mrs_reese wrote:Dave,
Good questions! I’ll try to answer.
Mr Reese loves the rush. I love watching my man go crazy over me/
Once those feelings change for either of us, I’ll end things!
But you already know this about me! Right?
Mr Reese’s only request moving forward is no more cuckolding.
He’s not really into some of the things I made him experiment with.
He actually was resentful of a lot of things I suggested.
Some of the issues that made us stop involved too much suggestive cuckold play that I suggested.
I too dealt with silent issues that made me suggest so many things that my hubby learned to resent.
Honestly, I didn’t like the path we were on with many encounters, as I became confused and felt trapped by hubbys influence that led me down the path of extreme cuckold play, or other areas of play that was at times only happening because of my confusion from hubbys willingness to give me up to other men!
What do I want now?
I’m not sure!
I don’t need any of the men I met over the years!
Men always talk of their past adventures and mention how they don’t need anymore of that fun!
I also don’t need a young stud anymore!
I need something unique!
Older is intriguing- but I also have a sexy older man in my life as my hubby.
Thank you, Mrs. Reese. Your words ring very true. I don't blame Mr. Reese for not wanting cuckolding anymore. My wife got the inspiration to try that with me (an Alpha male--I prefer the term 'Leader' or Dominant male) from this thread. While I tried my best, it's just not who I am. I could not do the things your husband did, so the "cuckolding experiment" ended. I have nothing against cuckolding and those who practice it. In fact, cuckolding fascinates me. It's very erotic, but being so doesn't mean it's right for everyone. I believe like Samanthaman has written that being a cuckold might be a sexual orientation to which some people are predisposed. Of course, that might be overly simplistic, so I'll leave it at that.
I have to write that towards the end of your time online before--and perhaps I'm reading too much between the lines--Mr. Reese sounded very sad and almost resigned to certain aspects of your lifestyle. I'm heartened that he is willing to try hotwifing again.
To that end, I suggest the obvious: Do as you have done in the past. Only this time, do it in baby steps. Flirt in your favorite martini bar, club, hotel or restaurant bar. Take your time. There's no need to dive in with both feet. Figure out what both of you want in a hotwife partner by testing the waters. I'm certain that you will be able to attract many men as you have in the past!
Once you have found that match, be upfront with them (at least for the first couple of partners), and enjoy yourselves openly and honestly with that person(s).
I think one thing to avoid is the Fantasy to Reality conumdrum. In the past you and your husband wrote about your adventures as fantasies. While that worked for every encounter at first--perhaps as a justification for what both of you were doing--in the end, the reality of what you did came crashing down around both of you, perhaps resulting in the resentment and discord you mentioned. While I'm not one to give advice, I do offer what I have written and will write as an opinion: Keep things honest and realize once the fantasy becomes realized, it's real and treat it as such.
This is in no way an indictment of the way you did things. It was incredibly hot and seductive. That both of you grew from it--albeit after some potholes--you're still together and willing to make a go of it, again. I applaud both of you. In my eyes both of you are the ultimate hotwifing couple.
Sorry for the wordy post.
I'm still star struck actually writing in this thread to you!
Dave
