Asking GF to watch porn went wrong!

[Fapster69]

Me and my GF had drinks the other night and were feeling frisky.

I bit the bullet and took this opportunity to ask my GF to watch porn with me. She was confused as to why I wanted to watch it with her so I told her I think it would be hot to watch together!

She said fine whatever (straight away I am like crap this isn't a good start), so I opened pornhub and said to her to pick something to watch.

She said to me, "no I want to see what you pick!"

Obviously I have a hotwife fetish and enjoy interracial(that's why I'm here!) but I'm thinking I need to go in gently and can't put on straight up cuck shit straight away so I scrolled a little bit and found an amateur video of a black guy having sex with a white girl.

I followed advice and was focused more on her pleasure than actually watching the video, she was confused why I picked this video (I just said it was hot) but at this point it was going alright.

Eventually we had sex and then after it she got upset and totally took it all the wrong way and thought she wasn't enough for me anymore, that I was bored of her and I needed to watch porn during sex to be able to get off now! I said she is beautiful, obviously I don't need porn don't be silly I just thought it would be hot!

Basically it couldn't have went any worse and now I think I've killed the fantasy stone dead! I had this vision in my head of how it went and it crashed and burned and couldn't have went any worse if I tried!

The next morning she was a lot better and I reiterated that I definitely don't need it she is amazingly beautiful and we have amazing sex, that I was just trying something different for a change! Later in the day we started getting frisky again and I made a joke about putting porn on and she laughed out loud! :ROFLMAO: We continued and had amazing sex (without watching porn this time! :ROFLMAO:) then I told here see I don't need to watch it!

Now I'm wondering what I should do next! We have been together for years and me bringing this up to her was incredibly difficult, I wanted to share my fantasy and it went terribly on the night! We are completely fine now though!

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Fapster69.

[Mr Stag]

When it comes to women and porn, it's truly non-linear time. I once had a girlfriend who resented my owning a single issue of GQ magazine, as that issue featured two photo essays on two sexy women. No complete nudity, mind you, just sexy photographs. I explained that the reason I bought the magazine was for the interview with Jack Nicholson, which I showed her. She could only see the women. I told her to rip out the offending pages then. She wanted me to throw the entire magazine away. I refused, explaining that I refused to acknowledge her insecurity or further it. (She was a former model, by the way. Damn cute.)

Prior to her, a girlfriend had been raised a Jehovah Witness, which she broke free from, but not entirely, as she had many issues with sex. For example, she didn't mind my being naked and hard, while she was dressed; she also didn't mind her being completely naked, while I was dressed; but both of us being naked at the same time caused her great distress. How did we fuck? We didn't. She wanted to save fucking for her future husband, a wish that I respected. We made love all the time and both of us orgasmed all the time, but no fucking, just lots of licking and sucking. Okay, here is where porn enters the picture. I owned two Playboy special editions that held just one-page-sized photographs of all twelve playmates of the year. I used to draw and I used those photos as models. I showed her my drawings. She HATED those magazines.

(By the way, she had a fine body. She was super athletic and good at all sports, such as tennis, golf, swimming… We were going to some cultural event, and I told that I wanted her to go braless. I showed up to pick her up and I was super disappointed that she was wearing a bra. She claimed that she wasn't. I checked, she wasn't. Amazing breasts.)

Okay, last porn story, which might actually help you. The year was about 1995 and porn was appearing on the internet. My girlfriend, at the time, at first relished hunting down porn photos on the web, which she saved to a folder for me to see later. The folder was named something like, "Things that make me wet." Great, what could be better? I decided to make my own folder and find my photos that made me hard. It started well, but went south very soon. She grew to resent my seeing the other women.

Nonlinear!

She admitted that it made her feel diminished. I explained that I didn't see the other women, as what I saw in all the photos was her. The women were merely placeholders for her. I saw her walking naked in public, her being fucked by a black man, her being the center of a MMF threesome of gangbang. I went on to say that if the women had their faces hidden behind a mask, I would prefer it, as then it would be easier for me to imagine seeing her in the picture. Did this work? Yes and no. I decided to delete the folder and photos and concentrate on introducing more fantasy talk into our sex.

Since we had fucked on our first date and fucked constantly thereafter, I had become lazy, forgetting to tantalize her imagination. If you read some romance novels (i.e. women's fiction) you soon note that they are filled with sex, but the sex is portrayed in an hazy, diffused way, like porn shot in the fog. That is what females enjoy, not crystal-clear porn with sharp-focus closeups. Of course, there are exceptions, but they are just that: exceptions.

[stillhopeful]

Next time try to pick something SHE will like, not what you like.
Seeing or hearing a couple that my wife even thinks may be having sex makes her horny as hell. I think the porn feeds that voyeur in her. She has themes she likes and themes she doesn't like. Guess which ones we watch.

[Wantsomefunto]

Maybe find movies or shows that have hot sex scenes in them to watch together and see how she likes them.

[Fapster69]

Next time try to pick something SHE will like, not what you like.
Seeing or hearing a couple that my wife even thinks may be having sex makes her horny as hell. I think the porn feeds that voyeur in her. She has themes she likes and themes she doesn't like. Guess which ones we watch.

That's the thing, she doesn't watch porn ever! As for the second part, I remember when we were on holiday and we heard people having sex in the next room and both listened through the wall!

[4herpleasure89]

When I introduced porn into our marriage the first time my wife just felt it was morally wrong. She did however find it arousing and we had fun with it, but afterward she wanted it turned off and put away immediately.

So we didn’t do it often and I chose older plot based porn with humor. I encouraged her to just watch it with me prior to the two of us getting into our sex. Gradually she began to enjoy it and over the years even finds porn she likes herself. So I wouldn’t make to much of your first experience but maybe not introduce it again for awhile.

Next time give her a few choices and ask her what she likes. I wouldn’t push your specific fantasy of interracial porn right off. Mix it up.

[Just a Fantasy]

"If you read some romance novels (i.e. women's fiction) you soon note that they are filled with sex, but the sex is portrayed in an hazy, diffused way, like porn shot in the fog. That is what females enjoy, not crystal-clear porn with sharp-focus closeups. Of course, there are exceptions, but they are just that: exceptions."

THIS! The book, A Billion Wicked Thoughts has some great insight into this. Well worth a read if you want to understand female desire.

My wife is not much of a porn fan but loves sexy movies and TV shows - Sex and Lucia, Eyes Wide Shut, Indecent Proposal etc. Fire up El juego de las llaves (Game of Keys) on Netflix. It's Mexican series about couples that start swinging. You might start with something even a little lighter like Valeria - it's like a Spanish Sex in the City but there's a lot more sex and the lead is a cute redhead who gets naked enough to make it interesting for guys too

[Farmgirl]

My wife is not much of a porn fan but loves sexy movies and TV shows - Sex and Lucia, Eyes Wide Shut, Indecent Proposal etc. Fire up El juego de las llaves (Game of Keys) on Netflix. It's Mexican series about couples that start swinging. You might start with something even a little lighter like Valeria - it's like a Spanish Sex in the City but there's a lot more sex and the lead is a cute redhead who gets naked enough to make it interesting for guys too

This is much like me. I like to watch a lot of English, French, and Spanish, produced shows and series. They tend to have a lot of sex and nudity, but sex and nudity with an actual story that makes sense.

[Fapster69]

When I introduced porn into our marriage the first time my wife just felt it was morally wrong. She did however find it arousing and we had fun with it, but afterward she wanted it turned off and put away immediately.

I'm in the exact same boat. My girlfriend was raised in a family of women, she has no brothers, so I'm guessing this is why porn is such an alien thing to her. We are from the UK, so the closest socially acceptable porn related thing we watch is the show "Naked Attraction".

The problem is, this naked attraction show usually has weirdos on it, they never get absolute gigachads or alphas with huge cocks so we always end up laughing when we watch it!

[Fapster69]

This is much like me. I like to watch a lot of English, French, and Spanish, produced shows and series. They tend to have a lot of sex and nudity, but sex and nudity with an actual story that makes sense.

Sort of related but I remember about two years ago we had an argument and fell out.

I couldn't be bothered arguing anymore so pretended to be asleep and it just so happened that one of the 50 shades movies was on the TV. I was in and out of sleep and noticed she sat and watched one of the sex scenes in the movie, she was fully into it! The next morning I teased her and said I woke up and seen she was watching it intently but she denied it!

My GF absolutely loves sex with me but she can't seem to get over the taboo of it! I try so hard to show her there is nothing to be ashamed of but it just doesn't seem to work!

[Threeisacharm]

Transition to porn is a tough one. You could ask for a re-do in a month and get her to pick and to make it easy ask her for words or theme she would like.

Before you bring back porn though, why not tell her about a co-worker or customer who told you that his wife was cheating on him and when he found out she said she was not giving up her lover. This provides dialouge and feedback from her. After you let her talk, you can say "I would want to know".

[TheHammer]

It’s in her mind now so that is good. Lay low but be ready to strike.

If and when the opportunity presents itself watch a regular movie that has a sex scene but isn’t a sex themed movie.

When she mentions porn next, let her know that it’s her turn to pick, if she doesn’t want to, pick one together. Maybe a lesbian porn if you think that may ease her into it. Even a soft porn Cinemax movie would work at a next step.

Just wait it out and in the meantime be more sexual and loving with her without being obvious to help bring it out of her.

[Fapster69]

Another update!

We are just back from a weeks holiday with each other. My GF was on her period the week we were away, we had no sex, but we still had an amazing time together!

We've been back a few days now and me being the sex addict I am tried my hardest not to initiate. My GF eventually gave in and told me she wanted to fuck, so we started touching each other while we were watching a crappy Netflix movie!

Anyone who is interested should look at my last posts, but I took this opportunity to escalate my cuck fetish!

During our foreplay, while I was playing with her pussy, I started playing with her asshole at the same time.

She always tells me she hates me touching her ass, but every time she gets soaking wet! As long as I don't put my finger right in she absolutely loves it so I kept sliding my finger around her asshole.

She was soaking wet at this point, I had my left hand middle finger sliding in and out of her pussy and my right hand middle finger putting pressure on her asshole without going right in.

I'm not a great dirty talker, but I whispered in here ear that she secretly loved having both of her holes pleasured at the same time!

She started bucking around like crazy and I told her that I wish I had two penises so I could pleasure both of her holes at the same time!

She was going insane at this point trying her best not to cum, I knew she was loving it, so I went all in and told her to imagine two cocks sliding into both of her holes at the same time.

She immediately came and told me to start fucking her while she was still in the zone!

It has been a few weeks since I last posted but I think this has been the most significant progress since the beginning! I floated the idea of her having a cock in both holes at the same time and she came immediately so I know she is secretly turned on by the idea!

[airhorn]

During our foreplay, while I was playing with her pussy, I started playing with her asshole at the same time.

She always tells me she hates me touching her ass, but every time she gets soaking wet! As long as I don't put my finger right in she absolutely loves it so I kept sliding my finger around her asshole.

My wife is much the same way. She insists she wants nothing to do with assplay, and yet when I'm going down on her...

Usually I have my left forearm under her hips to give her a bit of a lift up, and I'll start with my right hand next to her left hip. As she gets warmed up she'll push my hand down below her ass.

Okay then. Make sure her pussy is well slobbered, everything good and slippery, then start gently rubbing with one finger while licking (sometimes inserting). After a short time she starts rocking her hips up so... well, it's not so much my finger moves to her asshole, but her asshole moves to my finger.

I'll usually shift a little to the side, I don't drill straight in, and yet somehow as she's getting closer to her release, my fingertip ends up dead center on her asshole, and then sliding in a bit.

And I'm not moving.

"Not my asshole!"

Okay lady, if you say so.

[trecital]

She always tells me she hates me touching her ass, but every time she gets soaking wet! As long as I don't put my finger right in she absolutely loves it

My advice? Don't push it!

No, seriously.....if she likes the sensation of exterior arse play then stick with that for now. Perhaps the idea/fantasy of anal sex turns her on, but she doesn't want to try it in reality. Because she knows it will likely hurt. Or, because of the 'dirt' aspect. By sticking to the outside only she is still in her comfort zone. Think how lucky you are that your wife is open to the sensations that are available from exterior butt hole stimulation.

And it sounds like she might get turned on by the thought of two men having her. Keep testing the waters, repeating what you know she likes, with slight varations, and see what she responds to. Plus, at some stage, you might benefit from some discussion of what things she likes you to say to her. Get as much feedback as you can, but without pushing it.
Good luck.

[BBCfan]

Some great advice here, Especially trying to think what she might like watching.
Generally guys like porn for sex, girls like porn for the lead up and seduction.

I had one girlfriend that used to like porn but I always tried to pick something that showed a good girl being seduced by some hot guy with a huge cock or something along those lines.

I noticed it was the lead up and seduction part that made my girlfriend horny more than the actual fucking.

Might be hard to find porn with actual decent lead up seduction, but they may be out there somewhere. It doesn't have to be super long either, I'm sure if you think about your wife's personality something will come to mind.

[Fapster69]

And it sounds like she might get turned on by the thought of two men having her. Keep testing the waters, repeating what you know she likes, with slight varations, and see what she responds to.

I've mentioned the "two cocks" thing a few times now and she seems to like it! The second time I brought it up during sex she asked why, I just said I thought it was hot!

She then asked me if I wanted her to say it and I said yeah! She was still riding me but never said it so I said to her "what do you like?" and she said "two cocks"!

Insane progress if you ask me!

We had sex again yesterday and when she was touching herself she pulled my cock out and said I need some more. I said "some more what?" and her being the prude that she is (her own words! ) couldn't even bring herself to say the word "cum" so she said "some more liquid"!

We continued fucking and when she was on the edge I said "you'd get a lot more liquid with two cocks!" which was followed by a big moan from her!

[usuallylost]

Fapster, sounds like you are getting very close to that fantasy. I am curious as to how things have progressed. Have you shared with her yet your cuckold fantasy? Have you continued to watch porn together and is she more receptive? I find you journey fascinating and hope she is getting close to fulfilling hour fantasy.

I have tried to get my wife to enjoy porn with me, but she is like a lot of women and doesn't have the same interest as I, although she encourages me to watch it when she is not horny and I am. Interestingly, of the few times she watched with me, the most excited she got was two women although she swears she has no interest in being with another woman.

Love to hear your updates. Thank you for sharing.

[softy]

It’s great how much progress you’ve made, but please take it slow. I have been with my wife for many, many years and have had many successes and setbacks. Sometimes I’d get carried away and take it too far, and it would shut things down for a long time.

The main example I want to put out is that she would never want to watch interracial porn and would say black guys don’t do it for her. But sometimes she would indulge in my fantasy and watch some IR, and it would totally get her soaked and in the mood. I took this to mean that she just needed a little persuasion to keep the momentum going. So I would bring it up in some way every time, not necessarily escalating the situation, but keeping it in the conversation. Eventually, she told me she didn’t want to “play that game” every time. That she was doing it for me and what got her off was the variety of something different, and not it by itself. Now could it have progressed to something more had I played my cards better? Maybe and probably. But that’s for her to decide and I’ve learned a lot from that experience among others.

I guess my point to you is that maybe the “two cocks” fantasy has something more behind it, maybe it’s just a fantasy, or maybe it’s just a variation she likes from time to time. Maybe it’s just something she knows you like and likes watching you get excited. So don’t push it, don’t escalate it too quickly, but keep it in the rotation. You’ll know when to move forward if she starts bringing it up on her own without your help. And good luck. I’m rooting for ya!

[Fapster69]

I'm glad you guys are enjoying my journey!

Nothing has happened since I last posted though. I went hard for the last couple of weeks so I've decided to lay low for a little while and let it sink in! I'm taking your advice and pumping the breaks slightly, I don't want to go full uber cuck and totally turn her off!

I will keep keep you updated when anything else happens! I'm seeing her tonight again so we will see if it comes up again!

[Fapster69]

Well my last post about laying low went totally out of the window!

So, last night we went out for drinks and came home a little tipsy. We went straight to the bedroom and I turned the computer on like I usually do so we could watch Netflix in bed.

I mentioned on another thread about how I have a folder on my desktop called "XXX". Well a few days ago I made the thumbnail size large and the thumbnail for this folder, you can clearly see a big dicked black guy having sex with a white woman.

Here's what it looks like... https://i.imgur.com/IlQGdsh.png

Well this folder finally caught my girlfriends eye and she said with a smirk, "that clearly isn't me and you! "

I said, "what are you talking about that is obviously me (I'm white)" and she started laughing and said, "you can put it on if you want!"

Of course I jumped at the chance and said "well if you insist!" From the thumbnail she thought it was anal sex which we've never had before so she was pleasantly surprised when I opened it and it wasn't!

I thought it was funny that she was glad it wasn't anal and that a black dude with a monster cock was more acceptable!

We were already touching each other at this point so I sat her on the edge of the bed in full view of the TV and sat behind her with my legs around her and continued touching her. She never watches porn, so seeing this monster dicked black guy right in front of her face was a bit of a shock! Less shocking to her than anal though!

She was still enjoying herself though, I would have stopped if I thought she wasn't feeling it. When the video ended I closed it and in the "XXX" folder there is another folder called, "Wife Shared". She said to me in a curious tone "wife shared, what is that?!" So I right clicked play on the folder and it's a better quality version of this video here... https://xhamster.com/videos/beautiful-w ... m-10574544

At this point she said to me "why is it always black guys?" which caught me off guard! I just said "I don't know I think it's hot!" and continued kissing her neck from behind and giving her a sensual massage! She was getting wetter and wetter so I knew she was enjoying it a little bit!

When the video gets towards the end the wife in the video starts getting loud which caused us both to laugh!

After it ended she climbed on top of me and started riding! I clicked on another video while she was on top, this one here... https://xhamster.com/videos/riding-bbc- ... ie-xh1Trjy

She always says I have a big cock, I'm like 6.5 inches, but she has never had anything else to compare it to! I said to her while this video was playing, "and you think I'm big!" She never knew this video was on and she turned her head to look at it! I could tell she was amazed at the size of his cock!

Now this is where it gets a little hazy because I started getting flustered, admitting your fantasy is not the easiest thing in the world especially when it's something like this!

I said to her in my horniness, "do you think you could take that?" and her riding came to a halt and she said "what?! Do you want me to say yes I could take that big black cock!?"

I was in shock! I couldn't believe it. After years of hiding my fantasy I was now hearing it come out of her own mouth! Everything was out in the open!

It was a little awkward at this point, but I had to admit it! I said sheepishly, "well yeah I think it would be pretty hot!"

She said, "what you think me fucking a black guy would be hot? " and I said, "I think it would be hot!" once again!

She then said back to me, "alright then yeah, I think I could take that big black cock!" I was gobsmacked!

Now after she said this, she kept quizzing me, still sitting on top of me with my cock inside her!

She then asked me the same question that she asked a few weeks before, "this isn't some sort of ploy to get you to be able to sleep with other women is it?" Straight away I told her "no, I have absolutely no interest in sleeping with anyone else, I just think it would be hot watching you!"

She was having trouble understanding why I would want to watch such a thing and in my awkwardness said once again, "I just think it would be hot!"

Now this is where I screwed up a little, but I then said to her, "you know this is just a fantasy anyway!" I was just trying to get her out of her shellshock!

She said that she was trying her best and this is all new to her! In her own words she said, "I'm very vanilla! I don't know how to handle these things! "

I then said to her, "please don't tell anyone about this because that would be embarrassing! " and she said of course she wouldn't and I had nothing to be embarrassed about!

She said to me, "do you not think I did pretty well though considering? " I couldn't praise her enough for how she handled it! I said, "honestly you did amazing!"

She then ended it with, "well like I said, I'm vanilla! I will play along, but next time can we just have normal vanilla sex with no mention of other guys? " and I said of course we can!

This morning we had amazing sex again, and I made sure to make it all about her, no mention of other guys, just straight up lovemaking!

After it I told her, "see I can do vanilla!" and she got a good laugh out of it!

Well there you have it guys! Everything is out in the open now! She knows everything to do with my fantasy, I have nothing left to hide!

[hornedhubby]

Big step.

Try not to push too much, too fast.

Best luck.

[usuallylost]

Fapster, your progress is fantastic. Sounds like you are only one small step from making this a reality for you both. Thank you for sharing your journey.

[whosbeensleeping]

Feels good, doesn't it?