Getting closer to becoming a reality

[Lkncouple]

I have been a member of this forum for a while. My wife is fully aware of my fantasy, but in the past has been completely against it. She has stated that she only wants me. She has said she has no fantasies or any interest in anyone else. I have talked her into going into some swinger clubs and we have watched people have sex. We have gone to Desire resort(nude, swinger friendly resort) in Mexico 6 times. The most that she has done on our 3rd trip she kissed a guy and grabbed his dick just joking around. Whenever I get the chance I put on hotwife porn, mainly the New Sensations professional porn. A few years ago I purchased a very lifelike dildo and we use it often, and she calls it Eduardo. About a year ago, we started listening to some swinger podcasts (It started with "Room 77" it is a couple that used to have classes at desire), and then went on to some other podcasts. She really seemed to enjoy these podcasts and began to listen to others when she was in her car by herself.

We have a trip planned to Desire on Feb 2nd. About a month ago, she told me that if we were going to do it, we need to sit down and talk about expectation and rules. We have talked occasionally about it, but this weekend we really started to discuss it in more detail. She told me that she is still very jealous and is not sure that she could handle seeing me with another woman. She said she would be willing to try, but she is not sure she would like that. And she said it is not fair if she gets with another guy that I should be able to get with another girl. I told her that my fantasy was to watch her with another man, that I really was not interested in another woman. When I asked her what she thinks about when she is considering the scenario, she said she would like to have another guy fuck her while she is playing with me. She said if we we find the right guy and she is attracted to him, then she would consider fucking him. This was a huge step, to get her to admit she thinks about it, and that she would consider it. Since Desire is Couples only, our next challenge will be to find someone that she is attracted to and their wife is willing to let him be in a MFM threesome. I still think this is a longshot, but all of the times we have gone in the past, it has been a hard no, and that we will not play with anyone.

We have 9 days until we get to Desire, this may be the longest week in history.

[BeauKnerr]

How excited you must be! Can't wait to hear how it turns out. We're pulling for you both. Good luck!

[Nowayareyousure]

Desire is going to be sooooo fun for you two. PLEASE post an update as soon as you can.

FYI: Our stories are similar and we take our first Desire trip in March. Crossed fingers.

[Lkncouple]

Will keep you updated. This will be our 7th trip to Desire, so we both know what to expect. In the past when we would talk to couples and they asked if we were in the lifestyle, she would immediately say no. She said that during this trip she wants to say we are curious and interested. Another big step.

How did you pick Pearl over RM?

[Nowayareyousure]

We picked Pearl because it seemed to be a little slower paced. The WGT podcast was our introduction to the LS and that could good there. The wife felt comfortable with Pearl. Since neither allows single guys, we didn't think one was better than the other.

The wife is staying open minded about everything, but I don't anticipate us joining in on any full swap. I'd be blown away if we soft swapped. I hope it is an environment where she can feel comfortable about herself and her attractiveness. And...I hope she can find a guy that she could maybe test the waters a bit with kissing and some light touching. She knows she doesn't have to ask so I will not push anything. Pushing makes it not fun for either of us.

[Lkncouple]

We picked Pearl because it seemed to be a little slower paced. The WGT podcast was our introduction to the LS and that could good there. The wife felt comfortable with Pearl. Since neither allows single guys, we didn't think one was better than the other.

The wife is staying open minded about everything, but I don't anticipate us joining in on any full swap. I'd be blown away if we soft swapped. I hope it is an environment where she can feel comfortable about herself and her attractiveness. And...I hope she can find a guy that she could maybe test the waters a bit with kissing and some light touching. She knows she doesn't have to ask so I will not push anything. Pushing makes it not fun for either of us.

I think Pearl is slower. Crowd tends to be older, it is a much larger resort but has fewer rooms (More spread out). The hot tub is really big, and that is where all the action is. RM's hot tub is small so everyone is packed in. It really gets wild. RM has a little more of a party atmosphere. Both are great. A couple things I would suggest. Since you are listening to podcast start listening to Room 77. It is a couple that used to work at Desire. They are hilarious, very entertaining. I would also visit the Desire resort Forums. Just put that in your search engine and it will pop uo.

[Nowayareyousure]

We picked Pearl because it seemed to be a little slower paced. The WGT podcast was our introduction to the LS and that could good there. The wife felt comfortable with Pearl. Since neither allows single guys, we didn't think one was better than the other.

The wife is staying open minded about everything, but I don't anticipate us joining in on any full swap. I'd be blown away if we soft swapped. I hope it is an environment where she can feel comfortable about herself and her attractiveness. And...I hope she can find a guy that she could maybe test the waters a bit with kissing and some light touching. She knows she doesn't have to ask so I will not push anything. Pushing makes it not fun for either of us.

I think Pearl is slower. Crowd tends to be older, it is a much larger resort but has fewer rooms (More spread out). The hot tub is really big, and that is where all the action is. RM's hot tub is small so everyone is packed in. It really gets wild. RM has a little more of a party atmosphere. Both are great. A couple things I would suggest. Since you are listening to podcast start listening to Room 77. It is a couple that used to work at Desire. They are hilarious, very entertaining. I would also visit the Desire resort Forums. Just put that in your search engine and it will pop uo.

Thanks for the suggestions. They are great.... and I have already listened to that podcast and visited the forums.

A slower start is what we are wanting. We want to slowly dip the toes.

[Lkncouple]

Well hit a huge roadblock this weekend. Our family dog had some major health issues and is in an animal hospital for 3-5 days. We had to postpone the trip to desire. I have no idea when it will be rescheduled. It was a bad weekend all around. hopefully the dog will get healthy and we can reschedule it soon.

[Nowayareyousure]

That....sucks. Hopefully your dog will recover well. I am sure it was a tough weekend. I as many appreciate the update.

[BBCfan]

HOT story and setup and then crash landing...hope pooch is ok. Family 1st of course.

[Lkncouple]

The dog is back home and doing well. We have rescheduled our trip to March 2nd, so hopefully we will be back on track.

[mintymintybiscuit]

Glad to hear that your dog is OK.

[Nowayareyousure]

Glad to hear the dog is better. Yay! And reschedule your trip for the end of March.....so we can meet you! We will have our first trip to Desire starting March 23. Please report back on your experience!

[Lkncouple]

We are booked March 2nd. The way she has been talking, and involved in the Kik group for our week, I will be surprised if something doesn't happen. I think if she finds someone she clicks with, it could be a very memorable trip.

[Lkncouple]

I would consider a huge breakthrough this weekend. First off, we are on a KIK group for the people that are going to Desire the same week that we are. Regularly, people post general group questions, and someone posted what was your best experience or fantasy that you would like to have in the Playroom(At Desire there is a playroom with lots of beds and people can go in there at night and play). I asked my wife and she said "I guess it would be to have a hot guy fucking me and you watching or playing with me". I was pretty stoked about that answer.

So yesterday, it was cold and rainy here, so we had all day before going to a superbowl party and I asked her if she wanted to fool around. She said yes, so we got some toys out and I connected my computer to our TV and put on some porn. This one had a guy that had a friend come over and fuck his wife. While we were watching this, I was fingering her and she was playing with my cock. The husband got naked and was laying on the bed beside her while she was getting fucked doggie style. She started sucking the husbands cock and kissing the husband, and my wife really started to squirm and was starting to have an orgasm. As she was cumming she said it was so hot to have someone fuck her while she was playing with her husband. She then said, I want to make sure you are touching me while she is getting fucked.

We played around for another hour, but March 2nd can't get here fast enough.

[Nowayareyousure]

I would consider a huge breakthrough this weekend. First off, we are on a KIK group for the people that are going to Desire the same week that we are. Regularly, people post general group questions, and someone posted what was your best experience or fantasy that you would like to have in the Playroom(At Desire there is a playroom with lots of beds and people can go in there at night and play). I asked my wife and she said "I guess it would be to have a hot guy fucking me and you watching or playing with me". I was pretty stoked about that answer.

So yesterday, it was cold and rainy here, so we had all day before going to a superbowl party and I asked her if she wanted to fool around. She said yes, so we got some toys out and I connected my computer to our TV and put on some porn. This one had a guy that had a friend come over and fuck his wife. While we were watching this, I was fingering her and she was playing with my cock. The husband got naked and was laying on the bed beside her while she was getting fucked doggie style. She started sucking the husbands cock and kissing the husband, and my wife really started to squirm and was starting to have an orgasm. As she was cumming she said it was so hot to have someone fuck her while she was playing with her husband. She then said, I want to make sure you are touching me while she is getting fucked.

We played around for another hour, but March 2nd can't get here fast enough.

I would consider that a step forward too! That has to feel great for you two. You have experience at Desire and we don't. I have heard it could be really hard to get a hotwife scenario to play out there since the other wife would have to sit out. Have you seen this type of thing happen there in your past visits?

Keep up the fun on your journey.....I love the hot sexy talk when having sex with my wife. It brings the excitement up a notch...and she only has to say a couple of things.

Looking forward to hearing about your trip.

[Lkncouple]

I actually have seen it play out a couple of times. We ended up making great friends with a couple on a trip down there one. After dinner she hung out with my wife and I while her husband played with another couple. She said she wasn't really into the guy and they wanted to have a threesome and she was fine with it. This is the first time we will be going to Desire and actually wanting to play. Previously, we would just tell people we are not in the lifestyle and that was it. Now, we plan on saying we are interested, and that my wife is still working on jealousy, but she is would like to have a threesome. We will see how it works out. There are still lots of variables in play, and it may not happen. What is the worst thing that can happen is we can ask and they can say no.

[Lkncouple]

Well, we started packing last night for Desire. We packed all of our costumes and I grabbed our sex toy bucket, and pulled out each toy to see what she wanted to bring. As a back story, about a year ago, I had a prostate biopsy (Turned out Negative), but I ended up getting a UTI with an antibiotic resistant bacteria. My wife bought some condoms because she was worried about having sex while I was recovering(I have been fixed so no issue for birth control). Fast forward to pack last night and I pulled out a 3 pack box of condoms and looked at her, and she said "pack them, you never know what might happen". As I continued going through the toy box I came across another 3 pack, and she said "Pack them, If we start having fun, I would hate to run out".

We still have a lot of things to line up, but at this point, I think if we find a couple where my wife is interested and his wife is okay to play, we may have our first experience. Can't wait to get there tomorrow!

[Deepunder]

How did you go?

[Lkncouple]

We just got back last night. It was a great trip and lots of progress was made, however I am not sure that this resort was not the best fit.

First off before we went, we were talking one night and she said she has been doing some research and told me that there "is something called Cuckolding, hot wife and stag and vixen" which I was really impressed that she was looking into it. She said from what she understands she is more interested stag and vixen, that she is not interested in any type of humiliation. So I knew that she was really thinking about it.

For those that are not familiar with Desire, it is a clothing optional, swinger friendly couples only resort. It is really a cool place that is very sexy. Everyone is very open and you hear lots of discussions about sex that you would never hear anywhere else. Around the pool you will see lots of nude people and lots of light touching. Around the hot tub you will see full on sex as well as the playroom that is off of the disco.

Going on our vacation we talked about having a MFM threesome if we found the right person. Since everyone was a couple, it was really tough to find someone that would be willing to play without their wife. We did have a couple of opportunities to have a full swap with some other couples. I know that she was worried about being jealous seeing me with another woman, so I chose not to push that. On the third day of our trip we did approach a guy and asked if he would be willing to have a threesome with us, he said that he and his wife were into separate play and would be willing to play with my wife alone, but he was not into MFM threesomes. My wife was very disappointed, but she said me not being in the room was a non-starter.

There was another guy that she really liked and it was his birthday, so his wife got a bottle of chocolate and had him sit on the edge of the pool and she poured chocolate sauce on his dick. About 4 girls went up 1 by one and licked the chocolate off his dick. My wife slowly walked over and when the last girl licked chocolate off his dick, she asked if she could have a turn. She then went in and started sucking his dick. It was way beyond just a casual lick, and while she was doing this he got really hard. She stopped and kissed him and back away. The amazing thing about this was that I am the only person she has ever been with, so other than me, that was the first cock she had in her mouth.

At the resort they have some private Villas that have their own pool. A couple that was renting one had a party, and we were hanging out in the pool. One of the guys came over and start lightly touching her arm, that they were hugging and touching each other. I looked down and saw the she was stroking his cock. I went to get us some more drinks and when I came back they had separated. She propositioned him, but he said that he and his wife were only into same room full swaps, so it was a missed opportunity.

While I was hoping to watch her get fucked (And she wanted to get fucked as well), I think this was not the best opportunity for a MFM threesome. She did become friends with one of the ladies and have been texting back and forth. She said our best option was to join a swingers site and find a single male in our area and go to a motel room and have our threesome. While we were on vacation, my wife said that when we get back we should sign up. I am going to talk to her tonight to verify that she wants to sign up for one. Now, I need to find the right one in our area.

[Nowayareyousure]

Yay! Celebration dance. Even though a MFM didn't happen, those are some big steps! Super excited for you two.

Depending upon the area, you will find lots of guys on those sites. Here in Northern CA, we have had the best luck with Feeld and SLS. Good luck with the search!

[Whodathought]

Dang! My husband and I head to Desire for the first time in two weeks! We are super excited, but wishing we might find someone for an MFM. Maybe the temporary tattoo my husband made will help. A well designed "We are looking for a third," with the male sex symbol. Crossing our fingers.

[Lkncouple]

Dang! My husband and I head to Desire for the first time in two weeks! We are super excited, but wishing we might find someone for an MFM. Maybe the temporary tattoo my husband made will help. A well designed "We are looking for a third," with the male sex symbol. Crossing our fingers.

My suggestion is to make sure to let people know you are looking for a threesome. I think it is much easier to have a swap, but I think it could happen. I think that you certainly could play with another guy around the hot tub. The issue is if you play with the guy, not sure what the woman would do while you are playing.

[Whodathought]

Dang! My husband and I head to Desire for the first time in two weeks! We are super excited, but wishing we might find someone for an MFM. Maybe the temporary tattoo my husband made will help. A well designed "We are looking for a third," with the male sex symbol. Crossing our fingers.

My suggestion is to make sure to let people know you are looking for a threesome. I think it is much easier to have a swap, but I think it could happen. I think that you certainly could play with another guy around the hot tub. The issue is if you play with the guy, not sure what the woman would do while you are playing.

Right. And quite honestly, the chemistry would have to be electric, as I have yet to have any experiences yet. I have a SG pretty close to launch, and I'm not sure I want to mess with my head before attempting this with him.

[Lkncouple]

This morning my wife asked about setting up a profile on a swingers site to see if we can find a third. There certainly is interest in making this happen.