Looking for ideas/How-tos: How to hide face identity in public

[EliMySexyWife]

My hotwife's friend is asking her to go to public events (Bowling, dances, etc.) together. She likes it but she is worried that some friends, coworkers, or relatives may see them together and as we are not practicing it openly, this would be troublesome for her as she is very conservative contented.

So I assume the main thing it to kind of hide/change/masquarde the face.

Any ideas? Any experience?

[2inUPMichigan]

My response to him would be "No".
I give men a list of the rules they must follow including our boundaries and the fact that discretion and privacy is important. If he now decides that HE is looking for a different style of play (more open and in public) then it may not be a good fit.

The only other option if she wants to let him take control of steering the relationship, is to renegotiate and include a distance clause. In other words, if he needs the put in public kink then she can negotiate only meeting in the next town over so she isn't recognized.
That could be a compromise that might be agreeable.

[EliMySexyWife]

My response to him would be "No".
I give men a list of the rules they must follow including our boundaries and the fact that discretion and privacy is important.

My wife likes to participate in such activities. She likes dancing with him. Her only problem is the discretion which is a must. So if we can find a solution it would be a 'yes' otherwise 'no'.

[skoot1958]

Take the other approach and own it, if you out blowing and someone meet then, just say this is an old friend and hubby could not make it, different if they are holding hand or kissing, then take the approach so I am cheating, cheating is more acceptable that HW

Initial pick events where being with a another man would be some to cover up, like bowling, watching sport, etc

Pick the venue with care, no point in making it 10 mins from where you live, if there is one 30 mins away, social is a great way to make a connection and for her to feel more relaxed with the next step

[leo-cpl]

Out of town would the best solution. I'm guessing this is someone you two like n see something long term? No point is being anxious the whole time and not enjoying the date if this is what she wants and it happens in your local town.
Reckon, some town a couple of hours away over the weekend for the 3 of you would be a good way to explore

[MarknSusan]

IMO the idea that she’s going to try and disguise herself is a little far fetched.

If she wants to go out with the guy just do it, but have no public display of affection. Who cares if someone sees them and they are just bowling together.

We should all be able to enjoy our lifestyle without being judged. For reference, I have been out with other women and my wife has been out with other men and people we knew saw us. We are still here and it didn’t hurt anyone. They can suspect all they want. But they really don’t know.

One more thing about being out of town..we were in a city far away from us and we see the next door neighbors mother (she was very attractive) with a much younger guy and they were all touchy and feely. When we said hello she was kind of surprised and knew she was busted..LOL. So out of town is no guarantee

[Long Lurker 34]

Take the other approach and own it, if you out blowing and someone meet then, just say this is an old friend and hubby could not make it, different if they are holding hand or kissing, then take the approach so I am cheating, cheating is more acceptable that HW

Initial pick events where being with a another man would be some to cover up, like bowling, watching sport, etc

Pick the venue with care, no point in making it 10 mins from where you live, if there is one 30 mins away, social is a great way to make a connection and for her to feel more relaxed with the next step

EMSW - In part, how big is the community you live in? If you are in a large metropolitan city, then 10 minutes from home obviously there is a greater chance of bumping into someone. If they go to the other side of the city, less likely. And of course are the activities they desire to do the same as your other friends and family? I they are another approach to this would be, for them, to search out lesser known or off the beaten track venues. In my city I am constantly amazed to learn about other venues, organizations, events etc that have been around for along time, are well regarded and are generally under the radar. If fact doing this, especially if they really on the longer term GF/BF track, would make the 'finding' of these alternatives more 'their special things', bringing them more together.

[2inUPMichigan]

My response to him would be "No".
I give men a list of the rules they must follow including our boundaries and the fact that discretion and privacy is important.

My wife likes to participate in such activities. She likes dancing with him. Her only problem is the discretion which is a must. So if we can find a solution it would be a 'yes' otherwise 'no'.

I am very careful who I am seen in public with. However when I can trust him to limit PDA then I am ready with an acceptable story that rings true like he is a friend/relative from out of town.
In my case my husband does not like a certain type of food so it is a very easy explanation that our friend came into town and wanted to eat here but hubby didn't want to go and told me to go without him. Even our closest friends would believe that one
Dancing? We planned to go but hubby's back was bothering him and he suggested I go with everyone else and have a good time. Where is everyone else? Gesture vaguely to the other side of the room.
The key is to have several scenarios figured out ahead of time and definitely share them with whoever you are playing with but insist that YOU do all the talking.
Nothing worse than giving yourself away with that guilty deer in headlights look!

[ProfessorH]

If a nearby town is available, that’s your best option. Disguises won’t work; those who know her would see through her efforts and it would confirm suspicions immediately.

One exception of avoiding local is if she were to go to a lifestyle event, where discretion is expected, but still…a bit out of town is best for privacy.

Still…no matter where, if she goes in public with him…have a reason/story at the ready. “Oh, that’s a friend from X years ago, he was in town for a couple of days/we just realized we’re only a few miles from each other and had to catch up, etc” but make certain you and hubby both have the same backstory at the ready.

If you have a talkative community, it may come to him rather than ask you. If he confidently knew about it, brushes it off as nothing…that helps.

[SilverStag]

We only "date" people that we can trust to behave properly in public. Even when my HW and I are out alone, there are no major PDA's because we don't "put on a show". If we can't trust someone when she and he run into friends or family, we don't allow them that level of access.

[wildrollercoaster]

Any ideas? Any experience?

My girlfriend-turned-wife has surprisingly few problems arising from being seen with other admirers in public, because she doesn't act like she's trying to hide something. On occasions when she's accompanied by another man and encounters someone she knows, she doesn't act guilty or shy away, which tends to be very disarming — typically leaving others with doubt that she's up to anything scandalous or dishonest.

[Her number1]

Any ideas? Any experience?

My girlfriend-turned-wife has surprisingly few problems arising from being seen with other admirers in public, because she doesn't act like she's trying to hide something. On occasions when she's accompanied by another man and encounters someone she knows, she doesn't act guilty or shy away, which tends to be very disarming — typically leaving others with doubt that she's up to anything scandalous or dishonest.

This is how Farmgirl does it, and it has worked for years with us being well known living in a small town.
We found out a long time ago that if you act normal, people will see you as normal. When you act suspicous you are seen as suspicous.
There are a hundred believeable reasons to be with another person, and most people won't ask anyway.
Guilt and paranoia are what will ruin your open cover.

[wildrollercoaster]

...if you act normal, people will see you as normal. When you act suspicous you are seen as suspicous.
There are a hundred believeable reasons to be with another person, and most people won't ask anyway.
Guilt and paranoia are what will ruin your open cover.

Well put.

Also, vicarious mystery can be wildly intoxicating — like if she's seen out for breakfast with an intriguing companion, apparently with nothing to hide, while having just spent the night fucking.

[Her number1]

...if you act normal, people will see you as normal. When you act suspicous you are seen as suspicous.
There are a hundred believeable reasons to be with another person, and most people won't ask anyway.
Guilt and paranoia are what will ruin your open cover.

Well put.

Also, vicarious mystery can be wildly intoxicating — like if she's seen out for breakfast with an intriguing companion, apparently with nothing to hide, while having just spent the night fucking.

[Farmgirl]

Also, vicarious mystery can be wildly intoxicating — like if she's seen out for breakfast with an intriguing companion, apparently with nothing to hide, while having just spent the night fucking.

I like your thinking !!

[Farmgirl]

I have no problem with being seen in public, I simply act normal.

[blackmann33]

My POV: Dont do it. Neither me or my wife would be able to explain why she was alone with another guy doing such things, whether an old friend, classmate, cousin, mentor, organ donar, etc. For us, it would NEVER fly if a mutual friend or family member spotted her. If you are in a like situation, don't risk it unless you're ready to accept other's finding out, even if you are in another city.

On the flip side, you all meet together with no PDA and give her some space without "looking" like you are. Just my opinion.

[BrunetteLover]

My wife goes out right in our small Norman Rockwell town with a guy she met as an escort. They are platonic friends now, and I ask her to have him over if I have to go out of town for a night or two for my job.

They are seen here and there, one spot is a popular diner in town where the locals meet to gossip over breakfast and coffee.

They don't hide it, but they don't carry on, either. No outward affection.

I could give a shit who sees them.

[false-abroad]

I don't have much experience in the matter, but I also think that the act natural and don't hide it while avoiding PDA is the best option.

The disguise is something that can be tested. But probably in direct contact it will crumble. A disguise: a wig, glasses if she is not wearing them, wildly different glasses that she would only use at her outing if she does wear them, wildly different make up, wildly different clothes and shoes, that would never be used other than for this outing. That would mean she would have to change and prepare outside of home. What is hard to obscure: her posture, her walk, her gestures and the last, but not least, her voice (which may be not that important if she would be in loud spaces). Make up would have to work in changing the appearance of the shape of her face. Clothes should be different enough to change her posture somewhat. Shoes could be something she generally is not wearing that would make her walk different. Like some flat platform shoes. At the same time her look can't focus too much attention on her. It is rather though to be foolproof.

[snoogaloo82]

My hotwife's friend is asking her to go to public events (Bowling, dances, etc.) together. She likes it but she is worried that some friends, coworkers, or relatives may see them together and as we are not practicing it openly, this would be troublesome for her as she is very conservative contented.

So I assume the main thing it to kind of hide/change/masquarde the face.

Any ideas? Any experience?

i would either have her wear sunglasses if its appropriate, or black out her eyes using a photo editor

[EliMySexyWife]

i would either have her wear sunglasses if its appropriate, or black out her eyes using a photo editor

Any good photo editor to recommend?

[EliMySexyWife]

i would either have her wear sunglasses if its appropriate, or black out her eyes using a photo editor

Any good photo editor to recommend?

[snoogaloo82]

i would either have her wear sunglasses if its appropriate, or black out her eyes using a photo editor

Any good photo editor to recommend?

Are you talking phone or computer?

[2inUPMichigan]

i would either have her wear sunglasses if its appropriate, or black out her eyes using a photo editor

Any good photo editor to recommend?

Are you talking phone or computer?

The OP's question was about how to conceal her identity when she is out in public.
NOT how to conceal her identity in pictures (for which there is already information posted in sticky files in the Hotties forum).

**Please stay on topic***

[wildrollercoaster]

Also, vicarious mystery can be wildly intoxicating — like if she's seen out for breakfast with an intriguing companion, apparently with nothing to hide, while having just spent the night fucking.

I like your thinking !!

That said, there's been a slip or two — like when her lover's neighbour saw them kissing goodbye (deeply) very early one morning.