I first realised I wanted a Hotwife when...

[silkyhw]

We would love to know how others first got into wife-watching/sharing. In our case, it was a letter in Penthouse Forum magazine (see earlier post).

But I also had a friend whose mother had a regular boyfriend. Her husband obviously approved because he used to busy himself in the garden or washing the car whilst they had sex. My family thought she was a slut - but something about it turned me on. Now I know what!

[warmnsalty]

My option wasn't listed. I was a single in the lifestyle and LOVED the MFM dynamic, loved watching a couple fuck and loved having a guy watch me with his wife/gf. Realized very quickly I wasn't going to get into another serious relationship unless I found an open minded girl of my own. I found her, put a ring on it and have been loving sharing her every since.

[wordlover2000]

I blame her (lol). She got into the habit of riding me and fantasizing out loud about other people joining us...sometimes a woman, but usually a man. It started driving me crazy, so one time I just blurted out, "OK, I want to do it for real. I want to watch you suck another guy's cock." She stopped dead in the middle of grinding on me and said, "You're kidding." I assured her I wasn't. We finished fucking and she said, "Let me think about it." It must have been a tough decision (again, lol) because she came back less than 48 hours later and said, "OK, I'm ready." Took only a few weeks after that to locate someone to give her a fabulous first experience.

[Gavriloprincep]

Actually there are other reasons. Many men have the madonna whore complex. They can fuck the whore (the sexual object) but not the madonna (representation of mom). And then abandonment anxiety when the partner splits. I fell into a scenario on vavation where a couple asked me to join them and others to play with wifey. After that i realized that it is possible to have the love object of a relationship (wife/madonna) and the lust object (the whore). A hotwife can be the cure for many a couple where there is loss of lust.

[Mr Stag]

We were just a few weeks into relationship, when my girlfriend told me that she would have to cancel her upcoming get-together with an old boyfriend of hers, as he was untrustworthy—regarding sex. They had broken up five years earlier, but were still good friends. His job was to promote soccer in America and he travelled across the country giving pep talks to soccer clubs and high schools, spreading the message that this was the year that soccer would finally become big. Whenever he traveled to our city, she and he would go out to dinner and a drink in his hotel room. His untrustworthiness came from his always getting into her panties, in spite her always telling him that they shouldn't have sex anymore. I was pissed off to hear this, as I imagined some brute of a man forcing her to have sex. But the more I learned, the better I felt about him; as she described him, he was a super nice, charming guy who never forced any her to do anything.

One example she told me was the time he had agreed not to have any sex with her and when she went off the bathroom, he had pulled down his zipper and pulled out his cock, which he then covered with a pillow. She returned, but she didn't really notice the pillow at first. A few minutes later, she wondered about the pillow, and he told her not to remove it, which made her more curious. She tried removing it, but he wouldn't let her. When she finally pulled the pillow away, exposing his cock, he told her not to touch it. After she touch his cock, he told her not to stroke it, then not to suck it, then not to… You get the idea. I assumed he had a huge, nasty cock, but she told me that he had super friendly looking cock. I couldn't imagine what friendly looked like, but she explained that his cock was fairly long, but slender and blue-vein free and perfectly shaped.

Since it was always her choice to go along with his sexual advances, I couldn't understand why she couldn't just remain resolved not to consent. She explained that she had tried, but that she always succumbed to her desire to have sex with him, so it was best to cancel their get-together.

The more I thought about them fucking, the more I wanted it to happen. While in bed with her, I told her that she should go and that if she didn't or did succumb that would be fine with me. She was startled to hear me say this, but she was also a little thrilled. As we got closer to the special night, the understanding transformed into that I would be most disappointed if she didn't get fucked by him. She understood and agreed.

When she went off to her date, I quickly masturbated, knowing that the sexual tension would rip me apart otherwise. Then, I tried not to think about what they were doing, although I knew my unconscious mind would be thinking of nothing else. When she did arrive back at my place, it was about 11:15 and I was in bed. As she walked in my bedroom, I instantly knew that she had been fucked. She was beaming and giggly. The first thing she said was, "We did it, lots!" I got out bed and helped her undress. I noted that her nipples looked raw and chewed and that everything about her smelled of another man's cock, her mouth, her hair even. When she realized that I planned on eating her and fucking her, she froze up. This possibility never entered her head. She stammered out, "But I thought we would not have sex until tomorrow, after I bathed."

I asked why she thought that and she said to me, "Because I still have his jizz in me."

I placed my hand at her hole, probed, and pulled out a sperm covered finger, which I brought up to my face to smell. She freaked and pulled my hand away, fearing that I might taste it instead; I wouldn't have back then, as that was my first stab at sending a girlfriend off to be fucked someone else. Since I had got her to fuck her old boyfriend and since she was horrified by thought I me getting his cum on my cock or tongue, I decided to give up trying push her too far. I told her that I understood exactly and that I wouldn't fuck her until the next day. I told her to take a fast shower and then join me in bed. When she returned, she told me all the details, while I fingered her to huge orgasm, and I had her give me a quick hand job that took less than minute to get me blow one of the biggest loads of my life, spraying over our heads onto the wall behind my bed. I remember awakening later that night with a huge, painful hard-on, which I took into another room to relieve by myself. The next day, she douched his semen from vagina and we resumed normal sex.

The sad thing is that we broke up before his next-year visit (it was entirely my fault), as it would have been so hot to have a yearly scheduled fuck by another man. After this episode, I mostly treated the event as a weird aberration that would never repeat itself. I was wrong.

[Shadnaster]

I'm glad there was more than one option to choose because it was a lot of things for me.

Early on it was my conservative straight laced GF telling me about the time a guy picked her up in a club. He took her out to his car, fucked her, came in her, then, she went back into the club to clean up.

Also the time she confessed to cheating on me with an ex. I was hurt but so turned on. I didn't even know it was a "thing" at the time.

[excitedPotential7]

Me and my wife have been together for years now despite our young age, both mid twenties, but when we first started going out, I caught her sexting with a much, much older man. It was soo hot because for me, she is a very religious woman that hates talking about many fantasies, especially hotwifing, but for this way older guy she was constantly sending him nudes and saying the most lewd things. I got mad at first but then realized how hot it was and it became a fantasy ever since. There have been other moments that reaffirmed it.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum excitedPotential7. Have you talked to her or mentioned older guys in your fantasy talk? Everyone has a fantasy that may be a little different and hers may be an older man who can teach her STUFF or let her do STUFF that she is too respectfull to do with you.

[Tank Turner]

Welcome to the forum excitedPotential7. Have you talked to her or mentioned older guys in your fantasy talk? Everyone has a fantasy that may be a little different and hers may be an older man who can teach her STUFF or let her do STUFF that she is too respectfull to do with you.

Hi armyguyot1,

My wife and I have always dirty talked during sex. For as long as I can remember, going back to our dating days, she's more often than not fantasized during sex. All of her fantasies involve men, stranger sex, MFM sex, porn starring, and most common female sexual fantasies. She's been hitting her gang bang fantasy most often of late. She's had a gang bang fantasy before I met her that morphed into a desire to try a gang bang. I'm inclined to guess she's more frequently fantasizing about gang bangs because she's in her mid-40s and thinking she's losing her sex appeal. Believe me, she isn't. I've seen her reduce young, confident, military studs to entranced babblers who appeared lost within their minds. When she wants to release her sexuality, no one has been able to resist her.

A few weeks ago, while we were discussing how we could pull off a gang bang, she told me that when she was 19 she fucked a 30 year old man. She found him handsome and intriguing. She was embarrassed as a teenager to be fucking a man who was much older than she was. She kept her relationship with him on the QT for fear of embarrassment and ridicule.

armyguyot1, you were absolutely right. My wife loved fucking him because he was sexually experienced. He gave her her first orgasm from a man. He knew how to use his mouth and tongue on her young clit. Boys of her age did not know how to go down on her. He comforted her and encouraged her to enjoy sex and her sexuality. She wasn't a virgin, yet she wasn't sexually experienced. He taught her to be proud of her body. She didn't have to have sex under sheets and in the dark. He encouraged and comforted her to explore any sex act she desired. He encouraged her to explore his naked body. She did. He knew how to perform oral sex on her causing her to feel intensely euphoric orgasms. She admitted that she used to day dream about him going down on her. She couldn't wait to see him after work. During the couple months they saw each other, it was as his house where they fucked a lot.

She was in constant worry while she was seeing him because she thought that if her friends found out she was fucking a man much older than she was, they would tease and ridicule her.

After they ended their relationship, my wife thought critically about it. She had no reason to worry. Who she had sex with was only her business. She never once felt ashamed about fucking him. She enjoyed sex with him. He taught her a lot about enjoying sex with a man, and sex must be mutually euphoric. She was accustomed to boys her age cumming and leaving her sexually unfulfilled. He encouraged her to shed her shyness about sex and her naked body. Within days, she was completely comfortable being completely naked with him. He gave her confidence to enjoy sex and its pleasure. She vowed to never again allow anyone to prevent her from enjoying sexual euphoria with anyone she wanted to fuck.

It's the feminine version of young men enjoying the sexual knowledge and skills that mature women teach them. You were right, armyguyot1, just as younger men enjoy sexually experienced mature women, many younger women are attracted to sexually experienced mature men.

[excitedPotential7]

Welcome to the forum excitedPotential7. Have you talked to her or mentioned older guys in your fantasy talk? Everyone has a fantasy that may be a little different and hers may be an older man who can teach her STUFF or let her do STUFF that she is too respectfull to do with you.

Thank you! Well when I asked her why she was so horny for this way older guy but not for me, she stated that she was horny for me but that she didn't care about being as nasty as she wanted with him because she wasn't dating him. She also said that to her it felt "gross" to let a dirty old man touch her fit body but that was part of what turned her on.

However, it's been years now and when I bring up what she said she tells me that she was just saying those things and that she didn't mean it.

So I'd say that you were right on the money with your second guess. Maybe

[excitedPotential7]

Welcome to the forum excitedPotential7. Have you talked to her or mentioned older guys in your fantasy talk? Everyone has a fantasy that may be a little different and hers may be an older man who can teach her STUFF or let her do STUFF that she is too respectfull to do with you.

Reposting this since I think my old message didn't make it. To answer your questions, when I had caught her sexting the much older guy (he was in his late 50s, we were in our late teens- very early 20s) I asked her why she was so horny for him and not me. She told me that she was horny for me but that she felt as if she could do and say the nastiest things that she wanted when with him without ruining herself in my eyes.

She also told me, while crying, that she loved the feeling of a dirty old pervert invading her fit body. Ever since then though she has told me numerous times that she didn't mean what she said and that she only wants to be with me sexually.

[armyguyot1]

I have seen marriages break up because the couple was too respectful of each other and wouldn't tell or do their nasty fantasies. They break up and get a boyfriend or girlfriend and then go for all the nasty stuff. In reality both wanted more but were to respectful of one another to admit it. Kind of like the Pina Colada song where both wanted more but were afraid to say so.

[excitedPotential7]

I have seen marriages break up because the couple was too respectful of each other and wouldn't tell or do their nasty fantasies. They break up and get a boyfriend or girlfriend and then go for all the nasty stuff. In reality both wanted more but were to respectful of one another to admit it. Kind of like the Pina Colada song where both wanted more but were afraid to say so.

Yeah, but she insists that she doesnt want anything else and she does seem happy, although I once saw her passionately making out with a coworker of mine but she doesn't know that I saw. I slowly walked away hoping they would fuck but they did not

[silkyhw]

A couple of years after our first experience my wife started seeing a much older married guy. She was 22, he was in his late forties. His wife was overweight and dressed badly but had had several lovers - which, we later learned, he had encouraged. My wife was very pretty, slim and often wore revealing clothes. He also knew - we never discovered how - that we were into wife-sharing.

What my wife commented on was his experience. He really understood how to give her pleasure and, as a result, she did things with him she had never done before. He also had a very thick cock and she never tired of telling me how good it felt. It was a good relationship because he and I shared the same kink and so everything was open between us.

He told my wife that he would like me to have sex with his wife but for logistical reasons it never happened. She had had six children - one by his brother - and I have often fantasised how loose she might have felt. But that's another topic.

The only other thing to add is that my wife grew quite fond of him and, rather unexpectedly, I found this an additional turn-on.

[bonbrulin2022]

I first realised i had a hotwife when she came home from working the midnight shift at a local variety store and told me about this guy that would cum in to the store late at night and browse the porn mags. She told me he seemed to be quite flirty with her. I said, if you want to and he wants, fuck him in the backroom. Well, next time he came in to the store, she did just that, fucked him in the back storage room of the store.{no cameras in the back storage room} I was delighted that she explored her sexuality on her own like that. After we had children and she got snipped, we started on this journey of sharing her. Awesome life that followed, wouldn't change a thing.

[wildrollercoaster]

How it began (how I became this way) -- posted in 2014:
viewtopic.php?p=439659#p439659

[hotfreaks]

When I first started hanging out with my wife, I was her side piece. She had a long term BF. I knew she was still fucking him when she couldn't see me, and the thought drove me wild. I loved it. She ended up breaking up with him and we began dating. 6 months in, I confessed that I knew she had to be fucking him still when I was the side piece, and I told her it turned me on immensely. Shortly after we got into the life and I watched her get fucked by her first bull. That was almost 20 years ago. Since then she has had many more men, and I love it even more now.

[airhorn]

A couple of years after our first experience my wife started seeing a much older married guy. She was 22, he was in his late forties. His wife was overweight and dressed badly but had had several lovers - which, we later learned, he had encouraged. My wife was very pretty, slim and often wore revealing clothes. He also knew - we never discovered how - that we were into wife-sharing.

What my wife commented on was his experience. He really understood how to give her pleasure and, as a result, she did things with him she had never done before. He also had a very thick cock and she never tired of telling me how good it felt. It was a good relationship because he and I shared the same kink and so everything was open between us.

What new things did he introduce her to?

[Cdncuck]

I couldn't answer the poll. My situation wasn't listed. I was 14 when I realized I wanted a hotwife. I had a friend who was 16 and had a car. He was also friends with a guy whose older brother owned a service station.

After five o'clock when the mechanics quit, the owner would let some of the kids use the shop to work on their cars. I would go with my friend and help him and just hang out.

The owner had a wife. She was always dressed to the nines whenever I saw her. She was so hot and pretty she had all us young guys drooling over her. She knew the affect she had on us and would tease us a bit.

As time went by, I found out from my buddy that she was dating guys and her husband knew it. From what I heard the husband wasn't happy about it but he hadn't left. I don't know whether it was turning him on at some level.

There was a pop machine up front. One night in the summer, I went to get a coke. The owner was there and his wife had come in. She told him she needed 200 bucks. I could tell there was some tension between them but they kept talking even though I was there.

He was asking her what she needed the money for. She said you know why. He muttered something but went into the office and came out with the cash. She gave him a peck on the cheek and told him not to wait up. He turned bright red either from anger or embarrassment or both.

Young as I was even I could pick up on what she meant when she told him not to wait up. As she turned to leave she looked me right in the eye. She flashed me a gorgeous smile and winked a she left.

My cock was rock hard and I knew I wanted a woman like that. It took a long time but I finally got the kind of woman I wanted.

[Tank Turner]

A guess based on what my wife has told me and what I've read: most women (50.1%) want to become hot wives.

[wildrollercoaster]

Perhaps my earliest clue was a subconscious consequence of my very attractive and sexual first long-term girlfriend. I was with her in my early 20s, and expected to stay together forever. She went away to college and moved into a house with a female friend and also a male roommate. One night my girlfriend succumbed to lust and fucked him, which led to addictive repeat encounters that I eventually discovered. It was devastating for me and ended our relationship, but also led to wildly provocative visions, in my mind, of her with him -- kissing, slipping out of her panties that I knew so well, mounting him in a graphic 69, riding him...

[Lkncouple]

I saw a video on the internet where a guy filmed a guy fucking his wife. It was the hottest thing I had ever seen. Looking back at it now it pales in comparison to what is available, but it was super hot to me.

Not sure if I am allowed to post a link to it, but here is the video that sent me down this path years ago.
https://xhamster.com/videos/husband-tap ... ked-696857

[silkyhw]

I understand why the video turned you on! The letter I read did it for me - for life!

[FiveInchLullaby]

I said “hearing about old boyfriends”.

Wife and I spent time apart during our years together. One particular time, she got her clit pierced and went on a tear, fucking numerous men, many BBC’s.

I used to get so turned on when I would find 12 packs of Magnum condoms that were almost empty when I would go visit.

She would tell me everything; who they were, how many times they fucked and what started it.

She would meet men out, after work; always shaved legs and cunt, piercing on full display for numerous friends, strangers and everything in between.

During that time, my wife probably fucked at least 50 men, sometimes two at once. Many times, if it was her “safe time”, she would let them fuck her raw. She would actually say, “if you’re clean you can fuck me without a condom” then she would let her lovers fill her goddess hole.

Since then, she has shared all of the yummy details of who came in her and how often. Her one friend probably came in her 10 times. A friend of mine fucked her during this time, too, and she told me that he came in her beautiful brunette pussy.

This is why. She’s still just as delicious but hasn’t fucked anyone since we’ve been married but is definitely open to it!

[SKhw68]

When we were at a resort that had a nude beach. I noticed men checking out my wife and it got me excited. I used to be jealous type but for some reason it still got me excited. My wife liked the attention and we met a lot of nice people.