Old and jaded wrote:A straight question for the hotwifes. I will give some background first, sexually, I am very much the "top" or dominant rin our relationship, I am ten years older than her, and much more experienced and am constantly encouraging her to push her sexual boundaries. She is very conservative, the only lover she had prior to me is her ex husband, who was the stereotypical asian husband, not considerate in bed, DEEPLY sexually insecure, and OBSESSIVELY posessive and jealous. Theres a reason why I am giving this amount of background, as you will see, its relevant.
We have been married 12 years, have a child, and she is nearing menopause. There has been some discomfort for her regarding the number of partners I have had ( I admit it is a substantial number, I didnt marry until I was 46, lets just say I have a had a "fullfilling" life). In January of last year, I suggested that we could have a threesome with a man that I know she has a fairly deep mutual attraction with, both sexual and emotional, or if she didnt want to do that, they could expand thier relationship to include sex and dating. She flat said no to that, and I then told her that she could also see other men if she found someone that she was attracted to. I explained to her, that I recognized that her previous experience is very limited, that I dont "own" her, and I am not threatened by her exploring her sexuality further, that I dont feel it is reasonable or even sane to subscribe to a belief that any one man should be able to meet all of any one womans needs, and that we are getting older, and "forever until death do us part" is a hell of a long time, and I dont want her to move forward feeling any regrets. I also told her flat out that I LOVE seeing her come, and that given the opportunity, I would,love for her to either A) come home and talk to me about a satisfying sexual encounter, or watch her have one, or best of all, have a threeway with her and a guy she is hot for. I made it clear that it was all about her, that I am not trying to use it as cover for exploring any homosexual fantasies, and I am not looking for a hall pass for myself to fuck other women. I also said that if she did do this, the only thing I ask is that I be kept informed, and that if things got too far out of control emotionally, that I have a veto, and she would respect that and end it.
Ok, so enough background that you understand the circumstance surrounding this. Starting around late May, I started to get the feeling that she was seeing someone. Her schedule changed in a very distinct predictable pattern. She started to come home every Saturday at between 1:45-1:55 am. To be clear, she does run her own business, and it does often involve some late nights, but in the past, those late nights have been sporadic and unpredictible. What was odd about this was the consistant pattern. It is also notable in that it is a full hour later than any of the late nights she had worked previously, in the past, the latest she would ever come home would be around 12:30, and there was no set pattern to it. Prior to this pattern emerging, I have no problem believing that those sporadic late nights were legitimately work related.
This went on VERY constistantly until we left the country for a month, when we returned, the pattern started up again the very first saturday after we were back, and at that point, I talked to her about it, in a gentle and non-confrontational way, I was kind and not angry or agressive, but said " look, it seems fairly obvious to me that ypu are having an affair, I dont feel like this pattern is consistant with working late, something is clearly going on here, and I would like to talk about it." She became defensive, and said " I am working hard to make money for the family, and this is how you react? I would love to be home with you, but I am trying to build a successful business, to benefit us". After that, she started coming home between 12:45 and 12:55 every saturday night, so the time changed a little, but the distinctive pattern remained.
Throughout all this, there is no indication whatsoever that she is stepping out of the relationship, in fact, it has been the opposite, she is much more loving and engaged, and our sex life has improved a lot. She is still somewhat more restrained than what I am used to, and there is still room for more intensity, but it has improved a GREAT deal. The only thing is, on those nights when she comes home really late, she rejects any sexual contact and rolls over and goes to sleep.
Ok, so we are getting down to the meat of the matter. Around the 14th of October, this suddenly all stopped, cold turkey. I had been thinking that she had been fucking the family friend that I had suggested for the threesome, and I knew he left the country on the 25th, her period had landed on the previous weekend, so this seemed consistant. I am ok with him, he is involved, knows my kid, we are pretty friendly, I "trust" him not to try to break up my marriage.
Thing is, he was out of the country till yesterday, but it all kicked off again, with increased intensity on Nov 28th, well before he was back. On Wednesday the 28th, she came home at 12:41, on Friday the 30th at 1:20, and on Friday the 7th of December, she came home at 1:36.
On Friday the 30th, when she came home, I tried to initiate sex, I wanted to see if her pussy was dilated. She initially said no, said "I dont think its because you want sex, I think you are trying to check up on me". I told her a bit of a lie, I told her "dont be silly, a guy cant really tell that way" which would be true if it was 3-4 hours, not so true when its 15 minutes to half hour, which is what I figured it was. She is normally slow to come up to speed, and even when she is, she is VERY tight. I avoided foreplay and went pretty much straight to penetration, as fast as I figured I could get away with, without being TOTALLY obvious about what I was doing, and she was wet and wide open, probably the loosest I have ever felt her.
OK, so ladies only please, heres the question, is there ANYTHING that could account for this other than her getting fucked just before she came home? I am quite certian she is fucking someone, but I am asking this because I want to confront her with this, and if there is another reason and she WASNT fucking her boyfriend on that PARTICULAR night, Im going to be the one whos fucked. Her period isnt due till early this week, so it wasnt because menstration was imminent, and we had sex (VERY HOT sex, she has beautiful tits, she was on top, and I was watching her locket bounce up and down on top of them and thinking about her with another guys BIG cock in her the night before, and him enjoying that same view) and her pussy was a snug as it had always been, so I dont really think its something hormonal related to menopause or something.
But like I say, and I want this to be clear, I plan use this as leverage to try to finally get some honesty happening here, and if there IS another reason, even if she IS fucking someone( VERY little question in my mind at this point), if it wasnt that night, and I go "hard" on this point, I will make myself look like a fool, which will damage my chances of getting that truth to come out. Ladies, is there ANYTHING that you know of that could cause her to be like the proverbial "hot dog in a hallway" and be back to normal the next day, I need to know. If I am going to double down on four kings, I have to be sure she isnt holding four aces.
FWIW, I had a long talk with a close mutual friend yesterday, and there was also a new development with her, I have decided to continue with "softly softly" rather than to press for a resolution in terms of trying getting her to open up right now. So its no longer relevant to get feedback on the above situation. Sometimes people just need a little more time and understanding to feel safe enough to open up, more than they need an "intervention", after whats gone on this weekend, I think this is one of those times.