A cuckold checkmate question, please help

[tempus_fugit36]

I am a Pussyfree cukhold but I feel like a man and I like women only, it excites me a lot to see my wife get fucked by other men and I enjoy masturbating while watching.

Recently My wife started to insist to see me being fucked in te ass by a man and of course this is leading a serious of discussions and bad situation between us.
She states that this a fetish of her and since I am incapable of fucking any pussy any longer it excites her even more. She also added that since I lick her pussy after her bull cums inside my wife, I shouldn’t feel bad.
When I say no to the proposal then she is insisting to make me to use a cock cage or else I will not receive any penis stimulus from her hands anymore.

I know it is a personal approach everyone of you have, but what would you recommend me to do? Would you believe that this would be a one time game?
What should I be prepared in case I accept it to save my marriage and in case I won’t?
Suggestions and help are welcome…I don’t have many to talk about it.

[trecital]

So, the options are 1: be caged and basically not get any sexual release (not sure if this is a correct interpretation of what you wrote),
or 2: let her boyfriend fuck you in the arse.

Personally I'd take option 2. Not that I'm particularly keen to have that experience. It's just that I wouldn't want to have my sexual releases fully curtailed.

Only thing I would say, is to practice with something suitable to train your arse to take things inside it. Perhaps suitable household objects, or dildos or vibrators, starting small, and building up.

A butt plug for longer term acclimatisation might be a good idea too.

[MartasBoy]

Everybody has to decide what they are willing to accept in a submissive relationship. But everyone should have the right to set limits on what they can accept. If you really don't want to do it you should let your wife know and renegotiate your arrangement. Otherwise try it, you might like it.

[Lucky Dog]

You're getting a lot of what you want when your wife has sex with other men and allows you to watch. This has been great for you. Now, she has a request. Like all things, you have to decide what you want. Would she be willing to just continue the way things are if you deny her request? Or maybe you'll want to see... if she locks your dick in a cage, you'll be very horny before long. If the condition for release is to allow her man to fuck you, maybe you'll give it a try?

The downside to refusing everything is the possible end of your lifestyle, or worse, damage to your relationship. What's the downside to allowing her man to have you, too? You'll have to answer that one yourself.

[submissivedanny]

I've been pussy free and caged for a long time now. Early on in our relationship when my wife was dating multiple guys my wife approached me one day about getting fucked in the ass. I wasn't at all in favor of that and she didn't plan on forcing me but she said it was something she wanted to see. One of her friends knew a guy who wanted to do it to me so I agreed. The night it was to happen my wife and her BF and a female friend were all going to watch me get fucked. I got on the bed on all fours and the guy lubricated his dick and began to insert it in me. It was a little painful at first but he took it slow and within a few minutes it really felt good. He pumped away and shot his load into me. I actually enjoyed it and ever since that day my wife fucks me with a strap on and I love it.

[tempus_fugit36]

I've been pussy free and caged for a long time now. Early on in our relationship when my wife was dating multiple guys my wife approached me one day about getting fucked in the ass. I wasn't at all in favor of that and she didn't plan on forcing me but she said it was something she wanted to see. One of her friends knew a guy who wanted to do it to me so I agreed. The night it was to happen my wife and her BF and a female friend were all going to watch me get fucked. I got on the bed on all fours and the guy lubricated his dick and began to insert it in me. It was a little painful at first but he took it slow and within a few minutes it really felt good. He pumped away and shot his load into me. I actually enjoyed it and ever since that day my wife fucks me with a strap on and I love it.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I see that I am not the only one who have a wife with this kind of kink, nor I am the first one.
I am feeling embarrassed and confused with this situation because I feel like a man; the fact that I became a cuckold is because of an erectile disfunction that I had due to stress for a number of years, so I was forced to allow my wife to have extra marital sex in order to save our marriage that at that point was on the edge of collapsing. Having a bull was the best option because it didn’t expose my wife to diseases or to the others to know because her bull is the husband of her best friend …. This was at the time of course, she doesn’t try to hide her slut behavior and got & like to be exhibiting herself these days, but her willingness to have me fucked by another man, I don’t know where it comes from and why.
As per your experience, what would you judge to be the case behind her wish? Just to see it and prove something or perhaps it is in her plans to make me a sissy?
I know it is difficult to judge without knowing us, but you got some experience that I don’t have.
Thanks

[octavian]

If you feel that acquiescing to her demands is the only way to save your marriage, you may need to consider the strength of your marriage.

[Maddie_Hippychick]

Good luck. I hope it works out for you. But a few points…

First, does she care about you and your well-being at all? I don’t don’t think that I could stay with a partner that didn’t.

To be clear, she is flagrantly using sex and denial to manipulate you into something that you don’t want. How would that work out if you flipped the script? What if you demanded she stopped having sex with men, and only have sex with women? She would probably be irate about you telling her how she can have sex, and would probably leave you.

That being said, I’ve had plenty of sex with men and women. Both can be incredibly erotic and exciting. I don’t condsider myself especially gay or even bi. Semantics. Pansexual seems more accurate for me, but that wasn’t always the case. I’ve always just considered myself open-minded. Getting fucked in the ass by a hot guy is really nice though.

You do understand that the two option choice is a red herring? You have more options. You could completely concede to anal with a man, but in return make demands on her, whatever you really want like more piv sex. You could insist no man-man sex, but agree to pegging, in return she agrees to you hiring a beautiful escort for a night. If she doesn’t do girl-girl stuff, make that a condition. You have a lot of options here, and you have the advantage of knowing she REALLY wants to see you get fucked.

Here’s the thing, you might decide you really like it.

[RonDom]

You should obey your wife.

[Cdncuck]

You are a person and you have a right to be treated with respect in your relationship. No means no for everyone.

I am a cuckold and a submissive but I still have the right to say no to anything I don't want to do. My wife respects that. A good dominant respects their submissive. If your wife won't accept that, you have other problems.

[subbieCuck]

I am a Pussyfree cukhold but I feel like a man and I like women only, it excites me a lot to see my wife get fucked by other men and I enjoy masturbating while watching.

Recently My wife started to insist to see me being fucked in te ass by a man and of course this is leading a serious of discussions and bad situation between us.
She states that this a fetish of her and since I am incapable of fucking any pussy any longer it excites her even more. She also added that since I lick her pussy after her bull cums inside my wife, I shouldn’t feel bad.
When I say no to the proposal then she is insisting to make me to use a cock cage or else I will not receive any penis stimulus from her hands anymore.

I know it is a personal approach everyone of you have, but what would you recommend me to do? Would you believe that this would be a one time game?
What should I be prepared in case I accept it to save my marriage and in case I won’t?
Suggestions and help are welcome…I don’t have many to talk about it.

It really depends on you, there is no right or wrong, but, if I were you, I would accept her demand. I am straight, but how bad can this be? On the other hand, I get excited when I am pushed to do unpleasant things for her. So, I would do it. But I am not you. You decide yourself.

[submissivedanny]

I've been pussy free and caged for a long time now. Early on in our relationship when my wife was dating multiple guys my wife approached me one day about getting fucked in the ass. I wasn't at all in favor of that and she didn't plan on forcing me but she said it was something she wanted to see. One of her friends knew a guy who wanted to do it to me so I agreed. The night it was to happen my wife and her BF and a female friend were all going to watch me get fucked. I got on the bed on all fours and the guy lubricated his dick and began to insert it in me. It was a little painful at first but he took it slow and within a few minutes it really felt good. He pumped away and shot his load into me. I actually enjoyed it and ever since that day my wife fucks me with a strap on and I love it.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I see that I am not the only one who have a wife with this kind of kink, nor I am the first one.
I am feeling embarrassed and confused with this situation because I feel like a man; the fact that I became a cuckold is because of an erectile disfunction that I had due to stress for a number of years, so I was forced to allow my wife to have extra marital sex in order to save our marriage that at that point was on the edge of collapsing. Having a bull was the best option because it didn’t expose my wife to diseases or to the others to know because her bull is the husband of her best friend …. This was at the time of course, she doesn’t try to hide her slut behavior and got & like to be exhibiting herself these days, but her willingness to have me fucked by another man, I don’t know where it comes from and why.
As per your experience, what would you judge to be the case behind her wish? Just to see it and prove something or perhaps it is in her plans to make me a sissy?
I know it is difficult to judge without knowing us, but you got some experience that I don’t have.
Thanks

I like you had a real problem. I am very small down there. I was only about 2" so it didn't do anything for her so I encouraged her to find someone who could satisfy her. She kind of made me a sissy early on by making me wear panties, pantyhose with shorts, tights and leggings among other things. As far as her wanting to see me fucked by a man I think came from her hearing from some of her friends how hot it is watching in person which is why she had that friend watch me getting fucked.. I got to admit it was hot for me because I shot a load on the bed while this guy was fucking me. I agreed to do it because she didn't force me and I wanted to make her happy.

[tempus_fugit36]

Good luck. I hope it works out for you. But a few points…

First, does she care about you and your well-being at all? I don’t don’t think that I could stay with a partner that didn’t.

To be clear, she is flagrantly using sex and denial to manipulate you into something that you don’t want. How would that work out if you flipped the script? What if you demanded she stopped having sex with men, and only have sex with women? She would probably be irate about you telling her how she can have sex, and would probably leave you.

That being said, I’ve had plenty of sex with men and women. Both can be incredibly erotic and exciting. I don’t condsider myself especially gay or even bi. Semantics. Pansexual seems more accurate for me, but that wasn’t always the case. I’ve always just considered myself open-minded. Getting fucked in the ass by a hot guy is really nice though.

You do understand that the two option choice is a red herring? You have more options. You could completely concede to anal with a man, but in return make demands on her, whatever you really want like more piv sex. You could insist no man-man sex, but agree to pegging, in return she agrees to you hiring a beautiful escort for a night. If she doesn’t do girl-girl stuff, make that a condition. You have a lot of options here, and you have the advantage of knowing she REALLY wants to see you get fucked.

Here’s the thing, you might decide you really like it.

Thank you very much for spending some time and helping me, I really appreciate your suggestion and honestly speaking, before you wrote to me I was so disturbed that I couldn’t think about what to do. These options will make easier for me to discuss what she have in mind and I will counter suggest to her the one I like most; I would really love to see her accepting a girl-girl condition, that would make me very happy watching while masturbating…I don’t know although what would be the price I would be paying for if I have to allow a man to fuck my ass….i think about the huge discomfort and emotions storming that comes with it. I would assume one must relax all muscles in the ass to get fucked by embracing it and I am not there because it never came to my mind. I have no techniques to do that.

[tempus_fugit36]

You're getting a lot of what you want when your wife has sex with other men and allows you to watch. This has been great for you. Now, she has a request. Like all things, you have to decide what you want. Would she be willing to just continue the way things are if you deny her request? Or maybe you'll want to see... if she locks your dick in a cage, you'll be very horny before long. If the condition for release is to allow her man to fuck you, maybe you'll give it a try?

The downside to refusing everything is the possible end of your lifestyle, or worse, damage to your relationship. What's the downside to allowing her man to have you, too? You'll have to answer that one yourself.

You are very right on everything you said, refusing everything can damage my marriage and I start on cuckolding thinking of saving our marriage only. I know that her bull is not in the plans to fuck me, he is a macho man and only do girls and he doesn’t need anything else.
I don’t know what man she is thinking about or her plans, but I would guess she is planning something with the mechanic that have sex with her, that guy I know that possible would do that, he is a black strong guy and my wife told me he is huge. If I would have to do this guy, then I wouldn’t know how to start….

[tempus_fugit36]

I've been pussy free and caged for a long time now. Early on in our relationship when my wife was dating multiple guys my wife approached me one day about getting fucked in the ass. I wasn't at all in favor of that and she didn't plan on forcing me but she said it was something she wanted to see. One of her friends knew a guy who wanted to do it to me so I agreed. The night it was to happen my wife and her BF and a female friend were all going to watch me get fucked. I got on the bed on all fours and the guy lubricated his dick and began to insert it in me. It was a little painful at first but he took it slow and within a few minutes it really felt good. He pumped away and shot his load into me. I actually enjoyed it and ever since that day my wife fucks me with a strap on and I love it.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I see that I am not the only one who have a wife with this kind of kink, nor I am the first one.
I am feeling embarrassed and confused with this situation because I feel like a man; the fact that I became a cuckold is because of an erectile disfunction that I had due to stress for a number of years, so I was forced to allow my wife to have extra marital sex in order to save our marriage that at that point was on the edge of collapsing. Having a bull was the best option because it didn’t expose my wife to diseases or to the others to know because her bull is the husband of her best friend …. This was at the time of course, she doesn’t try to hide her slut behavior and got & like to be exhibiting herself these days, but her willingness to have me fucked by another man, I don’t know where it comes from and why.
As per your experience, what would you judge to be the case behind her wish? Just to see it and prove something or perhaps it is in her plans to make me a sissy?
I know it is difficult to judge without knowing us, but you got some experience that I don’t have.
Thanks

I like you had a real problem. I am very small down there. I was only about 2" so it didn't do anything for her so I encouraged her to find someone who could satisfy her. She kind of made me a sissy early on by making me wear panties, pantyhose with shorts, tights and leggings among other things. As far as her wanting to see me fucked by a man I think came from her hearing from some of her friends how hot it is watching in person which is why she had that friend watch me getting fucked.. I got to admit it was hot for me because I shot a load on the bed while this guy was fucking me. I agreed to do it because she didn't force me and I wanted to make her happy.

That is impressive, thanks. Does it means that you are still playing a sissy role for her or was it a one timer thing?

[tempus_fugit36]

So, the options are 1: be caged and basically not get any sexual release (not sure if this is a correct interpretation of what you wrote),
or 2: let her boyfriend fuck you in the arse.

Personally I'd take option 2. Not that I'm particularly keen to have that experience. It's just that I wouldn't want to have my sexual releases fully curtailed.

Only thing I would say, is to practice with something suitable to train your arse to take things inside it. Perhaps suitable household objects, or dildos or vibrators, starting small, and building up.

A butt plug for longer term acclimatisation might be a good idea too.

You understand correct the two options she gave me. I appreciate your tips but if I decide to go for it, wouldn’t be better to go for the real thing at once? I would guess that those who fucks asses knows what to do and would help the thing?

[tempus_fugit36]

You are a person and you have a right to be treated with respect in your relationship. No means no for everyone.

I am a cuckold and a submissive but I still have the right to say no to anything I don't want to do. My wife respects that. A good dominant respects their submissive. If your wife won't accept that, you have other problems.

I agree on 100% what you are saying and this is my approach too. I am just brainstorming all the options and have a counter offer as well. The biggest issue is that we were on the edge of a divorce after I left her for almost 2 years without a cock…..to save our marriage I allowed her to have a regular bull and you can imagine how crazy she was after a cock during this time. She was addicted to sex during the time we dated and we were a perfect couple in bed.
Now she doesn’t need my cock anymore because I can’t in no way compete against her bull…so I have to look for options.

[submissivedanny]

You're getting a lot of what you want when your wife has sex with other men and allows you to watch. This has been great for you. Now, she has a request. Like all things, you have to decide what you want. Would she be willing to just continue the way things are if you deny her request? Or maybe you'll want to see... if she locks your dick in a cage, you'll be very horny before long. If the condition for release is to allow her man to fuck you, maybe you'll give it a try?

The downside to refusing everything is the possible end of your lifestyle, or worse, damage to your relationship. What's the downside to allowing her man to have you, too? You'll have to answer that one yourself.

You are very right on everything you said, refusing everything can damage my marriage and I start on cuckolding thinking of saving our marriage only. I know that her bull is not in the plans to fuck me, he is a macho man and only do girls and he doesn’t need anything else.
I don’t know what man she is thinking about or her plans, but I would guess she is planning something with the mechanic that have sex with her, that guy I know that possible would do that, he is a black strong guy and my wife told me he is huge. If I would have to do this guy, then I wouldn’t know how to start….

I'm still her sissy. She doesn't make me look like a woman she just likes me wearing some female clothing.

[wannabecUKold]

So she has demanded that you get fucked by a man (her bf I assume?). You should jump at the opportunity. You will love the erotic excitement of being fucked and dominated and the feel of a strong man's body pressing hard down on and into you. You will love doing it in front of your wife, showing that you enjoy submitting to her and to gay sex. So it is not much of a demand by her. It's good that she and her man want to do you.

But, that said, it is all crazy that you are talking about 'saving your marriage'. I hope that doesn't really enter into it. Time to use the safe word and have a chat.

[tempus_fugit36]

So she has demanded that you get fucked by a man (her bf I assume?). You should jump at the opportunity. You will love the erotic excitement of being fucked and dominated and the feel of a strong man's body pressing hard down on and into you. You will love doing it in front of your wife, showing that you enjoy submitting to her and to gay sex. So it is not much of a demand by her. It's good that she and her man want to do you.

But, that said, it is all crazy that you are talking about 'saving your marriage'. I hope that doesn't really enter into it. Time to use the safe word and have a chat.

Thanks for your message. Just for clarification, my wifes “oficcial” bull is not the man I assume she wants to fuck me. The man who I believe she wants me to get fucked by is a casual bull that she have (the official bull even don’t know my wife is opening her legs to anyone else); this man works at a car workshop; he is older, well build and black; I believe she have him in mind because once when we talked about him, she mentioned that he was married several times, have many children and he happened to tell her that he prefers to fuck in the ass but due to his size he fucked my wifes pussy only.
Perhaps she is not asking too much given so much problems I caused with my ED, but I am concerned how I would feel the day after. I am not a girl so I know I would be called by different names and abused…many things comes to my mind, the lost of my masculinity (even thou my wife lights when i mention about that) and the fear of these submissions to become often and make me to get addicted.

[wannabecUKold]

I think the main thing to be concerned about is his size. If you haven't been fucked before and he is a BBC, he must take you slowly with plenty of lube up your bum. The trick is not to let him press his cock into you but for you to press back at your own pace against his cock. Your sphincter muscles will then relax and let his cock in. An amazing experience.

He might call you a girl's name, but you should see that as part of the fun. Your wife probably will call you a girl. What name would you suggest? But don't forget that this is also a gay act for him too, so he will emphasise the dominance over you, rather than the gayness so your wife dooesnt see him as gay. In that case maybe he will ask for your cock to be caged.

In reality he probably just likes fucking guys' bums - because of the intense enjoyment that you, the recipient, get, and you know how to move the same way as him. He also sees it as a way for you to buy into giving him your wife and him fucking her and you are bonding with him as a trio. Go for it.

[Lucky Dog]

You're getting a lot of what you want when your wife has sex with other men and allows you to watch. This has been great for you. Now, she has a request. Like all things, you have to decide what you want. Would she be willing to just continue the way things are if you deny her request? Or maybe you'll want to see... if she locks your dick in a cage, you'll be very horny before long. If the condition for release is to allow her man to fuck you, maybe you'll give it a try?

The downside to refusing everything is the possible end of your lifestyle, or worse, damage to your relationship. What's the downside to allowing her man to have you, too? You'll have to answer that one yourself.

You are very right on everything you said, refusing everything can damage my marriage and I start on cuckolding thinking of saving our marriage only. I know that her bull is not in the plans to fuck me, he is a macho man and only do girls and he doesn’t need anything else.
I don’t know what man she is thinking about or her plans, but I would guess she is planning something with the mechanic that have sex with her, that guy I know that possible would do that, he is a black strong guy and my wife told me he is huge. If I would have to do this guy, then I wouldn’t know how to start….

All you need to do is discuss this with your wife. She can guide you and help you by using dildos to train you to accept a larger one. It takes time, and if this is what she wants, it can be erotic between the two of you. By the time you're ready for her lover to take you, you may find it pleasurable. But do discuss this now -- nobody could enjoyably accommodate a huge dick on the first attempt.

[ucaneffher]

I am a Pussyfree cukhold but I feel like a man and I like women only, it excites me a lot to see my wife get fucked by other men and I enjoy masturbating while watching.

Recently My wife started to insist to see me being fucked in te ass by a man and of course this is leading a serious of discussions and bad situation between us.
She states that this a fetish of her and since I am incapable of fucking any pussy any longer it excites her even more. She also added that since I lick her pussy after her bull cums inside my wife, I shouldn’t feel bad.
When I say no to the proposal then she is insisting to make me to use a cock cage or else I will not receive any penis stimulus from her hands anymore.

I know it is a personal approach everyone of you have, but what would you recommend me to do? Would you believe that this would be a one time game?
What should I be prepared in case I accept it to save my marriage and in case I won’t?
Suggestions and help are welcome…I don’t have many to talk about it.

Just like you, I am also straight and don't perform any man on man sexual acts. I am firm on my stance that if you're a bull or a cuck and you give or receive, you are gay or at the very minimum you are bisexual. If you can get an erection from a man or remain erect while being in a man, you are clearly turned on by a man and the control/dominance factor is an excuse for your bisexuality and attraction for a man. Nothing wrong with that but call it what it is and don't sugarcoat like some so called macho men bulls around here.

Anyway, back to answer your question. I think that what I would do here is set boundaries and be firm about them. Remind her that she already gets to partake in extracurricular activities with other men by CHOICE and has your support to do so. Let her know that you are not attracted not interested in performing any type of contact with another man despite you cleaning her up.

Be kind but be firm and tell her your boundaries need to be respected. If her lover is gay or bisexual then let him go find another couple with a bisexual husband. In my case, I would dig deeper to find out if she is behind all this or if he is. I can tell you that in my situation, if it was him... He would get a warning from me to drop it. If he fails to respect my request, the he is getting a black eye and kicked out the door. I'm a cuck, not a pussy. You can fuck my wife but once you cross a boundary, you'll be met with force.

[NSEW1]

Reflect on whether you wish to submit to your wife more generally as part of a female led relationship. I personally don’t think it’s reasonable for you to dictate which aspects of the FLR you accept and which ones you decline. It should be a shared negotiation in with you both get some of what you want.

Some men are primarily aroused by unconditional submission in which if the wife says you’re going to get spanked / whipped, caged, dressed like a sissy, fucked n the ass, forced to blow her lover, required to lick her pussy clean, etc. then you should learn to submit and enjoy it.

If it doesn’t work for you, you should reflect on whether it’s truly a deal breaker (better off leaving the relationship) or is it something you can discuss and negotiate with her? What you have is rare and awesome. So you may find that being selfish and rigid is not in your interest. On the other hand, if she is the one being selfish and rigid about forcing you to do things that go against your nature, then you may have to draw the line.

Good luck.

[ucaneffher]

Agree with NSEW1, it basically boils down to what YOU want. Are you curious to feel a man inside you? Are you curious to feel a man pumping his semen inside of you? Are you comfortable being vulnerable with your ass in the air for a man to take you from behind?

If you answered yes to any of these then perhaps you can actually be okay with what your wife is trying manipulate you to do. Since she is restricting you from sexual activity with her if you don't give in to her request.

You have the choice to pick-and-choose how much of a cuckold you are willing to be and how much you are willing to surrender. A lot of cuckolds here seem to have bi-curiosity and/or really want to be submissive at all cost, including being fucked like a woman in front of their woman. Just know that if you don't like any of that and don't necessarily get turned on by men. You can can be a straight cuck who simply surrenders his wife.

Cuckolding doesn't necessarily translate directly into the man being a wimp, a pussy, a bisexual/homosexual. It.can simply mean that he enjoys surrendering control and letting his woman go off with other men at her discretion and her rules and Nothing more.

Dig deep and ask yourself what you are and what you want to be. If you are ready, open minded, and willing to let a man use you and your body as his fuck toy.