A question for the guys

[ucaneffher]

To be honest, I'm a very conflicted and indecisive cuck. I absolutely love both. Back in our late teens and early 20s my girlfriend was on rotation for a good dozen men in which she really let go and allowed herself to be their slut cum dumpster whenever they wanted sex. My girlfriend was always available and was the one who would give herself however they wanted her whether on the hood of a car, on a stairwell of a high rise, on the driver's seat while parked on the shoulder of a busy highway, or on the sand at the beach, you name it and another man had my girlfriend like that by or before she turned 22.

Having mentioned the aggressive and crazy slutty sex, she also had her fair share of intimate and passionate sex with few of the guys who were lucky to claim my gf as their girlfriend publicly. I learned that my girlfriend transitioned from fucking to actually making love to her boyfriend at around age of 22-23 and i was jealous as hell but loved hearing her tell me that she would beg him to cum as they kissed and expressed their love. It reached a point where she was only making love to her boyfriend.

Today, i love both but I can't decide which i prefer. Some days i wish that my girl friend found a man who she found interesting enough to fall for him and just be a full time couple with him long term while having a secret agreement that i am just the friend. But then I want to be the boyfriend and desire to see her going out and going full slut mode with several guys per outing and several outings per week. Why is this so difficult for me??

[lickitysplit]

As a part time low milage "other guy" all the couples I have been with enjoyed #3

[felixNZ]

I voted for "Treat her like a piece of meat and turn her into a slut". I need to add that I find it really triggers my emotional arousal though when there is obviously romantic chemistry, and a man kisses her passionately. This happened the very first time my fiancee cuckolded me, the kissing was prolonged and very passionate.
However, when a man treats her like a slut and takes what he wants, that is when she becomes HIGHLY aroused. First time I saw her drop her inhibitions was with a man in the back seat of my car, as I drove. We had met him on a dating site, and arranged to meet in a pub. Despite her saying that she didn't have chemistry with him (he had the balls to ask her, and when she told him she wasn't sure if she felt chemistry, he told her that he was going to fuck her), by the 2nd glass of wine she was pulling up her t-shirt (no bra) and showing him her tits (at huge risk of others seeing), and he told me after that she was feeling his 9" cock at the same time. He had got an uber to meet us, and since he lived more of less on our route home I offered him a lift home. He told my fiancee he wanted her to join him in the back seat ... and as I drove off he already had her t-shirt off. By the time I stopped at a traffic light, and sneaked a look, she was astride him facing him, and pushing her pussy down onto his 9" cock as hard as she could.
I have NEVER seen her slutty like this before ... and while she likes passion and feelings, it is a man taking charge that really does it for her.

[Izzy2]

I just want my wife to have sex that is good for her I have no insecurities I like to see her lose her self in the experiences both when I am there and when she plays solo

[Sexilexi]

If I were a guy who was into sharing I would just want her to get fucked the way she desires to get fucked.

[isinlarsa]

I voted for "Treat her like a piece of meat and turn her into a slut". I need to add that I find it really triggers my emotional arousal though when there is obviously romantic chemistry, and a man kisses her passionately. This happened the very first time my fiancee cuckolded me, the kissing was prolonged and very passionate.
However, when a man treats her like a slut and takes what he wants, that is when she becomes HIGHLY aroused. First time I saw her drop her inhibitions was with a man in the back seat of my car, as I drove. We had met him on a dating site, and arranged to meet in a pub. Despite her saying that she didn't have chemistry with him (he had the balls to ask her, and when she told him she wasn't sure if she felt chemistry, he told her that he was going to fuck her), by the 2nd glass of wine she was pulling up her t-shirt (no bra) and showing him her tits (at huge risk of others seeing), and he told me after that she was feeling his 9" cock at the same time. He had got an uber to meet us, and since he lived more of less on our route home I offered him a lift home. He told my fiancee he wanted her to join him in the back seat ... and as I drove off he already had her t-shirt off. By the time I stopped at a traffic light, and sneaked a look, she was astride him facing him, and pushing her pussy down onto his 9" cock as hard as she could.
I have NEVER seen her slutty like this before ... and while she likes passion and feelings, it is a man taking charge that really does it for her.

That was the way it was with my girlfriend. After several years of a very loving sex life with me, she said she wanted to see other men. It turned out her idea of seeing other men was to get fucked senseless. She really "pushed the envelope" sexually, and was the most excited when being fucked like piece of meat; which was the opposite of our sex life. I got to watch her taken a couple of times, and I must admit is was ultra exciting to see her reduced to a bitch in heat.

[Pufferfish]

If I were a guy who was into sharing I would just want her to get fucked the way she desires to get fucked.

And she does. As well as she should. But this is about the husband's preference of what he prefers to see, and we're allowed to have our own individual preferences too.

[Parsifal]

If I were a guy who was into sharing I would just want her to get fucked the way she desires to get fucked.

And she does. As well as she should. But this is about the husband's preference of what he prefers to see, and we're allowed to have our own individual preferences too.

Bravo. There are quite a few guys posting here who are precisely the guy sexilexi would be (were she a guy). I can't be that kind of guy, and if I tried to just do the free-range kind of thing with my wife I wouldn't be as satisfied by it. I would feel somewhat abandoned and disconnected to just open the door to her and say honey, have fun.

This isn't to say I don't allow her a lot of the freedoms she very much enjoys, and part of the compromise is to give her a lot more autonomy than I would prefer if it were all about me. But by the same token, it's not all about her either. We are married. A hotwife is a wife. So I do have a say in how she plays and sometimes I set boundaries or design a situation or role for her that is particularly inspiring for how I want to enjoy her afterward. She likes it that way too because she wants me to be happy with out arrangements.

[Sexilexi]

The key I was trying to pinpoint here is that this lifestyle takes “two” to come to an agreement on how to proceed.

Yes absolutely the husband/bf has every right in what he would like to see and yes the wife/gf has every right in how she prefers to be fucked.

Just come to an agreement together based on the preferences and know it takes a lot of trial and error.

After all she’s the one getting fucked….

I guess I just put my two cents in because reality hits. And every couple’s dynamic is different. Some wives enjoy being told what to do, some wives don’t enjoy that. Etc…

For instance: my husband, d_lited, dreamed of me sleeping with other men for over a decade before he told me. And he had every idea he wanted to try and do and etc… but when it came time for me to agree to this LS, he realized that his way of doing this never included what I would actually enjoy doing.

So lots of trial and error and lots of topics of discussion and lots of compromises and agreements have led us to where we are now.

-Lexi

[Sexilexi]

To be honest it’s a fun post and my original comment was just for fun lol

Made me think “if I had a hotwife how would I handle it…”

I wasn’t really pointing a finger at any men here. Honest.

-Lexi

[Parsifal]

To be honest it’s a fun post and my original comment was just for fun lol

Made me think “if I had a hotwife how would I handle it…”

I wasn’t really pointing a finger at any men here. Honest.

-Lexi

I liked your comment and perspective, which is something I project in reverse. I ask, what does my wife expect of me - what does she feel I should want for her, what does she think I do want for her? I do want to meet her expectations, so understanding what she may expect of me is something I need to process. In the end, it's not always possible for me to want exactly what she wants for herself, but often it's possible for us both to find a synthesis of our common desires that works even better for both of us for the simple reason that we're happiest when what we do pleases both of us and neither is "taking one for the team." As I said, I recognize and do respect the guys who are so subsumed in their wives' pleasure that any limitations on her freedom would dilute the joy he derives from it. I just can't be that selfless

[RobittusinUK]

To be honest, so long as she's fucked I'm happy. I say that because my wife can be fussy and if a guy doesn't appeal, he gets nothing. I do like her having the 'girlfriend experience' with passion and sensuality. However most don't know that I know. They think she's a cheating wife and she says she gets fucked harder because they think she being a slut behind my back.

One aspect that always interests me. I'm incredibly proud of her and really want to shout about it from the rooftops. Once, after she'd spent a night with a fwb, she met me in a coffee shop. As she greeted me with a kiss, she whispered: "I was busy thirty minutes ago." I asked: "Does that mean ...?" She nodded with a naughty smile. I really wanted to jump on the table and address everyone in the cafe: "This is my wife. She was fucked by another man half-an-hour ago and his spunk is still in her. How magnificent is that?"

Instead, I bought her a coffee, drank my tea and we chatted lovingly about everything except the subject I most wanted to discuss (that happened later).

[2inUPMichigan]

I'm honestly curious about something after reading this thread.

From a man's perspective, are there only two options either romantic sex or being treated like a piece of meat?

[leggysman]

There's also "Mix of both of the above" which to me includes any ratio in between.

Personally, I just want leggysandy to get laid in a way that excites her, which in turn excites me.

She does most often seem to lean towards the getting fucked like a slut option whereas what we do together at home leans a bit more the other way, the majority of the time.

[DedicatedHubby2013]

I want my wife to enjoy herself, and she likes to be treated with respect and she likes having some kind of chemistry or connection with the guy before she has sex with them.
She is not interested in anonymous sexual flings. She wants to get to know someone and form a connection with them before fucking. She also likes hearing from the guys afterwards for feedback that they had a good time.
So definitely not just a piece of meat. She is a slut, but don't treat her like one, or you won't be getting in her pants.

[Her number1]

I'm honestly curious about something after reading this thread.

From a man's perspective, are there only two options either romantic sex or being treated like a piece of meat?

For me, not at all. And, I believe it changes for her all along whatever spectrum she desires inside each encounter.

[Janes Husband]

For me it is difficult to answer. There's been jealousy with one and worry with another. She's always had a mix of both so it's going to have to be a mix of both on the condition they are both safe in their own way.

[Tank Turner]

I just want my wife to have sex that is good for her I have no insecurities I like to see her lose her self in the experiences both when I am there and when she plays solo

You're a good man who obviously loves your wife. I completely agree with you. My wife's euphoria and pleasure are most important to me.

My wife is sexually submissive, yet she'll tell men to fuck her hard and rough. My wife is not into Harlequin sex. She wants to be porn starred. She knows that I will not tolerate anyone disrespecting her.

I'm good with anything another man does with my wife as long as he does it respectfully. I respectfully porn star the hell out of my wife. Other men must respect her while they're porn starring her.

[Tank Turner]

I'm honestly curious about something after reading this thread.

From a man's perspective, are there only two options either romantic sex or being treated like a piece of meat?

I'd hope men know that most women love hard and rough sex performed with respect. My wife and are good with dirty talk. Neither of us will tolerate degrading remarks.

I've never in my life considered a human being to be a piece of meat.

[Tank Turner]

The key I was trying to pinpoint here is that this lifestyle takes “two” to come to an agreement on how to proceed.

Yes absolutely the husband/bf has every right in what he would like to see and yes the wife/gf has every right in how she prefers to be fucked.

Just come to an agreement together based on the preferences and know it takes a lot of trial and error.

After all she’s the one getting fucked….

I guess I just put my two cents in because reality hits. And every couple’s dynamic is different. Some wives enjoy being told what to do, some wives don’t enjoy that. Etc…

For instance: my husband, d_lited, dreamed of me sleeping with other men for over a decade before he told me. And he had every idea he wanted to try and do and etc… but when it came time for me to agree to this LS, he realized that his way of doing this never included what I would actually enjoy doing.

So lots of trial and error and lots of topics of discussion and lots of compromises and agreements have led us to where we are now.

-Lexi

Hi Lexi,

Most women are sexually submissive. I can't remember being with a woman who wasn't. It's women's nature to be sexually submissive. I know that they're exceptions. Sexually submissive does not mean a woman's sexual desires are ignored. To the contrary, mature men know that a woman should experience intense sexual euphoria until she's exhausted and requires rest before he thinks about himself.

Communication is necessary for bedroom euphoria. Men and women, especially mature men and women, must feel completely secure engaging in open, honest, and, above all, nonjudgmental communication. My wife and I have always been able to communicate honestly about sex. I want to write that we did the first time we had sex, but I can't remember. I do remember the first time. She got on her hands and knees and asked me to do it from behind. Within a week she'd tell me to fuck her hard doggie.

After women are floating of atop rose pedals of sexual euphoria, they should feel completely secure telling men how they want to be fucked.

Young, sexually inexperienced studs my wife fucked seemed too intimidated to porn star her. She's had to reassure many of them that they had to be sexually assertive.

I love watching my wife basking in a glow of intense sexual euphoria. I almost always go down on her because I know how she loves oral sex. I love watching her enjoying herself with other men. She knows that I love watching her giving blowjobs because she immerses herself in the art of giving head. She's given blowjobs to guys for my pleasure. I've told her time-and-time again that while I've appreciated watching her perform her skills on men, I want her to enjoy the pleasure of sexual euphoria for herself, not to entertain me.

A woman's sexual desires must always precede a man's sexual desires. After my wife has orgasmed to exhaustion, she will submit to any sex act that's not degrading. A wise man will ask a woman in what position she wants to be fucked and how she wants to be fucked before his cock gets near her pussy. 10 times out of nine, women will get on their hands and knees or a version of doggie such as bent over a bed. It's easy for women to rub out orgasms while they're taking deep doggie penetration.

[Suchagoodgirl]

In our experience it's really just about what the 2 of them are feeling in the moment. My wife prefers pounding hard sex in general so that's what happens most of the time. It's really up to the 2 of them and not about what I want because I'm not there. As long as I get hot reclaiming sex after then I'm happy.

[marriedman50]

As a wannabe I can't yet speak from experience, but whenever I fantasize about my wife being with another man it is always about her having hot, passionate and sensual sex and lovemaking like they are lovers, not him treating her as a slut. I want to see her re+live the kind of pleasure and excitement you feel at the beginning of a relationship when everything's new and you just want to be naked with each other and explore each other's bodies without inhibitions.

[SammySigns]

Definitely love seeing her get used like a piece of meat. Swallow some random guy's cum like a slut, then come home and make love.

[SoCalOHWFan]

… I want to see her re+live the kind of pleasure and excitement you feel at the beginning of a relationship when everything's new and you just want to be naked with each other and explore each other's bodies without inhibitions.

Well said!

[warmnsalty]

When I fuck Mrs it's more slow and loving, 90% of the time it's making love, regardless of how we started. When she meets up with a guy or we do a threesome she gets fucked. She loves a good pounding - best of both worlds I get to make love to my wife and my wife gets to fuck her brains out with others.