Our sex life was good but occasional. Hotwifing ignited fires in both of us. Our sex was whatever we wanted it to be. It wasn't broken, just needed some excitement.Shiphead wrote: ↑Fri May 10, 2024 1:15 amQuestion for the guys. What was your sex life like before she decided she was interested in fucking other men and getting that NRE? Were you still getting BJ's regularly? Would she let you cum in her mouth? Would she let you bend her around like a pretzel in some crazy positions?
I bet it's when she actually wants that new cock in her that the candy store opens again.
It's like the old joke, "why was the bride smiling when she was walking down the aisle?"
Because she knew she had given her last blowjob.
Wannabees want to know: whats it like having a hotwife?
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Mac84, I would think it also has something to do with age and possibly how long we have been in the current relationship or marriage. Thank you for the response.
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I should have started this as a thread. Didn't mean to hijack this one.
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Yes, we are celebrating 40 years together. I still chase her around the kitchen table
She still wakes up wanting sex. I have no complaints. Hotwifing was good for lots of reasons. She started to look after herself more. She dressed to be noticed, started wearing perfume and makeup. The fun part was she did this for herself and not because I asked. She liked that another man found her desirable. In fact she made the decision to get lasered as well. She told me if she was going to fuck other men she wanted to look nice for them.
So thoughtful of her.
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M84,
First let me say "Right on". Sharing my boomer minute.
That is awesome that you still have a lot going on at home and use the LS as variety in your relationship.
You made an excellent point. We all feel better about ourselves when people outside our relationships find us attractive and/or hot and want to jump our bones. (I included myself in that statement even though it hasn't happened in a long time) We want to look our best again, some get in shape, we quit passing gas within earshot of each other, etc. We want to make ourselves put on a little NRE facade if possible. And finally to fuck them so good they can't wait to do it again and again. BTW, the more the merrier. Make a list and have them take a number.
First let me say "Right on". Sharing my boomer minute.
That is awesome that you still have a lot going on at home and use the LS as variety in your relationship.
You made an excellent point. We all feel better about ourselves when people outside our relationships find us attractive and/or hot and want to jump our bones. (I included myself in that statement even though it hasn't happened in a long time) We want to look our best again, some get in shape, we quit passing gas within earshot of each other, etc. We want to make ourselves put on a little NRE facade if possible. And finally to fuck them so good they can't wait to do it again and again. BTW, the more the merrier. Make a list and have them take a number.
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We can answer in the positive to your points 1 and 4. It is everything it was cracked up to be, and we're glad we pursued it.
But that is now after years of experience. It wasn't 100% this way to start with, as you will find out if you and your wife decide to give it a try. And, as one poster put it, when the hotwife experience turns out bad, (and in some cases it does), those people no longer frequent this Forum and therefor you only get the good news on here.
Some of the early pitfalls are that with a fantasy, you control everybody's actions. In real hotwife life, you don't. What about kissing? Fucking good, kissing bad - go figure. Now kissing as an unproblematic part of recreational sex but with my wife and I it wasn't at the start. What about when your big head says your wife should insist on condoms, but in the heat of the moment she and her fb have him cum deep inside her, bareback, because in real life they both hate sex with condoms? What if she is a quiet lover with you, but sounds like the sound track on a porno flick with her lover? It is pretty hard at first watching (or hearing) your wife enjoying sex with another man. It is also difficult for a wife to go straight from monogamy to hotwife in one fell swoop - it may be frustrating to you if she doesn't, and equally frustrating to you if she does.
Those are a few of the early pitfalls you and your wife may go through. But after you do, and get some experience, and learn to thoroughly communicate with and trust each other, it is everything it is cracked up to be and you both will probably be glad you did it.
But that is now after years of experience. It wasn't 100% this way to start with, as you will find out if you and your wife decide to give it a try. And, as one poster put it, when the hotwife experience turns out bad, (and in some cases it does), those people no longer frequent this Forum and therefor you only get the good news on here.
Some of the early pitfalls are that with a fantasy, you control everybody's actions. In real hotwife life, you don't. What about kissing? Fucking good, kissing bad - go figure. Now kissing as an unproblematic part of recreational sex but with my wife and I it wasn't at the start. What about when your big head says your wife should insist on condoms, but in the heat of the moment she and her fb have him cum deep inside her, bareback, because in real life they both hate sex with condoms? What if she is a quiet lover with you, but sounds like the sound track on a porno flick with her lover? It is pretty hard at first watching (or hearing) your wife enjoying sex with another man. It is also difficult for a wife to go straight from monogamy to hotwife in one fell swoop - it may be frustrating to you if she doesn't, and equally frustrating to you if she does.
Those are a few of the early pitfalls you and your wife may go through. But after you do, and get some experience, and learn to thoroughly communicate with and trust each other, it is everything it is cracked up to be and you both will probably be glad you did it.
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BT2BT2 wrote: ↑Sun May 12, 2024 8:07 amWe can answer in the positive to your points 1 and 4. It is everything it was cracked up to be, and we're glad we pursued it.
But that is now after years of experience. It wasn't 100% this way to start with, as you will find out if you and your wife decide to give it a try. And, as one poster put it, when the hotwife experience turns out bad, (and in some cases it does), those people no longer frequent this Forum and therefor you only get the good news on here.
Some of the early pitfalls are that with a fantasy, you control everybody's actions. In real hotwife life, you don't. What about kissing? Fucking good, kissing bad - go figure. Now kissing as an unproblematic part of recreational sex but with my wife and I it wasn't at the start. What about when your big head says your wife should insist on condoms, but in the heat of the moment she and her fb have him cum deep inside her, bareback, because in real life they both hate sex with condoms? What if she is a quiet lover with you, but sounds like the sound track on a porno flick with her lover? It is pretty hard at first watching (or hearing) your wife enjoying sex with another man. It is also difficult for a wife to go straight from monogamy to hotwife in one fell swoop - it may be frustrating to you if she doesn't, and equally frustrating to you if she does.
Those are a few of the early pitfalls you and your wife may go through. But after you do, and get some experience, and learn to thoroughly communicate with and trust each other, it is everything it is cracked up to be and you both will probably be glad you did it.
Everything you said resonates with us. Suze was fortunate as was I that the guy she hooked up with took excellent care of her. He asked her what she wanted and even how she wanted it. They had diner twice beforehand and both got to know one another. We consider ourselves fortunate in our choice and understand it doesn’t always go that way.
And you are correct about the actual watching. I was caught off guard by the passion but very quickly found it a huge turn on. I think having a sturdy marriage helps.
There are certainly a lot of people on here with a lot more experience than us. We enjoy reading about the experiences.