Newly married! How I realised that I want to become cuckold and what are the chances of actually becoming one?

[AnotherOneTrying]

Hi everyone!

It's been a while since I have been reading this forum and felt like maybe it's a good time to share my story/situation. Albeit, it's not very unique, I'm just just another wannabe cuckold husband and yet, I feel that support of the community might be helpful in any case.

I'm 31 and my partner is 28. We married very recently but together we spent almost 6 years now. Before we met I considered myself as bisexual but if I'm being honest my bisexuality was more of a theory as in reality I was sleeping only with men ( and in 95% of cases I was a bottom) as with girls it would always end up with "friendships". I didn't mind it too much as I thought that men are easier to handle. Occasionally I'd have masturbated to hetero porn but it was the extent of my bisexuality. So it is safe to say that sexually I was more of a submissive type.

But we'll, once we met all of it drastically changed. Initially she was concerned that I'm 100% homosexual but I assured her that I slept with many girls too. As the matter of fact though she was my first. Everything was (and is) incredible since then both in bed and generally as well, we are still madly and passionately in love after all these years.

Certainly, I wouldn't have been here if it was the end of story. Fron the very beginning she (lets call her from now on T), otherwise very understanding and flexible, was very particular about monogamy. T told me to stop even thinking about fucking any man or woman while we are together. At first I was pretty much annoyed as I saw as something outdated but then I noticed weird satisfaction from seeing her bossy, controlling side that can strictly prohibit me from doing something. She got even more controlling when I finally told her that she was my first woman. T immediate response was "and let be clear – also the last one unless I change my mind... Which I won't, of course". It was said with laughs and giggles but I knew that she was serious and I definitely felt how my submissive side was getting kink out of it. For the first time I felt as if she can fully control my sexual life and I'm absolutely fine with it.

Still, I was gently pushing the boundaries offering mmf threesomes. And after a year or so T said that theoretically, in some distant future, she can agree to this but with one condition – I shouldn't engage with the third male, both of us should be solely focused on pleasing her. I never thought about it this way but I suddenly found myself being aroused with this idea, though she meant almost like a joke. It was a first time when I'm realised, that it's not so far from cuckold relationships. Shortly afterwards she told me casually about her friend who couple of times fucked his friends gf while her bf just watched. And it was second time when I found myself extremely aroused and we had wonderful passionate sex right after. To my surprise this idea stayed with me and that's when I found this forum and realised that it is actually reality for many people with many variations of how such relationships can exist.

The last drop for me to fully realise and accept the fact that I want to be cuckolded when I saw her texting a lot to some guy I've never heard about before though she was open about her exes with me. It turned out to be a guy she met long time ago and later visited him when she was traveling around Europe. He invited her to stay with him and she did for 2-3 nights she said. I asked her if anything happened between them and she replied "not really... Nothing worth mentioning" and refused to elaborate. That got me really curious and even jealous a bit evn though their text to each other were very casual, nothing sexual or even flirtatious. Still one day I had a chance to go thru her diary which I never did before. Luckily she met this guy just 2-3 months before she met me so I easily found the part I was seeking. The description of first two days and nights were indeed very non romantic but on the third day her writing changed. She was clearly falling for him, describing his hair, how she wants to touch him , kiss him and so on and that's why she extended her stay for one more night when she decided to take initiative.

And in the next entry she described what happened the following night. How they were watching a movie, she started caressing his hands, asked him if he wants to caress her back. And when he agreed she started kissing him , he put his hands on her breasts and then went on for a while till she felt how hard he is ... And then with utmost detail she adored his huge cock that was apparently bigger than her exes and how she started slowly stroking it. Surprisingly though the guy stopped her at this point saying that they need to know each better and he has no condoms and the neighbours will hear if they get loud. So kinda nothing really happened between them indeed, but I was super hard while reading this. And when that followed with a one page lament on how gorgeous was his cock and how badly she wanted it inside of her I could help myself but to cum imagining her craving for his big cock. After that I definitely understood that I'm cuckold and I want too see my gf ,(at the moment) to enjoy sex with other men more than anything else.

Sorry, I just realised that it's getting probably too long. I guess I willl write about our current status and progress in a separate post.

Thanks to everyone who will be able to real this random rant

[Lucky Dog]

It's a very exciting moment when you first realize this is an actual possibility and you want it to happen. If she wants it to happen, too, are you ready? Could you be satisfied if the man is only interested in her? And what if he's bi, and wants to top you -- would you allow him to do this with both of you?

[AnotherOneTrying]

It's a very exciting moment when you first realize this is an actual possibility and you want it to happen. If she wants it to happen, too, are you ready? Could you be satisfied if the man is only interested in her? And what if he's bi, and wants to top you -- would you allow him to do this with both of you?

Yeah, i should actually properly describe the progress we made since then , I just felt that the previous entry is already too long.

But the short answer to your question will be – yes, most definitely, i think I am ready. At first the idea of another man being interested only in her was kinda alien to me but now I feel do absolutely fine even if I'm denied any sexual contact at such encounter and only allowed to watch or go down oh her afterwards. If suddenly she will say that she needs to meet someone privately without me present, even that's ok, provided she will give me all the details later. But if the guy is bi, then it's just perfect. What can strengthen the marriage better than sucking one cock together, am I right?

[AnotherOneTrying]

So since that realisation that I am pretty much into being cuckolded 2-3 years passed. I consider myself incredibly lucky with my wife as she is extremely open to at least discussing all the issues or new interests without being judgemental or scared.

I guess at some point she really accepted that the bi part of me is missing something she herself offered to try a strap-on. It came as a huge (in all ways) but pleasent surprise. It's been more than year since we got it and if initially she was a bit awkward using it and it was only me who would suggest trying it, but nowadays she is certainly explored her dominant side and at least once in a week or two she would happily announce that today I'm gonna be the one who is getting penetrated.

Eventually it provided much needed diversity in our sexual dynamic. Since we are both, as I was saying, comparatively more on the submissive side sexually, she "naturally" was expecting me to be dominant male. And even though I also succeeded (again, of course, comparatively) in this field to satisfy her, I never fully enjoyed this role much. But with the strap-on her dominant side started developing much quicker. Now she can just tell me to lie down and ride face. Or when she fucks me with the strap-on she might threaten to stop if I start touching myself and so I'm only allowed to cum when she is tired and thinks that I got enough. Obviously I totally encourage her to act like this when we have discussions about it.

When this became a prominent feature of our sex life, i thought it's a good chance to push towards threesome and/or cuckolding. And in the last 6 months the conversation around the topic drastically changed. Especially, if compared to her initial reactions 4-5 years ago. My idea was to get her used to the idea of being penetrated by someone else. So here our strap-on came in handy. With some foreplay and dirty talk I started fucking her with this "black friend" (as the strap-on itself is a proper bbc -9 inch and pretty thick). At first she was confused why don't I want to fuck her myself. But I assured her that I just want her to enjoy and if she feels that I'm better than this "black friend" I would immediately take his place. And at the beginning after some time she would always ask me to remove dildo and enter her myself... But not anymore. She admitted that the intensity of me fucking her with the dildo is pretty amazing and that my dick can't always match it in those terms. Then during transition period she would suck me and or give me a handjob while I use the toy on her. But she realised that she needs to fully focus on her sensations and she can't multitask. So she left ne only with an option to stroke myself and cum on her boobs or stomach without caring much if i actually enter her after the toy or not. I guess it can be called a progress

Feels like it's getting too long again. So will continue in another post.

[AnotherOneTrying]

Do just wrap it up here

Couple of months ago during one of our after sex talk she declared that she is not ready but if I find a good masseur for her she doesn't mind getting full body massage and if he is handsome and skilled in his art she would love to be fingered by him. And I can either watch or get massage along with her with happy ending for myself with a man or woman. You can imagine how excited I got and immediately started looking for options online. Unfortunately, she backtracked a bit and reiterated that she is not ready yet and will indicate when I should actually start looking for options but she promised that this future won't be too distant.

And just a week ago while I was out of the city, during our sexting session, i pushed for mfm again and she actively continued. Said that I will have avoid any contact with another man and focus solely on her pleasure. And since she is not good in multitasking she will be preoccupied with another dick. I answered that of course I would happily lick her pussy before , while and after "another guy" fucks her. She added that I will also be allowed to cum once they are done at least twice and I clean her pussy after this and only then, since she is going to be exhausted, I will have to just jerk myself off.

I suppose it sounds really promising now. What do you think?are there other methods to slowly push her in the tight direction

[zorro]

I don't clearly hear that either of you needs "pushing in the right direction." I hear an on-going negotiation during which you both say what you desire and then discuss what feels comfortable to each other. There is less than perfect alignment between your desires -- frankly the usual in most any relationship.

My counsel is to continue talking about your wants and dislikes and continue to understand what stands behind the "no" when there is a no. Eventually, you two may come to an understanding and agreement that gives both of you what your hearts desire.

Your wife has some territoriality issues. As she talks about them and understands them more, she might be willing to give you more latitude to have the sexual pleasure you desire. And you might be willing to give her what she wants. Perhaps there might be a trade off negotiated in which some occasions you watch them fuck and then clean her up and go jerk off, some occasions when she watches you be topped by the bi man in bed with you two. It doesn't have to be only one way all the time. You can take turns having what you each want. There is no absolute best way to do this. Your wife and you have the freedom to design your own unique rules.

Love, communication, and empathy are your best path to a happy relationship together.

[AnotherOneTrying]

I don't clearly hear that either of you needs "pushing in the right direction." I hear an on-going negotiation during which you both say what you desire and then discuss what feels comfortable to each other. There is less than perfect alignment between your desires -- frankly the usual in most any relationship.

My counsel is to continue talking about your wants and dislikes and continue to understand what stands behind the "no" when there is a no. Eventually, you two may come to an understanding and agreement that gives both of you what your hearts desire.

Your wife has some territoriality issues. As she talks about them and understands them more, she might be willing to give you more latitude to have the sexual pleasure you desire. And you might be willing to give her what she wants. Perhaps there might be a trade off negotiated in which some occasions you watch them fuck and then clean her up and go jerk off, some occasions when she watches you be topped by the bi man in bed with you two. It doesn't have to be only one way all the time. You can take turns having what you each want. There is no absolute best way to do this. Your wife and you have the freedom to design your own unique rules.

Love, communication, and empathy are your best path to a happy relationship together.

Well, by "pushing" I mean progress in ongoing negotiations. Otherwise I totally agree and also hope that one day we will reach the arrangement that you described