"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"
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Because watching her getting fucked and taken by another man, or knowing she is out wantonly getting fucked by another man, and knowing she willingly gave her body to him, and enjoyed it with total abandon, results in me having a potent visceral reaction in the form of extreme sexual arousal that has absolutely no equivalent. Once you have experienced that - how could any man want or need any other woman? She is my goddess.
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That would be a whole separate topic in itself. A worthy subject.Atl-hubby wrote:I asked this in another thread in the cuck forum but it seems more appropriate here. I have always wondered what it was that gave me such a deep sense of sexual gratification when my wife of 20 years (6 dating, 14 married, been together since we were 16) fucks another man either in front of me or on her own. I wanted to know if anybody else's wife had experienced a rape in their life. A real rape not role playing. I am just curious because it may be related to why we both enjoy the lifestyle.
I, a man, have been raped. It does play a role in how I act sexually. It provides one or more of the reasons I want my wife "to sleep with another man".
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That's pretty profound, Fish. I suspect that psychology is never going to be an exact science, any more than predicting the weather can be. Because like the weather, butterfly wings in Malaysia can cause hurricanes in Florida. What may seem to be insignificant events in our past may turn out to be major causes of our behavior, while seemingly major events turn out to be insignificant in the long run. People who have undergone alarming traumas are well balanced and happy, while others who just witnessed a mildly disturbing sight in their childhood are scarred for life. Who knows what small pivot points our entire lives turn on?Fish wrote:It does play a role in how I act sexually. It provides one or more of the reasons I want my wife "to sleep with another man".
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That takes guts to say man. I have not been raped but I had a guy that was grooming me with porn and money when I was 11, trying to get me to show him the size of my cock. PM me if you want the full story of the circumstances, I don't know the rules of what is not appropriate for posting. I just think it has something to do with why I love giving control to another man, love watching her get fucked, or listening, or dropping off. And why she maybe enjoys it rough while I watch, helpless to stop it.Fish wrote:That would be a whole separate topic in itself. A worthy subject.Atl-hubby wrote:I asked this in another thread in the cuck forum but it seems more appropriate here. I have always wondered what it was that gave me such a deep sense of sexual gratification when my wife of 20 years (6 dating, 14 married, been together since we were 16) fucks another man either in front of me or on her own. I wanted to know if anybody else's wife had experienced a rape in their life. A real rape not role playing. I am just curious because it may be related to why we both enjoy the lifestyle.
I, a man, have been raped. It does play a role in how I act sexually. It provides one or more of the reasons I want my wife "to sleep with another man".
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There are many ways a fetish develops.Atl-hubby wrote:I asked this in another thread in the cuck forum but it seems more appropriate here. I have always wondered what it was that gave me such a deep sense of sexual gratification when my wife of 20 years (6 dating, 14 married, been together since we were 16) fucks another man either in front of me or on her own. I wanted to know if anybody else's wife had experienced a rape in their life. A real rape not role playing. I am just curious because it may be related to why we both enjoy the lifestyle.
Sexual assault in childhood or adulthood can have significant effects on many aspects of a persons life, expecially their sex life.
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Just found this site and it looks great, and thought this was the perfect thread to start in.
Why do I want to see my wife sleep with other men? And honestly, just having her dress sexy and see that she gets attention, or to have her whisper to me during sex about some guy that was checking her out..such a huge turn on. Why? I guess I have to start by wondering is it actually because I have some insecurity? Do I get off knowing that I have something that other guys want? The thing is that I'm not the kind of guy who could walk into a bar, hit on a girl, and have a one night stand. Would I want that? Doesn't matter, I'm more interested in seeing my wife with other guys. I have friends, long standing friends, guys from as far back as middle school...but I don't hang with the "in crowd", never did..and I'm in my mid 40's. I have a high rank at work...an executive although at a fairly small company...but I'm not the guy with the social skills that gets invited out after work for drinks, whether it be by men or women. OF course I'm more interested in online porn then live relationships so that hurts. I don't drive the car that all the guys envy, I don't have the body that other guys want, don't have the quick wit, or the devil may care attitude, So, am I simply doing this to feed my own ego? Sure..but then why does it turn me on so much, even just the thought of it?
My wife has her own kinks. Most of them revolve around being controlled. I know its trite but 50 Shades of Grey really threw a switch for her..."that's what I was missing". And while I have many kinks, and fetishes, and don't mind hurting her a bit, she expresses that I don't push her boundaries enough. So if she was to have a boyfriend on the side then that's what she would want. I think its tough with a normal life (jobs, friends, close relatives, kids) to live that enough to make it work. Someone whose only interaction with her (us) would be in that realm would be easier to pull off. So is that why I do it, to please her? No, I can't say I am that unselfish or altruistic. In fact her kink and my kink had a bit of a collision there that led us to our first few encounters with other men, but I was just ecstatic that she was going for it, not trying to fill just her desires.
Am I gay or bi-sexual? I am comfortable around other men (and hell you have to be to do this right), she is not into any man-on-man play...we are both very liberal minded when it comes to diversity, but don't feel the need to embrace it in practice. I am open to things like double barrel and friendly fire that she probably would not be into, but since they are not essential to my experience it doesn't have to be something we pursue. So, no I don't think that's why.
I have also read that guys that want their women to sleep with other men have likely already had an affair or want to, and this is like getting that chip they can play later. That is not why for me.
I have a major lingerie, leather/latex, etc fetish..in fact I think a partially clothed women is sexier then a naked one. Going into a Lululemon store for me is like being in a porn shop. I love my wife, and her curves, and the lingerie etc I tell her is how I get the variety since I only want her...but her variety can come from other men. So its not boredom or variety.
So at the end of the day I am still left grasping as to why this is the ultimate fetish for me. Maybe because its taboo? I mean my ultimate would me multiple guys, and interracial (black men) using her while I watched and joined in, so that has some merit. I am a stuffy white middle class man, not into sky diving or online gambling...so that might be part of it.
Would I be turned on about me and another guy being with a woman other than my wife? Yes, but not as much as my own wife. So to put that in perspective if I had the option of sharing another woman other than my wife with another man, I would rather share my wife. In fact I would probably be picturing my wife while we did it.
For the record I do not consider myself a cuckold in the sense that I am not turned on by a Bull-Cuckold dynamic. I would be fine with that to a point, but I prefer to share the power or hold the power, not give it up. My wife as well prefers just to do what she is told like a good girl, and leave it to me to decide who and what to do...so we are in agreement and compatible on that matter. The thought of having a sub-male and I could order the two of them to do what I tell them to is a turn on. Then again when my wife looked at another man during a session and remarked how much bigger he was then me...well it made me even a bit harder.
So....put it all together, and I am still left wondering...why do I want my wife to sleep with other men? And now that she has done it why do I still crave it? There is such a variety of scenarios that all turn me on...her having a spur of the moment daytime fling with a guy, without me being there...her having a boyfriend on the side...having another sub-male...gangbang...its not just about one thing.
Maybe I'm just a pervert?
Why do I want to see my wife sleep with other men? And honestly, just having her dress sexy and see that she gets attention, or to have her whisper to me during sex about some guy that was checking her out..such a huge turn on. Why? I guess I have to start by wondering is it actually because I have some insecurity? Do I get off knowing that I have something that other guys want? The thing is that I'm not the kind of guy who could walk into a bar, hit on a girl, and have a one night stand. Would I want that? Doesn't matter, I'm more interested in seeing my wife with other guys. I have friends, long standing friends, guys from as far back as middle school...but I don't hang with the "in crowd", never did..and I'm in my mid 40's. I have a high rank at work...an executive although at a fairly small company...but I'm not the guy with the social skills that gets invited out after work for drinks, whether it be by men or women. OF course I'm more interested in online porn then live relationships so that hurts. I don't drive the car that all the guys envy, I don't have the body that other guys want, don't have the quick wit, or the devil may care attitude, So, am I simply doing this to feed my own ego? Sure..but then why does it turn me on so much, even just the thought of it?
My wife has her own kinks. Most of them revolve around being controlled. I know its trite but 50 Shades of Grey really threw a switch for her..."that's what I was missing". And while I have many kinks, and fetishes, and don't mind hurting her a bit, she expresses that I don't push her boundaries enough. So if she was to have a boyfriend on the side then that's what she would want. I think its tough with a normal life (jobs, friends, close relatives, kids) to live that enough to make it work. Someone whose only interaction with her (us) would be in that realm would be easier to pull off. So is that why I do it, to please her? No, I can't say I am that unselfish or altruistic. In fact her kink and my kink had a bit of a collision there that led us to our first few encounters with other men, but I was just ecstatic that she was going for it, not trying to fill just her desires.
Am I gay or bi-sexual? I am comfortable around other men (and hell you have to be to do this right), she is not into any man-on-man play...we are both very liberal minded when it comes to diversity, but don't feel the need to embrace it in practice. I am open to things like double barrel and friendly fire that she probably would not be into, but since they are not essential to my experience it doesn't have to be something we pursue. So, no I don't think that's why.
I have also read that guys that want their women to sleep with other men have likely already had an affair or want to, and this is like getting that chip they can play later. That is not why for me.
I have a major lingerie, leather/latex, etc fetish..in fact I think a partially clothed women is sexier then a naked one. Going into a Lululemon store for me is like being in a porn shop. I love my wife, and her curves, and the lingerie etc I tell her is how I get the variety since I only want her...but her variety can come from other men. So its not boredom or variety.
So at the end of the day I am still left grasping as to why this is the ultimate fetish for me. Maybe because its taboo? I mean my ultimate would me multiple guys, and interracial (black men) using her while I watched and joined in, so that has some merit. I am a stuffy white middle class man, not into sky diving or online gambling...so that might be part of it.
Would I be turned on about me and another guy being with a woman other than my wife? Yes, but not as much as my own wife. So to put that in perspective if I had the option of sharing another woman other than my wife with another man, I would rather share my wife. In fact I would probably be picturing my wife while we did it.
For the record I do not consider myself a cuckold in the sense that I am not turned on by a Bull-Cuckold dynamic. I would be fine with that to a point, but I prefer to share the power or hold the power, not give it up. My wife as well prefers just to do what she is told like a good girl, and leave it to me to decide who and what to do...so we are in agreement and compatible on that matter. The thought of having a sub-male and I could order the two of them to do what I tell them to is a turn on. Then again when my wife looked at another man during a session and remarked how much bigger he was then me...well it made me even a bit harder.
So....put it all together, and I am still left wondering...why do I want my wife to sleep with other men? And now that she has done it why do I still crave it? There is such a variety of scenarios that all turn me on...her having a spur of the moment daytime fling with a guy, without me being there...her having a boyfriend on the side...having another sub-male...gangbang...its not just about one thing.
Maybe I'm just a pervert?
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"
Well written and thought provoking.wpgcouple40 wrote:Just found this site and it looks great, and thought this was the perfect thread to start in.
Why do I want to see my wife sleep with other men? And honestly, just having her dress sexy and see that she gets attention, or to have her whisper to me during sex about some guy that was checking her out..such a huge turn on. Why? I guess I have to start by wondering is it actually because I have some insecurity? Do I get off knowing that I have something that other guys want? The thing is that I'm not the kind of guy who could walk into a bar, hit on a girl, and have a one night stand. Would I want that? Doesn't matter, I'm more interested in seeing my wife with other guys. I have friends, long standing friends, guys from as far back as middle school...but I don't hang with the "in crowd", never did..and I'm in my mid 40's. I have a high rank at work...an executive although at a fairly small company...but I'm not the guy with the social skills that gets invited out after work for drinks, whether it be by men or women. OF course I'm more interested in online porn then live relationships so that hurts. I don't drive the car that all the guys envy, I don't have the body that other guys want, don't have the quick wit, or the devil may care attitude, So, am I simply doing this to feed my own ego? Sure..but then why does it turn me on so much, even just the thought of it?
My wife has her own kinks. Most of them revolve around being controlled. I know its trite but 50 Shades of Grey really threw a switch for her..."that's what I was missing". And while I have many kinks, and fetishes, and don't mind hurting her a bit, she expresses that I don't push her boundaries enough. So if she was to have a boyfriend on the side then that's what she would want. I think its tough with a normal life (jobs, friends, close relatives, kids) to live that enough to make it work. Someone whose only interaction with her (us) would be in that realm would be easier to pull off. So is that why I do it, to please her? No, I can't say I am that unselfish or altruistic. In fact her kink and my kink had a bit of a collision there that led us to our first few encounters with other men, but I was just ecstatic that she was going for it, not trying to fill just her desires.
Am I gay or bi-sexual? I am comfortable around other men (and hell you have to be to do this right), she is not into any man-on-man play...we are both very liberal minded when it comes to diversity, but don't feel the need to embrace it in practice. I am open to things like double barrel and friendly fire that she probably would not be into, but since they are not essential to my experience it doesn't have to be something we pursue. So, no I don't think that's why.
I have also read that guys that want their women to sleep with other men have likely already had an affair or want to, and this is like getting that chip they can play later. That is not why for me.
I have a major lingerie, leather/latex, etc fetish..in fact I think a partially clothed women is sexier then a naked one. Going into a Lululemon store for me is like being in a porn shop. I love my wife, and her curves, and the lingerie etc I tell her is how I get the variety since I only want her...but her variety can come from other men. So its not boredom or variety.
So at the end of the day I am still left grasping as to why this is the ultimate fetish for me. Maybe because its taboo? I mean my ultimate would me multiple guys, and interracial (black men) using her while I watched and joined in, so that has some merit. I am a stuffy white middle class man, not into sky diving or online gambling...so that might be part of it.
Would I be turned on about me and another guy being with a woman other than my wife? Yes, but not as much as my own wife. So to put that in perspective if I had the option of sharing another woman other than my wife with another man, I would rather share my wife. In fact I would probably be picturing my wife while we did it.
For the record I do not consider myself a cuckold in the sense that I am not turned on by a Bull-Cuckold dynamic. I would be fine with that to a point, but I prefer to share the power or hold the power, not give it up. My wife as well prefers just to do what she is told like a good girl, and leave it to me to decide who and what to do...so we are in agreement and compatible on that matter. The thought of having a sub-male and I could order the two of them to do what I tell them to is a turn on. Then again when my wife looked at another man during a session and remarked how much bigger he was then me...well it made me even a bit harder.
So....put it all together, and I am still left wondering...why do I want my wife to sleep with other men? And now that she has done it why do I still crave it? There is such a variety of scenarios that all turn me on...her having a spur of the moment daytime fling with a guy, without me being there...her having a boyfriend on the side...having another sub-male...gangbang...its not just about one thing.
Maybe I'm just a pervert?
For me, the best way of understanding this lifestyle and why we crave it, is to stop trying to understand it. I've tried to explain it to anonymous people on the Internet (Both men and women) and they just don't get it. I don't blame them for not getting it, because I don't get it, myself.
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*How exactly does the sun set?
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IT JUST DOES........
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wpgcouple40: What a fantastic, thought provoking, well wrirtten piece! I totally agree that there is no single reason that I want to see my gorgeous wife take another man inside her...But I did and even though I have watched her take a 'him' now, I want to see it all over again and I still ask myself...Why????
Seeing HIS cum run down HER legs..mmm, priceless
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Bobbert...corderro..thanks for the feedback. As to why even try to figure it out? I guess first off you wonder why you are different then the "norm" yet it feels so right. Also, you wonder if you are doing it for the wrong reasons will you have regret in later life, will it damage your relationship? The funny thing is that never did my wife ask me why I like that so much.
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1. Impression of the Ideal Wife: I was painfully shy up to half way thru college. I found refuge in porn and playing with my shy male cousin. While others may have seen the young and proper girls in school and college as the girls to eventually marry, I didnt have this. So I truly believe that an over indulgence in porn led me to believe that a porn start was the ideal woman. At an early age you dont think that it is only a job and she goes to the supermarket and pays bills like any other citizen.
2. Sluts: As I slowly came out of my shell, I found that sluts were much easier to grab than the popular girls. This only went to reinforce Theory #1. It was a struggle. Peer pressure from my buddies to dump the"tramp" more than once. Yet it was the tramps that were making me happy and feel like a Man.
So being unsure of myself and my own decisions, my decisions were validated by others. If all of these other guys are kissing, fondling and fucking her, then she MUST be good; ergo that is the one I want. I suppose my cuckolding started with the first girl I ever landed!
2. Sluts: As I slowly came out of my shell, I found that sluts were much easier to grab than the popular girls. This only went to reinforce Theory #1. It was a struggle. Peer pressure from my buddies to dump the"tramp" more than once. Yet it was the tramps that were making me happy and feel like a Man.
So being unsure of myself and my own decisions, my decisions were validated by others. If all of these other guys are kissing, fondling and fucking her, then she MUST be good; ergo that is the one I want. I suppose my cuckolding started with the first girl I ever landed!
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Because the guy (Cuckold) wants his wife to enjoy the most and love her more than him !
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For me, it's wanting her to experience something new and different from our every day life and to return to me refreshed from doing something " out of the box".
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HW has been with her FB for two nights, tonight is the last night as he leaves Friday am to return to his other home. More later after she comes home to tell me about her adventures.
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I love the feel of her pussy when it is stretched so loose and so full of her juices and his cum that it stands open for my smaller than average dick so much that I don't really feel her pussy with my dick, but feel the wet, warm labia enveloping my balls when I insert myself after.
I, too, was sodomized when a teenager. I can't really call it a rape, because it was an extreme turn on for me (even as I pretended to sleep through it), and I was disappointed when on the first few times my bedmate couldn't get it all the way in, but it was something that I woke up to happening, and even after it became more frequent, neither I nor my rapist discussed in the daytime. I can tell you, that I actually started lubricating my rectum to improve the chance of penetration before ejaculation (my deepest desire at the time), and the first time I felt my attacker's glans penis slip inside gave me an intense orgasm, filling my tighty underwear with cum in the front (by then, I'd actually cut a hole in the rear, so my penetrator would not have to pull them to the side and risk making his shaft raw when he wanted to dump a load in my ass. As I am not that well hung, I want my wife to experience the thrill of being stretched to the limit and penetrated as deeply as possible (and she does too!!!) just as I was.
I had a friend from work who had a very thick penis, and when he was over at our house and got a hard on (which he often got around my sexy, busty wife), he felt no qualms about pulling it out. My wife would always act shocked at first, but would soon start feeling it, rubbing it, and, before you knew it, pulling off her pants and sliding down on it. She emitted the must erotic moan I've ever heard as she slid down on it, and in the dim light, watching his dick slide back out glistening with her juices and her labia clinging to it so tightly made me nearly pop!
Even better, after she'd cum at lease once and he'd finally shot his load, she would continue to feel his penis with her hand and tell him how good it felt, how she wished he would fuck her any time he wanted, and ask him why it was so big (meaning compared to mine).
My wife also enjoys my stories of being sodomized, and really wants me to give one of her lovers head while she watches (she already knows I will willingly eat their cum off her tits, her belly, and (especially) from her pussy. I like it all, if you want to call me gay... so what, we all are to varying degrees, and I'm enjoying the experiences and wouldn't want to give them up. Most amazing to me is how addictive the taste of cum can get to be, once you've gotten used to it, even though it burns the back of my throat!
I, too, was sodomized when a teenager. I can't really call it a rape, because it was an extreme turn on for me (even as I pretended to sleep through it), and I was disappointed when on the first few times my bedmate couldn't get it all the way in, but it was something that I woke up to happening, and even after it became more frequent, neither I nor my rapist discussed in the daytime. I can tell you, that I actually started lubricating my rectum to improve the chance of penetration before ejaculation (my deepest desire at the time), and the first time I felt my attacker's glans penis slip inside gave me an intense orgasm, filling my tighty underwear with cum in the front (by then, I'd actually cut a hole in the rear, so my penetrator would not have to pull them to the side and risk making his shaft raw when he wanted to dump a load in my ass. As I am not that well hung, I want my wife to experience the thrill of being stretched to the limit and penetrated as deeply as possible (and she does too!!!) just as I was.
I had a friend from work who had a very thick penis, and when he was over at our house and got a hard on (which he often got around my sexy, busty wife), he felt no qualms about pulling it out. My wife would always act shocked at first, but would soon start feeling it, rubbing it, and, before you knew it, pulling off her pants and sliding down on it. She emitted the must erotic moan I've ever heard as she slid down on it, and in the dim light, watching his dick slide back out glistening with her juices and her labia clinging to it so tightly made me nearly pop!
Even better, after she'd cum at lease once and he'd finally shot his load, she would continue to feel his penis with her hand and tell him how good it felt, how she wished he would fuck her any time he wanted, and ask him why it was so big (meaning compared to mine).
My wife also enjoys my stories of being sodomized, and really wants me to give one of her lovers head while she watches (she already knows I will willingly eat their cum off her tits, her belly, and (especially) from her pussy. I like it all, if you want to call me gay... so what, we all are to varying degrees, and I'm enjoying the experiences and wouldn't want to give them up. Most amazing to me is how addictive the taste of cum can get to be, once you've gotten used to it, even though it burns the back of my throat!
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"
YoungBostonM wrote:Reading through these threads on Craigslist Boston's Missed Connections, I miss the stickied thread on the old forum.
[url]http: //boston.craigslist.org/search/mis?query=advice&minAsk=min&maxAsk=max[/url]
The gist of the threads is that a woman posted asking for advice about her husband's fantasy to see her with another man. The responses range from "he's not normal" to "he's gay."
Does anybody have anything even resembling that old thread? It would be like a beacon of light in this ocean of ignorance.
I can’t connect anyone to the craigslist link, but I did read and reread this headline topic question many times, trying to grapple with how it made sense, until I realized it lacks the necessary, clarifying subordinate conjunction and clause beginning … if ….
… if my husband wants to watch a black dude bust my tight pussy
… if my husband wants him and his brother to hard-pack me
… if my husband likes oral sex and anal sex, but not vaginal sex
…. so many more possible ifs … so many more possible questions
Maybe the focus needs to shift from the husband to the wife who is asking because the question is — or at least seems to be — expressing her fear(s), i.e. her husband is “gay” or “not normal” or another aberration or abnormality or deviation from her moral expectations.
In an MF relationship, the paramount thought in the man’s mind must always be that he is pleasuring his woman. Most, or at least an increasing number of, men know this intuitively, although, unfortunately, many man still think they can pump away like automatons until they ejaculate, caring nothing about how the hole they are getting off in or even thinking that the hole is part of of a real, living, thinking, feeling human being.
For the sake of the discussion, let’s suppose that YoungBostonM has a husband who is concerned and thoughtful about his own skills and competence. Then, wouldn’t his thought (or suggestion) that his wife needs (or might want) another, different or additional sex partner be a good, loving, and caring thing?
Another, masculinist (i.e. not feminist) way of asking this question is: Why are men always (presumptively) to blame?
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"
I love my wife and have no desire for any other woman. We always have great sex, but it goes from great, to mind-blowing, after she has had sex with her boyfriend. I think I am simply wired that way. I once had the typical conventional boring sex life and divorced. Many years later I remarried to my present, wonderful wife with whom I am madly in love. She is the quintessential, pretty, petite, sparking-eyed girl-next-door with a perfect figure and a baby face that makes her look years younger than her actual age. She turns heads all the time and doesn't even notice.
I had been in the swinging lifestyle for several years in intervening relationships, but when swapping as couples, I could hardly keep my eyes off of my partner while she was having sex – and less interested in fucking the other guy’s wife or girlfriend. Don’t get me wrong, fucking another woman was great, and I got off, but I just couldn’t wait to get back home to fuck my own partner after another man had sexually taken her. When I met my present wife, I was open adn explained my past swinger experience, and proceeded to tell her about my desire to watch her being taken by another man. Of course she was shocked, and was highly suspect of my motives, but she soon learned that I truly wanted to be totally monogamous on my end, but her own non-monogamy was my kink.
Fast forward. We’ve had amazing experiences over the past few years. She’s had few select men, and one I’d consider her on-again, off-again boyfriend, but far too infrequent due to his own commitments. She’s now about to have a first date this week with a really good looking, well-built stud she met on a swinger dating site. It's been far too long since she's had a date. He is single, which we both prefer for several reasons. Why, does that excite me even more? Maybe it’s the heightened risk he’ll want her totally for his own, and I welcome that because I know her commitment to our marriage and growing old together is unbreakable, but I’d enjoy knowing he wants her that much; it heightens the competition, which is a huge turn on.
I love when she gets fucked by another guy, and I love fucking her after she has a date, whether she goes to the other guy’s place and they fuck there, or whether he comes to our home and he fucks her in our marital bed, or even a straight MFM with me as the third wheel. And I don’t want them to just fuck either, I want them to ooze carnal desire for one another. I want to know she’s deep into the new relationship experience (NRE) and basking in the glow of it. I want her to want him physically and emotionally, with a strong romantic connection, deep passionate kissing, powerful sexual magnetism, and frequent multi-orgasmic, convulsive fucking. The only requirement I have is that we are always open and truthful to each other, always disclose and share everything, she inform be before and after she ever has sex with another, and we have sex afterwards. I am fine if she develops some degree of emotional attachment that she can manage, and it is even better if she does. She's quite familiar with NRE, and knows how to manage it having been around that block before, and there is nothing wrong with her enjoying that to the fullest for however long it lasts. If it became a lasting relationship, that would be fine too; I've experienced polyamory before. I want her to covet his body and his cock, and crave his sperm as he frequently and repeatedly unloads his love seed deep into her pussy, making her body his, and experience her unbridled desire wanting him to own her body while they are together.
She’s pretty much beyond child bearing years, and I am cut, so there is no chance she can bear another child we me. The chances another man could impregnate her are extremely remote, virtually zilch, but I love seeing her actively try with her lover, at least in spirit. Both of us would love to have and raise another child, and the trying is fun, even if she doesn’t or can't conceive. The thought of fucking her for nine months while her belly shows the evidence of her infidelity after being bred by another man gives me a perpetual erection. I've loved it in the past when she'd come home from a date with her former BF with cum-soaked panties. I go out of my mind with desire to fuck her brains out when she pulls them down and informs me of the obvious that another man has just unloaded inside of her two, three, or four times. Revealing the evidence of her infidelity in a smug, playful, taunting way, knowing his virile seed is up in her belly - and could knock her up, is enough to make me explode even before sinking my own large and capable cock between her perfect legs. I love feeling the silky, slippery wetness of their sex as my large hard cock slips effortlessly where his just occupied. I love how his cum gushes out of her love nest as I plunge my cock deep inside my horny little vixen. I unload again and again as she tells me repeatedly how well he fucked her. When I am about to cum, she sends me over the top when she tells me, in taunting detail, how it felt when his cock stiffened up and became huge just before he came, how she felt his cock pulse as he released inside her, that she loved the felt of his warm cum filling her, and how he now owns her body as long as she carries his seed.
I don’t fear losing her. If she ever did want to leave for another man, I’d let her go, because I want her happiness above my own, and she knows that. She can start and stop playing whenever she wants, I never push her, but I open the door to make it possible, and encourage her if she so desires. That is true unconditional love, but I know her love for me, and her commitment to our marriage, as well as mine, is unshakable. That makes is all that much more amazing. Why does it turn me on so? Why do I want my wife to sleep with another man? As I’ve said many times before, compersion - the sheer excitement of knowing my wife is experiencing and enjoying extreme pleasure, sexually, and emotionally, to the greatest amount and extent possible, and experiencing her intense desire and pleasure vicariously, through her. Because I know she is getting that with another man, as well as with me, I see her as The Total Woman that she can be, and that she is - smart, sexy, fun, and loving. I can still feel the angst every time she chats with another man, every time she has a date, every time she fucks - and that is the best part of all, because that is the very fuel of my own sexual arousal. She is at once my partner, my friend, my lover, and my wife, but she can also be my submissive, my dominant and my equal at different times. She is her own woman, and I love and respect her more than words can express, because she is.
TT
I had been in the swinging lifestyle for several years in intervening relationships, but when swapping as couples, I could hardly keep my eyes off of my partner while she was having sex – and less interested in fucking the other guy’s wife or girlfriend. Don’t get me wrong, fucking another woman was great, and I got off, but I just couldn’t wait to get back home to fuck my own partner after another man had sexually taken her. When I met my present wife, I was open adn explained my past swinger experience, and proceeded to tell her about my desire to watch her being taken by another man. Of course she was shocked, and was highly suspect of my motives, but she soon learned that I truly wanted to be totally monogamous on my end, but her own non-monogamy was my kink.
Fast forward. We’ve had amazing experiences over the past few years. She’s had few select men, and one I’d consider her on-again, off-again boyfriend, but far too infrequent due to his own commitments. She’s now about to have a first date this week with a really good looking, well-built stud she met on a swinger dating site. It's been far too long since she's had a date. He is single, which we both prefer for several reasons. Why, does that excite me even more? Maybe it’s the heightened risk he’ll want her totally for his own, and I welcome that because I know her commitment to our marriage and growing old together is unbreakable, but I’d enjoy knowing he wants her that much; it heightens the competition, which is a huge turn on.
I love when she gets fucked by another guy, and I love fucking her after she has a date, whether she goes to the other guy’s place and they fuck there, or whether he comes to our home and he fucks her in our marital bed, or even a straight MFM with me as the third wheel. And I don’t want them to just fuck either, I want them to ooze carnal desire for one another. I want to know she’s deep into the new relationship experience (NRE) and basking in the glow of it. I want her to want him physically and emotionally, with a strong romantic connection, deep passionate kissing, powerful sexual magnetism, and frequent multi-orgasmic, convulsive fucking. The only requirement I have is that we are always open and truthful to each other, always disclose and share everything, she inform be before and after she ever has sex with another, and we have sex afterwards. I am fine if she develops some degree of emotional attachment that she can manage, and it is even better if she does. She's quite familiar with NRE, and knows how to manage it having been around that block before, and there is nothing wrong with her enjoying that to the fullest for however long it lasts. If it became a lasting relationship, that would be fine too; I've experienced polyamory before. I want her to covet his body and his cock, and crave his sperm as he frequently and repeatedly unloads his love seed deep into her pussy, making her body his, and experience her unbridled desire wanting him to own her body while they are together.
She’s pretty much beyond child bearing years, and I am cut, so there is no chance she can bear another child we me. The chances another man could impregnate her are extremely remote, virtually zilch, but I love seeing her actively try with her lover, at least in spirit. Both of us would love to have and raise another child, and the trying is fun, even if she doesn’t or can't conceive. The thought of fucking her for nine months while her belly shows the evidence of her infidelity after being bred by another man gives me a perpetual erection. I've loved it in the past when she'd come home from a date with her former BF with cum-soaked panties. I go out of my mind with desire to fuck her brains out when she pulls them down and informs me of the obvious that another man has just unloaded inside of her two, three, or four times. Revealing the evidence of her infidelity in a smug, playful, taunting way, knowing his virile seed is up in her belly - and could knock her up, is enough to make me explode even before sinking my own large and capable cock between her perfect legs. I love feeling the silky, slippery wetness of their sex as my large hard cock slips effortlessly where his just occupied. I love how his cum gushes out of her love nest as I plunge my cock deep inside my horny little vixen. I unload again and again as she tells me repeatedly how well he fucked her. When I am about to cum, she sends me over the top when she tells me, in taunting detail, how it felt when his cock stiffened up and became huge just before he came, how she felt his cock pulse as he released inside her, that she loved the felt of his warm cum filling her, and how he now owns her body as long as she carries his seed.
I don’t fear losing her. If she ever did want to leave for another man, I’d let her go, because I want her happiness above my own, and she knows that. She can start and stop playing whenever she wants, I never push her, but I open the door to make it possible, and encourage her if she so desires. That is true unconditional love, but I know her love for me, and her commitment to our marriage, as well as mine, is unshakable. That makes is all that much more amazing. Why does it turn me on so? Why do I want my wife to sleep with another man? As I’ve said many times before, compersion - the sheer excitement of knowing my wife is experiencing and enjoying extreme pleasure, sexually, and emotionally, to the greatest amount and extent possible, and experiencing her intense desire and pleasure vicariously, through her. Because I know she is getting that with another man, as well as with me, I see her as The Total Woman that she can be, and that she is - smart, sexy, fun, and loving. I can still feel the angst every time she chats with another man, every time she has a date, every time she fucks - and that is the best part of all, because that is the very fuel of my own sexual arousal. She is at once my partner, my friend, my lover, and my wife, but she can also be my submissive, my dominant and my equal at different times. She is her own woman, and I love and respect her more than words can express, because she is.
TT
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"
This is superb. But... what is NRE?
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"
New Relationship Exuberance - NRE, which usually wears off after a while.
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"
Triangle... spot on and nicely articulated.
Why do I want Scarlett to keep sleeping with other men? To start off, we have always had a great sext life. 10 years ago, we fell madly in love very quickly and she is my best friend without question. We communicate openly and on a very high level and we can tell each other anything without judgement. We are both lucky to be considered attractive (her more than me) and we have our health. So we talk about and strive to live for today (not recklessly) but to explore and experience things so we have no regrets later. So the strength of our relationship makes it possible to explore this lifestyle.
We are in our 40s have both been married, kids etc. We've experienced alot and are at the point of not caring what others think of us. We do our own thing without worry. Some of her best friends know about our lifestyle and of her boyfriend of 4 years. I find it very erotic when one of them asks me about it. I think several of her friends are envious.
When we first met, she was dating and fucking 3 different guys. I thought that was so hot and admired her sexual freedom after being married for 20+ years to a complete idiot. She would openly tell me about fucking them - sometimes multiple guys in one day! It got my juices flowing for sure.
After we started having 3sums I found myself enjoying her with the other guy, seeing the things that made her swoon and orgasm. It was incredibly erotic and frankly the taboo was liberating for her and so opposite from her guarded marriage. It was the ultimate gift of love and trust that goes against everything she had experienced. I don't own her and would never go there. She is a beautiful woman both inside and out and I love and support her no matter what. She gets hit on constantly and she loves the attention because she loves men. So how could I ever get between how alive and desired it makes her feel? I can't! It's too friggn hot to describe!
I was the one that encouraged her to see other men solo. She's been on numerous dates, madeout, given blowjobs, fucked guys and even had 3sums with guys. Some were spontaneous but most were sought out experiences that she wanted. And she does it on her terms. It doesn't happen alot. She's very classy and not a slut (until she gets in a guys bed) lol Then she loves to be taken and is very sexual.
Like a good cuckold, I found a guy to be her 2nd boyfriend to make sure her sexual needs were met while I was traveling extensively. Hey, why should her sexual needs be denied just because of my job? It was very exciting being away and knowing they were fucking in our marital bed every couple days. The videos and pics were excruciating to see. But I loved to make her happy and loved the way it made me felt. Hard to describe.
Scarlett is very sexy. Blonde, boobs, great legs and best of all her personality is magical. Occasionally, she will get hit on and flirt back right in front of me. I love that. It's not often but the guy usually looks at me like wtf? I grin and say to myself ... you can fuck my wife all you want. It's on her terms always. But she's coming home to me every night and she's not gonna fall in love with you either. Sorry! Then I actually smile and say to him confidently "Have fun man, it's all good." Lol
I love our lifestyle and how makes me feel when she's with another guy. The battle between my guts and the addictive angst I feel and my deeply imaginative mind that manufactures and visualizes my sexy wife in another mans arms... oh man it's the best porn ever!
I love the mindfuck and I think the next sexual frontier for me is enjoying my sexuality based in the core of my mind vs in the hard of my cock. We've explored chastity and that is an amazing mindfuck... all I can say is "Don't knock it until you try it!" It takes a strong mind and spirit to do it. I've had the best orgasms of my life after a 1-2 week lock up period. It's constant arousal 24/7 and when she's with her boyfriend it's agonizing and very addictive. Call me crazy.
Bottom line... I love her and definitely want more of what this exciting lifestyle is all about.
Thanks for reading.
scarlettscuck
Why do I want Scarlett to keep sleeping with other men? To start off, we have always had a great sext life. 10 years ago, we fell madly in love very quickly and she is my best friend without question. We communicate openly and on a very high level and we can tell each other anything without judgement. We are both lucky to be considered attractive (her more than me) and we have our health. So we talk about and strive to live for today (not recklessly) but to explore and experience things so we have no regrets later. So the strength of our relationship makes it possible to explore this lifestyle.
We are in our 40s have both been married, kids etc. We've experienced alot and are at the point of not caring what others think of us. We do our own thing without worry. Some of her best friends know about our lifestyle and of her boyfriend of 4 years. I find it very erotic when one of them asks me about it. I think several of her friends are envious.
When we first met, she was dating and fucking 3 different guys. I thought that was so hot and admired her sexual freedom after being married for 20+ years to a complete idiot. She would openly tell me about fucking them - sometimes multiple guys in one day! It got my juices flowing for sure.
After we started having 3sums I found myself enjoying her with the other guy, seeing the things that made her swoon and orgasm. It was incredibly erotic and frankly the taboo was liberating for her and so opposite from her guarded marriage. It was the ultimate gift of love and trust that goes against everything she had experienced. I don't own her and would never go there. She is a beautiful woman both inside and out and I love and support her no matter what. She gets hit on constantly and she loves the attention because she loves men. So how could I ever get between how alive and desired it makes her feel? I can't! It's too friggn hot to describe!
I was the one that encouraged her to see other men solo. She's been on numerous dates, madeout, given blowjobs, fucked guys and even had 3sums with guys. Some were spontaneous but most were sought out experiences that she wanted. And she does it on her terms. It doesn't happen alot. She's very classy and not a slut (until she gets in a guys bed) lol Then she loves to be taken and is very sexual.
Like a good cuckold, I found a guy to be her 2nd boyfriend to make sure her sexual needs were met while I was traveling extensively. Hey, why should her sexual needs be denied just because of my job? It was very exciting being away and knowing they were fucking in our marital bed every couple days. The videos and pics were excruciating to see. But I loved to make her happy and loved the way it made me felt. Hard to describe.
Scarlett is very sexy. Blonde, boobs, great legs and best of all her personality is magical. Occasionally, she will get hit on and flirt back right in front of me. I love that. It's not often but the guy usually looks at me like wtf? I grin and say to myself ... you can fuck my wife all you want. It's on her terms always. But she's coming home to me every night and she's not gonna fall in love with you either. Sorry! Then I actually smile and say to him confidently "Have fun man, it's all good." Lol
I love our lifestyle and how makes me feel when she's with another guy. The battle between my guts and the addictive angst I feel and my deeply imaginative mind that manufactures and visualizes my sexy wife in another mans arms... oh man it's the best porn ever!
I love the mindfuck and I think the next sexual frontier for me is enjoying my sexuality based in the core of my mind vs in the hard of my cock. We've explored chastity and that is an amazing mindfuck... all I can say is "Don't knock it until you try it!" It takes a strong mind and spirit to do it. I've had the best orgasms of my life after a 1-2 week lock up period. It's constant arousal 24/7 and when she's with her boyfriend it's agonizing and very addictive. Call me crazy.
Bottom line... I love her and definitely want more of what this exciting lifestyle is all about.
Thanks for reading.
scarlettscuck
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Please say hello!
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"
For me, the hunger to see my wife with another man came from years of neglect. At least, that's where it started.
We've been married for over 25 years. The first years were awesome... sex was frequent, and hot. She was always passionate, responsive, and I was intoxicated with her. Still am. But then we had our daughter, and things went from great to okay, to slow, to almost completely stopped. There was a period of about 17 years (total) where sex was anywhere from once a month down to gaps of six months. It varied, but slowly she was pulling away from me, and at first I didn't do anything much about it. I love her, and was trying to be sensitive to her feelings. I would never push myself on her. But her desire pretty much died completely, and after about 10 years of it I decided we had to talk about it, or it would never get better. During this period I was tempted by affairs, but I didn't want to be a cheater. I loved my wife, and wanted only her. Sometimes she would joke that I should take a lover. Little did I know that she wasn't joking; she knew what it was doing to me, and she told me later that if I had taken a lover, she wouldn't have held it against me. (My desire levels are very high... a day doesn't go by that I don't want her, and would have her multiple times a day if I had the chance.) To get through this rather long dry spell, I resorted to taking care of things myself, and fantasies were my food. One fantasy I found that turned me on most was stories where a wife was seduced by someone... usually reluctantly, until she gave in to her desires and then loved it. (There is a writer on ASSTR.ORG that goes by the pen name 'Hardy'. If you look him up you'll see many stories that helped build in me a desire to see my wife with another man.)
When I finally did start talking to my wife about the problem, we both decided to start looking for the root cause. It took years of searching, during which time we tried hormone therapy (she had very low testosterone levels), and changing her diet, and many different things, but after about 7 years we seemed to find the answer; it was a combination of discovering she was gluten intolerant, suffering from hypothyroidism, and her low testosterone. Once we solved the hypothyroidism, her system balanced, and her hormone levels began to balance, and her diet improved, and in about a year her desire levels suddenly resurfaced... with TEETH!
They came back so suddenly that she was at first thrown off by them. She started feeling desires again, and made a mistake in starting to flirt with a guy on Facebook. It got emotional quickly, and passionate, to the point where her guilt was eating at her, and she began to fall into depression. What I didn't know was that she had suffered from depression for years, but always kept it hidden. Now, with her emotions on high, and her desire levels pushing her, she was at war with herself in a way. She has always been a very strong woman, independent, but now she found herself breaking down in tears, but unable to tell me why. It shocked me... my normally very strong wife suddenly breaking down like this scared the shit out of me. I guess I did the right thing, though; I took her to the bedroom, hugged her, and held her, and told her that no matter what was wrong, it would be okay. I held her like that for about four hours the first day, while she sobbed on my shoulder. She fell asleep on me, and I held her until I fell asleep too. And when we woke up in the morning, she pulled me close and clung to me. And then something happened that hadn't happened in years. We made love. Passionately. Hungrily. The wife I had known so many years ago was suddenly returned to me. I was in heaven. We stayed in bed for the next week, making love. I'm sure our daughter had to be wondering at what was happening, but she stayed downstairs and let us be.
And then I discovered about the Facebook guy.
I was crushed. I can't even put into words the anguish I went through in those hours. She had mistakenly left her Facebook page open, with a message from him still visible. I never look at her computer, but that day the words 'Wish I was there', and a heart symbol, caught my eye. I wanted to ignore it. But I'm too much of a thinker to let something like that just go. So I looked into the logs of their conversation. And what I read shredded my heart in a way that was almost physical. I literally collapsed onto the floor in the kitchen, leaning back against the counter, wondering if our marriage was over. And for just a moment... only a moment... I knew hate. I had his picture, and for a moment I imagined him with her, and I saw myself killing him with my bare hands. And in that second, I knew such anger and hatred that it scared me. I shook it off. But I understand men who shoot their wife's lovers, now. At least, I know that in that brief moment I felt such hate for him that I could have done the same myself. But it passed, and then I had to decide how to confront my wife about what I had read.
I did, she denied it, but then couldn't deny when I quoted her words to him. What followed was a mess. Tears. Anger. Sorrow. It didn't simply end. It was too complicated for that, and I loved her too much. After a few months things were better. He fell into the past, and we went on. Our passion continued, our sex life also improved even more.
Seven months after the Facebook incident, I caught her flirting with a guy at the gym; he messaged her on Facebook, and I saw it. But this time I didn't confront her. This time she came to me first. We held hands as we walked that day, and for two hours she opened up to me and told me that she was feeling tempted, physically, by this man. Not mentally... she wasn't in love with him... but her body was driving her crazy, every time she was around this guy, her desire levels were off the chart. She just wanted to FUCK him. But she wouldn't do it. She couldn't cheat on me. And it was driving her a bit crazy.
And so there we were, in the middle of a shopping mall, holding hands, and she was trembling, in fear, I think. I remember it perfectly, that look in her eyes. She was afraid I would hate her. Afraid I would leave her. And now she was looking at me, waiting for me to say something. I pulled her close, kissed her softly, and whispered "It isn't cheating, if I give you permission."
(Yep, she just about fainted.)
I explained to her about my desires. How my fantasies had grown during the dry spell, most likely from the idea that if she wasn't turned on by me, then perhaps she might respond to someone else. And I saw in her eyes the realization that our desires could work for each other. So I gave her permission... and she fucked him. And loved it. And she loved me more then ever for trusting her with that 'gift'. (Her words.) Our sex life went from great to incredible. And now we swing, and I let her have lovers alone, and she lets me have the same. (Although I don't play with as many women as she has men... she is much hotter than I am.
) And our own sex life is better than it has ever been. Aside from some communication issues we needed to work out, things have been good. For the last two years or so we've been active players, and the game is FUN.
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We've been married for over 25 years. The first years were awesome... sex was frequent, and hot. She was always passionate, responsive, and I was intoxicated with her. Still am. But then we had our daughter, and things went from great to okay, to slow, to almost completely stopped. There was a period of about 17 years (total) where sex was anywhere from once a month down to gaps of six months. It varied, but slowly she was pulling away from me, and at first I didn't do anything much about it. I love her, and was trying to be sensitive to her feelings. I would never push myself on her. But her desire pretty much died completely, and after about 10 years of it I decided we had to talk about it, or it would never get better. During this period I was tempted by affairs, but I didn't want to be a cheater. I loved my wife, and wanted only her. Sometimes she would joke that I should take a lover. Little did I know that she wasn't joking; she knew what it was doing to me, and she told me later that if I had taken a lover, she wouldn't have held it against me. (My desire levels are very high... a day doesn't go by that I don't want her, and would have her multiple times a day if I had the chance.) To get through this rather long dry spell, I resorted to taking care of things myself, and fantasies were my food. One fantasy I found that turned me on most was stories where a wife was seduced by someone... usually reluctantly, until she gave in to her desires and then loved it. (There is a writer on ASSTR.ORG that goes by the pen name 'Hardy'. If you look him up you'll see many stories that helped build in me a desire to see my wife with another man.)
When I finally did start talking to my wife about the problem, we both decided to start looking for the root cause. It took years of searching, during which time we tried hormone therapy (she had very low testosterone levels), and changing her diet, and many different things, but after about 7 years we seemed to find the answer; it was a combination of discovering she was gluten intolerant, suffering from hypothyroidism, and her low testosterone. Once we solved the hypothyroidism, her system balanced, and her hormone levels began to balance, and her diet improved, and in about a year her desire levels suddenly resurfaced... with TEETH!
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And then I discovered about the Facebook guy.
I was crushed. I can't even put into words the anguish I went through in those hours. She had mistakenly left her Facebook page open, with a message from him still visible. I never look at her computer, but that day the words 'Wish I was there', and a heart symbol, caught my eye. I wanted to ignore it. But I'm too much of a thinker to let something like that just go. So I looked into the logs of their conversation. And what I read shredded my heart in a way that was almost physical. I literally collapsed onto the floor in the kitchen, leaning back against the counter, wondering if our marriage was over. And for just a moment... only a moment... I knew hate. I had his picture, and for a moment I imagined him with her, and I saw myself killing him with my bare hands. And in that second, I knew such anger and hatred that it scared me. I shook it off. But I understand men who shoot their wife's lovers, now. At least, I know that in that brief moment I felt such hate for him that I could have done the same myself. But it passed, and then I had to decide how to confront my wife about what I had read.
I did, she denied it, but then couldn't deny when I quoted her words to him. What followed was a mess. Tears. Anger. Sorrow. It didn't simply end. It was too complicated for that, and I loved her too much. After a few months things were better. He fell into the past, and we went on. Our passion continued, our sex life also improved even more.
Seven months after the Facebook incident, I caught her flirting with a guy at the gym; he messaged her on Facebook, and I saw it. But this time I didn't confront her. This time she came to me first. We held hands as we walked that day, and for two hours she opened up to me and told me that she was feeling tempted, physically, by this man. Not mentally... she wasn't in love with him... but her body was driving her crazy, every time she was around this guy, her desire levels were off the chart. She just wanted to FUCK him. But she wouldn't do it. She couldn't cheat on me. And it was driving her a bit crazy.
And so there we were, in the middle of a shopping mall, holding hands, and she was trembling, in fear, I think. I remember it perfectly, that look in her eyes. She was afraid I would hate her. Afraid I would leave her. And now she was looking at me, waiting for me to say something. I pulled her close, kissed her softly, and whispered "It isn't cheating, if I give you permission."
(Yep, she just about fainted.)
I explained to her about my desires. How my fantasies had grown during the dry spell, most likely from the idea that if she wasn't turned on by me, then perhaps she might respond to someone else. And I saw in her eyes the realization that our desires could work for each other. So I gave her permission... and she fucked him. And loved it. And she loved me more then ever for trusting her with that 'gift'. (Her words.) Our sex life went from great to incredible. And now we swing, and I let her have lovers alone, and she lets me have the same. (Although I don't play with as many women as she has men... she is much hotter than I am.
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-Cray
I never thought my wife could be this wild. I am SO lucky.
Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"
I like for my GF to sleep with other men, because I simply don't believe in monogamy. On a grander scale, I think these binary MF monogamous relationships have been pushed on us by the strange society that we live in due to property law and inheritance law. Polyamory is ideal, from the standpoint of companionship. finance, child rearing. More people on the team is better and more efficient. Not to sound like a communist, because I'm not, but if you take away paternity law and inheritance law, and the personal property that they concern, in a few generations, monogamy would not exist because it's just driven by those laws. It's simply a facilitator for a legal construct, necessary for courts to determine property rights. Not natural at all. Probably now with DNA paternity tests and the government monitoring every transaction, there is no need for it at all. If a MFMFMF team member decides to quit, DNA and financial records would determine their responsibility in the split. Monogamy was only necessary under the old legal system, not necessary in todays technological age.
Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"
Triangle, you have captured the essence of why it is so arousing to have one's wife getting fucked by other men. Even more, I share your feelings that her having sex with other men doesn't mean there is anything inadequate in your own sexuality. A woman can be completely satisfied with their own husband but still enjoy sex with other men.TriangleTangle wrote:I love my wife and have no desire for any other woman. We always have great sex, but it goes from great, to mind-blowing, after she has had sex with her boyfriend. I think I am simply wired that way. I once had the typical conventional boring sex life and divorced. Many years later I remarried to my present, wonderful wife with whom I am madly in love. She is the quintessential, pretty, petite, sparking-eyed girl-next-door with a perfect figure and a baby face that makes her look years younger than her actual age. She turns heads all the time and doesn't even notice.
I had been in the swinging lifestyle for several years in intervening relationships, but when swapping as couples, I could hardly keep my eyes off of my partner while she was having sex – and less interested in fucking the other guy’s wife or girlfriend. Don’t get me wrong, fucking another woman was great, and I got off, but I just couldn’t wait to get back home to fuck my own partner after another man had sexually taken her. When I met my present wife, I was open monogamous explained my past swinger experience, and proceeded to tell her about my desire to watch her being taken by another man. Of course she was shocked, and was highly suspect of my motives, but she soon learned that I truly wanted to be totally monogamous on my end, but her own non-monogamy was my kink.
Fast forward. We’ve had amazing experiences over the past few years. She’s had few select men, and one I’d consider her on-again, off-again boyfriend, but far too infrequent due to his own commitments. She’s now about to have a first date this week with a really good looking, well-built stud she met on a swinger dating site. It's been far too long since she's had a date. He is single, which we both prefer for several reasons. Why, does that excite me even more? Maybe it’s the heightened risk he’ll want her totally for his own, and I welcome that because I know her commitment to our marriage and growing old together is unbreakable, but I’d enjoy knowing he wants her that much; it heightens the competition, which is a huge turn on.
I love when she gets fucked by another guy, and I love fucking her after she has a date, whether she goes to the other guy’s place and they fuck there, or whether he comes to our home and he fucks her in our marital bed, or even a straight MFM with me as the third wheel. And I don’t want them to just fuck either, I want them to ooze carnal desire for one another. I want to know she’s deep into the new relationship experience (NRE) and basking in the glow of it. I want her to want him physically and emotionally, with a strong romantic connection, deep passionate kissing, powerful sexual magnetism, and frequent multi-orgasmic, convulsive fucking. The only requirement I have is that we are always open and truthful to each other, always disclose and share everything, she inform be before and after she ever has sex with another, and we have sex afterwards. I am fine if she develops some degree of emotional attachment that she can manage, and it is even better if she does. She's quite familiar with NRE, and knows how to manage it having been around that block before, and there is nothing wrong with her enjoying that to the fullest for however long it lasts. If it became a lasting relationship, that would be fine too; I've experienced polyamory before. I want her to covet his body and his cock, and crave his sperm as he frequently and repeatedly unloads his love seed deep into her pussy, making her body his, and experience her unbridled desire wanting him to own her body while they are together.
She’s pretty much beyond child bearing years, and I am cut, so there is no chance she can bear another child we me. The chances another man could impregnate her are extremely remote, virtually zilch, but I love seeing her actively try with her lover, at least in spirit. Both of us would love to have and raise another child, and the trying is fun, even if she doesn’t or can't conceive. The thought of fucking her for nine months while her belly shows the evidence of her infidelity after being bred by another man gives me a perpetual erection. I've loved it in the past when she'd come home from a date with her former BF with cum-soaked panties. I go out of my mind with desire to fuck her brains out when she pulls them down and informs me of the obvious that another man has just unloaded inside of her two, three, or four times. Revealing the evidence of her infidelity in a smug, playful, taunting way, knowing his virile seed is up in her belly - and could knock her up, is enough to make me explode even before sinking my own large and capable cock between her perfect legs. I love feeling the silky, slippery wetness of their sex as my large hard cock slips effortlessly where his just occupied. I love how his cum gushes out of her love nest as I plunge my cock deep inside my horny little vixen. I unload again and again as she tells me repeatedly how well he fucked her. When I am about to cum, she sends me over the top when she tells me, in taunting detail, how it felt when his cock stiffened up and became huge just before he came, how she felt his cock pulse as he released inside her, that she loved the felt of his warm cum filling her, and how he now owns her body as long as she carries his seed.
I don’t fear losing her. If she ever did want to leave for another man, I’d let her go, because I want her happiness above my own, and she knows that. She can start and stop playing whenever she wants, I never push her, but I open the door to make it possible, and encourage her if she so desires. That is true unconditional love, but I know her love for me, and her commitment to our marriage, as well as mine, is unshakable. That makes is all that much more amazing. Why does it turn me on so? Why do I want my wife to sleep with another man? As I’ve said many times before, compersion - the sheer excitement of knowing my wife is experiencing and enjoying extreme pleasure, sexually, and emotionally, to the greatest amount and extent possible, and experiencing her intense desire and pleasure vicariously, through her. Because I know she is getting that with another man, as well as with me, I see her as The Total Woman that she can be, and that she is - smart, sexy, fun, and loving. I can still feel the angst every time she chats with another man, every time she has a date, every time she fucks - and that is the best part of all, because that is the very fuel of my own sexual arousal. She is at once my partner, my friend, my lover, and my wife, but she can also be my submissive, my dominant and my equal at different times. She is her own woman, and I love and respect her more than words can express, because she is.
TT
In my own case, my wife was aware that I had been in open relationships, and that I was not jealous of her being with other men. (She had been with many men before we met.) Never-the-less, she remained monogamous for many years after we married. I never put pressure on her to seek out other men. Then in her mid-40s she came to me and said that she wanted to date other men. She was still physically attractive and desirable, and I think she was seeking validation of her sexuality. I encouraged her to date, and vicariously enjoyed the trip as she went out with other men.
Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"
TriangleTangle wrote:I love my wife and have no desire for any other woman. We always have great sex, but it goes from great, to mind-blowing, after she has had sex with her boyfriend. I think I am simply wired that way. I once had the typical conventional boring sex life and divorced. Many years later I remarried to my present, wonderful wife with whom I am madly in love............. She turns heads all the time and doesn't even notice.
Fast forward. We’ve had amazing experiences over the past few years. ......................... She’s now about to have a first date this week with a really good looking, well-built stud. He is single, which we both prefer for several reasons. Why, does that excite me even more? Maybe it’s the heightened risk he’ll want her totally for his own, and I welcome that because I know her commitment to our marriage and growing old together is unbreakable, but I’d enjoy knowing he wants her that much; it heightens the competition, which is a huge turn on.
I love when she gets fucked by another guy, and I love fucking her after she has a date, whether she goes to the other guy’s place and they fuck there, or whether he comes to our home and he fucks her in our marital bed, or even a straight MFM with me as the third wheel. And I don’t want them to just fuck either, I want them to ooze carnal desire for one another. I want to know she’s deep into the new relationship experience (NRE) and basking in the glow of it. I want her to want him physically and emotionally, with a strong romantic connection, deep passionate kissing, powerful sexual magnetism, and frequent multi-orgasmic, convulsive fucking. The only requirement I have is that we are always open and truthful to each other, always disclose and share everything, she inform be before and after she ever has sex with another, and we have sex afterwards. I am fine if she develops some degree of emotional attachment that she can manage, and it is even better if she does. She's quite familiar with NRE, and knows how to manage it having been around that block before, and there is nothing wrong with her enjoying that to the fullest for however long it lasts. If it became a lasting relationship, that would be fine too; I've experienced polyamory before. I want her to covet his body and his cock, and crave his sperm as he frequently and repeatedly unloads his love seed deep into her pussy, making her body his, and experience her unbridled desire wanting him to own her body while they are together. .........................................
........................I don’t fear losing her. If she ever did want to leave for another man, I’d let her go, because I want her happiness above my own, and she knows that. She can start and stop playing whenever she wants, I never push her, but I open the door to make it possible, and encourage her if she so desires. That is true unconditional love, but I know her love for me, and her commitment to our marriage, as well as mine, is unshakable. That makes is all that much more amazing. Why does it turn me on so? Why do I want my wife to sleep with another man? As I’ve said many times before, compersion - the sheer excitement of knowing my wife is experiencing and enjoying extreme pleasure, sexually, and emotionally, to the greatest amount and extent possible, and experiencing her intense desire and pleasure vicariously, through her. Because I know she is getting that with another man, as well as with me, I see her as The Total Woman that she can be, and that she is - smart, sexy, fun, and loving. I can still feel the angst every time she chats with another man, every time she has a date, every time she fucks - and that is the best part of all, because that is the very fuel of my own sexual arousal. She is at once my partner, my friend, my lover, and my wife, but she can also be my submissive, my dominant and my equal at different times. She is her own woman, and I love and respect her more than words can express.
TT
I edited your post a bit......... including 'bolding" parts.... things that mirrors my situation and feelings exactly .
I hope you don't mind.
As I said before in in other threads, I never wanted any sort of verbal abuse from anyone
My wife is also multi orgasmic and loves to fuck in the missionary position.
I also want my wife and any given Boyfriend (who she always fucks bare back when she is safe) to not just be sex partners. I want them to be to be romantic lovers as well
who are in love to one extent or another.
I want them to go on romantic dates ( dinner, dancing, etc), spend extended times together (days, even weeks) living as a romantic couple fucking and making love.
I love it when she and a given boyfriend who she has a romantic attachment to, goes on what she playfully call a "honeymoon" with him.
What this means is, she will actually go to live with him for a couple of weeks or so, and they will live as a honeymoon couple couple... doing anything, going anywhere they wish.
When they fuck (which I hope is often) I want them to be totally locked together... both physically and emotionally,,...his cock in her vagina....their tongues sensuously intertwining, in an extremely erotic, and perverse sexual and romantic coupling of their bodies and minds.....both giving each other the most erotic sexual and emotional pleasure possible as she has orgasm after orgasm.
I say "perverse" as after all. she in my wife.... the woman I love and, every very social norm says that she and her BF should not be engaged in this.
I also want her to crave his semen in her as often as possible, allowing her vagina to absorb it and all its chemicals.... to become part of her.
In short, I want them to be a total couple, to totally belong to each other when they are together, as it totally turns me on.
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I also get a big vicarious thrill from their from their sexual and romantic pairing.
She is well aware of NRE and realizes that any relationship with another man is free of all of life's problems and issues. It is always a fantasy relationship and romance for her.
However, at the same time, I realize that there are no guarantees in life and this flirting with danger... playing with erotic fire.... and the resulting angst, can be a turn on for me.
So, the combo of the the vicarious pleasure that I get from their relationship and the pleasurable angst that I feel is a powerful turn on for me.
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Our beginnings in the HW life style
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"My wife likes to talk to me when she's having sex. Last night she called me from Chicago."
-Rodney Dangerfield :)