Wife's new lover

[Chrislydi]

Shouldn't you have made agreements about what she would give you in return for taking a lover before you started? Normally it's a two way process talked about and agreed before you start. I'm not talking about rules, except perhaps not get pregnant or leaving you for him, but just an understanding about telling all or cucking you if that's what you want. There has to be benefits for both or it doesn't work.

Chris

[watcher5]

I agree with Chris.
But, any solid marriage/relationship relies upon a strong bond of trust and truth, and from what 'New' has said I'm not sure/clear that you have this with your wife (sorry).
Equally you obviously want to be a Cuckold and everything that goes with it, whereas your wife appears not to be really 'into it', perhaps unsure, nervous about fucking other guys just to feed your cuckold obsession,and may be feels pressurised into doing it regularly. Rather than having fn with a guy as and when she wants.
It is not just about you, your wife has thoughts, feelings and needs too.
You both need to have a long 'heart to heart' chat, so you both understand each other's feelings and needs. 'New' you need to fully respect your wife's decisions, otherwise I can see matters not ending well.
Cuckold as a fantasy is one thing, but in real life it is totally different, and incredibly difficult to achieve, and relies upon the wife being THE key player, without her, well obviously it will not work.

[Newbeginning84]

My wife is planning to visit a new lover in the Christmas holidays, she talks a lot about him. She asked for my opinion and I said I wanted her to go. I will not be at home anyway.
She asked me what more I wanted.
I was not sure what she was thinking, but I grabbed the chance and said I wanted to be caged, denied and teased about being cuckolded by her while she is with her lover.

She will do it she says

Also talked about doing more the stuff that I like when I'm back home. Meaning chastity, pegging and submission to her. This time around I want to show her all the benefits of keeping me locked, don't even care how many back and foot massages, pussy or ass licking hours it takes, I'm happily doing it when being denied release for 5 days or more. I will show her.

I will tell her the truth about how I like when she fuck me and how I dream of her using ever bigger dildos/plugs in me. I bought one big plug that is almost too big, but feels so good when slipping in, I will introduce it to her and ask to use it while we have sex or when she dominates me.

I'm so excited again, seems we are progressing well

[Long Lurker 34]

My wife is planning to visit a new lover in the Christmas holidays, she talks a lot about him. She asked for my opinion and I said I wanted her to go. I will not be at home anyway.
She asked me what more I wanted.
I was not sure what she was thinking, but I grabbed the chance and said I wanted to be caged, denied and teased about being cuckolded by her while she is with her lover.

She will do it she says

Also talked about doing more the stuff that I like when I'm back home. Meaning chastity, pegging and submission to her. This time around I want to show her all the benefits of keeping me locked, don't even care how many back and foot massages, pussy or ass licking hours it takes, I'm happily doing it when being denied release for 5 days or more. I will show her.

I will tell her the truth about how I like when she fuck me and how I dream of her using ever bigger dildos/plugs in me. I bought one big plug that is almost too big, but feels so good when slipping in, I will introduce it to her and ask to use it while we have sex or when she dominates me.

I'm so excited again, seems we are progressing well

NB84 - Is this another new lover?
Where will she be going with this new guy?
Where will you going over the holidays?
Would you two normally be together over the holidays?
What will your families say about you two not being together?

[Newbeginning84]

It's a new lover. Will be her 4th since we started. She will say with him in his house.

I'm away on job and will return home only middle of January. I'm so happy she can have a nice romantic sexy Christmas now

We talked a lot more recently about our arrangement and what I need out of it. She has become much better at tending to my needs. However she is still a bit afraid of humiliating or hurting me, which makes me fell more safe about all of this, but at the same time I wish she would do it more.

She has demanded that I don't play with myself while she is on her vacation. Will be almost 10 days I guess.
Last time she asked this of me, in the end she told me to play with myself, but I had to cum on my own face and send her the video.

[thepen]

It sounds like you're both feeling your way on this. But you in particular seem to be struggling against topping from below and making it all about yourself, IMO.

I like her "three questions" rule. It's sort of hot that she and her lover keep some privacy from you, no? You might want to consider choosing questions that center on her pleasure and happiness and not just your fetishes about cock size and prowess. Such as:

"What was your favorite part of the weekend with him?"
"What do you like best about him?"

The less you make it about specific sexual questions, the less she will feel like she's "performing" for you - and the soul-dampening pressure that goes with that. She loves you, but she probably doesn't want to feel like your fetish dispenser or personal porn outlet. One of the hottest thing about cuckolding is really letting go of your ego. You can do that by centering her and her joy.

Hope that doesn't come across as harsh, and that it's helpful. Keep us updated, whatever happens!

[Newbeginning84]

Some good advice above here. Thank you.

Update:
My wife and her lover are now together at his place spending holidays.
She is having a great time and says he is a really good kisser and the sex is good.
I have encouraged her to dress sexy for him and take good care of him.
She lives that.

For me, she demands that I don't touch myself for the entire duration of her vacation. Mean while she will tease me with updates and she me to ask few questions once in a while.

I'm already dripping with excitement when talking with her about it. I think she might have something humiliating planned for me when in finally allowed to cum.

[Long Lurker 34]

Some good advice above here. Thank you.

Update:
My wife and her lover are now together at his place spending holidays.
She is having a great time and says he is a really good kisser and the sex is good.
I have encouraged her to dress sexy for him and take good care of him.
She lives that.

For me, she demands that I don't touch myself for the entire duration of her vacation. Mean while she will tease me with updates and she me to ask few questions once in a while.

I'm already dripping with excitement when talking with her about it. I think she might have something humiliating planned for me when in finally allowed to cum.

NB84 - I hope she is taking some pictures for you.

[Diolomat62]

She still have one more day with him. I asked her if he was "nice in bed"
Her "very good"

Hurt little bit, she could have just have said yes.
I guess he is bigger and better than me and she will enjoy rubbing my nose in it so to speak.
I am glad tough that she get what she desires.
Can't stop thinking about her having sex with him, I really would like to see it.

[eater]

how do you keep yourself from masterbating?

[Newbeginning84]

how do you keep yourself from masterbating?

Well I really enjoy being humiliated/dominated. What ever she demands I will do for her. I was thrilled last time after 10 days she told me to cum on my own face and send her pictures of it.
Would be easier if I was locked in my cage, but I don't have it with me. I need to stay strong.

[Newbeginning84]

NB84 - I hope she is taking some pictures for you.

Unfortunately she is taking time off social media etc. Not using her phone.
I'm starting to like the idea that she can have real romantic relationship with feelings for her boyfriend and their own privacy.
I don't need to know/see everything.
Of cause she knows it's me dream to see her having sex in front of me.

She does tease me with once in a telling about what they do in and out of bed. It makes me hard and dripping.

[meesadan]

Seems like a reasonable approach. You have to find the solution that fits you both.

Good luck!!

[Des 31]

Glad to read she didn't stick to her former resolution that she was through with dating other guys. Very nice to read that your wife is getting what she deserves and that you like it that way.

[Newbeginning84]

Glad to read she didn't stick to her former resolution that she was through with dating other guys. Very nice to read that your wife is getting what she deserves and that you like it that way.

Yes, she really should get what she deserves. I'm happy for her.

I think she is slowly becoming more understanding of willing to meet my needs also, however I'm afraid she will cut me off short again, even though she says she want to do more of the things I like when I'm back home again.

I've been thinking of making a proposal to her to make sure I'm getting what I need.
It would go like this.
She is allowed to continue having Lovers and do whatever she want with them.
In return I want either to be kept 100% locked in chastity, preferably getting a PA piercing to make it more secure. OR If in not locked then at those times I want also to be allowed to sleep with other woman. Meaning whenever she don't lock me up, I can potentially seek sex else where.

We actually talked about me also bring allowed to sleep with others, but I much rather prefer to be cucked and denied by her. She also prefer only she is allowed to sleep with others.

I think it's s fair ask, I'm guessing she would accept it and choose to have me caged all the time. Then it would be up to me to service and pamper her to show she has made the right decision.

I realise I need to be careful how i bring forward this suggestion as it should not be seen as a ultimatum.

I really want to try propose this to her, but I'm not sure if I should wait and see how it's going and maybe achieve the same just by submitting to her and showing her all the benefits of keeping me locked.

[Des 31]

I think it would be best for you to continue showing your approval of her dating other men - but also showing your submissive side by prepping her for dates and doing anything she wants before going out. When she isn't having sex with others and at home, you could do the household chores and ask if there is anything else you can do for her. If she has men fucking her at home, serve both drinks or snacks while they're in bed after sex. Thank the men for their service to your wife and thank her for being a liberated woman. Ultimately, your wife will become the dominant figure in your home.

When you have reached that point in your relationship, it will be much easier for her to do what you want. (Just my opinion.)

[elina]

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I think she is slowly becoming more understanding of willing to meet my needs also, however I'm afraid she will cut me off short again, even though she says she want to do more of the things I like when I'm back home again.

I've been thinking of making a proposal to her to make sure I'm getting what I need.
It would go like this.
She is allowed to continue having Lovers and do whatever she want with them.
In return I want either to be kept 100% locked in chastity, preferably getting a PA piercing to make it more secure. OR If in not locked then at those times I want also to be allowed to sleep with other woman. Meaning whenever she don't lock me up, I can potentially seek sex else where.

We actually talked about me also bring allowed to sleep with others, but I much rather prefer to be cucked and denied by her. She also prefer only she is allowed to sleep with others.

I think it's s fair ask, I'm guessing she would accept it and choose to have me caged all the time. Then it would be up to me to service and pamper her to show she has made the right decision.

I realise I need to be careful how i bring forward this suggestion as it should not be seen as a ultimatum.

I really want to try propose this to her, but I'm not sure if I should wait and see how it's going and maybe achieve the same just by submitting to her and showing her all the benefits of keeping me locked.

Dear Newbeginning,

I would really encourage you to devote all of your attention to Your Lovely Sexy Wife.
Please do not consider offering Her any kind of ulitmatum, in stead tell Her how much you love Her and how happy it makes you that She is enjoying Her lovers. Then tell Her it would make you even more happy if She would keep you locked up to ensure you stay devoted to Her...

Sincere regards
elina

[Newbeginning84]

In 5 days she will fly back home. They will have spent about 2 weeks together at that time.
It the longest trip she has made so far, I'm anxious if something has developed between them. I've been kept to a very minimum of information, a few selfies in her bikini from the pool and the beach and text about them going out for dinner and drinks etc. Yesterday was the first time she answered my text in 2 days, makes me think that she must be feeling good with him since she pays me so little attention.

I'm completely clueless to what will await me when I arrive home in about 2 weeks time. Will she allow me to submit to her completely as her cuckold bitch? Does she have a real boyfriend now that she will be visiting soon again? Will she keep her words and do the things that I dream about, keeping me locked, pegging and punishing me?

So many questions and now way of really knowing. Still have a good feeling about it though and I trust her.
I so hope she will allow me to serve her completely and making good use of me for her pleasure and amusement. This time I'm will show her the benefits of keeping me denied and cucked. I'm buying massage oils and will offer her massages as much as she wants, including feet. I'm already doing most of the chores in the house, but I will improve on that also. I will practice eating her pussy and asshole until I learn to make her cum from it. Love it when she ask me to just suck on her tits while she use a vibrator in her pussy, only I would like to be making out with her asshole instead if she let me. If she decides to have sex with another guy while I'm watching, I'm gonna beg her to be allowed to clean her up with my mouth.
I so need and desire for this to workout.

I'm on 9th day now without release. Have edged myself a few times and also tried for prostate release, almost success full. Now I'm constantly thinking of big plugs and dildos, wishing to get fucked by her, or actually just about anyone if she want it.

[elina]

Thanks Newbeginnings

Obviously, you are now starting to feel the effects of long term denial.
When you do meet your wife again, make sure you have been chaste with no release for at least ten days and remind yourself that you need to submissively serve your Wife, this has to be all about you demonstrating that you are there to please Her.

Sincerely
Elina

[eater]

very hot remaining orgasm free. you have good self control. I hope she treats you in the way you need

[Newbeginning84]

I'm coming home end of next week. Things are looking good. Had a small talk with her about me being denied and dominated by her, and she says she will try.
I haven't cum in 17 days now and all I can think about is servicing her while caged and a huge plug in my ass. I will do everything possible to make her happy and relaxed, I've ordered massage oils and flowers and extra money to spend.

My only worry is that I know she likes PIV sex with me. She loves my dick she says.
But I don't want to cum now, I'm afraid to lose my arousal for her and willingness to submit. I don't know if I can substitute PIV with pussy eating and using a vibrator on her, I think she's gonna want the real deal.
Thought about using a strap-on on her?

She still haven't had sex with anyone while I've been at home, so I need to figure out how to please her PIV needs without losing my desire to be her little cuckold bitch.

[elina]

Good Luck Newbeginning

Don't be dissapointed if things doesn't work out exactly like you want it to the first time.
Remember, having a Dominant Wife means the Wife decides what will happen.
If She wants PIV, you should make your best effort to do that for Her!!!

Sincerely
elina

[eater]

any updates?

[Newbeginning84]

Well things didn't go as planned. She was pushing me away, saying she needed time.
She did go on staying with her lover for a week while I was at home waiting.

We talked about how I felt her pushing me away, and she agreed to that I could go on a date with someone while she was away. And so I did, but it was just too much emotionally for me to be with someone else like that. Sex is one thing, starting a relationship is another.
So I told my wife that it was not for me and I prefer to be her locked cuckold. Actually begging to be her cuckold bitch.

Had to confess to cheating on her years ago, she said she knew that I had done something. She was right.
So for some time I didn't know if she wanted a divorce. I don't, and I apologized and asked for forgiveness many times.

Bottom line now it's that I have very little say in our relationship and she can do whatever she wants.
Sometimes she dresses up and tells me she is going going out with someone and if I'm okay with it.
I tell her she has my approval, what else can I say. I'm not in a position to refuse her. I feel like a knife to my heart when it happens and I need to hug her while she comfort me, stroking the hair on my head. I'm really in a difficult weak position, but I deserve every bit if it so I must accept it. She ask me if I want to use my chastity cage, which I do, because it's the only way I can accept her being with someone else if I'm living the cuckold fantasy. She puts out her hand and ask for the key. I quickly get the cage on, which is difficult because I'm already started getting hard the moment she told me she was going to get out with someone. I press the cage down hard on it and manages to lock it in place. She was down stairs and I go down there just to hand her the key. I'm looking at her body, beautiful dressed, I wanted to fuck her right then and there. It hurts in my heart and in my locked dick. She tells me she will hide one key in the house and bring the other with her.

She said she she would be back in the morning. I was feeling swollen and done discomfort in the cage, but I knew I could make it through the night.
Next morning she did not come home but went straight to work.
In the evening when she finally came home, she asked if I wanted to have sex, which I did. She handed me the key and I took a quick shower. My balls sack was swollen and very sensitive. She only wanted to do missionary position and she was not interested in coming. I could feel my swollen balls slapping against her, I loved it and came very quick when she asked me to come.

I think I'm in for quite a long time of punishment for my cheating and I've accepted that I deserve it.
I hope one day she will forgive me and be able to trust me again

[elina]

Dear Newbwginning

Sorry things have not worked out just the way you hoped for.
My one suggestion is that you start threathing your Wife as the Queen and Mistress of the house.
Do more of the household chores, try to anticipate what She would like you to do and just do it, then ask if there is something else She would like you to do.

If you start this regime, you may find that you can build a new kind of relationship with her.

Sincerely
elina