Benefits of being a Hotwife Couple

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Hello from Kelly, Wesley’s wife and best friend

Here is my quick list of benefits from being in a Hotwife lifestyle as a married couple. Who knows this list might motivate other couples to try this lifestyle.

My marriage is not one of husband and wife, it is a marriage of best friends.

My husband's early low level of jealousy has been replaced by compersion.

As a Hotwife I dress sexier and keep in better shape.

My husband views me as his best friend, sex goddess, an adores me. He does not view me as just a wife, mother of our children, and a career woman.

My confidence is much higher and I am more fun loving and flirty as ever.

I love the fact my husband is fully comfortable with me having many male friends, both platonically and sexually.

I have a wonderful sense of freedom to be myself and not have to fit into how a married woman should act.

My sex life has never been better with my husband and he truly supports me dating and having sex with other men.

Just a few benefits for now a may add a couple more later.

[funfortwo]

Hello from Kelly, Wesley’s wife and best friend

Here is my quick list of benefits from being in a Hotwife lifestyle as a married couple. Who knows this list might motivate other couples to try this lifestyle.

My marriage is not one of husband and wife, it is a marriage of best friends.

My husband's early low level of jealousy has been replaced by compersion.

As a Hotwife I dress sexier and keep in better shape.

My husband views me as his best friend, sex goddess, an adores me. He does not view me as just a wife, mother of our children, and a career woman.

My confidence is much higher and I am more fun loving and flirty as ever.

I love the fact my husband is fully comfortable with me having many male friends, both platonically and sexually.

I have a wonderful sense of freedom to be myself and not have to fit into how a married woman should act.


My sex life has never been better with my husband and he truly supports me dating and having sex with other men.

Just a few benefits for now a may add a couple more later.

Hi Kelly,
I really like your list and although it's me replying, we've had a lot of discussions about the positive elements of this dynamic. I believe we had a great relationship and this has taken it to a entirely new level. I would add a couple of things that she mentioned (maybe I can get her to comment, she enjoys listening to what I/others have said but sometimes she doesn't like the "drama." Anyways a couple of additions, LMK if you two feel this way also.

1. Communication- We talk about EVERYTHING! Not just this dynamic, but we sit down, at the end of the day, pour a glass (or two) of wine, and just talk. Life, friends, future together and sex. We discuss how we are doing, and when it comes to this LS, what we like to do and if we aren't comfortable with something. It has increased our bond and like you, are BEST FRIENDS!

2. With this LS, she admits she likes having the "power." I asked her what she meant, and she indicated that she has the ability to have two men (she has a long-term BF) that totally desire her. She wants us both to really want her. This in turn gives her confidence which translates into working out, eating right and dressing sexier. She also noted that now, more than ever, that men notice her and give her looks or try to talk to her. This has led to a mild cuckold kink where she denies me sex about a week before her next meeting (she meets about every 4-6 weeks) which increases my desire for her. In her words, it "kind of gives me a bit more power."

3. We share a "secret" that none of our vanilla friends have. While out with friends, we make small innuendos about what we are doing but nobody knows what we do.

Love your list....we discussed that if you have a great loving relationship, this LS can really benefit both people.

[MarknSusan]

Hello from Kelly, Wesley’s wife and best friend

Here is my quick list of benefits from being in a Hotwife lifestyle as a married couple. Who knows this list might motivate other couples to try this lifestyle.

My marriage is not one of husband and wife, it is a marriage of best friends.

My husband's early low level of jealousy has been replaced by compersion.

As a Hotwife I dress sexier and keep in better shape.

My husband views me as his best friend, sex goddess, an adores me. He does not view me as just a wife, mother of our children, and a career woman.

My confidence is much higher and I am more fun loving and flirty as ever.

I love the fact my husband is fully comfortable with me having many male friends, both platonically and sexually.

I have a wonderful sense of freedom to be myself and not have to fit into how a married woman should act.

My sex life has never been better with my husband and he truly supports me dating and having sex with other men.

Just a few benefits for now a may add a couple more later.

Kelly…you pretty much nailed it.

[NewtonBlade]

Kelly, your quick list is right on target. You've obviously put a lot of thought to it, good for you and WHV.

But from the more senior demographic, I feel the need to add one more---This lifestyle helps to keep you young. Not literally I know, but mentally and physically I really believe that.

I'm in my early 60's, my wife R and her long-time lover are late 60's. They'd casually dated before we met, and this current phase of their affair has gone on for 12+ years now. Sure, our bodies have aged over that time but both her now married lover and I are drawn to her gilf bod like moths to a flame, and her libido is still similar to when we met 26 years ago. I feel as animated when she's with him now as a decade ago, and the reconnecting is just as wonderful.

Thanks for the thread Kelly and WHV!!!

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Thank for all your kind words.

FunforTwo: without a doubt communication is key and a husband and wife has to work together as team to make it all work for those involved. Prior to me dating another man my husband cannot have sex with me for 24 hours keeping us both horny and myself clean and fresh for my upcoming date

Mark and Susan thank you for the compliment much appreciated..

Newton this lifestyle keeps both the husband and wife young at heart. Knowing I am dating other men currently and in the future keeps me in shape and healthy so I can perform in bed or whatever else I am having sex

Another benefit I like to add to my list is, less pressure on the husband to keep the wife truly sexually satisfied since there is another man or men adding to the wife’s sexual satisfaction

My husband pampers me before and after I come home from a date, makes feel loved and appreciated

Thanks

[TomG]

I love the fact my husband is fully comfortable with me having many male friends, both platonically and sexually.

I have a wonderful sense of freedom to be myself and not have to fit into how a married woman should act.

My sex life has never been better with my husband and he truly supports me dating and having sex with other men.

Hi Kelly. Although I'm not currently in a hotwife or hot girlfriend relationship, I included three points you made that are especially meaningful to me from the time when I was in one. I rather enjoyed my GF having male friends, and some of them were actually platonic relationships. Also, I like the sense of freedom this lifestyle offers a woman, and she can enjoy herself without worrying about whether she's damaging her marriage or feeling shame.

Which brings me to your third point, which is really the benefit of this life - the improved sex life, but not only that, there's also the increased level of trust and intimacy this brings to the marriage for a couple who both want this.

Thanks for a great post!

[NewtonBlade]

Hi Kelly. This certainly is a welcome thread, pointing out all the positivity hotwifing brings to a marriage.

In your last post you mention that you and your husband abstain from sex for a day prior to you seeing another man. R and I have had the same arrangement for years after I selfishly insisted on PIV sex just before she went on a date. R is very anti-condom, and her lover noticed right away.

Safe to say he wasn't happy and let her know about it. We haven't made that mistake since. In fact, with them about to leave for an extended vacation, her lover asked if we'd double it so she'd be eager to start the trip off with a bang and we more than complied. Unfortunately for R, he and his wife didn't, but that's another story.

I have to say that the sexual preoccupation we both felt was off the charts by the time she and her guy left, way more intense than a one day withhold. We're going to do it that way again when she gets home. So you could say hotwifing has made us more considerate of others

[chard]

I have read all the comments and I can't disagree with any of them but in the case of Hannah and myself our adventures were based on pure lust. Don't get me wrong, we loved each other dearly but our sex life was incredible mainly due to Hannah's extra marital encounters. Our most enjoyable sex occurred not just in the hours after she had just fucked someone but every time we had sex. Hannah was always very open with me, when we were having sex we would discuss her encounters, who she had fucked, who she would like to fuck and who she intended to fuck when she got the opportunity. I also had the freedom to go out and get laid and I did but, I was never as successful as Hannah, even so the benefits of our joint adventures were incredible.

[Toots2310]

Sounds very similar to my situation, wife and I love the mfm scene, she really gets horny having me and some guy we just met both fuck her, if she’s exceptionally turned on she sometimes comes right away, I admit I love when this happens because I know she’s not the type to leave anybody hanging,she’s gonna suck us both of and swallow our loads,

[armyguyot1]

I asked my wife why she swallows as I am so grateful. She said she never thought of doing anything different with it. Now she can cum from that sometimes.

[Long Lurker 34]

Not in the LS, just a lurker, but have often pondered about the possible benefit of a HW situation, especially with a long term BF, where either the BF or the husband has a vanilla activity they they don't enjoy but the other does and of course the HW. Something like theatre, ballet, opera, who knows it could be gardening.
In that it takes the pressure off the hubby or BF to participate in something the HW truly enjoys.

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Hello, everyone:

Another benefit of being in a loving and supportive long term hotwife lifestyle is my wonderful husband enabled me to be away with my boyfriend for the weekend as my husband took care of the family..

I so appreciate my husband to handle everything in my absence so I can truly focus on having fun loving sex with my boyfriend who I have known and dated for years.

This boyfriend is a tall handsome black man who treats me very well in and out of the bedroom all while my loving husband makes it all possible with his full support.

[calicolombia69]

One more: Sometimes all her lovers let her down, or fledge at the same time. So its important to know you can fall back on a comprehending husband who is ready to greet you with open arms and not be chastised.

By this, I mean that sometimes (as a husband) I see that some relationship are causing more grief than me! I carefully advise it may be time for her to move on. But a stubborn lady she will be, and sometimes crashes into a wall. So it is paramount to never, ever say "I told you so" This is when is cucks, are truly valued and appreciated for just "being there"

[We2r1]

Hello from Kelly, Wesley’s wife and best friend

Here is my quick list of benefits from being in a Hotwife lifestyle as a married couple. Who knows this list might motivate other couples to try this lifestyle.

My marriage is not one of husband and wife, it is a marriage of best friends.

My husband's early low level of jealousy has been replaced by compersion.

As a Hotwife I dress sexier and keep in better shape.

My husband views me as his best friend, sex goddess, an adores me. He does not view me as just a wife, mother of our children, and a career woman.

My confidence is much higher and I am more fun loving and flirty as ever.

I love the fact my husband is fully comfortable with me having many male friends, both platonically and sexually.

I have a wonderful sense of freedom to be myself and not have to fit into how a married woman should act.

My sex life has never been better with my husband and he truly supports me dating and having sex with other men.

Just a few benefits for now a may add a couple more later.

[4F55383132]

Thank you for sharing your positives. I have showed my wife this sight and asked her to read the posts here.

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Hello from Kelly,

How could I have not capture one of the best benefits of the lifestyle.

Men can ask me out !!! I love being asked out by men, it makes me feel young, alive, and vibrant. My husband loves hearing the details when another man asks me out, and I intentionally keep my husband waiting in anticipation if I said yes or no to accepting the date offer. More than likely if the man asking me out is reasonable and sincere my answer will be yes

I am sure a lot of regular wives out there would be flattered if another man asked them out

[mychubbyhotwife]

My wife,before we married,wasn't a very experienced woman sexually. Her two experiences in high school were in and out experiences that weren't very satisfying to her. She enjoyed the attention I gave her.

I felt bad that she hadn't experienced very many men. I was the only man that was able to give her an orgasm. It was normal to me to give her attention. I always wondered if I was the best man for her. There were many things that you could sense that she had no idea how to please a man sexually. I was very happy to introduce her to new things and teach her how I, or men, liked to be pleased.

You might call it compersion but I wanted her to experience other men. I wanted her to know that there were many men that knew how to please a woman. In different ways. I wanted her to experience the different ways and techniques of other men. What the hell, I might learn something You might call it a selfish idea to enjoy watching my wife have sex with other men as if she was my favorite porn star performing in a live sex show for my enjoyment. Using her for my entertainment.

My wife was horrified by my suggestion that she have sex with other men. After a long time talking it over with her she finally agreed to try it. Her first time couldn't have been better and it was no problem talking her into doing it again.

I have noticed that she is more horny and enthusiastic and not just wanting to do it with me more often but with other men. She has found the freedom, knowing she has my blessing, to flirt and have sex with any man she wants.

She is way more confident in herself.

[Long Lurker 34]

My wife,before we married,wasn't a very experienced woman sexually. Her two experiences in high school were in and out experiences that weren't very satisfying to her. She enjoyed the attention I gave her.

I felt bad that she hadn't experienced very many men. I was the only man that was able to give her an orgasm. It was normal to me to give her attention. I always wondered if I was the best man for her. There were many things that you could sense that she had no idea how to please a man sexually. I was very happy to introduce her to new things and teach her how I, or men, liked to be pleased.

You might call it compersion but I wanted her to experience other men. I wanted her to know that there were many men that knew how to please a woman. In different ways. I wanted her to experience the different ways and techniques of other men. What the hell, I might learn something You might call it a selfish idea to enjoy watching my wife have sex with other men as if she was my favorite porn star performing in a live sex show for my enjoyment. Using her for my entertainment.

My wife was horrified by my suggestion that she have sex with other men. After a long time talking it over with her she finally agreed to try it. Her first time couldn't have been better and it was no problem talking her into doing it again.

I have noticed that she is more horny and enthusiastic and not just wanting to do it with me more often but with other men. She has found the freedom, knowing she has my blessing, to flirt and have sex with any man she wants.

She is way more confident in herself.

MCHW - I think that's an awesome attitude to take.
- And I think she is a very lucky woman, all round.

[Tank Turner]

I asked my wife why she swallows as I am so grateful. She said she never thought of doing anything different with it. Now she can cum from that sometimes.

Hi armyguyot1:

That sounds familiar. My wife told me that after she became sexually active, she swallowed because she thought she was supposed to swallow. She has told me many times that a blowjob wasn't a blowjob unless she swallowed.

My wife gets hornier than hell when she's giving blowjobs. She often masturbates while she's giving blowjobs.

[Tank Turner]

Hi Kelly,

You're analyses and reflections were perfect.

My wife's opinion that she's told me many times is most married women would become hotwives if their husbands were supportive. I've been 100% supportive of my wife's sexuality.

You're absolutely right about the necessity of husbands and wives in this lifestyle being best friends. My wife is my best friend. I'm her best friend.

Open, honest, and nonjudgmental communication is extremely important.

My wife has told me repeatedly that having sex with other men, especially younger men, makes her feel young again.

My wife loves attention from men. She gets hit on a lot. She's always gracious and thankful when she declines their invitations.

My wife adamantly refuses to live her life according to anyone's ideals or societal norms. She lives her life consistently with being the best mother she can be to our kids and a spectacular wife to me.

My wife has an endocrine abnormality a symptom of which is an insatiable craving for sex. She sees her physician regularly to monitor her endocrine system. If left untreated, it could cause serious health problems. Many women have the identical abnormality. Her physician said it's possible that her abnormality will cure itself when she's in menopause.

She's probably told me a hundred times that she's more horny in her mid-40's than she was when she was in college and couldn't have enough sex.

We had sex on the evening of our first date. I was enamored of her erotic sexual confidence. I had never been with a woman who had her erotic sexual confidence. She was obviously extremely sexually experienced. I call the first month of our relationship booty calling. We were both seeing other people, but I kept going back to her. That first month was almost exclusively for mutual sexual euphoria. About a month after we began booty calling each other, we engaged in a deeply intellectual and philosophical conversation. That conversation changed my vision of her. She was more that a hot looking chick with a hot body and loved sex. She was dynamic and intellectual. We became exclusive after that. To this very second, I love her sexual confidence.

My wife is the most sexually enlightened woman I have ever met. Right after we began booty calling each other, she told me with absolute confidence that sex was as normal a human function as any other. She adamantly believed and still believes that nudity is normal and natural where appropriate. She thinks Americans have an anachronistic view of nudity. Long before students graduate from high school, they know what the human body looks like. As long as kids aren't around, she prefers to be naked. When they're in their homes and kids aren't around, my wife and her sister might as well be naked. It's the nature of their beliefs. Her sister is going to marry her boyfriend. My wife considers her boyfriend to be family. She's often nearly naked in her sister house with her boyfriend there. Last Sunday, my wife was close to naked (and drunk) while in conversation with her future brother-in-law.

I've never been jealous of my wife having sex with other men. I knew she was very sexually active before I met her. Her sublime expression of sexual euphoria causes her face to glow. It's magical and thrilling to see her while she's enraptured in intensive sexual euphoria. I've always encouraged her to reach for sexual euphoria that 90% of women will never experience. I always will encourage her to go where her sexuality takes her.

It's vitally important that husbands and wives distinguish mechanical function of sex for physical euphoria and sex as an expression of love and strengthening the bond between them.

We almost always do MFM in our bedroom. My wife feels most safe and comfortable in our home. When men have left after she porn starred for them, she'll take a quick shower and get back in bed with me. She'll snuggle as close to me as she can.

Women have a enviable sexual advantage over men. Human biology favors women's sexuality. Women in their sexual primes want sex 24/7. Women can have unlimited orgasms. When women are in their sexual primes, men are long past theirs. Orgasms give women energy. After my second one, I'm ready to sleep.

My wife has offered FMF sex to me many times. I told that she just about kills me. Another woman in our bed would put me in a grave.

Their might be validity to the theory that women were created to have more than one man.

[Blackjack4724]

Hey Kelly,

We were both reading your post today and concur on all your points you make about the benefits of being a hot wife. My wife Tammy just said “preach sister”. She agrees that her seeing other men keeps her feeling young and vital as well serves as a reason to stay in shape. Her sex drive is just thru the roof still and she likes feeling desirable to other men.

Keep it up and thanks for the post.
-Mark

[Tank Turner]

I asked my wife why she swallows as I am so grateful. She said she never thought of doing anything different with it. Now she can cum from that sometimes.

When I was dating my wife, she'd sometimes say, "Suck your dick," and "blowjob." After partying all night and getting drunk, and then home for and always incredible sex, I asked her why she'd sometimes say, "suck your dick," and "blowjob." According to her, sucking a dick was either foreplay or getting a dick hard again so she could fuck it. Blowjob was a completed sex act that involved her swallowing. She proudly and adorably told me that she was always able to suck a cock hard again. I knew I had to marry her.

She'll say, "Cock," when she's drunk and "dick" when she's sober.

She'll rarely as in hardly ever say, "Slut." When she does, she's hyper-horny due to her endocrine system abnormality and wants complete porn star treatment. She'll usually say, "Fuck me hard and rough." She has never been a tender loving girl. According to her, tender loving is before and after sex, not during.

[armyguyot1]

She sounds like a keeper to me. I saw a pole on another forum where they asked how many guys never got blowjobs or blowjobs with swallowing. It was amazing how many never got it. I never take if for granit thou. I appreciate every blowjob and savor it. Cumming in her mouth is always special even thou she will do it anytime I want. We like to mix it up. I wish I was like the old days when I could cum 4 or more times in a night. It would be especially good now as she has learned to let go and cum time after time. I have seen her cum a dozen times thou she preferrs four or five really hard long ones. Enough to give her a headache. Then I know I have done my job. Sex is still special and still fun. She has been sick for a couple weeks so tonight she could be in danger from the exlosion when I cum. She'll love it

[Tank Turner]

Hi armyguyot1,

Thank you. I appreciate the compliment.

Your wife sounds like every man's dream wife.

I remember those fleeting years when 4 times a night were a given. Now that I'm closing in on fifty, I have to avoid cumming in my wife's mouth. After she cums 3 or more times, she wants a hard dick thrusting inside of her quivering, tight pussy.

My wife has had more that a dozen orgasms over the course of a day. While we dated, she had 12 with just me. Her first few are the most euphoric. When her endocrine system abnormality flares, she'll orgasm to exhaustion, And hour later, she'll push my head between her sexy thighs for more.

I've dated only one woman who would not suck my dick. She was extremely good looking and she had hot body with smallish tits. She loved to fuck. I'd rather fuck than get a blowjob, so I didn't care. But I have never turned down a blowjob. However, due to my age, I'll rarely cum inside of my wife's mouth.

Right after I met my wife, she couldn't believe that I was indifferent about blowjobs. She said most men who were in their mid-20's (I was when I met her) wanted blowjobs.

I known lots of men who rarely if ever got blowjobs.

I was undeservedly lucky when I met my wife. I damned near screwed it up by taking her for granted. We had sex on the evening of our first date. The first sex act she performed on me was the best blowjob I ever had. After she finished, she laid completely naked next to me with our faces inches apart and told me that doggie was her favorite position. I was never with a women who had anywhere near her sexual confidence.

My wife loves to give blowjobs. When she began having sex, she quickly learned that men loved blowjobs. She perfected blowjobs to an art form. She's told me she's always swallowed, even gross tasting cum. I had no reason to doubt her. We've always been completely open and honest about sex. She knows she could tell me that she fucked an entire football team at half-time, and I'd still be in love with her.

BTW, we're friends with a 30 year old studly fire fighter. My wife assured me that he's an exceptional fuck. She's given him blowjobs, but he has never shoved his dick in her face and expected her to suck it. The other night she told me she was done fucking young guys because they wanted blowjobs more than fucking, they didn't know how to fuck, and she was done teaching young studs how to sexually please women.

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Thank you, thank you, thank you Tank Turner for the compliment. Your wife is definitely correct as you said below if husbands were supportive most wives would be hotwives or at least strongly consider it

Tank Turner posted

Your analyses and reflections were perfect.

My wife's opinion that she's told me many times is most married women would become hotwives if their husbands were supportive.