Re: Girlfriends first date
Posted: Thu Dec 28, 2023 8:16 am
What are your thoughts about that? Not only will he be getting the first kiss, he's going to be the first one to have sex with her in 2024.
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What are your thoughts about that? Not only will he be getting the first kiss, he's going to be the first one to have sex with her in 2024.
Hey DeAd, first of all, really appreciate you continuing to share your thoughts with us.DeAd so7 wrote: ↑Sun Sep 24, 2023 2:35 pmMe personally, I've had this desire of mine for a few years, even before I met Alex. Including things ranging from cheating, wife sharing and the like. So with that in mind after talking with my girlfriend about it for a bit and listening to podcasts and stuff. We role played it, and she loved it. She loves it when I call her a succubus, and she has always seemingly had the propensity for playing like a slut, either in role play. Or even if it's just between us, now as for what's her angle. She LOVES it when guys can actually stop thinking with their dick for once and settle down and just be loving and romantic. Even with these passionate embers of theirs burning. And so that is what we sought for her. A guy that could seemingly sweep her off her feet and actually flirt and tease without being too vulgar about it at times. And so far, it seems James is fitting that Bill for her. While I get to watch my fantasy unfold on the sidelines.
Now, as for your next question. I am one of those who does fantasize about losing her, and my girlfriend does know it. But, I also do subscribe to the belief that it is wholly unrealistic and detrimental to one's mental health. So, I do not encourage it.
Hey! I would love too! And I'm sorry I never got around to replying till now. Tbh, I've been taking a bit of a break from all this stuff and instead just focusing on just me and Alex. So, again. My apologies for having not gotten around to answering you till now. I'll be more than happy to answer yours and everybody's questions for me when I can sometime tomorrow afternoon or in the evening. Anyways, I'll see you all later and let ya'll know what's up.scarfolamew wrote: ↑Thu Dec 28, 2023 9:21 amHey DeAd, first of all, really appreciate you continuing to share your thoughts with us.DeAd so7 wrote: ↑Sun Sep 24, 2023 2:35 pmMe personally, I've had this desire of mine for a few years, even before I met Alex. Including things ranging from cheating, wife sharing and the like. So with that in mind after talking with my girlfriend about it for a bit and listening to podcasts and stuff. We role played it, and she loved it. She loves it when I call her a succubus, and she has always seemingly had the propensity for playing like a slut, either in role play. Or even if it's just between us, now as for what's her angle. She LOVES it when guys can actually stop thinking with their dick for once and settle down and just be loving and romantic. Even with these passionate embers of theirs burning. And so that is what we sought for her. A guy that could seemingly sweep her off her feet and actually flirt and tease without being too vulgar about it at times. And so far, it seems James is fitting that Bill for her. While I get to watch my fantasy unfold on the sidelines.
Now, as for your next question. I am one of those who does fantasize about losing her, and my girlfriend does know it. But, I also do subscribe to the belief that it is wholly unrealistic and detrimental to one's mental health. So, I do not encourage it.
I quoted the above because it seems like this whole New Years adventure must be playing right into your deepest and darkest urges. How has the romance and emotional attachment between Alex and James been developing? You must be going out of your mind knowing they'll be sharing the holiday together. If you are in the mood to share any of your thoughts and reflections on it, we'd love to hear!
Hey! Now, to answer your question. And sorry ahead of time about getting to you kind of late, I kind of wasn't in the mood to share when everything started get going when she was texting me over those few days, and afterwards also. I kind of wasn't in the mood to even think about anything to do with this life style, except to be with Alex, me and her together. But, let me get back on track. To answer your questions, I was both VERY excited just even thinking about those prospects. As well as kind of nervous. Haha, thinking about how James will have her firsts in the new year. And so, I was in contact quite a bit with my girlfriend during that time then. Both me and her talking about mundane and sexual things. With her telling me how James was getting her excited and putting the moves on her, with him being teasing putting on and them watching together movies with steamy sex scenes she had told me while they cuddled up together. Among other things, just thinking about James having her "firsts" of 2024 again, had me VERY excited.
Well, to answer your questions. It kind of leads me as to why this took awhile for me to get back to thinking about and talking about these things. So, how has the romance and emotional attachment between Alex and James have been developing you're asking? Well, for starters. They're now doing more mundane things together. During the time before her going to his, me and James were talking about him wanting to invite my girlfriend to go put exercising with him. Tbh, Alex does exercise a bit, but. Not a crazy amount, and that's due to the fact that both me and her have talked about where she doesn't have anybody to really go with her and push her too, too much. I go sometimes, but not alot, plus, me and her get distracted by our own things. So, the gym isn't something we do all that too often anyways. So, going back on topic. James was asking me if it was fine inviting her to the gym. Apparently they've talked about her going to the gym I guess. And James on the other hand goes over quite a bit apparently. He goes to kind of help him keep focus he was telling me if I can recall. So, anyways. Before my girlfriend went over to his, I had told her about it, and so. She had brought over her sweat pants and everything to his. And since then, during their time there, and now every Tuesday evening. My girlfriend and him will be hanging out and going to the gym.scarfolamew wrote: ↑Thu Dec 28, 2023 9:21 amHey DeAd, first of all, really appreciate you continuing to share your thoughts with us.DeAd so7 wrote: ↑Sun Sep 24, 2023 2:35 pmMe personally, I've had this desire of mine for a few years, even before I met Alex. Including things ranging from cheating, wife sharing and the like. So with that in mind after talking with my girlfriend about it for a bit and listening to podcasts and stuff. We role played it, and she loved it. She loves it when I call her a succubus, and she has always seemingly had the propensity for playing like a slut, either in role play. Or even if it's just between us, now as for what's her angle. She LOVES it when guys can actually stop thinking with their dick for once and settle down and just be loving and romantic. Even with these passionate embers of theirs burning. And so that is what we sought for her. A guy that could seemingly sweep her off her feet and actually flirt and tease without being too vulgar about it at times. And so far, it seems James is fitting that Bill for her. While I get to watch my fantasy unfold on the sidelines.
Now, as for your next question. I am one of those who does fantasize about losing her, and my girlfriend does know it. But, I also do subscribe to the belief that it is wholly unrealistic and detrimental to one's mental health. So, I do not encourage it.
I quoted the above because it seems like this whole New Years adventure must be playing right into your deepest and darkest urges. How has the romance and emotional attachment between Alex and James been developing? You must be going out of your mind knowing they'll be sharing the holiday together. If you are in the mood to share any of your thoughts and reflections on it, we'd love to hear!
Hey, I appreciate the response. It feels like this whole situation is becoming more nerve-wracking for you than arousing. Are you and Alex still communicating throughout all this? Has she told you she's falling in love with James? Has she gone out of her way to assure you your relationship with her is still solid, or is she playing into the "succubus" angle and teasing you about her lust/affection for him?DeAd so7 wrote: ↑Sun Jan 07, 2024 4:06 pmWell, to answer your questions. It kind of leads me as to why this took awhile for me to get back to thinking about and talking about these things. So, how has the romance and emotional attachment between Alex and James have been developing you're asking? Well, for starters. They're now doing more mundane things together. During the time before her going to his, me and James were talking about him wanting to invite my girlfriend to go put exercising with him. Tbh, Alex does exercise a bit, but. Not a crazy amount, and that's due to the fact that both me and her have talked about where she doesn't have anybody to really go with her and push her too, too much. I go sometimes, but not alot, plus, me and her get distracted by our own things. So, the gym isn't something we do all that too often anyways. So, going back on topic. James was asking me if it was fine inviting her to the gym. Apparently they've talked about her going to the gym I guess. And James on the other hand goes over quite a bit apparently. He goes to kind of help him keep focus he was telling me if I can recall. So, anyways. Before my girlfriend went over to his, I had told her about it, and so. She had brought over her sweat pants and everything to his. And since then, during their time there, and now every Tuesday evening. My girlfriend and him will be hanging out and going to the gym.
I hope that answers your question, because, tbh. I feel like personally this has been an evolution of their relationship, and honestly, everytime I think about it. I get really, REALLY nervous.
To answer your questions, of course! One of our rules we kind of have for this whole thing whenever she goes over to james' is to tell me what's going on, so I can make sure she's alright. Granted, it's more of a rule for me making sure she's OK, rather than just her teasing me when she's over at his, but, she seemingly loves to tease me, and I appreciate her making sure I'm not feeling left out. With that in mind, no. She has not told me she's fallen I'm love with him, but. Throughout our time together playing with James, there was a time awhile ago whenever we were chatting about their relationship among other stuff if you will, and she did tell me she does like him though. So, with that in mind. It may not be the big L word, but. When she told me that, she definitely got me a bit excited. Haha. But anyways, to answer your other questions, yes. She does help me, in making sure our relationship is solid. For an example, we do chat quite a bit about things, not just sexual things of course. But, she does do her best in making sure I'm OK, with telling me at times when she's talking to james on the phone. Albeit, she has forgotten a few times, and with that, a couple of times. I found her getting steamy with James over the texts, but, nevertheless. Yes, she helps to make sure I feel safe. Her daily kisses definitely help, haha. But, among those things of course, she helps me feel safe by adhering to our rules, some days we have a rule in which neither James, or her are to message each other. The reason for that is that, I got kind of hurt seeing them talking together almost every hour of every day for awhile over the phone, that. We talked about it. And she agreed to limit their convos with one another, as well as james of course. Now, finally. As for the "succubus" angle you bring up. I mean, in general she does tease me quite a bit, but again, with the stuff I just described with how she makes me feel safe. I guess to answer that last question, yes. She does play into it, ESPECIALLY whenever they're with each other. Telling me how she wants to kiss him, and things. But, anyways. I hope I answered all your questions, and sorry again for the late reply. I've been kind of lazy, but, nevertheless. I hope that answers everything, and if you have anymore, shoot, and I'll try to get back to you soon.scarfolamew wrote: ↑Mon Jan 08, 2024 12:58 pmHey, I appreciate the response. It feels like this whole situation is becoming more nerve-wracking for you than arousing. Are you and Alex still communicating throughout all this? Has she told you she's falling in love with James? Has she gone out of her way to assure you your relationship with her is still solid, or is she playing into the "succubus" angle and teasing you about her lust/affection for him?DeAd so7 wrote: ↑Sun Jan 07, 2024 4:06 pmWell, to answer your questions. It kind of leads me as to why this took awhile for me to get back to thinking about and talking about these things. So, how has the romance and emotional attachment between Alex and James have been developing you're asking? Well, for starters. They're now doing more mundane things together. During the time before her going to his, me and James were talking about him wanting to invite my girlfriend to go put exercising with him. Tbh, Alex does exercise a bit, but. Not a crazy amount, and that's due to the fact that both me and her have talked about where she doesn't have anybody to really go with her and push her too, too much. I go sometimes, but not alot, plus, me and her get distracted by our own things. So, the gym isn't something we do all that too often anyways. So, going back on topic. James was asking me if it was fine inviting her to the gym. Apparently they've talked about her going to the gym I guess. And James on the other hand goes over quite a bit apparently. He goes to kind of help him keep focus he was telling me if I can recall. So, anyways. Before my girlfriend went over to his, I had told her about it, and so. She had brought over her sweat pants and everything to his. And since then, during their time there, and now every Tuesday evening. My girlfriend and him will be hanging out and going to the gym.
I hope that answers your question, because, tbh. I feel like personally this has been an evolution of their relationship, and honestly, everytime I think about it. I get really, REALLY nervous.
I've been thinking about talking with them about it, and I may soon. I've been thinking about some fun plans, perhaps I can get the two of them interested in with that in mind. But, nevertheless, thanks for the encouragement!jeffwatches wrote: ↑Mon Jan 08, 2024 3:50 pmMy wife Sharon and I have been doing this for 10 years. In no time at all you'll be sitting in the same room as them when they fuck.
That's the next step. Talk to her and her boyfriend and see if they would be comfortable if you watched.
DA7 - All considered it would be pretty odd for them not to like each other to some degree, even a lot but not getting as far as love.DeAd so7 wrote: ↑Thu Jan 11, 2024 11:18 pmTo answer your questions, of course! One of our rules we kind of have for this whole thing whenever she goes over to james' is to tell me what's going on, so I can make sure she's alright. Granted, it's more of a rule for me making sure she's OK, rather than just her teasing me when she's over at his, but, she seemingly loves to tease me, and I appreciate her making sure I'm not feeling left out. With that in mind, no. She has not told me she's fallen I'm love with him, but. Throughout our time together playing with James, there was a time awhile ago whenever we were chatting about their relationship among other stuff if you will, and she did tell me she does like him though. So, with that in mind. It may not be the big L word, but. When she told me that, she definitely got me a bit excited. Haha. But anyways, to answer your other questions, yes. She does help me, in making sure our relationship is solid. For an example, we do chat quite a bit about things, not just sexual things of course. But, she does do her best in making sure I'm OK, with telling me at times when she's talking to james on the phone. Albeit, she has forgotten a few times, and with that, a couple of times. I found her getting steamy with James over the texts, but, nevertheless. Yes, she helps to make sure I feel safe. Her daily kisses definitely help, haha. But, among those things of course, she helps me feel safe by adhering to our rules, some days we have a rule in which neither James, or her are to message each other. The reason for that is that, I got kind of hurt seeing them talking together almost every hour of every day for awhile over the phone, that. We talked about it. And she agreed to limit their convos with one another, as well as james of course. Now, finally. As for the "succubus" angle you bring up. I mean, in general she does tease me quite a bit, but again, with the stuff I just described with how she makes me feel safe. I guess to answer that last question, yes. She does play into it, ESPECIALLY whenever they're with each other. Telling me how she wants to kiss him, and things. But, anyways. I hope I answered all your questions, and sorry again for the late reply. I've been kind of lazy, but, nevertheless. I hope that answers everything, and if you have anymore, shoot, and I'll try to get back to you soon.scarfolamew wrote: ↑Mon Jan 08, 2024 12:58 pmHey, I appreciate the response. It feels like this whole situation is becoming more nerve-wracking for you than arousing. Are you and Alex still communicating throughout all this? Has she told you she's falling in love with James? Has she gone out of her way to assure you your relationship with her is still solid, or is she playing into the "succubus" angle and teasing you about her lust/affection for him?DeAd so7 wrote: ↑Sun Jan 07, 2024 4:06 pmWell, to answer your questions. It kind of leads me as to why this took awhile for me to get back to thinking about and talking about these things. So, how has the romance and emotional attachment between Alex and James have been developing you're asking? Well, for starters. They're now doing more mundane things together. During the time before her going to his, me and James were talking about him wanting to invite my girlfriend to go put exercising with him. Tbh, Alex does exercise a bit, but. Not a crazy amount, and that's due to the fact that both me and her have talked about where she doesn't have anybody to really go with her and push her too, too much. I go sometimes, but not alot, plus, me and her get distracted by our own things. So, the gym isn't something we do all that too often anyways. So, going back on topic. James was asking me if it was fine inviting her to the gym. Apparently they've talked about her going to the gym I guess. And James on the other hand goes over quite a bit apparently. He goes to kind of help him keep focus he was telling me if I can recall. So, anyways. Before my girlfriend went over to his, I had told her about it, and so. She had brought over her sweat pants and everything to his. And since then, during their time there, and now every Tuesday evening. My girlfriend and him will be hanging out and going to the gym.
I hope that answers your question, because, tbh. I feel like personally this has been an evolution of their relationship, and honestly, everytime I think about it. I get really, REALLY nervous.
SO exciting! How did it go?My girlfriend left the house to go ahead and meet him at the restaurant. I am so, so excited. Albeit with a sense of worry and angst of course, haha. We've talked about this within the past couple of days, with their texts getting hotter and hotter. She told me she's not sure it'll actually happen. But, we planned ahead and I gave her a couple condoms just in case anything happens. Nevertheless, I'll keep ya'll informed. And I hope their date goes well.
It was okay54321 wrote: ↑Fri Jan 12, 2024 11:07 amSO exciting! How did it go?My girlfriend left the house to go ahead and meet him at the restaurant. I am so, so excited. Albeit with a sense of worry and angst of course, haha. We've talked about this within the past couple of days, with their texts getting hotter and hotter. She told me she's not sure it'll actually happen. But, we planned ahead and I gave her a couple condoms just in case anything happens. Nevertheless, I'll keep ya'll informed. And I hope their date goes well.
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Yeah, true. Haha.Long Lurker 34 wrote: ↑Fri Jan 12, 2024 4:43 amDA7 - All considered it would be pretty odd for them not to like each other to some degree, even a lot but not getting as far as love.DeAd so7 wrote: ↑Thu Jan 11, 2024 11:18 pmTo answer your questions, of course! One of our rules we kind of have for this whole thing whenever she goes over to james' is to tell me what's going on, so I can make sure she's alright. Granted, it's more of a rule for me making sure she's OK, rather than just her teasing me when she's over at his, but, she seemingly loves to tease me, and I appreciate her making sure I'm not feeling left out. With that in mind, no. She has not told me she's fallen I'm love with him, but. Throughout our time together playing with James, there was a time awhile ago whenever we were chatting about their relationship among other stuff if you will, and she did tell me she does like him though. So, with that in mind. It may not be the big L word, but. When she told me that, she definitely got me a bit excited. Haha. But anyways, to answer your other questions, yes. She does help me, in making sure our relationship is solid. For an example, we do chat quite a bit about things, not just sexual things of course. But, she does do her best in making sure I'm OK, with telling me at times when she's talking to james on the phone. Albeit, she has forgotten a few times, and with that, a couple of times. I found her getting steamy with James over the texts, but, nevertheless. Yes, she helps to make sure I feel safe. Her daily kisses definitely help, haha. But, among those things of course, she helps me feel safe by adhering to our rules, some days we have a rule in which neither James, or her are to message each other. The reason for that is that, I got kind of hurt seeing them talking together almost every hour of every day for awhile over the phone, that. We talked about it. And she agreed to limit their convos with one another, as well as james of course. Now, finally. As for the "succubus" angle you bring up. I mean, in general she does tease me quite a bit, but again, with the stuff I just described with how she makes me feel safe. I guess to answer that last question, yes. She does play into it, ESPECIALLY whenever they're with each other. Telling me how she wants to kiss him, and things. But, anyways. I hope I answered all your questions, and sorry again for the late reply. I've been kind of lazy, but, nevertheless. I hope that answers everything, and if you have anymore, shoot, and I'll try to get back to you soon.scarfolamew wrote: ↑Mon Jan 08, 2024 12:58 pmHey, I appreciate the response. It feels like this whole situation is becoming more nerve-wracking for you than arousing. Are you and Alex still communicating throughout all this? Has she told you she's falling in love with James? Has she gone out of her way to assure you your relationship with her is still solid, or is she playing into the "succubus" angle and teasing you about her lust/affection for him?DeAd so7 wrote: ↑Sun Jan 07, 2024 4:06 pmWell, to answer your questions. It kind of leads me as to why this took awhile for me to get back to thinking about and talking about these things. So, how has the romance and emotional attachment between Alex and James have been developing you're asking? Well, for starters. They're now doing more mundane things together. During the time before her going to his, me and James were talking about him wanting to invite my girlfriend to go put exercising with him. Tbh, Alex does exercise a bit, but. Not a crazy amount, and that's due to the fact that both me and her have talked about where she doesn't have anybody to really go with her and push her too, too much. I go sometimes, but not alot, plus, me and her get distracted by our own things. So, the gym isn't something we do all that too often anyways. So, going back on topic. James was asking me if it was fine inviting her to the gym. Apparently they've talked about her going to the gym I guess. And James on the other hand goes over quite a bit apparently. He goes to kind of help him keep focus he was telling me if I can recall. So, anyways. Before my girlfriend went over to his, I had told her about it, and so. She had brought over her sweat pants and everything to his. And since then, during their time there, and now every Tuesday evening. My girlfriend and him will be hanging out and going to the gym.
I hope that answers your question, because, tbh. I feel like personally this has been an evolution of their relationship, and honestly, everytime I think about it. I get really, REALLY nervous.
No. They haven't. At least James nor my girlfriend have told me it's ever come up in anyway. We generally like to be safe. So, personally. If the day would ever come that they would. I think it'll be a long while before we all agree that it's fine.