Looking back on our first year in the lifestyle
Posted: Mon Jul 03, 2023 7:40 am
We just had our 16th wedding anniversary, which also marks one year since my wife began having sex with other men. I almost can't believe its only been a year since so much has happened. But I figure I'd lay out a few observations and "lessons learned".
First, I'll summarize our situation a bit. We still have kids in the house, though they are teenagers now. That has definitely complicated things. We had played around with the idea of having a threesome with another guy for several years. We had discussed various fantasies about her being with multiple men a few times. We had watched gangbang porn and interracial porn together with her saying that it was hot and she'd like to do that a few times. But nevertheless, no real efforts were made to actually make anything like that happen. I had kind of brought up trying to make it happen a couple times but it was sort of turned down on the basis of not really knowing how to realistically do it.
Then two years ago, the kids were both out of the house for a few weeks visiting with grandparents and going to camps. We had been playing around with the idea of trying to arrange a threesome but it still kind of wasn't going anywhere. I, however, was really wanting not just a "threesome", but for her to be with another man or potentially to for her to have a threesome with other men while I just watched. I hadn't really expressed this to her.
So I had the idea of crossdressing with her and engaging in some self-feminization to perhaps get to her to want to be with another man. She is very much into masculine guys, guys in the military, pilots, etc. I have long hair, and even when we go married she said, "I never pictured myself with a guy with long hair." But we've always had a lot of fun together and honestly we had great sex. We had done some ass-play with me previously and she had been into it. So while the kids were away I talked to her about doing some ass play, and introduced the idea of me crossdressing to do it. She was hesitant and not sure but said ok if I wanted to do that. So I got some lingerie and showed it to her, but we didn't do anything with it at that time. Then that Friday we talked about doing it that night when she came home from work. That afternoon just before she was to come home from work I got all dressed up and sent her pictures. When she came home we started making out and we had some drinks and she got ready and she pounded me with a strap-on. I got her off orally and with my hand. After we lay in bed talking and again discussed setting up something for her to be with another guy and the conversation moved to her just being with a guy while I watched.
I setup a profile for her on adultfriendfinder and we talked about it and we tried to arrange something with a guy for our anniversary. We went through the guys together and she landed on a black guy with a big cock. We chatted a lot with him and had him send us new face pics of himself etc. We got a room at a B&B and arranged to meet this guy, but he didn't show up. She was hugely disappointed, as by that time she had kind of worked herself up into making it happen and was all ready for it. But, even though it didn't happen, at that point we knew it was going to happen. We've always talked a lot about sex while laying in bed, sometimes in the mornings or at night before bed, and now our conversations were moving to fantasies about her being with other guys. She talked a lot about masculine guys, tough guys, strong guys, and would say stuff about being with a guy that doesn't wear panties, etc. I encouraged her and agreed that she needed to be with a strong masculine stud.
But, with the kids back in the house nothing really happened for a full year. We talked about things a lot, but nothing was going to happen. But we started making plans for the coming summer when the kids would be out of the house again. We made arrangements with another black bull, and it actually happened this time. I posted about it here: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=66925
After that we went to a sex club that is nearby. It's actually a very nice and classy place and she had a great time there. I posted about it here: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=67136
Since then she has preferred the sex club to trying to meet guys individually on-line. After her first time there she insisted that we go at least twice a month, and we have done that. For a while we would just go and she'd pickup guys there. She still had a few other guys that she saw as well. She was with the BBC bull that we were with the first time for a while, seeing him several times. But she likes the public sex and being watched at the club. We maintained an on-line profile for a while. She had me continue to look for additional guys for her to meet as well, and we would on occasion either plan to meet guys at the club or outside the club, some guys that she really liked but that didn't want to go to the club. There was a particular black guy with a huge cock that we met at a hotel. But, also a couple more times they wouldn't show up, so we stopped trying to make such arrangements.
Bascially ever since the sex club, she' been with other men two to four times a month. I've cross-dressed with her a couple of times since the first time, but she's not really that into it. Which is fine, it's not a major thing for me either, but it worked as good ice breaker. Once she started having sex with other guys, she started talking frequently about how cumming in a girl is like marking your territory and how she needed to keep her pussy clean for other guys. So she told me not to cum in her. We still had a sex a few times and I would pull out, but this transitioned into her denying me intercourse altogether. I agreed with her that she needs to keep her pussy clean for all these other men.
But we still play together a lot. I go down on her a lot and she enjoys mutual masturbation with me. I have her sit on my face a lot while she talks about having sex with other men. When masturbating I shot myself in the face and mouth one time and she really enjoyed that. Then she started requesting that I do it. Like when we would be masturbating together she'd say, "See if you can get it in your mouth." Then I flipped my legs up over my head once and came directly into my mouth telling her I wanted to take the whole load for her. She loved that and really got off on it. Shortly after, we were showering together one night, a day before we were going to go to the club. She was washing my cock and just said out of nowhere, "I think you should just cum in your own mouth all the time now." I told her I would. After we got out of the shower we got in bed and we began masturbating I came in my own mouth for her, and I basically have ever since. Sometimes when I'm alone I don't, but I always do when I'm with her now. In fact, as I recently posted, she helped me work on sucking my own cock, which she now enjoys watching me do. viewtopic.php?f=6&t=70163
A friend from the club told us about a website called Kasidie recently. We were telling them that we were wanting to be able to meet more guys, but that on-line "dating" was such a hassle and not worth it. So they told us about this site and we checked it out and its actually really good. It's kind of like facebook and much more oriented to groups and events. So that's opened up a whole new thing for us. She had me setup a profile for her and I basically manage it all. She's said she wants me to handle it. We've met a few guys through that site at events and one-on-one. Just recently we posted an event on there for our anniversary at the sex club and multiple guys showed up. Plus more guys joined that just happened to be at the club, so for our anniversary this past weekend she got her gangbang.
She's been on cloud 9 since, and now says that gangbangs is what she really likes and wants more of.
Our anniversary was great. We went out to a nice restaurant for brunch in the morning. Of course she was all excited for that night. Several guys had responded on-line saying they would be there and one guy she had been with before had agreed to come as well. So she was anticipating a big event. She had been with three guys before, but never more than that. We talked about what she was going to wear and how the evening would go. We had rented a private room at the club and made arrangements for drinks, etc. We spent the rest of the day doing stuff around the house and trying to relax, though she was a bundle of nerves and kept getting worked up. But evening finally came. We went out for dinner then went to the club. I had ordered a "Happy Anniversary" banner for the room, so we put that up. Things didn't really kick off until about 10:00. We had been at the club for a few hours by then, just dancing and chilling and talking to people. One guy had showed up and we chilled with him a little and she made out with him, but we were waiting for more guys to get started. Then around 10 a guy showed up who knew some other guys and then more guys showed up so she started making out with one of the guys and undoing his pants and then it pretty much got wild from there. Altogether it was seven guys. Some used condoms, some didn't. She wouldn't let anyone cum in her pussy at first, but a guy came in her mouth and on her tits. A guy did finally cum in her pussy. When he pulled out I immediately began to lick her and clean her up. She put her hand on my head and said, "Oh yeah, get it all Baby." They DPed her and she took cocks in her mouth at the same time as well. Some guys left once they had finished. The last guy came in her ass. When he pulled out she had cum dripping out of her gaping hole so I sucked some of the cum out of her ass and then kissed her and told her "Happy Anniversary!" which got a good laugh from her and the guys.
We ended up leaving the club at 1:30, shortly after the last guy finished, so basically she was getting fucked from about 10:30 to 1:15. While they were banging her I was watching and masturbating. I also served them drinks and was tending to her and helped her get into positions. I would sometimes encourage guys to do stuff. I was the one that told them to DP her. Well I told her she should get on top of a guy so they could DP her and she did. Sometimes if she didn't have a cock in her mouth I'd tell them that she needed a cock to suck on, stuff like that.
The next day, yesterday, was a recovery day. We basically slept in late and just laid around the house reminiscing about the night and the year. However, she's been adamant that she wants to really fuck a lot of guys this month since the kids are out of town. So we have plans for tomorrow (4th of July), Thursday night, and Saturday night and then like two nights a week for the rest of the month. She had me sit down with her with Kasidie and the calendar so we could coordinate who she's going to fuck on which nights and how to arrange things with all these guys. She lets me know which guys she wants to fuck again and which guys she doesn't. I make all the arrangements with them. She's told me that I need to ask the guys and find out which ones are ok meeting her with other guys. Some guys want one-on-one and others are ok with more. So she's having me make arrangements for multiple guys in a single night when possible.
She talked a lot yesterday about how much she loved getting gangbanged and how fun it is to be surrounded by guys and have dicks in all her holes and hands. She always has been a sort of needy person, not in a bad way, but like even when it was just us she was always looking for attention. She always wants me to spend time with her and be with her. We've talked about swingers and swapping and meeting couples, because there are a lot of couples at the club and there are many events for couples and sometimes couples will contact us wanting to meet. But she said that she isn't into that because she likes being the center of attention and doesn't really want other women involved. Like she wants to be the only girl in any situation. And there was a time when she said she wanted to experiment with girls, and she did, but she's said that it doesn't do anything for her and she's all about the cock.
We cuddled and kissed a lot yesterday. She said her pussy was sore, so I gave it some gentle kisses. I also started masturbating when we were talking about stuff and I was getting worked up. She told me to stop because it was making her horny and she wasn't sure her pussy could take anymore right now, but I told her I couldn't so I kept going and she started masturbating too. When I started cumming into my mouth she started moaning and had an orgasm too. Then after that she said no more masturbating until Tuesday, cause she needed to recuperate so she'd be ready for the next guy.
So that's where we are. It's been a hell of a ride. But a few takeaways:
1) It's hard with kids in the mix, but she's really determined now so we are able to make stuff happen even when they are around. They are old enough we can leave them at home alone or they can do sleepovers at least a couple times a month.
2) There are real worries about STDs, more than I anticipated. I'd say that condoms are used about half the time, which we both know isn't good, but when things start happening in the moment its very difficult. It often depends on the guy initiating condom use themself. Sometimes there may just be a sense about a certain person and she or I will ask them to use a condom. But the reality is that she loves cum. She loves being cummed on and having cum in her mouth and she gets off on me cleaning her up. She really likes to talk a lot about me eating cum. She has been tested for a pretty wide panel a couple of times now, and all clear.
3) I think we are both surprised at how quickly our relationship has changed, but both love it. Prior to our first hookup last year, we had been monogamous for 15 years together. We had what I think many people would call a good sex life. I'm pretty adventurous and creative. We used lots of sex toys, we watched porn together occasionally. We got into dirty talk. Things changed back and fourth over time, but usually we had sex about once a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. She never really expressed being such a sex fiend to me. I knew she had been with a lot of guys before me, and I knew she enjoyed sex. There were times when she wanted sex more but I was tired or something and vice versa. But it seemed like our sex life was "good". And I was the one pushing for "having a threesome", and she was a bit standoffish about it. but once it all finally happened, she has turned into a sex crazed manic. She's actually said multiple times, "I think I'm a sex addict now." I, of course, couldn't be more happy.
4) We are definitely very much in love, and we talked a lot on our anniversary about how much we love each other. She's been very appreciative and says often how much she loves me and what I do for her and how she couldn't imagine doing this with anyone else and how she really needs me to help her do this. She's said multiple times that she couldn't do this without me. And while she has on a few occasion meet with a bull she's developed a relationship with on her own, she says she prefers doing everything with me. She's said that when she's by herself she lacks the confidence and just feels too vulnerable and its a bit scary, putting herself out there like that and just hooking up with guys. But being able to do it with me allows her to relax and enjoy everything.
5) Despite point #4, she also likes to talk about being "My Queen" and how she can get whatever she wants now, and how if I'm not a "good boy" she won't let me watch. She likes to also say she's doing all this for me. That is of course all in good fun. I'll often say like, "Ok, well let's stop going to the club then." And she's say, "I want a divorce!" and then we'll laugh and make out and I'll say "Yes ma'am, whatever you want."
6) The last time we had actual intercourse was about 6 months ago. We may never do it again. I didn't anticipate that going into this, but I'm also thrilled with our current situation. We actually talk a lot now about me not being allowed to fuck her anymore since that is only for husbands who mark their territory to keep their wives to themselves. It would turn off other men if I came in her, so I can't cum in her anymore, and I may not be able to hold it, so best if I just don't fuck her at all. She's said that I have to use my own mouth as my cumdump now.
7) She's way more expressive now in talking about sex and what she wants that she ever had been before. She tells me what she likes and doesn't like about each guy. She talks about things she wants to do. She tells me very time she sees a guy that she wants to fuck. She talk about guys at work she wishes she could fuck. She's said that maybe she should get business cards to hand out to random guys she'd like to fuck. She talks a lot about my role of finding men to fuck her. And I tell her that I love my role of finding men for her as well.
8) She get's off on talking about me wanting to fuck her and her denial of me. She likes, or I would say needs, the assurance that I still desperately want to fuck her, which I do. Sometimes while she's masturbating she'll spread her legs at me and ask me if I like what I see and if I want to fuck her pussy. I'll of course say yes, then we'll talk about how I can't. I'll say stuff like about how it would feel so good to cum inside her, and she'll tell me I have to cum in my own mouth now instead so she can be ready for other guys.
9) She started waxing recently. It's funny because yeas ago something came up about waxing and she was like, "Nah I can't see myself doing that." But, about 2 months ago she said she made an appointed to get waxed because she wanted to try it before our anniversary. So she did it, and then she got waxed again about 4 days ago to prepare for her gangbang. She said the girl waxing her made a lot of small-talk and asked about what she was doing. She said she told her our anniversary was coming up and she wanted to be ready for that, and the girl talked about how it was good to "spice things up" for your husband, etc. And she was laughing in her head because the girl clearly though this was for like an intimate night alone together. She said she wanted to tell her it was so her husband could watch her get gangbanged, but she figured that would be a bad idea :p But she said yesterday that she plans to stay waxed all the time now.
10) She is very uncomfortable with pics and video. She doesn't let me take any, though I'm still working on that, as I told her I'd like to. But she is an executive with a high income. She's worried about things getting into the wrong hands or bad consequences. So for now, no pics/video
We don't do caging or anything like that. Not that I wouldn't necessarily, but for now that's just not in the mix and I don't really have any desire for it. But yeah, that's basically been our first year. She jumped in with both feet! As of right now, we are more in love than ever and having a blast. She has also said, multiple times now, that she regrets not having started this sooner. She also says she's not sure when she would have really been comfortable with it, and that there was a time when she would have thought something like this was crazy or disgusting, but now she wishes that we had started years ago.
First, I'll summarize our situation a bit. We still have kids in the house, though they are teenagers now. That has definitely complicated things. We had played around with the idea of having a threesome with another guy for several years. We had discussed various fantasies about her being with multiple men a few times. We had watched gangbang porn and interracial porn together with her saying that it was hot and she'd like to do that a few times. But nevertheless, no real efforts were made to actually make anything like that happen. I had kind of brought up trying to make it happen a couple times but it was sort of turned down on the basis of not really knowing how to realistically do it.
Then two years ago, the kids were both out of the house for a few weeks visiting with grandparents and going to camps. We had been playing around with the idea of trying to arrange a threesome but it still kind of wasn't going anywhere. I, however, was really wanting not just a "threesome", but for her to be with another man or potentially to for her to have a threesome with other men while I just watched. I hadn't really expressed this to her.
So I had the idea of crossdressing with her and engaging in some self-feminization to perhaps get to her to want to be with another man. She is very much into masculine guys, guys in the military, pilots, etc. I have long hair, and even when we go married she said, "I never pictured myself with a guy with long hair." But we've always had a lot of fun together and honestly we had great sex. We had done some ass-play with me previously and she had been into it. So while the kids were away I talked to her about doing some ass play, and introduced the idea of me crossdressing to do it. She was hesitant and not sure but said ok if I wanted to do that. So I got some lingerie and showed it to her, but we didn't do anything with it at that time. Then that Friday we talked about doing it that night when she came home from work. That afternoon just before she was to come home from work I got all dressed up and sent her pictures. When she came home we started making out and we had some drinks and she got ready and she pounded me with a strap-on. I got her off orally and with my hand. After we lay in bed talking and again discussed setting up something for her to be with another guy and the conversation moved to her just being with a guy while I watched.
I setup a profile for her on adultfriendfinder and we talked about it and we tried to arrange something with a guy for our anniversary. We went through the guys together and she landed on a black guy with a big cock. We chatted a lot with him and had him send us new face pics of himself etc. We got a room at a B&B and arranged to meet this guy, but he didn't show up. She was hugely disappointed, as by that time she had kind of worked herself up into making it happen and was all ready for it. But, even though it didn't happen, at that point we knew it was going to happen. We've always talked a lot about sex while laying in bed, sometimes in the mornings or at night before bed, and now our conversations were moving to fantasies about her being with other guys. She talked a lot about masculine guys, tough guys, strong guys, and would say stuff about being with a guy that doesn't wear panties, etc. I encouraged her and agreed that she needed to be with a strong masculine stud.
But, with the kids back in the house nothing really happened for a full year. We talked about things a lot, but nothing was going to happen. But we started making plans for the coming summer when the kids would be out of the house again. We made arrangements with another black bull, and it actually happened this time. I posted about it here: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=66925
After that we went to a sex club that is nearby. It's actually a very nice and classy place and she had a great time there. I posted about it here: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=67136
Since then she has preferred the sex club to trying to meet guys individually on-line. After her first time there she insisted that we go at least twice a month, and we have done that. For a while we would just go and she'd pickup guys there. She still had a few other guys that she saw as well. She was with the BBC bull that we were with the first time for a while, seeing him several times. But she likes the public sex and being watched at the club. We maintained an on-line profile for a while. She had me continue to look for additional guys for her to meet as well, and we would on occasion either plan to meet guys at the club or outside the club, some guys that she really liked but that didn't want to go to the club. There was a particular black guy with a huge cock that we met at a hotel. But, also a couple more times they wouldn't show up, so we stopped trying to make such arrangements.
Bascially ever since the sex club, she' been with other men two to four times a month. I've cross-dressed with her a couple of times since the first time, but she's not really that into it. Which is fine, it's not a major thing for me either, but it worked as good ice breaker. Once she started having sex with other guys, she started talking frequently about how cumming in a girl is like marking your territory and how she needed to keep her pussy clean for other guys. So she told me not to cum in her. We still had a sex a few times and I would pull out, but this transitioned into her denying me intercourse altogether. I agreed with her that she needs to keep her pussy clean for all these other men.
But we still play together a lot. I go down on her a lot and she enjoys mutual masturbation with me. I have her sit on my face a lot while she talks about having sex with other men. When masturbating I shot myself in the face and mouth one time and she really enjoyed that. Then she started requesting that I do it. Like when we would be masturbating together she'd say, "See if you can get it in your mouth." Then I flipped my legs up over my head once and came directly into my mouth telling her I wanted to take the whole load for her. She loved that and really got off on it. Shortly after, we were showering together one night, a day before we were going to go to the club. She was washing my cock and just said out of nowhere, "I think you should just cum in your own mouth all the time now." I told her I would. After we got out of the shower we got in bed and we began masturbating I came in my own mouth for her, and I basically have ever since. Sometimes when I'm alone I don't, but I always do when I'm with her now. In fact, as I recently posted, she helped me work on sucking my own cock, which she now enjoys watching me do. viewtopic.php?f=6&t=70163
A friend from the club told us about a website called Kasidie recently. We were telling them that we were wanting to be able to meet more guys, but that on-line "dating" was such a hassle and not worth it. So they told us about this site and we checked it out and its actually really good. It's kind of like facebook and much more oriented to groups and events. So that's opened up a whole new thing for us. She had me setup a profile for her and I basically manage it all. She's said she wants me to handle it. We've met a few guys through that site at events and one-on-one. Just recently we posted an event on there for our anniversary at the sex club and multiple guys showed up. Plus more guys joined that just happened to be at the club, so for our anniversary this past weekend she got her gangbang.
She's been on cloud 9 since, and now says that gangbangs is what she really likes and wants more of.
Our anniversary was great. We went out to a nice restaurant for brunch in the morning. Of course she was all excited for that night. Several guys had responded on-line saying they would be there and one guy she had been with before had agreed to come as well. So she was anticipating a big event. She had been with three guys before, but never more than that. We talked about what she was going to wear and how the evening would go. We had rented a private room at the club and made arrangements for drinks, etc. We spent the rest of the day doing stuff around the house and trying to relax, though she was a bundle of nerves and kept getting worked up. But evening finally came. We went out for dinner then went to the club. I had ordered a "Happy Anniversary" banner for the room, so we put that up. Things didn't really kick off until about 10:00. We had been at the club for a few hours by then, just dancing and chilling and talking to people. One guy had showed up and we chilled with him a little and she made out with him, but we were waiting for more guys to get started. Then around 10 a guy showed up who knew some other guys and then more guys showed up so she started making out with one of the guys and undoing his pants and then it pretty much got wild from there. Altogether it was seven guys. Some used condoms, some didn't. She wouldn't let anyone cum in her pussy at first, but a guy came in her mouth and on her tits. A guy did finally cum in her pussy. When he pulled out I immediately began to lick her and clean her up. She put her hand on my head and said, "Oh yeah, get it all Baby." They DPed her and she took cocks in her mouth at the same time as well. Some guys left once they had finished. The last guy came in her ass. When he pulled out she had cum dripping out of her gaping hole so I sucked some of the cum out of her ass and then kissed her and told her "Happy Anniversary!" which got a good laugh from her and the guys.
We ended up leaving the club at 1:30, shortly after the last guy finished, so basically she was getting fucked from about 10:30 to 1:15. While they were banging her I was watching and masturbating. I also served them drinks and was tending to her and helped her get into positions. I would sometimes encourage guys to do stuff. I was the one that told them to DP her. Well I told her she should get on top of a guy so they could DP her and she did. Sometimes if she didn't have a cock in her mouth I'd tell them that she needed a cock to suck on, stuff like that.
The next day, yesterday, was a recovery day. We basically slept in late and just laid around the house reminiscing about the night and the year. However, she's been adamant that she wants to really fuck a lot of guys this month since the kids are out of town. So we have plans for tomorrow (4th of July), Thursday night, and Saturday night and then like two nights a week for the rest of the month. She had me sit down with her with Kasidie and the calendar so we could coordinate who she's going to fuck on which nights and how to arrange things with all these guys. She lets me know which guys she wants to fuck again and which guys she doesn't. I make all the arrangements with them. She's told me that I need to ask the guys and find out which ones are ok meeting her with other guys. Some guys want one-on-one and others are ok with more. So she's having me make arrangements for multiple guys in a single night when possible.
She talked a lot yesterday about how much she loved getting gangbanged and how fun it is to be surrounded by guys and have dicks in all her holes and hands. She always has been a sort of needy person, not in a bad way, but like even when it was just us she was always looking for attention. She always wants me to spend time with her and be with her. We've talked about swingers and swapping and meeting couples, because there are a lot of couples at the club and there are many events for couples and sometimes couples will contact us wanting to meet. But she said that she isn't into that because she likes being the center of attention and doesn't really want other women involved. Like she wants to be the only girl in any situation. And there was a time when she said she wanted to experiment with girls, and she did, but she's said that it doesn't do anything for her and she's all about the cock.
We cuddled and kissed a lot yesterday. She said her pussy was sore, so I gave it some gentle kisses. I also started masturbating when we were talking about stuff and I was getting worked up. She told me to stop because it was making her horny and she wasn't sure her pussy could take anymore right now, but I told her I couldn't so I kept going and she started masturbating too. When I started cumming into my mouth she started moaning and had an orgasm too. Then after that she said no more masturbating until Tuesday, cause she needed to recuperate so she'd be ready for the next guy.
So that's where we are. It's been a hell of a ride. But a few takeaways:
1) It's hard with kids in the mix, but she's really determined now so we are able to make stuff happen even when they are around. They are old enough we can leave them at home alone or they can do sleepovers at least a couple times a month.
2) There are real worries about STDs, more than I anticipated. I'd say that condoms are used about half the time, which we both know isn't good, but when things start happening in the moment its very difficult. It often depends on the guy initiating condom use themself. Sometimes there may just be a sense about a certain person and she or I will ask them to use a condom. But the reality is that she loves cum. She loves being cummed on and having cum in her mouth and she gets off on me cleaning her up. She really likes to talk a lot about me eating cum. She has been tested for a pretty wide panel a couple of times now, and all clear.
3) I think we are both surprised at how quickly our relationship has changed, but both love it. Prior to our first hookup last year, we had been monogamous for 15 years together. We had what I think many people would call a good sex life. I'm pretty adventurous and creative. We used lots of sex toys, we watched porn together occasionally. We got into dirty talk. Things changed back and fourth over time, but usually we had sex about once a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. She never really expressed being such a sex fiend to me. I knew she had been with a lot of guys before me, and I knew she enjoyed sex. There were times when she wanted sex more but I was tired or something and vice versa. But it seemed like our sex life was "good". And I was the one pushing for "having a threesome", and she was a bit standoffish about it. but once it all finally happened, she has turned into a sex crazed manic. She's actually said multiple times, "I think I'm a sex addict now." I, of course, couldn't be more happy.
4) We are definitely very much in love, and we talked a lot on our anniversary about how much we love each other. She's been very appreciative and says often how much she loves me and what I do for her and how she couldn't imagine doing this with anyone else and how she really needs me to help her do this. She's said multiple times that she couldn't do this without me. And while she has on a few occasion meet with a bull she's developed a relationship with on her own, she says she prefers doing everything with me. She's said that when she's by herself she lacks the confidence and just feels too vulnerable and its a bit scary, putting herself out there like that and just hooking up with guys. But being able to do it with me allows her to relax and enjoy everything.
5) Despite point #4, she also likes to talk about being "My Queen" and how she can get whatever she wants now, and how if I'm not a "good boy" she won't let me watch. She likes to also say she's doing all this for me. That is of course all in good fun. I'll often say like, "Ok, well let's stop going to the club then." And she's say, "I want a divorce!" and then we'll laugh and make out and I'll say "Yes ma'am, whatever you want."
6) The last time we had actual intercourse was about 6 months ago. We may never do it again. I didn't anticipate that going into this, but I'm also thrilled with our current situation. We actually talk a lot now about me not being allowed to fuck her anymore since that is only for husbands who mark their territory to keep their wives to themselves. It would turn off other men if I came in her, so I can't cum in her anymore, and I may not be able to hold it, so best if I just don't fuck her at all. She's said that I have to use my own mouth as my cumdump now.
7) She's way more expressive now in talking about sex and what she wants that she ever had been before. She tells me what she likes and doesn't like about each guy. She talks about things she wants to do. She tells me very time she sees a guy that she wants to fuck. She talk about guys at work she wishes she could fuck. She's said that maybe she should get business cards to hand out to random guys she'd like to fuck. She talks a lot about my role of finding men to fuck her. And I tell her that I love my role of finding men for her as well.
8) She get's off on talking about me wanting to fuck her and her denial of me. She likes, or I would say needs, the assurance that I still desperately want to fuck her, which I do. Sometimes while she's masturbating she'll spread her legs at me and ask me if I like what I see and if I want to fuck her pussy. I'll of course say yes, then we'll talk about how I can't. I'll say stuff like about how it would feel so good to cum inside her, and she'll tell me I have to cum in my own mouth now instead so she can be ready for other guys.
9) She started waxing recently. It's funny because yeas ago something came up about waxing and she was like, "Nah I can't see myself doing that." But, about 2 months ago she said she made an appointed to get waxed because she wanted to try it before our anniversary. So she did it, and then she got waxed again about 4 days ago to prepare for her gangbang. She said the girl waxing her made a lot of small-talk and asked about what she was doing. She said she told her our anniversary was coming up and she wanted to be ready for that, and the girl talked about how it was good to "spice things up" for your husband, etc. And she was laughing in her head because the girl clearly though this was for like an intimate night alone together. She said she wanted to tell her it was so her husband could watch her get gangbanged, but she figured that would be a bad idea :p But she said yesterday that she plans to stay waxed all the time now.
10) She is very uncomfortable with pics and video. She doesn't let me take any, though I'm still working on that, as I told her I'd like to. But she is an executive with a high income. She's worried about things getting into the wrong hands or bad consequences. So for now, no pics/video
We don't do caging or anything like that. Not that I wouldn't necessarily, but for now that's just not in the mix and I don't really have any desire for it. But yeah, that's basically been our first year. She jumped in with both feet! As of right now, we are more in love than ever and having a blast. She has also said, multiple times now, that she regrets not having started this sooner. She also says she's not sure when she would have really been comfortable with it, and that there was a time when she would have thought something like this was crazy or disgusting, but now she wishes that we had started years ago.