Fun little update, nothing terribly interesting but kinda cool.
We've had several more conversations regarding my openness to her exploring outside in the last year and honestly I can tell she is warming to the idea. I straight up told her I want to get her laid or have an MMF threesome with her and why, and she hasn't tossed the idea out. At this point it's in her back pocket and I can see she just likes having it there.
Last summer she made out with a chick at a bar (she initiated it) that we had met during some live music. I know that doesn't have much relevance here but it's still pretty awesome, and a big step for her.
She went out for an overnight trip this weekend with her girlfriends where she actually bumped into the guy from the my first post on this thread. She told me she is still crushing on him a bit, even though they haven't interacted in 3 years
. She went up to get him to dance with her but he only briefly danced with her because his girlfriend was with him. I told her she probably needs a new "crush," and she agreed lol.
Anyways, she often makes friends when she's out dancing with her girlfriends, and after that she started dancing with this 23 year old guy and she told me how she was telling him how much I love it when she goes out with her girlfriends and dances with guys. So she tells me he goes in for a kiss and she let's him. They kiss and make out a bit multiple times, and she's bragging to her friends later that she can't wait to tell me all about it.
I told her how hot that is and that I'm pretty stoked that she had a good time. She wasn't really into the guy so she felt like it was harmless, is how she explained to me. She told me that she would feel that she would be betraying me if she kissed a guy she was into or had a crush on, and that this was completely different.
I told her that I get where she's coming from with that sort of reasoning, but I told her how I feel crushes are natural whether you're married or not, and that if she had gotten to enjoy a nice kiss with the first guy she was super into, I wouldn't have felt any different, because we're solid and I know she's coming home to me and I get to hear all about it.
She said, "you know, I believe you." She went on to say how she feels so lucky to be married to me because I'm not jealous or insecure about that sort of thing. I asked her if she gets freaked out about how I think it's hot when she get attention or kisses other guys. She said "at first" meaning a couple years ago, but that she's used to it now and gets me, and can see that I'm truly not jealous and that my enjoyment of that scenario doesn't come with a catch or anything.
I'm really looking forward to this next year, she will no longer be at her stressful job, (i make significantly more money now than I did a few years ago, and we agreed quitting her FT stressful job would be best for our family) will have more time to spend in the gym and feel good and confident about herself, and that is really when he fun side has a chance to blossom.
TLDR she finally made out with another guy at a bar and had fun doing it
. She went up to get him to dance with her but he only briefly danced with her because his girlfriend was with him. I told her she probably needs a new "crush," and she agreed lol.
