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by newaussiecuck » Mon Jul 17, 2023 5:57 pm
I wrote this last night (Monday) but didn't get to post it until now.
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Things thawed marginally late last night, but not by much. I did kiss her goodbye this morning, I guess partly out of habit and not wanting to escalate things by breaking a daily routine, partly from being bullied into giving some affection to keep some peace. I also still hated seeing her so broken yesterday, again was it an act? The kiss did feel surprisingly nice though, sigh and 1 kiss turned into 3 pecks on the lips.
I guess I'm still finding it very difficult to be "mean" when someone shows such distress. Yes I know, I'm in much distress myself and need to look after myself much better. I was actually feeling pretty sick last night from the lack of sleep, a bit dizzy and shaking. It had been Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights with very little sleep.
Tonight at the park N2 was there! First time seeing her since last Tuesday. Not sure but she felt a bit distant today, at least at the start but I think she warmed up a bit more at the end. I think maybe she was dissapointed in the way I handled an incident last week, will explain what that was later. I actually think I handled it well, but she didn't realise the full circumstances. There was someone else there that might have thrown her also.
I asked her to play a game of piggy in the middle throwing the tennis ball to each other with her dog chasing it in between. I think she enjoyed that quite a lot, and we got a few others involved so was 4 of us playing in the end. I also got a chance to tell her where I work, so maybe she's filed that away.
Later we threw the ball for her dog to chase. Interestingly he actually started bringing the ball to me instead of N2 quite a few times. That was unexpected!
Last time I saw her there were two kids causing some trouble. She actually looked at me to make sure I knew what they were doing. I think maybe she was dissapointed thinking about it later on that I didn't man up and boot them out, however I know the kids a little and I think that would have turned out prettty bad so I resisted the temptation to look like a hero (I'm also trying hard not to people please). However I did boot them Thursday (when N2 wasn't there unfortunately) as the situation was different and warranted it. On Thursday their dog was scaring another dog so I was able to make it about the dogs and not about them, so no reason for them to feel attacked and threatened.
I think one of the kids is legit crazy, he doesn't look right, so I didn’t want to give him a reason to retaliate later. I actually think he would come back later by himself and when nobody is around and lay out poison for the dogs to find next day in order to get his revenge. Especially on that day I would have had to make it about his actions so he would have felt attacked. It was also in front of a large group, and the chances of him wanting to retaliate in some way were pretty high in my opinion.
He had once threatened a lady who asked him to leave by saying he would train his dog (a German Shepherd puppy) to kill her dog once it grows up. So yes he's crazy and needed to be treated carefully. So at least I was able to explain to N2 and the small group how and why I handled things the way that I did, and how I handled things on the Thursday when I got him to leave. Hopefully she understands now and can appreciate my tact.
There was someone else there tonight, J!!! Remember her, I'm pretty certain she knows L. She waved to me and I waved back when I arrived but I went straight over to N2 and hung around her for a bit first. I briefly chatted to J but kept my distance and then broke away to ask N2 to play the game. Maybe 10 to 15 minutes later J called out goodbye (friendly) and waved while I was playing with N2 and her dog.
So if J does know L then she might let her know I'm getting a bit friendly with someone else. Not that it's the reason I was playing with N2. I want to get to know her better, so I don't want to be running off chatting to J. Especially since last time J was there about 6 weeks ago I spoke to her exclusively and didn't make it over to talk to N2.