose my erections when I go after her well-endowed lovers, unable to get any traction. What makes you go soft?

[Cdncuck]

It could be many things. First thing to do would be see your doctor. Make sure there is nothing physically wrong and then go from there.

[Bsod83]

Stress.

Also over the years i have gone from cumming too fast to having difficulty to cum at all. If I sense that I probably wont cum today i often goes soft as soon as she is finished.

[BBCfan]

There is a certain position my wife needs to orgasm. When I am at my hardest I am barely able to rub the right spot.
As she gets more aroused , she gets so wet that I lose some sensation and because I'm not moving as much, it often causes me to lose my erection, which I find very frustrating.

It also makes me very aware how the bigger guys she's been with must have been able to hit that spot easily.

I have used a sheath at times, which is great to witness her being able to orgasm on it from hitting deeper than I'm able.

[Wooster]

I’ve always had intense performance anxiety. No matter how turned on I am, penetration makes me so anxious that I lose my erection more or less right away. I have no problem getting hard with my hand, but as soon as I try to put it in, it goes soft. This is a lifelong issue, and has been a *huge* factor in my sex life. Pretty early in, I learned that if I tried to fuck, this was going to happen, so I did everything I could to get my girlfriends off without penetration. By the time I met my wife, I had become pretty comfortable explaining that intercourse was really not my thing, but that I loved eating pussy. Needless to say, this was a formative factor in my willingness to let my partners seek that kind of gratification elsewhere. I haven’t been inside a woman in years, and I’m perfectly happy with that.

[Flint]

You need to focus on something in extreme detail, some task (non-sexual) that you know intimately and can picture very clearly. For example, I use adjusting the clutch cable on a motorbike, I can visualize the threads and knurled nut, even the grease and dirt on the shiny chrome. I feel the pressure I'm applying to tighten or loosen the adjusters whilst viewing the gap; it's something I've done many times so easy to focus on. Concentrate really hard on the chosen task to the point that everything else fades until you are ready to refocus on your partner. Once you get used to doing this you can fall back on it anytime you need to delay.

[Wannabee]

Losing my Erection - sounds like a REM song. I know I shouldn't joke. I have the same problem, unless I'm masturbating to porn and then I can edge for hours.

[runaway]

Have you tried bringing her to orgasm orally, and then having intercourse? That way she’s already cum so no pressure. I also find it helps to alternate between oral and intercourse so when I get to close I go back to licking her. If you’re a pussy licking God she won’t care as much above PIV except as a bonding experience. I love licking pussy so much, that there’s times when I don’t need PIV but my wife wants it for bonding

Have you ever jerked off beforehand- maybe 30 minutes ?

[parklife]

the worst thing she could say is "Don't Stop". Because the second she starts to unleash the don't stops in rapid succession, is when my mind goes into sexual overdrive and I blow my load early, leaving her wanting more, the look on her face says it all. Thinking about not cumming makes me cum.

Just have to say, this made me chuckle, only because I know EXACTLY what you’re saying here…. I live that life.

Our routine now falls on the “I provide oral until she orgasm first” routine. My wife is a one and done orgasm girl (with me or anyone else) and once she’s had her orgasm she’s happy for us to be finished as quickly as we can. I think she trained me that way because when I was younger, I had no problems with long satisfying sexual encounters. But, once she’s done, she wants me to have an orgasm, she just wants to done quickly.

I hate that part of it and it’s kind of turned me off to intercourse. We’ve used a sleeve because it’s thick walls don’t allow for much stimulation and I fucking LOVE it. Maybe I still don’t orgasm (although I have been so turned on that I’ve orgasmed inside the sleeve just from listening to her enjoy it) but hearing her sounds from reaching areas and spots I could never do alone sends a spark right thru me.

I freely admit the cumming/erection issue is mine alone. She’s happy because she knows she’s always getting an orgasm first and then she’s ready to reciprocate. She almost gets annoyed when I don’t care to orgasm. What she doesn’t understand is that I desire/want that build up and those great positive sex feelings and when we start intercourse just to have it be over so quickly… yes, the orgasm always feels great in the moment but it’s crushing immediately after to my personal self confidence and self-worth. I know she doesn’t care, but I do,

[funkyfitter]

Losing my erection, even when she talked about other guys, is what led her/us to where we are.

[MartasBoy]

You can destroy your normal sexual response through chronic use of porn, focusing on a single fantasy. That's what I did to myself with forced feminization porn and cross-dressing. I started cross-dressing very young, playing dress up in my sister's and mothers clothes.
Later, when I had my first sexual experiences with women in college, I moved away from the cross dressing for a while.

Then, when my wife found out she liked more adventure and variety in her sex life, she got very wrapped up in the beginning, enjoying sex with other men. There was less interest in having sex with me. While she was busy dating, I started cross-dressing a lot, and looking at forced feminization porn. I engaged lots of very involved fantasies in which women have some leverage on me, or some kind of power and control over me, and emasculate me and completely feminize and humiliate me. I got into it very deep for a couple of years. It was almost exclusively what I got off on.

When you focus exclusively on one fantasy and one type of porn imagery long enough, you become fixated on it so that it will eventually become the only thing that turns you on. That's what happened to me. I allowed myself to become fixated on crossdressing and forced feminization fantasies.

My wife has no interest in it and finds it a complete turnoff to see me dressed in women's clothing. She likes very manly men. But she has turned it around to the benefit of both of us. As a hot wife she gets to be with all the manly men she wants. She now indulges my forced feminization fantasies. She has also found out that it helps her in her engagement with other men. Reluctance men might have about sleeping with a married woman, pretty much melts away when they know she has a feminized sissy husband. It's immediately clear that I pose absolutely no threat to them. Some of them find it a real turn on because they get to completely take her over as theirs.

Sometimes, when a man inquires about our sex life, or why she wants an outside lover, she will call me to the bed. She will lie down on the bed in a sexy nightgown she has put on for her lover, and she'll tell me, "Go ahead big guy, show him how you masterfully fuck your wife. Take your rightful place as my husband and Man of the House. She will work me with her hand to make me hard and then help me slide inside of her. I immediately lose my erection and fall out.

Then she will toss me one of my dress up dresses or my baby doll nightie and say, "Here, this will be more your speed. Put this on." I get immediately hard from this and she will show her boyfriend and say, "He can't make love to his wife but he gets off playing dress up." She then puts one of my hostess aprons on me and says, "We both know that you're not cut out to be the man of the house. You're better suited to be our little house bitch."

Then she'll ask her lover, "How about you? Are you into dressing up like a sissy, or being my man of the house."
Of course they always say they want to be her man of the house and then they prove it. Then she'll tell me, "You go to the kitchen Sissy, and make my man of the house a sandwich. He's probably going to be hungry when we're done."