I thought it couldn't be done

[underthepeach]

My original post is still in the "wanna be" forum. Here is the link to our story: viewtopic.php?f=48&t=64794

You may want to read it before reading this particular post as it'll help a bit with the timeline.

Now that you are caught up my question remains, do certain actions make a wife a hotwife? Does it have to be sex? Personally I don't think so as it is whatever we (my wife and me) make it. Regardless, we are well on the path and it is awesome.

If you read my original post one of the last updates was when she was with Mr. X. They have not met in a few weeks but tonight he asked if he could see her. She decided she wanted to and off she went (SOLO). As stated she always calls me so I can hear whatever is going on. Not only is it a huge turn-on but also to make sure she is safe (she likes that I am listening and could come to her rescue if needed).

I must say, Mr. X has been very patient with her. He has not pushed to do anything more than she is willing to do. Tonight was exceptional. To date, Mr. X has been sort of hands off at her request as she was not ready. That changed tonight. After about ten minutes of chatting my wife took off her pants and asked him if he would like to feel how wet she already was. He jumped at the chance to feel her. His fingers explored her and she let out a pleasant sigh. Next she asked if he wanted to taste her. Mr. X jumped at the opportunity. Keep in mine, this is the first time in 20 years another man has had his face between my wife's legs. It has taken what seems like years to get to this point.

Mr. X buried his face and flicked his tongue in all the right spots all the while running his fingers inside of her. It didn't take long and I heard her scream out "I'm cumming!". She squirted all over his face. Not missing a beat Mr. X continued. He made her cum two more times before moving up to her breasts for air and to give them attention as well. When he lifted himself up his rock hard cock brushed against her wet pussy. She told me she wanted his cock inside her but she was not ready for it (yet).

He played with her about 15 to 20 minutes. After that she began to suck his cock for about 10 minutes. He told her he was close to cumming but wanted to play with her more. She asked if he wanted to fuck her with her vibrator (yup, she brought it with her)? Of course Mr. X was up to the job. As he was fucking her with the toy, he again planted his face down on her. Licking her while fucking her with the toy. This sent her over the edge multiple times with orgasm after orgasm (both squiring and clitoral).

Finally, he was ready for her to get him off. She again sucked him for awhile before jacking him faster and faster. It took him a little while but he finally came while she was giving him a handjob. He told her he didn't want to cum in her mouth during the blowjob since it might make her uncomfortable (speaking of me personally, she's never had a problem with it...but maybe I'm special). They said their goodbyes which doesn't really equate to even small-talk. Honestly, it was, have a little bit of fun and get out.

When she got home I felt her pussy and she was soaked. She told me she needed another shower to wash off. After her shower she told me the entire story and we fucked like rabbits. Honestly, I believe the next meeting it will be very hard for her to say "no". I truly believe she wants it and wants it bad.

We discussed tonight's events and both agreed we need a few days to marinade on our thoughts/feelings. Like many others have stated, this is a process that MUST include great communication. I do have a bit of jealously but at this point it is not too bad (we will see how I feel tomorrow).

Great night all the way around! More to come...

Mrs. Peach: viewtopic.php?f=9&t=64793

[Pufferfish]

Congratulations on beginning your hotwife journey together. Hopefully she has a great many more adventures and fun nights ahead.

[Mywarmwife]

Congrats on the progress and fun. You seem to be very supportive of her and allowing it to go at her pace. Very wise!

I wonder if for their first time a room would be more appropriate.

[KinkyBear]

Congrats! Thanks a great recount of their adventures!

Are they still meeting in the car? I hope you are recording these calls. They will make from great memories for a very long time!

[underthepeach]

Congrats on the progress and fun. You seem to be very supportive of her and allowing it to go at her pace. Very wise!

I wonder if for their first time a room would be more appropriate.

Maybe she'll agree to a room at some point. She knows that makes more sense in the long run. But, I honestly think the car thing makes her feel more comfortable. But last night was really different and apologies for leaving this part out.

We have always watched porn together. I am lucky in that she is very visual like I am and enjoys porn. For years her porn of choice is anything "BANG BUS". I have no idea why she likes that type of porn, but who am I to judge? Last night, she might as well have been in the Bang Bus as she was not in her own vehicle. Mr. X has something much larger for them to play in and it worked to perfection. I suspect she will be in his bang bus again before the end of the week.

We have not said a word about last night's events. I plan to keep my mouth shut and let her focus on her feelings without me asking anything. I know where my feelings are right now! I still woke up beside the most beautiful and sexiest women on this planet.

[MarknSusan]

Nice story. Thank you for sharing that experience!

[Long Lurker 34]

Congrats on the progress and fun. You seem to be very supportive of her and allowing it to go at her pace. Very wise!

I wonder if for their first time a room would be more appropriate.

Maybe she'll agree to a room at some point. She knows that makes more sense in the long run. But, I honestly think the car thing makes her feel more comfortable. But last night was really different and apologies for leaving this part out.

We have always watched porn together. I am lucky in that she is very visual like I am and enjoys porn. For years her porn of choice is anything "BANG BUS". I have no idea why she likes that type of porn, but who am I to judge? Last night, she might as well have been in the Bang Bus as she was not in her own vehicle. Mr. X has something much larger for them to play in and it worked to perfection. I suspect she will be in his bang bus again before the end of the week.

We have not said a word about last night's events. I plan to keep my mouth shut and let her focus on her feelings without me asking anything. I know where my feelings are right now! I still woke up beside the most beautiful and sexiest women on this planet.

UP - In another thread I follow, (LFA), car sex is a bit of a thing and done in public parking its, as best as I can tell. In what sort of location does your wife and her BF get the springs bouncing?

[parklife]

Congrats and hope you continue to be successful with your adventures.

My wife also plays in the car about 90% of the time over the last two years, though they are looking to move indoors. It’s been getting more uncomfortable as they keep their physical relationship moving.

[HusbandBear]

I have read the whole thread (actually both of them) and LOVED it. She is so considerate and careful, she really goes slow as I would like my wife to go.
Communication and you are her first

[HusbandBear]

Question - why did she shower? Is is because she does not like the smell and aftertaste or is it you? OR you would prefer to kiss her, lick and fuck her as she is?

[Des 31]

Congratulations on your and your wife's success. If your wife's journey is like mine, she won't want to quit anytime soon. A satisfying first experience is usually a good sign it will eventually become a normal way of life in the marriage. For us, the reality was far different - but better - than our imaginations before it finally happened.

~ Des

[underthepeach]

Question - why did she shower? Is is because she does not like the smell and aftertaste or is it you? OR you would prefer to kiss her, lick and fuck her as she is?

She needed a shower because she squirted so much. However, it would not have bothered me if she didn't shower. Many times after we have sex and she has had a rather large squirting "session", she showers. I guess she feels dirty.

[airhorn]

Question - why did she shower? Is is because she does not like the smell and aftertaste or is it you? OR you would prefer to kiss her, lick and fuck her as she is?

She needed a shower because she squirted so much. However, it would not have bothered me if she didn't shower. Many times after we have sex and she has had a rather large squirting "session", she showers. I guess she feels dirty.

"Sticky" is an unpleasant feeling, I can understand why she might want a shower.

[Long Lurker 34]

Question - why did she shower? Is is because she does not like the smell and aftertaste or is it you? OR you would prefer to kiss her, lick and fuck her as she is?

She needed a shower because she squirted so much. However, it would not have bothered me if she didn't shower. Many times after we have sex and she has had a rather large squirting "session", she showers. I guess she feels dirty.

UP - Oh, for the love of the car seats.

[underthepeach]

Question - why did she shower? Is is because she does not like the smell and aftertaste or is it you? OR you would prefer to kiss her, lick and fuck her as she is?

She needed a shower because she squirted so much. However, it would not have bothered me if she didn't shower. Many times after we have sex and she has had a rather large squirting "session", she showers. I guess she feels dirty.

UP - Oh, for the love of the car seats.

Oh, she "plans" for such events and even brings her own towel to put under her. That is dedication!!

[Farmgirl]

Question - why did she shower? Is is because she does not like the smell and aftertaste or is it you? OR you would prefer to kiss her, lick and fuck her as she is?

She needed a shower because she squirted so much. However, it would not have bothered me if she didn't shower. Many times after we have sex and she has had a rather large squirting "session", she showers. I guess she feels dirty.

UP - Oh, for the love of the car seats.

Oh, she "plans" for such events and even brings her own towel to put under her. That is dedication!!

Hotwives are like the Marines, Semper Fidelis, and the Coast Guard, Semper Paratus.

[underthepeach]

We had a chance to discuss things after thinking about the previous night's events. I didn't bring up the conversation, she did (which is great).

Maybe some of the wives here can chime in to help me understand.

Mrs. Peach said she enjoyed the other night. However, the enjoyment was limited. I asked her to explain as I'm a dumb Male and cannot decipher the female code. She mentioned some of what she did as being robotic. More specifically the blowjob portion/hand job portion. She says it is almost like she removes her conscious self where her actions are programmed like a robot. The experience only becomes interesting when Mr. X reaches climax. The act of pleasuring him to arrive to that point is like a subroutine in the computer code of "getting someone off". No emotion, no over the top enjoyment other than the moment he cums (she feels accomplishment).

Now, maybe she is being a little selfish when it comes to how she felt when he was playing with her. While still a little "robotic", she enjoyed it. But, the way she described it I found interesting. Even though he made her cum multiple times she said it was not a mental orgasm. Meaning, her body had no choice but to climax but her mind was still somewhere else. That made absolutely zero sense to me but she gave a rather good analogy. She mentioned rape either male or female. The body responds to stimulus even if the mind is frightened or scared and is completely blocking out the event. Of course me being a complete idiot said, "So you're saying it felt good"? -Yes it felt good but when I am with you my mind and body cum together. "Got it". Her second point was her time in Grad School. She had just gotten out of a really bad relationship. She did not want to date anyone. But, she still had needs. She would go out, meet a guy and they would either have sex or at the very least fool around. Afterwards he was forgotten about and never talked to again. She wanted no connection.

Her no connections allowed seems to still hold true when it comes to Mr. X. After they finish their "fun" they may talk for five minutes while getting dressed. Then they part without a hug or a kiss...now that I think about it, they have never kissed. She told me, once she is in the car on the way home, the experience is out of her mind and she can't wait to see me. The only time she really thinks back on it is when I ask. Other than that, the things they did together was nothing more than a college one night stand so to speak.

I know a lot of HOTWIVES want/need a connection. But is the connection more trust than anything? Because that is what Mrs. Peach needs is trust more than anything. If trust exists then she feels much safer. This is why Mr. X has been the only play partner so far. Do other HOTWIVES "hit it and forget it"? Where they too are robotic in some of their actions? Personally, I like that she has a complete disconnect button. But at the same time, my worry is, why do it if you can't be in the moment? While I appreciate her satisfying my kink, my kink is not more important than her comfort and enjoyment. I want her to enjoy all aspects of this lifestyle and if we can't enjoy it 100% together then we need to stop.

Side note: she was horny as HELL yesterday. Crazy horny! Newlywed horny!

[ugcp]

This isn't just a female thing. We all can experience different levels of disassociation (autopilot), especially in high anxiety situations.

It sounds like she was not mentally and emotionally comfortable, keeping her higher mind disconnected from the activity. I can tell you first hand how that decreases enjoyment significantly.

One factor, particularly in hotwifing and cuckolding, can be the feeling of being "watched" (in your/her case, listened to). This can take someone out of the moment significantly, making it much more likely for some degree of disconnect.

I recommend she take time and opportunity to build one on one comfort with any partner she intends to play with so that sexual activity becomes very natural and mutually desired. That may allow her to be 'present', and fully experience things. This might mean you will only get to hear about it after, with no recordings or live observation. Husbands often want this stuff to be all about them, so such a condition may make it less appealing, but not all wives want to put on sexual performances to satisfy the voyeuristic desires of their husband.

[superb101]

This isn't just a female thing. We all can experience different levels of disassociation (autopilot), especially in high anxiety situations.

It sounds like she was not mentally and emotionally comfortable, keeping her higher mind disconnected from the activity. I can tell you first hand how that decreases enjoyment significantly.

One factor, particularly in hotwifing and cuckolding, can be the feeling of being "watched" (in your/her case, listened to). This can take someone out of the moment significantly, making it much more likely for some degree of disconnect.

I recommend she take time and opportunity to build one on one comfort with any partner she intends to play with so that sexual activity becomes very natural and mutually desired. That may allow her to be 'present', and fully experience things. This might mean you will only get to hear about it after, with no recordings or live observation. Husbands often want this stuff to be all about them, so such a condition may make it less appealing, but not all wives want to put on sexual performances to satisfy the voyeuristic desires of their husband.

Exactly. You might try a bit of reverse psychology even. Encourage her to have an evening out either with him, someone new, by herself or with her girlfriends. Her phone stays off. Download an app to keep track of her if safety is a concern. Sort of disconnect from you and encourage her to have some fun. It might take a time or two for her to fully enjoy the freedom. You know her better than anyone, though.

[underthepeach]

This isn't just a female thing. We all can experience different levels of disassociation (autopilot), especially in high anxiety situations.

It sounds like she was not mentally and emotionally comfortable, keeping her higher mind disconnected from the activity. I can tell you first hand how that decreases enjoyment significantly.

One factor, particularly in hotwifing and cuckolding, can be the feeling of being "watched" (in your/her case, listened to). This can take someone out of the moment significantly, making it much more likely for some degree of disconnect.

I recommend she take time and opportunity to build one on one comfort with any partner she intends to play with so that sexual activity becomes very natural and mutually desired. That may allow her to be 'present', and fully experience things. This might mean you will only get to hear about it after, with no recordings or live observation. Husbands often want this stuff to be all about them, so such a condition may make it less appealing, but not all wives want to put on sexual performances to satisfy the voyeuristic desires of their husband.

Outstanding points and I did discuss this in further detail with her. First I asked about me listening. Her response was, "I forget your are listening until I am on my way home. I don't give it a second thought." I believe she was truly honest in her response. I asked her to explain more about her past (in grad school) as it compares to playing with Mr. X. She told me in school she just wanted to have a little fun without the need for emotional involvement on any level. The same seems to hold true for Mr. X. She has zero mental involvement. And even in school she did things with the guys where it too was robotic. Back then she didn't enjoy blowjobs but did it any way. Again, a robotic act that served little to no purpose. Furthermore, she used to not enjoy oral sex given to her. ***This has changed in a huge way since we were wed***

A couple of things I remembered. First, Mr. X is really not the type of guy she would have dated if she were single. While good looking, he's not her type. However, he is very patient, gentle, and safe. He is not "needy" and has a life of his own. Those qualities are a huge plus in her book. He does turn her on. In my opinion she has enjoyed their time together. A time where all they do is play and nothing more.

Mrs Peach has been crazy horny since their last meeting. She's an animal!! Hell, I feel used!

I told her, maybe you enjoyed the other night more than you know thus why you are so horny. She replied, maybe I did. I think she needed to process the other night a little more to realize she did like it and maybe it wasn't as robotic as she thinks it was.

[whosbeensleeping]

I was wondering if that might be the case.

[superb101]

Has she made any plans or said anything about seeing him again? The other night's meet was completely unplanned?

[underthepeach]

Has she made any plans or said anything about seeing him again? The other night's meet was completely unplanned?

The meets are usually unplanned. Sort of spur of the moment type of thing. She likes that because in this case it lends itself to nobody backing out. Although, Mr X at times has asked to meet in an hour or so and she agrees only to not hear a word from him three days later with an excuse. He's not exactly what we would call responsible or considerate. As I said before, he is totally not my wife's type but maybe that is why it works because he is nothing like me. The only reason she has allowed him to hang around is because he is not pushy and is patient with her.

We've not heard from him since the meet-up. Not uncommon for him to go radio silence. Which in my wife's eyes is great because he is not blowing up her phone or needy.

Plan - Meet - Play - Goodbye all within a three hour period.

[underthepeach]

My sexy bride has a "meet" scheduled for tonight. They have been chatting back and forth for what seems like months. Mr. X seems to have "poofed" as we have not heard from him in about a month.

This new guy we will call, "MD".

Before they meet this evening I wanted to throw something interesting into this thread. We were talking and she made the statement "I'm not dating these guys, I have no use in meeting them for lunch or a drink" (HUGE Change from Mr. X). Basically she says she has every intention of playing when she meets but they do have a few minutes to chit chat in person prior to her making the decision to move forward or not.

Next, MD is not that great looking. Honestly, he's out kicked his coverage fooling around with her. I asked about that. She told me, "I don't care, it is just a cock and tongue and that is all I need."

The act of this is robotic to her in that her body enjoys it but her mind is shut-off. To her this is foreplay until she gets home (not that I have to reclaim her...I never lost her) I guess so long as she is comfortable and is safe, I'm thrilled with her decisions and support her 100%.

Lastly, we're going to New Orleans (this weekend). She wants to go to Collette's and possibly find play partners. I have a play partner and it is her. It would be the first time I get to watch if she decides she wants too.

What beast have I unleashed???

[Tank Turner]

Hi underthepeach,

Hot wife is merely a descriptive term. Hot is an adjective for a beautiful and sexy woman. Wife is a noun for a married woman. A woman could be a hot wife of a man who's married to her. We know the term to mean a woman who enjoys sex with men other than her husband.

I do not know how to describe my wife and me. She never fucks without me. Much of her sexuality is MFM sex. Hence, our experiences have always started with MFM sex. She loves to be watched, especially by me. After I cum twice, I usually am ready for a nap. Women gain energy from orgasms. I usually watch her with another man until I fall asleep.

Women flirt as much if not more than men.

Kirk Douglas said that humans were not designed for monogamy.

Many years ago, my wife told me about her girlfriends who had alternative sexual habits. They fucked their husbands and other men. Some of her single friends did MFM sex. My wife assured me with 100% confidence that most women fantasize about stranger sex, multiple men sex, group sex, gang bangs, etc. A substantial percentage of women who fantasize about uninhibited sexuality engage in it. My wife used to have me read her Cosmo articles about women who had sex with more than one man. I didn't realize until a few years later that she was giving me clues to her sexuality and sexual desires.

My wife and I have open and honest conversations about everything including sex. She's 100% comfortable telling me what she's thinking and what she'd like to try.

I always wanted to marry a porn star. I didn't know until years into my marriage that my wish came true.