Children in cuckold marriages

[Scias]

Hi there, so this is a topic that's fascinated me because it's such an unusual dynamic and I'm curious to read what people in cuckold marriages with children do. Do they know after a certain age? Do you have the conversation with them? Is it kept completely private and they just never end up knowing or finding out? How about households where the wife's bull/lover lives with them in the house, along with the kids? Do they ever interact with their mom's bull/bf?I met a woman online elsewhere who had this type of dynamic. Her bf moved in with the family and he really got along with the kids and the husband and they knew and understood who he was and what he was doing there. He had his own room and the wife would sleep with him in there a few times a week while hubby still lived in the master bedroom

Do you think sons or daughters decide to try the lifestyle as well after they turn 18 if they knew or found out that their parents are in the lifestyle?

[Cdncuck]

In our relationship, what we do in our personal lives is personal. In other words, the kids don't know and don't need to know. We would never put our children in a position where they knew their mother was sleeping with other men.

As for couples who have a live in arrangement, all I can say is that would be putting your personal kink ahead of property raising your children. That isn't a hallmark of good parenting.

[Johnann2227]

In our relationship, what we do in our personal lives is personal. In other words, the kids don't know and don't need to know. We would never put our children in a position where they knew their mother was sleeping with other men.

As for couples who have a live in arrangement, all I can say is that would be putting your personal kink ahead of property raising your children. That isn't a hallmark of good parenting.

We totally agree with you. Our kids are now 20 and 17 and have no idea that we are swingers and also into hotwifing. They have been brought up in a nudist household and take part in the nude pool parties etc we host with the other families in our swinger group. There is never anything remotely sexual if there are children in attendance. None of the groups kids know that their parents are swingers.
We explain my wife's Tuesday nights out (at her boyfriend's) as her book club night with some teachers she works with. Her Friday night sleepovers at her boyfriend's place are explained as her weekly girls' night out. She has never had a boyfriend stay overnight except if we have hosted a swinger party and the kids have been at their grandparent's house for the weekend. Family always comes first.

[LawyerWouldbeCuckold]

I'm not even in this lifestyle, and given my luck with relationships, I'm not sure I'm ever getting married, and at my age (late 50's) the children ship has sailed.......

But I will say this- kids and kink do not mix, in any way, shape or form. I"ve read a lot on this website about couple's being okay with the bull or bf impregnating the wife, and I know there are some husbands who really, really get off on that (and are immensely aroused at the prospect), and my feeling is that they are playing with fire. Parenting (especially in this day and age) is challenging enough in the first place without introducing a kink factor.

A few years ago, I was chatting with a woman I met through a website, and she was telling me about child-rearing, and she said something I'll never forget. She said "After you have a child, you realize that it's no longer about you." That has obviously stuck with me; and it makes a huge amount of sense.

IMHO, Your children don't need to know anything about your sex life, or your wife's sex life. And as far as the bull/bf impregnating her, do you anything about that guy's medical history? One of the reasons I'm glad I never had biological children is that there is some REALLY bad medical history on my mother's side of the family....that I did not learn about until my mid-late 40's. Notwithstanding that, suppose the bull eventually decides he want's to play a role in his childs life?

Again, IMHO, there are just too many ways things can go wrong when you mix kids and kink. FWIW, my advice is...don't even go there

[AngiesHusband]

every situation is different.

I did know about my parents when I was growing up, our boys know about us now.

[tractorman2]

Our kids do know regrettably, my young darling wife having entertained her lover when our children were much younger. They actually knew before I did as our daughter drunk one day delighted in telling me and my best friend how he a family friend would arrive then they would be shunted off to bed. Then they would creep downstairs and listen as their mum started say hush!!! then started panting over a long time before screaming to the sound of flesh banging together. Or words to that effect then he left. They might have been young but knew.

Her fault for being stupid,

Our daughter in her mid teens found pictures of her mum in my car where she should not have been being fucked by other men and recent pictures at the time,

My fault for not knowing she would root through my stuff,

Our son has never mentioned it.

Both have grown into fine taxpaying citizens turned us into grandparents but we are sure very sexually boring too. Each to their own.

However we wish they had not known.

[Scias]

In our relationship, what we do in our personal lives is personal. In other words, the kids don't know and don't need to know. We would never put our children in a position where they knew their mother was sleeping with other men.

As for couples who have a live in arrangement, all I can say is that would be putting your personal kink ahead of property raising your children. That isn't a hallmark of good parenting.

Okay? No need to put me down over it, it was just a question

[naivecuck2]

The worst part of being a cuckold for me was lying to my two daughters as to where their mom was going....bought my ex a bowling ball, shoes and bag, so that she could pretend that she was going bowling with girl friends Friday nights and then over night trips out of state with girl friends. Given that he was a cook at a family, country western venue, my ex took our daughters to this venue for the dinner/show...they came home with cowboy hats that he bought for them but at 13 and 11 they were unaware that mom was fucking her HS boyfriend 4 -5 days a week while they were at school and I was at work. The hardest part of our divorce was telling the girls that mom and dad were not getting along....not the real reason that mom was addicted to orgasmic sex with another man that had a bigger cock and more stamina and could fuck her 4 times in 5 hours.

[Cdncuck]

In our relationship, what we do in our personal lives is personal. In other words, the kids don't know and don't need to know. We would never put our children in a position where they knew their mother was sleeping with other men.

As for couples who have a live in arrangement, all I can say is that would be putting your personal kink ahead of property raising your children. That isn't a hallmark of good parenting.

Okay? No need to put me down over it, it was just a question

It was in no way intended as a put down to anyone. It's just my opinion. Sorry you took it that way but please remember, you did ask.

[Hynsen]

In our relationship, what we do in our personal lives is personal. In other words, the kids don't know and don't need to know. We would never put our children in a position where they knew their mother was sleeping with other men.

As for couples who have a live in arrangement, all I can say is that would be putting your personal kink ahead of property raising your children. That isn't a hallmark of good parenting.

I totalt agree. We do it the same way

[Mr Mrs Cream]

I was asked by stud to date his girlfriend.
He was also interested for someone for his mom who was single at this time.
He wanted to see me first with his girlfriend.
He also mentioned about arange a special date with his mom to let him see/spy her during sex. He had few ideas about it.
He mentioned that he wants to be real cuckold and see how fast he would cum while watching girlfriend vs mom.
It was funny for for me

[EdwardTheBull]

So I've had enough children of couples I've been with confront them on me to realize there's a 99.9% chance your kids know whether they say anything or not. Usually the question is just how detailed their knowledge is, yeah my parents are in some freaky stuff versus she gets fucked on Thursdays. The best way to tell is if you're convinced that there's absolutely no way your kids have any clue they know everything.

The other thing that I think a lot of people forget is that even if it's a fantasy most of the pregnancies in the hot Wife lifestyle come from getting caught up in the moment not planning to have children.

[LongTermHubby]

My wife and I were already empty nesters when we entered the lifestyle. I doubt we could have managed it if we still had children at home.

[Alimpy4K]

Our kids don't know.

[jw_kk]

For the most part, when we had kids at home, it was during the years KK was cheating, well before we started doing the hot wife thing. KK's last significant affair was with my youngest daughter's soccer coach. It happened during her senior year in high school. It was a torrid, lust, and 'love' filled affair - during that period, KK became careless. Sparing the detail, our daughter became aware of KK's infidelity.

I know there were mother-daughter conversations about this, but I don't have much of the detail. My current insight is that KK convinced our daughter it was a "one off" thing.

The kids are long out of the house, and we've managed to keep the hot wife thing pretty much under the radar. Of late however, our living situation has changed dramatically - in addition to KK and I, there are now three men living with us. We've not had to face or figure out the logistics of this living arrangement as it relates to family members.

I don't know what, if any impact my daughter's knowledge of her mother's behavior impacts her sexuality.

[Northerner]

Unfortunately lust sometimes overrides common sense. While I was at work the ex and her lover were laying on the bed together after sex, my daughter (age 3) walked into the bedroom and asked my ex why they had no clothes on. To this day I don't know if it is remembered. I don't want to ask in case it brings back a forgotten memory.

[mundyman]

For the most part, when we had kids at home, it was during the years KK was cheating, well before we started doing the hot wife thing. KK's last significant affair was with my youngest daughter's soccer coach. It happened during her senior year in high school. It was a torrid, lust, and 'love' filled affair - during that period, KK became careless. Sparing the detail, our daughter became aware of KK's infidelity.

I know there were mother-daughter conversations about this, but I don't have much of the detail. My current insight is that KK convinced our daughter it was a "one off" thing.

The kids are long out of the house, and we've managed to keep the hot wife thing pretty much under the radar. Of late however, our living situation has changed dramatically - in addition to KK and I, there are now three men living with us. We've not had to face or figure out the logistics of this living arrangement as it relates to family members.

I don't know what, if any impact my daughter's knowledge of her mother's behavior impacts her sexuality.

Have you updated your story to describe how you and kk have arrived at this current place in your hotwife relationship.
You two live such a hot and adventurous lifestyle. I am so curious about this new development.

[brutay2]

Hi there, so this is a topic that's fascinated me because it's such an unusual dynamic and I'm curious to read what people in cuckold marriages with children do. Do they know after a certain age? Do you have the conversation with them? Is it kept completely private and they just never end up knowing or finding out? How about households where the wife's bull/lover lives with them in the house, along with the kids? Do they ever interact with their mom's bull/bf?I met a woman online elsewhere who had this type of dynamic. Her bf moved in with the family and he really got along with the kids and the husband and they knew and understood who he was and what he was doing there. He had his own room and the wife would sleep with him in there a few times a week while hubby still lived in the master bedroom

Do you think sons or daughters decide to try the lifestyle as well after they turn 18 if they knew or found out that their parents are in the lifestyle?

Yes and no. It all depends on the children's tendencies.

[brutay2]

In our relationship, what we do in our personal lives is personal. In other words, the kids don't know and don't need to know. We would never put our children in a position where they knew their mother was sleeping with other men.

As for couples who have a live in arrangement, all I can say is that would be putting your personal kink ahead of property raising your children. That isn't a hallmark of good parenting.

We totally agree with you. Our kids are now 20 and 17 and have no idea that we are swingers and also into hotwifing. They have been brought up in a nudist household and take part in the nude pool parties etc we host with the other families in our swinger group. There is never anything remotely sexual if there are children in attendance. None of the groups kids know that their parents are swingers.
We explain my wife's Tuesday nights out (at her boyfriend's) as her book club night with some teachers she works with. Her Friday night sleepovers at her boyfriend's place are explained as her weekly girls' night out. She has never had a boyfriend stay overnight except if we have hosted a swinger party and the kids have been at their grandparent's house for the weekend. Family always comes first.

Well would you be surprised if they come out and tell you they have known about it and intently let you two believe they did not know out of respect for both of you?

[brutay2]

every situation is different.

I did know about my parents when I was growing up, our boys know about us now.

Good for you and if they ask you questions about it, tell them the truth.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

We were 39 and 35 when we joined this lifestyle in 2007. We had two boys at the time, 9 and 5.

For all of the years between March 2007 and December 2022, my wife had one guy, Anthony. (Some would call him a friend with benefits, but they routinely cucked me at least once a month, usually two or three times a month.)

A side note: My culinary preferences are rather simple…meat and potatoes, chicken, tacos, cheese pizza, and the occasional stir-fry. I am NOT a person who likes to explore different foods. I never have been, and I come off as quite picky about my eating habits. My wife, in contrast, is very much a “foodie.” She LOVES to try different kinds of food, different cuisines, especially seafood. Our kids came to know me as the picky eater and my wife as the adventurer.

When we had to explain why Mom was going out with “uncle Anthony” while I stayed home with them, it was simply that they’re going out to a restaurant that serves food I don’t like. They became the adventurous “foodies,” and I’ve always been the boring meat and potatoes guy.

As the boys became teens, though, we wondered if they were putting the pieces together. There are so many influences in those years that parents just don’t have any control over…friends, internet (including porn, of course), pop-culture references in the music they listen to, etc.

In retrospect, we find it hard to believe that they DID NOT consider the sexual arrangements at least a few times. There were the one or two times each week that their mom and Anthony would go out for dinner (and have fantastic sex at his house), the one or two times each week that we were not home for dinner (because they were either cucking me or sending me out to the grocery store to buy shit we needed while they had sex back at his place).

If they have managed to figure it out, they have been polite enough to keep it to themselves. (I think I would fall apart if they realized their dad is a cuck.)

Since December 2022, my wife has discovered a new partner. I find myself experiencing many of the complications that I faced in 2007, but even more complicated now that our kids are much savvier.

They are both sexually active with their girlfriends, and it’s funny to see bits of our attitudes about sex in their own respective relationships. (All four of them talk about “hall passes” should they go to Vegas with their girlfriends/buddies.) They both still live with us while they finish school. (The older one got a late-start!) They’re planning to get a place together in the next few months, which will hopefully make this whole thing easier.

[AngiesHusband]

every situation is different.

I did know about my parents when I was growing up, our boys know about us now.

Good for you and if they ask you questions about it, tell them the truth.

absolutely yes!

[LawyerWouldbeCuckold]

every situation is different.

I did know about my parents when I was growing up, our boys know about us now.

Good for you and if they ask you questions about it, tell them the truth.

absolutely yes!

I've never been a parent, and I"ll probably never be a cuck husband, (at this rate, I'm wondering if I'm even going to be a husband) but I absolutely do not understand the reason to tell children anything about their parent's sex lives. If it were me, I would just say "That's something private between your mother and myself, and when you have children of your own, you'll understand that there are certain things that parents do not discuss with their children."

And then I would end the conversation. Call me "old-school", but that's what I am.

Decades ago, when my mother was married to my stepfather, she started seeing a married man. She had thrown my stepfather out of the house, but her boyfriend never came over to the house; my mother went over to his place. but I was still scared to death of the effect that this was having on my (half) sister.

A number of years after that affair ended- my stepfather moved back in, but they divorced around/about eight years after that- my mother started seeing a married man. Turns out his son was a classmate of my sister's in high school (I think my sister found out about it after she had moved out and started college). I don't remember very much of what she told me about it, but she said something to effect of the man's wife had "busted them out"- followed him to a rendezvous with my mother somewhere. But the point is, my sister knew about my mother's activities. (Or, she found out later. Like, when my mother was telling both my sister and myself "I had an affair with a married man." Why my mother felt the need to discuss her private life with me I cannot fathom. By then, I had emotionally severed my connection with my mother- and I was busy with work (and school) so I could not pay a lot of attention to her. But I know it had an effect on my sister.

My mother passed away ten years ago this month. One of the reasons I am estranged from my sister is that my mother was such a difficult parent to where my sister (to preserve her sanity) cut ALL of her ties with everyone from that period of life, including myself.

One thing that parents sometimes forget- and my mother was Exhibit "One" here- is that even after children "grow up" and become adults, they never stop thinking of their parent, as their parent. And learning about certain things that parent has done will distress them.

I will say it again- there is absolutely no reason for children to know anything about their parent's sex lives. I do not see how that is helpful to a child in any way, shape or form- even after that child attains adulthood.

[Cdncuck]

In our relationship, what we do in our personal lives is personal. In other words, the kids don't know and don't need to know. We would never put our children in a position where they knew their mother was sleeping with other men.

As for couples who have a live in arrangement, all I can say is that would be putting your personal kink ahead of property raising your children. That isn't a hallmark of good parenting.

We totally agree with you. Our kids are now 20 and 17 and have no idea that we are swingers and also into hotwifing. They have been brought up in a nudist household and take part in the nude pool parties etc we host with the other families in our swinger group. There is never anything remotely sexual if there are children in attendance. None of the groups kids know that their parents are swingers.
We explain my wife's Tuesday nights out (at her boyfriend's) as her book club night with some teachers she works with. Her Friday night sleepovers at her boyfriend's place are explained as her weekly girls' night out. She has never had a boyfriend stay overnight except if we have hosted a swinger party and the kids have been at their grandparent's house for the weekend. Family always comes first.

Well would you be surprised if they come out and tell you they have known about it and intently let you two believe they did not know out of respect for both of you?

In our relationship, what we do in our personal lives is personal. In other words, the kids don't know and don't need to know. We would never put our children in a position where they knew their mother was sleeping with other men.

As for couples who have a live in arrangement, all I can say is that would be putting your personal kink ahead of property raising your children. That isn't a hallmark of good parenting.

We totally agree with you. Our kids are now 20 and 17 and have no idea that we are swingers and also into hotwifing. They have been brought up in a nudist household and take part in the nude pool parties etc we host with the other families in our swinger group. There is never anything remotely sexual if there are children in attendance. None of the groups kids know that their parents are swingers.
We explain my wife's Tuesday nights out (at her boyfriend's) as her book club night with some teachers she works with. Her Friday night sleepovers at her boyfriend's place are explained as her weekly girls' night out. She has never had a boyfriend stay overnight except if we have hosted a swinger party and the kids have been at their grandparent's house for the weekend. Family always comes first.

Well would you be surprised if they come out and tell you they have known about it and intently let you two believe they did not know out of respect for both of you?

Well since I know my kids and you don't, I'm going with they don't know. Both are very forthright and outspoken not prone to considering the other party's feelings before they speak.

[Johnann2227]

In our relationship, what we do in our personal lives is personal. In other words, the kids don't know and don't need to know. We would never put our children in a position where they knew their mother was sleeping with other men.

As for couples who have a live in arrangement, all I can say is that would be putting your personal kink ahead of property raising your children. That isn't a hallmark of good parenting.

We totally agree with you. Our kids are now 20 and 17 and have no idea that we are swingers and also into hotwifing. They have been brought up in a nudist household and take part in the nude pool parties etc we host with the other families in our swinger group. There is never anything remotely sexual if there are children in attendance. None of the groups kids know that their parents are swingers.
We explain my wife's Tuesday nights out (at her boyfriend's) as her book club night with some teachers she works with. Her Friday night sleepovers at her boyfriend's place are explained as her weekly girls' night out. She has never had a boyfriend stay overnight except if we have hosted a swinger party and the kids have been at their grandparent's house for the weekend. Family always comes first.

Well would you be surprised if they come out and tell you they have known about it and intently let you two believe they did not know out of respect for both of you?

Hi brutay,
Yes, we would be massively shocked to find out our kids know. We have been so careful over the years. They know their parents have a "bit of kink" in them (Ann has a clit hood piercing and they found our "goody drawer" of toys years ago. They have walked in on us having sex. But to know that we are swingers and their mother is bisexual and a hotwife?