Xraygirl_4832 wrote: ↑Sun Nov 12, 2023 5:31 pm
I would love to know how people’s conversations start and progress; at this point any input would be helpful. We have met with a couple of men and feel I do much better in person.
Most men have lost the ability to flirt.
Its not YOU!
Messaging with men is even worse. They can't sustain an interaction must less build sexual tension.
Social media has broken their brains. I swear it.
Step 1 - take the pressure off of yourself. (NO BARS!)
Step 2 - we women can give off obvious signals (they have to be obvious because men are incompetently blind at picking up on them).
- cleavage. Has to be more than a hint, which can seem accidental = no signal. Can't be over the top cleavage = wrong signal.
Just nice, obviously deliberate but tasteful cleavage. "Yes you want to be noticed cleavage".
- Red lips. Not super glossy. simple matte red lips. Truly is a bat signal for men.
- nice heel. mid height. wedge is fine. nothing tiny or fancy. Just enough to say that you want them to watch your hips move as you walk.
- tighter clothing.
Step 3 - put that together and find a busy coffee shop. Sit. enjoy them noticing. Smile when smiled at.
Put that outfit together at the busy gym you are going to join. Go when men over 40 also go.
Cleavage, red lips. Smile.
I promise at the end of the month of daily gym/coffee - you're phone will be full of men flirting with you.
I had a women suggest most of that to me when I was starting. (by starting I mean the phase that I wanted to take control).
We played a game that If a guy chatted me up and asked me out - I HAD to say yes if I would have said yes if I were single.
I literally started the gym game on monday and had sex with a new guy on wed.
Cleavage, red lips + a nice open smile.