meeting my wife's lovers

[Her number1]

My wife enjoys me knowing her lovers, and I enjoy it as well. I see them regularly in everyday life, we visit, do business together, at times have a beer, etc.
There is absolutely no shame involved, and from my perspective, I don't understand how on earth there could be shame, or hulmiliation for that matter.

[donnie]

My wife met this one guy online and they went through a period of chatting and messaging. When they finally decided to meet in person, she suggested I go meet him first and bring him her panties. The guy became super horny, telling me how he couldn't wait to fuck her after the gift she had sent him.
Soon we went out for a drink, all three of us. There was an instant and obvious chemistry between them, so I suggested we move to our place. At the parking lot she moved to the back seat with him and soon they started kissing.The sparkles turned into a fire, so after a while she told me not to go home but to keep driving instead. I went onto the freeway, watching in the mirror hear head disappearing. She gave him a long blowjob, which he complimented, saying how great cocksucker she was, instructing her to make it real hard for what was about to come... And once he reached the degree of hardness she was happy with, she sat on that cock and started riding it.
It was hard to me to stay focused on driving, listening to her moaning and him thanking me for letting him fuck her.

[rogerbaulk]

Soon after I found out about what she had done (fucked five guys over 2 years), she said, over the phone, "People like me because I cum quickly and often". Later, I found out that she had fucked some fighter pilot who looked like Tom Cruise. She said he made her cum 8 times. Judging by what she said, she was multi-orgasmic with everyone... except me. She got picked up for sex by going into a bar and playing pool with the guys there. Obviously she flirted and got 'hunted' as they say in Korea. One time she asked me if I would be okay if we were together in that town and another guy asked her for her phone number. I think she has a desire to cuckold me. The idea that I would allow other men to fuck her and not object turns her on.

[BrunetteLover]

The only way we have made it work over 12+ years is through self-discipline and communication. We both know a reasonable amount of info about the guy before hand. Each date that will involve sex follows a certain general pattern, including me as the driver. No, I never meet the guy, ever.

The only thing I don't need to know or even care about is if they become friends, which has happened a few times. They can chat and text all they want for all I care.

But if they meet in person for sex, safety protocols go back into place. If they meet on a non-sex date, such as a concert, then I drop her off and they go do their thing.

Sex puts a woman in a vulnerable situation, and the safety protocols (me waiting outside, etc.) are her idea more than mine. For her regular sex partners, I may leave and go grab something to eat, and she is aware of that. But I am generally around.

She feels more comfortable that way (she has expressed that many times) and she is more likely to relax and enjoy the sex if she knows that I am close by.

[D+D]

My wife over the last 11 years has been with at least 60 men, some of them multiple times and over long periods. I have met four, three of which I set her up with and one that I’ve known long before she ever had sex with him.

[BrunetteLover]

I am going to have to meet one of her male friends this fall. He is a life-long bachelor, who met my wife (he hired her as an escort) about three or four years ago.

They had great sex, to a point that she really kind of fell for him somewhat.

She felt an odd connection, due to the fact that he is a completely opposite type than she is. For example, she was an athlete, she hung with the guys who were going to be cops and firemen, yet considered the guys who wore band T-shirts to be distantly alluring. His is that type of guy.

I should note that she did also try things with him that she had never done before. Kind of what she would have done if she ever got her hands on one of those band T-shirt guys for an evening. She would cum while on top, and then kneel on the floor and let him fuck her face until he came deep in her throat. She never did that with anyone else, she and I have never done that.

(This is not the guy who tried things on her that were new to her, that I mentioned on other posts recently, that's someone else).

Problem is, they became friends, and he is an odd duck, but he has a strong moral compass, and just could not see her sexually anymore because of the friendship. So they started texting and talking (late night, I am asleep) and kind-of started dating three or four times a year. No sex though.

Two reasons I have absolutely no problem with the arrangement is even though he really cares for her, she knows he is completely the wrong type for her, AND our marriage is 110% secure. He is an old pot-smoker, band T-shirt wearing type of guy with a great heart, but that knucklehead part of him always comes out eventually, and she was NEVER seriously interested in that type of guy. But he is a fun guy.

So, he has a group of friends who travel all over the region going to concerts, such as Deep Purple. This fall they are going to a concert in Newark. They are staying in Newark, we will stay in Weehawken.

She recently told me that "since I never want to meet any of the guys she sees, and it will be really late, the group of guys will take me wherever I want to go when the show is over." I told her, no way, I will absolutely be at the front door of the concert waiting. I don't care if she decides to go back to their room and fuck each one of them (she won't) but it is my absolute non-negotiable job to get her home safe.

[MarknSusan]

Sorry, but I just don’t understand this “shame” thing with meeting someone my wife has sex with.

With the exception of one of my wife’s old lovers that she hooked up with more than a year ago, I know all the guys Susan has had sex with. In fact they are still good friends’s with us.

We have similar likes/hobbies, hang out or go out together and have even traveled together.

And when I met my wife’s old lover the morning after he brought her home we shook hands, he thanked me, I told him I hope it was an enjoyable reunion and we got along well…shame was never part it ..unless maybe he felt shame because maybe he thought that it was strange to meet me after my wife spent and afternoon and a night having sex with Susan?

[hattersfan]

Before, during and after our marriage I was on good terms with my (now ex) wife Heather’s lover Roy. He had been her boss and their relationship carried on for a good few years after Heather got promoted got promoted and moved to another office.

At least once a month Heather would spend the weekend at Roy’s house where she would go straight after work on a Friday evening. I would then drive over and collect her on a Sunday afternoon and have a coffee with a dressing gown clad Roy whilst Heather was in the shower.

On one occasion she texted me to say that she and Roy were still in bed together and I should wait downstairs and not disturb them. The sound of their lovemaking was certainly giving me an erection the likes of which I hadn’t had for a long time