To Watch or not to Watch?

[daveandjan]

I would have to watch.

[BrunetteLover]

Depends of what you mean by 'watch.' In the room with them? Never.

The only time I have actually seen my wife have sex are times when the 'watching' was incidental to me keeping her safe. Basically standing outside of a room in a private house during a party (with the door open a crack). This is so she does not get treated roughly by a guy she just met AND other guys at the party don't barge in and start a gangbang.

Watching, even glancing in every few moments, can only happen if there is no Reasonable Expectation of Privacy.

I make it clear that if they want to hook up, and he is an un-screened stranger who wants to fuck the stripper, than there are going to be limitations to his privacy. That is the deal.. In return, he gets casual, anonymous sex with a total hottie.

I have told the guys very specifically that 'the door does not close all the way' for her safety. The hotness of the situation always leads to him responding 'yeah, sure, dude, whatever' and off they go.

If he's good with that, game on. If he balks, no deal.

[BrunetteLover]

I would love to watch but my wife don’t want me anywhere near her when she’s with another man. She thinks having a 6’3” muscular black man stare at a guy fucking his little wife might be a little intimidating

I am at least 3 to 4 inches shorter and lighter skinned, but that LE/.mil vibe does not wash out, no matter how many times I do the laundry.

[DedicatedHubby2013]

My wife prefers solo, and I do too, now.
I thought I would enjoy watching, but the one time I did, it ended up being awkward for my wife and awkward for me.

We both end up enjoying the experience more when she goes off on her own, and shares details with me when she gets home. She prefers one on one interaction without distractions. I like the idea of her being a slut and turned on knowing she has been fucked, but I get self conscious and nervous being present while she is fucking someone else.
If she were getting pumped full of a creampie, I would like to be close by to cleanup when they finish, but I would rather give them privacy while they are fucking, and have my turn after.

[Hubby2myHW]

I LOVE watching my sexy wife get a good fucking. Every second, from the make out session, to watching his balls contract as he cums inside her. I especially love watching her cum why riding someone’s dick. My most favorite part is licking the cum from her pussy, so delicious. One time she hovered her cum filled pussy over my face and bounced her ass up and down to get it to drip out, they both laughed at me trying to lap it up as she moved up and down, so hot.I even like to see/hear the post sex pillow talk and play.

Unfortunately, a lot of guys she chats with aren’t into another guy watching them, so there’s not many opportunities.
She has played solo but I get pictures and videos. One time she played solo and I only got freshly fucked pussy pics, I wasn’t very pleased but still jerk off to them thinking about what a naughty wife she was.

Since it’s such a turn off, for many guys to be watched, we are thinking about changing things up and introducing that later.

[bltn1966]

I would love to watch but my wife don’t want me anywhere near her when she’s with another man. She thinks having a 6’3” muscular black man stare at a guy fucking his little wife might be a little intimidating

Yours is a story I would like to hear.

My wife made a video with a young white guy with a lean athletic build. They were very intense and playful with each other. He aggressively switched her from one position to another. I remember him standing her up against a wall and fucking her from behind. My wife really enjoyed it. A few weeks later all three of us went to a hotel. He was very very gentle with my wife. He kept looking at me for approval.

First time he was with her he roughly fucked her from behind. When my wife had an orgasm and collapsed onto her stomach he kept fucked her in the prone position. Now my wife is pushing him off of her so she can get on all four. Basically she was taking the lead. The guy is slow and dispassionate while keeping a close eye on me. My wife is encouraging him to fuck her harder by pushing herself back against him. I have to admit it was hot watching nft wife make herself cum when pushing back against the guy as he stood there. He really was a living and breathing dildo for her. Afterwards she blamed me being there for the guys terrible performance.

[sw6]

I wanted only MFM or watching when I started with my ex. She realized it was too much for her and she only wanted to pay attention to one guy. So i got to reclaim and she decided to allow me to be with others. Which I still didn't enjoy nearly as much as her being with guys and hearing all about it.

[manmuscle]

The hot GF loves to be watched, put on a show and turn men on, especially me. We have done the MFM and she loves all that attention as well. Her bull kept texting her about wanting her to himself. I thought it would be hot. She played solo but missed being the center of attention and turning me on. Next solo play date, I hid in the closet. She knew, he did not. She said it turned her on so much to be watched and put on a show that turned me on.

It was funny when he was done and I was hiding, he was hanging out and wanting to cuddle/chat while she was trying to get rid of him. She loves to give me creampie and be be reclaimed. Once he finally left, it was some pretty hot sex.

We went to a sex party once. Got her all dressed up in hot school girl outfit. She LOVED all the attention and turning men and women on. The only time she played with a woman was at that party. Later, she told me it was hot to be watched and turn on so many men.

Before all of this, she was a really conservative woman that never played at all. Her exhibitionist side is substantially more than I ever anticipated.

[zorro]

I participate, and my wife prefers it that way. She enjoys the attention and physical stimulation of two men (and cocks) -- and historically more than 2. We have tried her doing 1:1, with mixed results: She thought her lover might have felt freer to let go and be more passionate, but she found it lonelier and asked me to be present. Our long-term guy also prefers threesomes, so at this time we are 100% threesomes. I prefer threesomes as well: Watching her take and orgasm with another cock is sublime. Kissing her while she is orgasming with another man's cock is very erotic. I can get something with the 1-1s, but it doesn't compare to being there and getting my cock into the action or, on special occasions, into the silky seconds.

Our current guy also has a fun response I like to watch from the doorway: When I step out of the room for a few minutes for water, etc, he has a sneaky little fucker response and likes to climb on her to fuck her missionary position. It seems to heighten his lust. I call it chimpanzee sex. Fun to watch and very predictable.

You know, it might be revealing for the OP to set up a poll with choices of: watch, not be present, and participate. I am a bit surprised how many husbands don't want to watch.

[ProfessorH]

I’d love to watch, but so far MH has been solo.

She feels like it’s less a performance for an audience and simply being there. But the conversation has happened very recently about in-the-room possibilities on the horizon, so we’ll see where that goes.

[Pufferfish]

I’d love to watch, but so far MH has been solo.

She feels like it’s less a performance for an audience and simply being there. But the conversation has happened very recently about in-the-room possibilities on the horizon, so we’ll see where that goes.

That's good. I feel it's a conversation that needs to happen early on in the hotwifing lifestyle as well as trying things slightly outside her comfort zone. Otherwise she will become quite comfortable being solo and the desire to change anything about it will likely not happen. She may find out that she prefers the experience and attention to not being there as mine did.

[Curioushubby99]

When we first stated playing with others not only did I absolutely have to be there but I also had to be involved, ie a conventioal threesome. As we progressed I learnt that I quite enjoyed taking a break and simply watching for a bit, realising that you could observe so much more. It wasn't much longer before I was comfortable about giving them some alone time if the guy was a newbie and a bit shy.

Then one night after a threesome with her favourite fwb who she hadn't seen for a while she simply said you can have me anytime so tonight you can sleep in the guest bed. I laid awake most of the night listening to the sounds of them fucking, I was extremely hard and horny. I soon found myself encouraging her to have solo sessions with her men. So basically I now enjoy all scenarios, watching, joining in, listening from another room or over the phone, or hearing about it later.

[SRKnight]

Over 10 years and we both prefer her playing alone and telling me later.

Not right or wrong…just different from many others.

[Tank Turner]

And there is no way any videos or pics taken while the wife is solo can compare to the pics and videos I can take while in the room with them.

^^^I completely agree^^^

I'll always ask for a guy's permission before videoing him and my wife. I have never broken a promise to never reveal a man's identity. It's not an issue because I video guys fucking her or my wife sucking their cocks.

[Tank Turner]

Over 10 years and we both prefer her playing alone and telling me later.

Not right or wrong…just different from many others.

No. It's right for you guys. People should do what's right for them.

[Tank Turner]

The hot GF loves to be watched, put on a show and turn men on, especially me. We have done the MFM and she loves all that attention as well. Her bull kept texting her about wanting her to himself. I thought it would be hot. She played solo but missed being the center of attention and turning me on. Next solo play date, I hid in the closet. She knew, he did not. She said it turned her on so much to be watched and put on a show that turned me on.

It was funny when he was done and I was hiding, he was hanging out and wanting to cuddle/chat while she was trying to get rid of him. She loves to give me creampie and be be reclaimed. Once he finally left, it was some pretty hot sex.

We went to a sex party once. Got her all dressed up in hot school girl outfit. She LOVED all the attention and turning men and women on. The only time she played with a woman was at that party. Later, she told me it was hot to be watched and turn on so many men.

Before all of this, she was a really conservative woman that never played at all. Her exhibitionist side is substantially more than I ever anticipated.

My wife loves to be watched. She always has. It's a normal female fantasy.

My wife has a huge porn star fantasy. She loves to perform for the benefit of men's sexual pleasure. It turns her on knowing that she turns on men. When I'm videoing her, she'll perform like a porn star.

When she's getting worked, she'll look at me to make sure I'm watching.

My wife and I are straight. Men shoot money shots and she takes them. After guys shoot money shots on her body, she'll wash them off before resuming. She keeps baby wipes on her nightstand.

My wife has a conservative professional appearance. When she's out for fun, she loves to attract men's attention.

[Tank Turner]

I participate, and my wife prefers it that way. She enjoys the attention and physical stimulation of two men (and cocks) -- and historically more than 2. We have tried her doing 1:1, with mixed results: She thought her lover might have felt freer to let go and be more passionate, but she found it lonelier and asked me to be present. Our long-term guy also prefers threesomes, so at this time we are 100% threesomes. I prefer threesomes as well: Watching her take and orgasm with another cock is sublime. Kissing her while she is orgasming with another man's cock is very erotic. I can get something with the 1-1s, but it doesn't compare to being there and getting my cock into the action or, on special occasions, into the silky seconds.

Our current guy also has a fun response I like to watch from the doorway: When I step out of the room for a few minutes for water, etc, he has a sneaky little fucker response and likes to climb on her to fuck her missionary position. It seems to heighten his lust. I call it chimpanzee sex. Fun to watch and very predictable.

You know, it might be revealing for the OP to set up a poll with choices of: watch, not be present, and participate. I am a bit surprised how many husbands don't want to watch.

Your wife and you sound like my wife and me. My wife wants me involved. She's most comfortable knowing I'm next to her to protect her should a guy go sideways. My wife loves MFM sex.

I doubt that there is a man alive who could match my wife's libido. After I get two money shots, she's warming up for hard core sex. I'll watch her enjoying herself while I'll fall asleep.

[SKhw68]

I have watched, joined in, and not been there. All three provide a different experiences for me. Joining in on the fun has the least angst for me, and of course not being there is the most. I must admit I also enjoy not being there and having her tell me what happened in her words. It also depends on if this is the first time she is with a man or has she played with him before. I can't say I like one experience more than the others. There all good just different in my opinion.

[funkyfitter]

What I get to do is totally up to my wife. Sometimes her man isn't into me watching so that factors in. I've watched, listened from outside the other room and sat alone at home wondering. Every scenario excites me, but like I said, it's totally up to her what my participation and limits are.

[Mgcouplemn]

Wife and I started swinging prior to getting married, we even met at a swingers party. We each were there with someone else, I was there with Kim. Laurie caught my eye right away and even when I was having sex Kim and then with someone else's partner, I couldn't keep from watching Laurie. after being with Kim and then two other women I had my time with Laurie, it was good. as the night went on Laurie must have been with 4 or 5 more partners. At the end of the party Kim rejoined me and Laurie's date was wasted. Laurie asked for a volunteer to lick her pussy so she could get off, I raised my hand and Kim smiled and pushed me toward Laurie, she had me lay on my back and she straddled my mouth, just before she lowered her pussy onto my mouth I saw Laurie and Kim kissing above me. I licked and Laurie orgasmed on my tongue, Kim was stroking me and I came too.

At a later time I met up with Laurie and we talked about how hard it was getting to find a partner to go to the parties with, told her the same, problem solved. The two of us had lots of sex and found we both loved things like voyeurism, exhibitionism, masturbation, and other crazy things. We still dated others but it soon turned into things like Laurie wanting me to watch her fuck her date from the closet, she did the same when I dated. We started to be a couple way back then and we made a pact that we would always watch the other having sex. about 10 years ago it turned out that I wasn't so interested in sex with others anymore, I just wanted to watch her. When either of us makes the arrangement for some to have sex with her part of it is that they know I will be in the room watching and masturbating, some don't agree to it and then we move on. In 40+ years I have always watched Laurie having sex, still excites me immensely.

[itsmagic1954]

In the development of our fantasy, my wife learned that I was most aroused by hearing about her experiences. She enjoyed sharing them with me. The fantasy grew to “what if” scenarios that typically would occur when she was travelling or out with a girlfriend at a bar.

When she finally took the leap while out dancing and drinking with a girlfriend, she told me about their adventures in the wee hours of the morning when she got home. She knew how hot I would get. My imagination filled in the glorious details.

[DavaoMike]

My wife’s boyfriend, Adam, lives with us. The background on our situation is in my signature link below.

My wife, Maricel, most often makes love with Adam in his bedroom, but he often comes to our master bedroom to make love with her there, while I’m in the bed. Sometimes, the three of us take vacations together and share a hotel room.

It’s kind of an unwritten understanding that I don’t just stare directly at them while they’re at it. I will typically roll over with my back to them, or sometimes lay on my back. I can usually catch glimpses out of the corner of my eye, and always hear them in their passionate lovemaking. Adam has no desire to be present when I reconnect with Maricel, occasionally having sloppy seconds or licking her sloppy pussy, so he’ll leave our room after they finish.

[BT2]

The same as others who have posted, I like it both ways. I love watching her "in action". I get a particular turn on when I can get up close and watch his cock enter her, then watch them fuck. But I also love sharing a drink with her when she has finished a date, and she tells me what happened, and particularly what she was feeling, what she anticipated, what it felt like, etc., all things which turn me on but which I can't tell from watching.

Her preference seems to differ depending on the guy and the circumstance. There are times though that I know she'd prefer complete privacy, including not telling me afterwards, so they can enjoy each other without concern for me or my feelings.

[hattersfan]

My (now ex) wife Heather had an ongoing relationship with her older boss - Roy- before, during and after our marriage. I was never fortunate enough to watch them having sex together, although I saw them plenty of times holding hands, kissing, and as you Americans would say ‘making out’.

The only time I ever came near to watch them fucking was when I was due to collect Heather from Roy’s house after her overnight session with him. I was waiting in the car outside the house when she texted me to come in and sit downstairs as ‘Roy can manage another shag this morning’. I sat downstairs and could hear them loud and clear, and he was certainly making more noise than she ever did with me in bed. It took Roy sone time to cum later told me it was the fifth time that they had had sex less than 18 hours. Even at my brief sexual peak, I could never manage more than two good erections in that time. (A severe congenital heart condition and diabetes means Viagra etc was never an option for me).

Heather had gone for a shower, and Roy came downstairs in his dressing gown, with what I can only describe as a world beating shit, eating grin. He shook my hand and grinned saying ‘thanks fella. It’s not every man that would lend his wife like that.

[Harold 1Lulu23]

I love to watch my wife with other men. The more the merrier and the wilder the better.