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blind sided hubby wrote: ↑Sat Jul 30, 2022 10:13 pmMy wife would never stop. She might agree to stop but she would continue screwing around behind my back. Once a woman starts having other lovers she is always on the hunt for new and bigger cocks.
Please don’t!HottieTrace wrote: ↑Tue Aug 23, 2022 5:12 pmWe have not gone all the way yet, but If he asked me to stop I would stop without hesitation. I love my husband with everything that I am. This is why I am taking this process slow and making sure that neither one of us ever come to that conclusion. My husband perked my interest once I got over the initial shock and to see the changes in both of us is exciting! Would it go back to the way we were before this revaluation if he said stop? I’d hope not! I loved that my inner slut has been released and my confidence is building more and more! Plus, the love between us has grown so much. We were always loving towards each other but now, WOW! We talk all the time, he kisses me until my knees are weak, and gives me attention from morning to night! I’d stop but I’m not changing back to the person I was before!
I'm not saying that you wouldn't, but the ones who hold the opposite view probably wouldn't say anythingMrsQueen2U wrote: ↑Wed Aug 24, 2022 8:46 amWife here. I would 100% stop if my husband was no longer comfortable. He is and will always be be my number one.
You're probably right. But then perhaps they are not in a strong marriage. which is essential in this lifestyle. We wives and girlfriends had sex lives before we committed to our men. If we wanted to continue looking around, we would have.EdwardTheBull wrote: ↑Fri Aug 26, 2022 2:53 pmI'm not saying that you wouldn't, but the ones who hold the opposite view probably wouldn't say anythingMrsQueen2U wrote: ↑Wed Aug 24, 2022 8:46 amWife here. I would 100% stop if my husband was no longer comfortable. He is and will always be be my number one.
Des 31 wrote: ↑Sat Aug 27, 2022 11:58 amMy wife has said she would quit if I asked but admits that wouldn't be easy now that she has been fucking other guys for more than six years as she wishes. It was my idea at the outset but once she started, that has become an ordinary way of life for us.
And, of course, I have no intention of asking her to stop. If she someday wishes to do that, I will abide by her wishes. It works best for the two of us the way it is.
!I mean it's one of those things where I understand what you're saying but at the same time it might be a bit of an overstatement.MrsQueen2U wrote: ↑Fri Aug 26, 2022 10:30 pmYou're probably right. But then perhaps they are not in a strong marriage. which is essential in this lifestyle. We wives and girlfriends had sex lives before we committed to our men. If we wanted to continue looking around, we would have.EdwardTheBull wrote: ↑Fri Aug 26, 2022 2:53 pmI'm not saying that you wouldn't, but the ones who hold the opposite view probably wouldn't say anythingMrsQueen2U wrote: ↑Wed Aug 24, 2022 8:46 amWife here. I would 100% stop if my husband was no longer comfortable. He is and will always be be my number one.
If one doesn't trust that their wife would be faithful if asked to stop, then they should have never suggested the lifestyle in the first place.
Without trust, it's bound to fall apart.
Be careful what you ask for. Oh, and maybe some of these husbands need to step away from the control button.
That's cheating. That's not the same now is it?EdwardTheBull wrote: ↑Tue Sep 13, 2022 12:24 pmI mean it's one of those things where I understand what you're saying but at the same time it might be a bit of an overstatement.MrsQueen2U wrote: ↑Fri Aug 26, 2022 10:30 pmYou're probably right. But then perhaps they are not in a strong marriage. which is essential in this lifestyle. We wives and girlfriends had sex lives before we committed to our men. If we wanted to continue looking around, we would have.EdwardTheBull wrote: ↑Fri Aug 26, 2022 2:53 pmI'm not saying that you wouldn't, but the ones who hold the opposite view probably wouldn't say anythingMrsQueen2U wrote: ↑Wed Aug 24, 2022 8:46 amWife here. I would 100% stop if my husband was no longer comfortable. He is and will always be be my number one.
If one doesn't trust that their wife would be faithful if asked to stop, then they should have never suggested the lifestyle in the first place.
Without trust, it's bound to fall apart.
Be careful what you ask for. Oh, and maybe some of these husbands need to step away from the control button.
What I usually see is a woman who enjoys getting fucked very often by the bull with a husband who feels threatened by that. She doesn't want to leave him, she doesn't want to endanger her marriage, she doesn't want to put her kids through any kind of trauma, she just wants to keep this new guy the husband talked her into fucking to keep seeing him at most a few times a week. It's a fun place to be a dirty whore and do all the things that she wants to do but doesn't want to do with her husband because then she has to do them for the rest of her life. Group stuff and weird kinks and things like that.
So when hubby says it's time to stop she knows her head and says sure baby. And then a few weeks later when she's got some free time she's going to text the bull and see if she can get a little play in without hurting anybody. And it might not be super honest, but it doesn't mean the entire marriage is fucked up. The first time is always the hardest and her husband already encouraged that.
Not the same as what?MrsQueen2U wrote: ↑Fri Sep 23, 2022 6:13 amThat's cheating. That's not the same now is it?EdwardTheBull wrote: ↑Tue Sep 13, 2022 12:24 pmI mean it's one of those things where I understand what you're saying but at the same time it might be a bit of an overstatement.MrsQueen2U wrote: ↑Fri Aug 26, 2022 10:30 pmYou're probably right. But then perhaps they are not in a strong marriage. which is essential in this lifestyle. We wives and girlfriends had sex lives before we committed to our men. If we wanted to continue looking around, we would have.EdwardTheBull wrote: ↑Fri Aug 26, 2022 2:53 pm
I'm not saying that you wouldn't, but the ones who hold the opposite view probably wouldn't say anything
If one doesn't trust that their wife would be faithful if asked to stop, then they should have never suggested the lifestyle in the first place.
Without trust, it's bound to fall apart.
Be careful what you ask for. Oh, and maybe some of these husbands need to step away from the control button.
What I usually see is a woman who enjoys getting fucked very often by the bull with a husband who feels threatened by that. She doesn't want to leave him, she doesn't want to endanger her marriage, she doesn't want to put her kids through any kind of trauma, she just wants to keep this new guy the husband talked her into fucking to keep seeing him at most a few times a week. It's a fun place to be a dirty whore and do all the things that she wants to do but doesn't want to do with her husband because then she has to do them for the rest of her life. Group stuff and weird kinks and things like that.
So when hubby says it's time to stop she knows her head and says sure baby. And then a few weeks later when she's got some free time she's going to text the bull and see if she can get a little play in without hurting anybody. And it might not be super honest, but it doesn't mean the entire marriage is fucked up. The first time is always the hardest and her husband already encouraged that.
Not cheatingEdwardTheBull wrote: ↑Mon Sep 26, 2022 9:04 amNot the same as what?MrsQueen2U wrote: ↑Fri Sep 23, 2022 6:13 amThat's cheating. That's not the same now is it?EdwardTheBull wrote: ↑Tue Sep 13, 2022 12:24 pmI mean it's one of those things where I understand what you're saying but at the same time it might be a bit of an overstatement.MrsQueen2U wrote: ↑Fri Aug 26, 2022 10:30 pm
You're probably right. But then perhaps they are not in a strong marriage. which is essential in this lifestyle. We wives and girlfriends had sex lives before we committed to our men. If we wanted to continue looking around, we would have.
If one doesn't trust that their wife would be faithful if asked to stop, then they should have never suggested the lifestyle in the first place.
Without trust, it's bound to fall apart.
Be careful what you ask for. Oh, and maybe some of these husbands need to step away from the control button.
What I usually see is a woman who enjoys getting fucked very often by the bull with a husband who feels threatened by that. She doesn't want to leave him, she doesn't want to endanger her marriage, she doesn't want to put her kids through any kind of trauma, she just wants to keep this new guy the husband talked her into fucking to keep seeing him at most a few times a week. It's a fun place to be a dirty whore and do all the things that she wants to do but doesn't want to do with her husband because then she has to do them for the rest of her life. Group stuff and weird kinks and things like that.
So when hubby says it's time to stop she knows her head and says sure baby. And then a few weeks later when she's got some free time she's going to text the bull and see if she can get a little play in without hurting anybody. And it might not be super honest, but it doesn't mean the entire marriage is fucked up. The first time is always the hardest and her husband already encouraged that.
Exactly!!! Cheating is not the same as a consensual agreement.gordon921 wrote: ↑Mon Sep 26, 2022 12:10 pmNot cheatingEdwardTheBull wrote: ↑Mon Sep 26, 2022 9:04 amNot the same as what?MrsQueen2U wrote: ↑Fri Sep 23, 2022 6:13 amThat's cheating. That's not the same now is it?EdwardTheBull wrote: ↑Tue Sep 13, 2022 12:24 pm
I mean it's one of those things where I understand what you're saying but at the same time it might be a bit of an overstatement.
What I usually see is a woman who enjoys getting fucked very often by the bull with a husband who feels threatened by that. She doesn't want to leave him, she doesn't want to endanger her marriage, she doesn't want to put her kids through any kind of trauma, she just wants to keep this new guy the husband talked her into fucking to keep seeing him at most a few times a week. It's a fun place to be a dirty whore and do all the things that she wants to do but doesn't want to do with her husband because then she has to do them for the rest of her life. Group stuff and weird kinks and things like that.
So when hubby says it's time to stop she knows her head and says sure baby. And then a few weeks later when she's got some free time she's going to text the bull and see if she can get a little play in without hurting anybody. And it might not be super honest, but it doesn't mean the entire marriage is fucked up. The first time is always the hardest and her husband already encouraged that.
Cheating destroys trust, without trust a marriage is on the rocks. All cheaters start out along the lines of "little play without hurting anybody" until the husband finds out about it and confronts. Doesn't matter if the husband encourage it, if he asked her to stop and she said sure baby, that's it. If she said no, then that's another story....
.I agree completely.Des 31 wrote: ↑Sat Aug 27, 2022 11:58 amMy wife has said she would quit if I asked but admits that wouldn't be easy now that she has been fucking other guys for more than six years as she wishes. It was my idea at the outset but once she started, that has become an ordinary way of life for us.
And, of course, I have no intention of asking her to stop. If she someday wishes to do that, I will abide by her wishes. It works best for the two of us the way it is.
Shrug. People cheat. And almost unrelated the first time is the hardest. So if you've already encouraged her to be with another man through the first time which is the hardest you're kind of an idiot if you don't think she's going to come to stop on a dime. Because people cheat.gordon921 wrote: ↑Mon Sep 26, 2022 12:10 pmNot cheatingEdwardTheBull wrote: ↑Mon Sep 26, 2022 9:04 amNot the same as what?MrsQueen2U wrote: ↑Fri Sep 23, 2022 6:13 amThat's cheating. That's not the same now is it?EdwardTheBull wrote: ↑Tue Sep 13, 2022 12:24 pm
I mean it's one of those things where I understand what you're saying but at the same time it might be a bit of an overstatement.
What I usually see is a woman who enjoys getting fucked very often by the bull with a husband who feels threatened by that. She doesn't want to leave him, she doesn't want to endanger her marriage, she doesn't want to put her kids through any kind of trauma, she just wants to keep this new guy the husband talked her into fucking to keep seeing him at most a few times a week. It's a fun place to be a dirty whore and do all the things that she wants to do but doesn't want to do with her husband because then she has to do them for the rest of her life. Group stuff and weird kinks and things like that.
So when hubby says it's time to stop she knows her head and says sure baby. And then a few weeks later when she's got some free time she's going to text the bull and see if she can get a little play in without hurting anybody. And it might not be super honest, but it doesn't mean the entire marriage is fucked up. The first time is always the hardest and her husband already encouraged that.
Cheating destroys trust, without trust a marriage is on the rocks. All cheaters start out along the lines of "little play without hurting anybody" until the husband finds out about it and confronts. Doesn't matter if the husband encourage it, if he asked her to stop and she said sure baby, that's it. If she said no, then that's another story....
your 100 percent rightFarmgirl wrote: ↑Sat Aug 27, 2022 1:07 pmDes 31 wrote: ↑Sat Aug 27, 2022 11:58 amMy wife has said she would quit if I asked but admits that wouldn't be easy now that she has been fucking other guys for more than six years as she wishes. It was my idea at the outset but once she started, that has become an ordinary way of life for us.
And, of course, I have no intention of asking her to stop. If she someday wishes to do that, I will abide by her wishes. It works best for the two of us the way it is.
Exactly