Wife finally did it and now I'm jealous

[Mysexywife900]

So I told my wife I wanted to see her get fucked by a bwc mostly during sex and it kinda developed from there I found her a hung white bull and they talked for weeks then finally we all agreed to meet up at his place close by we were both nervous. But she seemed super excited she told me several times how big he was because he's been sending her pics. We get to his place she had a Glass of wine with him while I went to the bathroom mostly to splash some cold water on my face I didn't think she'd go through with it. But when I came out literally 2 mins later I see my wife in her bra and panties on her knees sucking a 9inch white cock. Now I'm used to having my wife hit on all the time but I immediately got super jealous and wanted it to stop. When I told her ok it's enough she stopped for 5 mins but ended up getting bent over and fucked hard. I didn't leave but guess I should have. I'll never be able to forget the sounds she was making with this guy. Anyone else have a similar experiance.? Pics are my wife

[subbieCuck]

A)Is she aware that you are posting her photos?
B)Relax and enjoy the show! You are a lucky man!

[afagehi7]

I would recommend at least blurring her face unless you are somewhere you don't care if people find out.

[fk2546]

How long ago did this happen?
Sounds like she enjoyed it. Has she given any indication of wanting to see him again?

[Mysexywife900]

How long ago did this happen?
Sounds like she enjoyed it. Has she given any indication of wanting to see him again?

Few months ago I'm guessing yes it will continue

[2inUPMichigan]

Thank you for removing the pics.

I am moving this thread to the Hotwife Forum since you will not be able to post pics without her permission. (See rule book link at top of page)

If you do talk to her about posting pictures and she gives permission please make sure you clear the meta data to protect privacy. The thread can be moved back at that time.

[Long Lurker 34]

How long ago did this happen?
Sounds like she enjoyed it. Has she given any indication of wanting to see him again?

Few months ago I'm guessing yes it will continue

MSW# - So what has transpired in the in between?

[Mysexywife900]

She's still talking and texting him another meet up will happen soon I'm guessing

[Treat yourself girl]

Be careful what you wish for.

The horse has bolted, you can't shut that door now. Lose the jealous thoughts. Instead remember how satisfied that bull made your lady and how much pleasure she received. Happy wife happy life pal.

You should rejoice in the fact that you watched your hunny suck AND take a 9 inch cock. You're a very lucky man. Buy her a present and encourage her to do it again.

[SilverStag]

This is where you have to be aware of your own motivations. The "Why" is an important question to ask yourself. Were you thinking of her outside play as a reward for her, or just titillation for you. Because you didn't embark on this with some thought to your reasoning, nor deep discussion, your motivation and your wife's are at odds. You didn't think she would actually do it, so your fantasy continued. Once she proved that she is capable of autonomous sexual thought and desire, things got real for you.

True you can't put the Genie back into the bottle, but you can talk with her and establish "ground rules" that address both of your needs, desires and concerns. Negotiate and take training in how to deal with your jealousy (I have frequently referred people in your position to the early podcasts on WeGottaThing and Priory Society that deal specifically with how newbies, like you two, can manage their feelings).

Like Treat yourself sys above, be happy in your wife's happiness. It's known as Compersion and is a major reason many of us participate in ENM.

[Farmgirl]

Be careful what you wish for.

The horse has bolted, you can't shut that door now. Lose the jealous thoughts. Instead remember how satisfied that bull made your lady and how much pleasure she received. Happy wife happy life pal.

You should rejoice in the fact that you watched your hunny suck AND take a 9 inch cock. You're a very lucky man. Buy her a present and encourage her to do it again.

There is a healthy dose of good advice here! Read, study, and think about what Treat yourself girl said.

[Angsty Cuck]

Whatever you do, commit to your decision. If you want her to stop, don't send mixed signals about how you still might want it in the future, how it's hot, etc.

If you want her to continue, be encouraging and deal with the feelings yourself.

Don't jerk your wife around. She deserves to know where she stands with you, and where you guys are going as a couple.

[BallSpanking]

I didn't leave but guess I should have. I'll never be able to forget the sounds she was making with this guy ...

You were privileged to witness and hear your wife being sexually pleased in a way she deserves. You will learn to love that.
The first time was a little rough on you, maybe next time you can enjoy her enjoyment. Will you be present next time?

[Treat yourself girl]

Okay pal... I understand your jealousy. But let's break this down...

The thought of taking another guy probably never entered your lady's mind, it was you that brought up the subject. You probably banged on about it for years, eventually the lady's mind started to fantasise too. Thinking you were okay with it... and indeed it's what you wanted, to satisfy your desire the lovely girl agreed to fulfill your fantasy. What a wonderful wife you have.

Now the jealousy that came when you saw her with her buck is because your mindset wasn't right. Your lady doesn't love that guy, she loves you... that's why she was fucking him for you. She makes love to you... not her buck. She was using him to satisfy your desire to see her get fucked. It can't be denied that she loved his 9 inch cock pounding into her soft wet pussy but come on... what gal wouldn't?

Everything she did that night was for you... she thought it was what you wanted and she gifted you with the images and sounds you now hold in your head.

Your jealousy is miss placed my friend. That buck is jealous of you because she's your lady and you can have her as much as she'll let you. He was just a hard cock to her. Embrace what you now have.

[Natatude]

I agree with treat yourself girl above

[slenderfish]

If this was something you really wanted, that "want" will not go away. So you are now having to manage yourself; this is a "be careful what you wish for" situation that you thought you were ready for, but found out you were not as prepared as you'd assumed.

She took the request and ran with it, as you'd requested (and fantasized about). Good for her, good for you.

This is now you vs. you, time to realize it's a challenging adjustment, especially in the beginning. Deal with it, get over your ego/fears.

Talk with her. There are elements in it for her, and elements for you. Find a balance. Help and support each other, to try and achieve the good stuff for each other, and to manage the challenges for each other.

[Teensy1]

Jealousy is a natural reaction. So is a sense of regret and helplessness. She’s a hotwife now and you’re a cuck and there’s no going back. There’ll be another bull after him and more after that.

[RHotwife1981]

Okay pal... I understand your jealousy. But let's break this down...

The thought of taking another guy probably never entered your lady's mind, it was you that brought up the subject. You probably banged on about it for years, eventually the lady's mind started to fantasise too. Thinking you were okay with it... and indeed it's what you wanted, to satisfy your desire the lovely girl agreed to fulfill your fantasy. What a wonderful wife you have.

Now the jealousy that came when you saw her with her buck is because your mindset wasn't right. Your lady doesn't love that guy, she loves you... that's why she was fucking him for you. She makes love to you... not her buck. She was using him to satisfy your desire to see her get fucked. It can't be denied that she loved his 9 inch cock pounding into her soft wet pussy but come on... what gal wouldn't?

Everything she did that night was for you... she thought it was what you wanted and she gifted you with the images and sounds you now hold in your head.

Your jealousy is miss placed my friend. That buck is jealous of you because she's your lady and you can have her as much as she'll let you. He was just a hard cock to her. Embrace what you now have.

That’s a little deep. Well said

[Treat yourself girl]

Okay pal... I understand your jealousy. But let's break this down...

The thought of taking another guy probably never entered your lady's mind, it was you that brought up the subject. You probably banged on about it for years, eventually the lady's mind started to fantasise too. Thinking you were okay with it... and indeed it's what you wanted, to satisfy your desire the lovely girl agreed to fulfill your fantasy. What a wonderful wife you have.

Now the jealousy that came when you saw her with her buck is because your mindset wasn't right. Your lady doesn't love that guy, she loves you... that's why she was fucking him for you. She makes love to you... not her buck. She was using him to satisfy your desire to see her get fucked. It can't be denied that she loved his 9 inch cock pounding into her soft wet pussy but come on... what gal wouldn't?

Everything she did that night was for you... she thought it was what you wanted and she gifted you with the images and sounds you now hold in your head.

Your jealousy is miss placed my friend. That buck is jealous of you because she's your lady and you can have her as much as she'll let you. He was just a hard cock to her. Embrace what you now have.

That’s a little deep. Well said

I think that's what the lovely lady said when that 9 inch cock was balls deep in her.

[zorro]

Some degree of jealousy should be expected. But you are saying it’s hard for you to manage.

There is a ton of information on that topic, including Nancy Friday’s book Jealousy. To deal with the negative feelings, you will have to look within to understand what they are about.
I always found rhe formulation helpful that jealousy has more to do with oneself than the other.

Sharing your wife can be very joyful: she has gifted you that. Now you need to work on not letting your relationship with yourself interfere. You can potentially address your feelings through personal growth.
Painful but hopeful.

[DaveS]

While it is a common thought on OHW that you can't put the horse back in the barn, in truth, you actually can. Either spouse in a consensual non-monogamous marriage can withdraw their consent to non-monogamy at any time, defaulting back to the marital contract for monogamy. However, taking that path may not go well. Your wife (in this case) may simply refuse, leaving you to divorce her if you cannot tolerate it. Or, having tasted the forbidden fruit, she may just cheat on you now (to spare your feelings and the strife). And, if she does agree to return to monogamy because you have demanded that she do so (but doesn't really want to), then she very well may feel justifiably resentful that you asked her to go down this path and then backed out after she finally decided that would do this for you - and then decided that she liked the idea. (Unless, of course, she was the one asking for CNM - usually it's the husband, but not always. My wife asked me to open our marriage).

And - it does make you kind of a jerk. Nevertheless, if you really can't tolerate it after all, you can always sit down and talk to her about it - explain that it's not what you imagined, found that you can't tolerate seeing her with another man, etc..... Make it more of a request. Which would be better than a point blank demand that she walk away from it. And, of course, then you would really look like an ass if later you decided that you acted in haste and are willing to give it another shot (unless, of course, she is pushing for it). Regardless, if you do demand a return to monogamy, and she does agree, things will never be quite the same - although the pain will heal somewhat in time. In that sense, you really can never go completely back...

If you find it really troubling, perhaps better to ask for a pause and then have some serious discussions - if you really want to continue, boundaries, etc
And, a pause may give you time to get over the shock, and realize that it was pretty hot after all - or not, but you probably should be sure.

Just some thoughts....

[MonaLisaOverdrive]

OP hasn't been back in a couple of months, maybe he let his jealousy get the better of him.

I hope not and he will return soon.

[DaveS]

OP hasn't been back in a couple of months, maybe he let his jealousy get the better of him.

I hope not and he will return soon.

Hopefully, they work it out. And, he did give us a good topic to discuss - the jealousy that can arise when the fantasy finally comes to life.

[Maddie_Hippychick]

One of the things I’ve wondered is why cucks in this situation don’t talk with their HWs about opening the marriage for both spouses. Obviously, it’s much more difficult for the average husband to find a side piece than it is for the average wife. Still, an insecure HW might not like the idea of her husband with another woman and will negotiate from there. On the other hand a HW that agrees will probably not be thrilled when the husband starts spending money to whine and dine potential playmates, or even hiring escorts. So, this cuck has a different angle to negotiate from. Husbands and wives are apples and oranges. Different dynamics at play. Obviously, playing these kind of games isn’t healthy for a marriage, but neither is neglecting your partner’s needs or ignoring their concerns.

[leggysman]

One of the things I’ve wondered is why cucks in this situation don’t talk with their HWs about opening the marriage for both spouses. Obviously, it’s much more difficult for the average husband to find a side piece than it is for the average wife. Still, an insecure HW might not like the idea of her husband with another woman and will negotiate from there. On the other hand a HW that agrees will probably not be thrilled when the husband starts spending money to whine and dine potential playmates, or even hiring escorts. So, this cuck has a different angle to negotiate from. Husbands and wives are apples and oranges. Different dynamics at play. Obviously, playing these kind of games isn’t healthy for a marriage, but neither is neglecting your partner’s needs or ignoring their concerns.

"Two wrongs don't make a right" may not be true for all of life's crappy situations, but I think it's almost always true in friendships, relationships, and marriages.

It's tempting to excuse our own scheming, manipulation, and bad behavior with "but what they did was worse" -- and human nature to reach for easy rationalizations -- but it's destructive. I bet a lot of marriages fail when spouses think this way, kicking off a downward spiral.

The OP probably just needed time to let this settle in, one way or the other. She did nothing wrong. He asked for it, he facilitated it, and he effectively condoned it while it was happening right in front of him. And if afterward, he wanted to put the genie back in the bottle, the right thing to do would be to talk to her frankly. So she understands that he realized he was wrong, that he can't handle it, and it needs to be a one-time thing.

It seems like so many spouses out there need to learn to communicate, not manipulate. We probably all do it to some extent (including me) but manipulation ought not to be our default operating mode.