What Makes a Woman a “Slut?”

[Laveenguy]

I don't want to sound disrespectful, but according to the dictionary: a slut is a woman with many casual sexual partners. You figure it out.

I don’t think you’re sounding disrespectful. I think that the definition is accurate and definitely applies to my wife.

I guess what I am trying to communicate is that Deb and I don’t accept the word as an insult. If a man who has a lot of casual sex is a stud then a woman should be able to do the same. I think slut is a compliment.

[TinyBoyDick]

I don't want to sound disrespectful, but according to the dictionary: a slut is a woman with many casual sexual partners. You figure it out.

I don’t think you’re sounding disrespectful. I think that the definition is accurate and definitely applies to my wife.

I guess what I am trying to communicate is that Deb and I don’t accept the word as an insult. If a man who has a lot of casual sex is a stud then a woman should be able to do the same. I think slut is a compliment.

I think you hit the nail on the head here! Like many other men here, my wife has sex with lots of other men, with my total approval and support, but she is a very classy, respectable woman. I think words like "slut" get hijacked by ignorant people who attach negative meanings to things. That's why I posed the question of this thread- to see how strong the stigma is on this site. It's nice to see the results.

Thank you for the replies!

[brutay2]

From my and Farmgirl's perspective, it is one that embraces the title. My wife is a self-proclaimed Slut.

I agree with Farmgirl. Some women are happy and proud to be called a slut. While others get offended in being called a slut.

I'm not offended by the word, I dislike it for personal reasons.

I am however, offended by people who do not respect my preferences to not be called one. Why would anyone think they know what is right for me, better than I do?

I wouldn't try to convince any woman that my choice is what they should choose. And my only advice to a man regarding this word is to simply ask first let her tell you what her wishes are.

You are absolutely right. I would never call a woman a slut unless she were to tell me she is a slut and ask me to call her a slut, or a whore for that matter.

[2inUPMichigan]

I don't want to sound disrespectful, but according to the dictionary: a slut is a woman with many casual sexual partners. You figure it out.

And there you go! Thank you for providing a definition
Maybe I should carry a dictionary with me?

You see... I don't qualify based on that definition since I don't have "many casual sexual partners." In fact, I can count them on one hand with some extra space.

I don't fit your definition

Quite a few hotwives on this site would not fit that definition, including some that would call themselves sluts.

[slowsteady]

I guess a vernacular description would indicate a lady who isn't very discreet in her sexual exploits and doesn't demonstrate enough class to pull it off. Maybe excessive alcohol consumption could also be a possible factor.

[Waltz86]

I do not agree with that definition. What do you think the line that seprates hot wife from a slut would be?

[stubbyhubby]

In my opinion there are two uses of the word slut.

1. A hotwife or cuckoldress who loves to fuck and is sexually free both mentally and physically. In this case, the term slut can be a sexually desirable phrase, such as "hot slut", "slut wife" or "sexy slut". My wife loves to be called a slut while she is getting fucked by a guy and she is often heard telling a guy to fuck her slut pussy or cum in her slut pussy. In this form, "slut" is not derogatory.

2. When a woman intentionally fucks married men just to fuck up their relationships, cause drama or be a problem, the term slut is derogatory, and it should be.

[TinyBoyDick]

In my opinion, this discussion is less about a dictionery definition and more about the different connotations people attach to words. To me the word “slut” refers to a CHEAP woman and/or a woman with no SELF-RESPECT who fucks indescriminately with no regard for the quality of men. This doen’t conform to the dictionery definition at all but if we use the book definition then both men and woman qualify as sluts simply because they have many partners… and WHO decides how many partners make one a slut?

This reminds me of the word “Ho” which denotes a woman (or even man) who will fuck anything with 2 legs on a whim! As I understand it, “ho” is a distortion of the word “whore.” The dictionery adds prostitution to the whore description, but most women who are called ho’s are not also thought to be selling thier bodies.

In the end, words are nothing more than ideas in symbol form so people will attach their own meanings to them, regardless of what a dictionery says. It’s all communication and words always evolve… I say use the word “SLUT” however you prefer and ENJOY!

[slowsteady]

I do not agree with that definition. What do you think the line that seprates hot wife from a slut would be?

Answer is very simple! Class versus low or no class.

[inivisibletwin]

We don’t have to assume that the word “slut” has a negative connotation. My wife and I have been together 12 years, I was her first, since we got together she has slept with over 60 different men, and she proudly calls herself a slut like a badge of honor. Often times, when flirting with a new guy, she’ll say something to him like: “I’m a bit of a slut” as a way of breaking the ice and moving in a more sexual direction, which is usually her goal from the beginning.

My wife enjoys showing off her tits. One of her biggest kinks is being the only one naked in a room full of clothed people. It’s happened many times where she’ll take off her top, while we are hanging out with people, and someone will react surprised and she’ll say something like: “it’s okay, I’m a bit of a slut”

I think in her mind a slut is someone (doesn’t have to be a woman) who has lots of sex with many different partners, or is at least open to it… or someone who is “easy” and you’ve got a good chance of getting into their pants… but let’s be clear, that’s not a bad thing!

My wife is that, and both her and I are proud of it!

And if we were determined to assign a negative connotation to the word “slut” that what would be another word, with the meaning I just described, that is positive?

[Mr Stag]

I am what many would deem an alpha male (if I enter an elevator with another man, rare are the times that I do not assume that I could not take him out before we reached our floor). Still, I have been called a "slut" by several women, as I had a reputation for seducing a lot of women. So, the dictionary definition, "A woman with many casual sexual partners," is just inadequate.

I only view a woman as a slut when she has many casual sexual partners AND she gets something out of the acts other than sex, say money, dinners, vacations, shopping sprees... I have known women who have had over 100 lovers and I would never think of slandering them with the insulting adjective of "Slut." But I have know a few women, who have rarely open their legs to a man, but I would unhesitantly label as sluts, due to their greedy motives.

[p_jimi]

I really hate this term along with its meaning and usage. If it is a glory for men to fuck as many women as possible, then it should also be a glory for women to sleep with as many people as possible. If it is a forgivable sin for a husband to regularly fuck his female colleague, then it should also be a forgivable sin for his wife to be regularly fucked by her colleagues or friends. It was natural for us that my wife regularly fucked other people. In fact, she fucked other people a lot more than me, but I got what I wanted.

[brutay2]

From my and Farmgirl's perspective, it is one that embraces the title. My wife is a self-proclaimed Slut.

I agree with Farmgirl. Some women are happy and proud to be called a slut. While others get offended in being called a slut.

I'm not offended by the word, I dislike it for personal reasons.

I am however, offended by people who do not respect my preferences to not be called one. Why would anyone think they know what is right for me, better than I do?

I wouldn't try to convince any woman that my choice is what they should choose. And my only advice to a man regarding this word is to simply ask first let her tell you what her wishes are.

you are right. If a woman wants to be called a slut, she will tell you. Some of mine want to be grabbed by the hair, pulled down on their knees and slapped on the face and told to open their mouth and told to suck the cock you slut as they get the cock pushed down their throat.

[stevens4fun]

I learned long ago that the woman who is called a "slut" by other women is in fact the woman I want to be with. I married her, although the buzz at her workplace was that she was an easy lay. 33 years later we are still going strong and we've acted on every fantasy or need either of us ever thought about. Knowing what I know today, I'd only marry a woman that others call a slut.

[TinyBoyDick]

I have no right to say I know how women think… but I SUSPECT that many women who attack other women and call them “”SLUTS” are actually jealous that they don’t have the courage to satisfy their own sexual needs with a variety of men.

[tiedyeHotwife]

I've embraced the word and LOVE using it now.
In fact, a podcast about "slut training" opened some amazing doors for me.

[TinyBoyDick]

I've embraced the word and LOVE using it now.
In fact, a podcast about "slut training" opened some amazing doors for me.

Fascinating! I have never approved of slut shaming because I believe having very many sexual partners is NATURAL for human beings. For example, my wife and me are in the hotwife/cuckold lifestyle and I find tremendous pleasure in her fucking various men- many times she doesn't even know their names. My wife is a very respectable woman and I never think of her as a slut but I'm sure many people might call her that if they knew of our activities.

I'm happy to hear you embrace the label! How can I find the podcast you speak of?

[runaway]

I agree it can be very derogatory but if a woman embraces the term and and allows her man to use it with her that’s OK.

[warmnsalty]

communication and language offer lots of possibilities. Mrs Warm likes to embrace her inner slut. She wears it as a badge and loves the fact that so many guys wanna fuck her. That being said, there have been more than a few guys who missed out by engaging in verbal gymnastics too soon. Our/her normal m.o. when vetting a guy is msging/txting first, sometimes for a couple weeks or more before actually meeting. If a guy starts calling her a slut/whore etc before getting to know her he's out. SHE decides when she's a slut, not some random guy.

[Cdncuck]

I do not agree with that definition. What do you think the line that seprates hot wife from a slut would be?

Answer is very simple! Class versus low or no class.

And then one could ask, what makes a woman classy? The answer to that depends upon whom you ask. Different people would give different definitions. The whole area is very subjective.

We have the dictionary meaning of words and then we have the meaning different people attach to the words. It would seem there's no single answer for everyone.

[TinyBoyDick]

I do not agree with that definition. What do you think the line that seprates hot wife from a slut would be?

Answer is very simple! Class versus low or no class.

And then one could ask, what makes a woman classy? The answer to that depends upon whom you ask. Different people would give different definitions. The whole area is very subjective.

We have the dictionary meaning of words and then we have the meaning different people attach to the words. It would seem there's no single answer for everyone.

I think the best resolution to this question is simply to withhold judgment of what other people do sexually and live our own lives in a way that brings us the most joy. I really appreciate all these comments!! I think “live and let live” is a good policy provided we are not harmed in the process.

[slowsteady]

I do not agree with that definition. What do you think the line that seprates hot wife from a slut would be?

Answer is very simple! Class versus low or no class.

And then one could ask, what makes a woman classy? The answer to that depends upon whom you ask. Different people would give different definitions. The whole area is very subjective.

We have the dictionary meaning of words and then we have the meaning different people attach to the words. It would seem there's no single answer for everyone.

is

Really??? You have no idea what difference there is between a lady with class compared to a lady with no class???

A lady with class knows what she's doing. Where she is. She considers how her behavior appears in the eyes of the public. She does her thing quietly. I know more than one hotwife who has more than one lover and she escorts. She gives nothing away. She has self respect. Her friends, neighbors, co-workers and the public at large respect her. Why? Nobody has the slightest idea what she's doing because she knows when and how to behave and she understands the necessity of covering her ass. IE. She has class.

A lady that does the exact same things but has no idea what the word discreet means would likely be considered a pig in the eyes of the average Joe.

Dictionary is something that keeps us all on the same page as to the meanings of our communication. The dictionary tells us an acceptable way of stating our thoughts. If a person decides to be different and chooses different definitions from the dictionary's and argues about its meaning... That person is being contentious for no good reason. If a man's wife is faithful to another man, her husband is a cuckold. He can define himself with any word he chooses. If he tells somebody he's wrong for calling him a cuckold because his wife is sharing her goodies with another man... Someone is liable to tell that guy he's full of shit. The dictionary rules in lexicon. Always remember that!

[p_jimi]

We both men and women. Society puts this label (slut) on women who sleep with more than one man. In a society where men and women are equal, women should be just as proud to sleep with as many men as possible, just as a man should be proud to fuck as many women as possible. Until we get to the point where more than half of the wives regularly have sex with other people besides their husbands, the negative connotation of the slut will not change. Obviously, a lot depends on us men. If - like me - there will be more and more men who take it for granted that their wives regularly fuck with other people, or encourage their wives to fuck with other people as much as possible, then sooner or later there will be no need for the term slut. Not long after we got married, I suggested to my wife that she fuck other people as well. I didn't force it, but we talked about it often. Then she slept with someone once. We agreed that if she enjoy it, then she feel free to fuck the guy as much as she want. I asked her one thing, not to fuck with just one person. My wife was a very desirable woman, so there were always several men who wanted to fuck her. She had no problem fulfilling my request. She slept with five people within two months. Later with more and more people, so after two years she was already fucking with someone every day. Although my wife fucked me less and less, I was satisfied with our sex life.

[p_jimi]

We both men and women. Society puts this label (slut) on women who sleep with more than one man. In a society where men and women are equal, women should be just as proud to sleep with as many men as possible, just as a man should be proud to fuck as many women as possible. Until we get to the point where more than half of the wives regularly have sex with other people besides their husbands, the negative connotation of the slut will not change. Obviously, a lot depends on us men. If - like me - there will be more and more men who take it for granted that their wives regularly fuck with other people, or encourage their wives to fuck with other people as much as possible, then sooner or later there will be no need for the term slut. Not long after we got married, I suggested to my wife that she fuck other people as well. I didn't force it, but we talked about it often. Then she slept with someone once. We agreed that if she enjoy it, then she feel free to fuck the guy as much as she want. I asked her one thing, not to fuck with just one person. My wife was a very desirable woman, so there were always several men who wanted to fuck her. She had no problem fulfilling my request. She slept with five people within two months. Later with more and more people, so after two years she was already fucking with someone every day. Although my wife fucked me less and less, I was satisfied with our sex life.

[Cdncuck]

I do not agree with that definition. What do you think the line that seprates hot wife from a slut would be?

Answer is very simple! Class versus low or no class.

And then one could ask, what makes a woman classy? The answer to that depends upon whom you ask. Different people would give different definitions. The whole area is very subjective.

We have the dictionary meaning of words and then we have the meaning different people attach to the words. It would seem there's no single answer for everyone.

is

Really??? You have no idea what difference there is between a lady with class compared to a lady with no class???

A lady with class knows what she's doing. Where she is. She considers how her behavior appears in the eyes of the public. She does her thing quietly. I know more than one hotwife who has more than one lover and she escorts. She gives nothing away. She has self respect. Her friends, neighbors, co-workers and the public at large respect her. Why? Nobody has the slightest idea what she's doing because she knows when and how to behave and she understands the necessity of covering her ass. IE. She has class.

A lady that does the exact same things but has no idea what the word discreet means would likely be considered a pig in the eyes of the average Joe.

Dictionary is something that keeps us all on the same page as to the meanings of our communication. The dictionary tells us an acceptable way of stating our thoughts. If a person decides to be different and chooses different definitions from the dictionary's and argues about its meaning... That person is being contentious for no good reason. If a man's wife is faithful to another man, her husband is a cuckold. He can define himself with any word he chooses. If he tells somebody he's wrong for calling him a cuckold because his wife is sharing her goodies with another man... Someone is liable to tell that guy he's full of shit. The dictionary rules in lexicon. Always remember that!

You seem to have some very strong feelings about the meaning of classy. And that's fine for you. Other people will have a different interpretation of it and might present an equally strong defense of his position. Which just proves my point that different people put different a interpretation on the meaning.

On a personal note, I don't care how anyone thinks about it because I don't care. Live and let live let people think what they like.