Getting closer to becoming a reality

[spiral462]

The counselor was on "We Gotta Thing" It is a swingers podcast. We also like Room 77, Curious Couple and Sweethearts to Swingers.

Congrats on the fun experiences! My wife and I enjoy lifestyle podcasts too and credit them with opening up our minds to new aspects of the LS.

The Front Porch Swingers and the Accidental Swingers are a great listen as they move into Hotwife play quite frequently.

Enjoyed reading your story!

[Whosbeensleeping]

The counselor was on "We Gotta Thing" It is a swingers podcast. We also like Room 77, Curious Couple and Sweethearts to Swingers.

Congrats on the fun experiences! My wife and I enjoy lifestyle podcasts too and credit them with opening up our minds to new aspects of the LS.

The Front Porch Swingers and the Accidental Swingers are a great listen as they move into Hotwife play quite frequently.

Enjoyed reading your story!

Thanks all for the info!

[HusbandBear]

Okay, so it happened. We had set up a date to meet the guy at a hotel bar. We got their early checked in to the hotel and set up the room. We had some stuff to make drinks and set out condoms, lube and some toys by the bed. We then went to the hotel bar and had a drink with the guy. After the drink I suggested we go back to the room. We went in the room and fixed a drink and he and my wife sat down on the couch. I walked over and gave my wife a deep kiss. I told her she should get a little closer to our new friend while I turned on some music. I grabbed my phone and turned around and they were making out. I suggested the we go to the bedroom (We had a suite). We walked into the bedroom and they started kissing again. She was wearing a very low cut top and skin tight black shiny leggings. He slid the leggings off over her and removed her top. She was standing in the room with a sexy white push up bra and he sat her down on the bed. He laid her back and started kissing her and she started to unbuckle his belt and pants. He stood up and my wife rolled on her belly and slid his pants down and his dick popped out and he was hard as a rock. I would guess he was about 7 inches with a pretty big upward curve. I would like to think he was completely horned up, but I am pretty sure he had to have taken some viagra or something. When his dick popped out, she immediately stuck it in her mouth and started sucking and licking his cock. I immediately got undressed and started playing with my dick. Bent down and started kissing her back she pulled his dick out of her mouth and rolled over and got on her hands an knees. She pulled him up to the head of the bed and started sucking his dick again and she motioned me to slide under her legs and she started grinding her pussy on my mouth. She was soaking wet. We did that for a while, I slid out from under her and while she was on her knees he began to aggressively finger her, trying to get her to squirt. We have tried that in the past and it didn't work and I knew she was not a fan of that so it didn't last very long. She reached out to me and laid on the bed and pulled me up toward the pillows and laid on her back and started sucking my cock. She spread her legs and he began eating her pussy. Occasionally I would lean down and kiss her and ask her how she was doing, and she would say great. She pulled him up to her and they kissed for a while. She laid him on his back and slid down and started sucking his cock. I was leaning against the dresser and she looked up at me and continued to suck and lick his cock, but never broke eye contact with me. That was by far the hottest thing of the night. She then rolled over and got on her hands and knees and told me to fuck her. She sucked his dick while I was fucking her. She stopped sucking him while I was fucking her. She rolled over on her back and told me to fuck her. I did and she wanted to suck his dick more, but he was already putting a condom on. I fucked her for a few minutes and I pulled out. He looked at both of us and asked us if it was okay if he could fuck her. We both said yes. I saw him move between her legs and I looked at her face as he slid in to her. Besides me, this is the only other cock she has fucked. She pulled me up and started sucking my cock while she was being fucked. I typically don't last a long time while I was fucking her, So we really wanted to see someone that could really pound her non-stop. He started really fucking her hard. Going in, she was really worried about having pain when she got fucked, sometimes if I go in really deep or we play with a toy and it goes to deep it hurts her. She didn't experience any pain. Later she told me that he was not as long as me, and not nearly as wide as me. She was happy it didn't hurt, but said it didn't feel as good as I do. They fucked for a little while. Prior to the date, she asked me if there was anything I wanted to see. I told her that I wanted to stand in front of her and have her fuck him in reverse cowgirl position. I wanted to see his cock going in and out of her. When she leaned back he kept popping out. Not sure if the curve of his cock was an issue but she really could not fuck him like this for long. she rolled over on her back and pushed my head down to her pussy. I was really worried about having her pussy taste like latex, but it didn't. He pulled off his condom and wiped his cock off and she started to suck him again. She was sucking his dick like I have never seen her before it really did look like a porn movie. He was trying to talk dirty the whole night, but it really was not doing anything for either of us. She was on her back with her face to the side and he was trying to coach her into deep throating him, but that really was not going to happen. She stopped sucking his dick and told me to fuck her again. I grabbed her legs and pushed them towards her head and started fucking her hard. She grabbed my head and gave me a deep kiss, and I could taste his cock on her breadth. I am not really into doing anything with a guy, but it was pretty hot. I leaned back and she turned and started sucking his cock and she had an orgasm. I was close and asked her where she wanted me to cum and she said on her belly and chest. I pulled out and shot a huge load all up her stomach tits and hit her neck. We stopped for a minute and I grabbed a towel to clean her off. Our friend took my place and started fucking her hard. He asked for some lube and poured a ton of lube on her cock and pussy. He fucked her for a long time, and she had a very loud orgasm. He rolled her over on her hands and knees and put more lube on his cock and started fucking her again. They fucked like this for a while, I was kissing her and talking dirty to her. Later, she said he kept slipping out of her and one time he tried to put in in her ass, and she had to reach back and put it in her pussy. I asked him what did he need to do in order to cum, he said it was going to take a long time before that happened. He rolled her on her back and started fucking her again. She reached over to me and pulled me close and told me that she was done. She was not going to have any more orgasms and wanted to stop. He still fucked her a little more and then he pulled out. He took the condom off and tried to suck his cock and give him a hand job to get him to cum, but it was not going to happen. He asked if he could fuck her more, and she said no. She told him she wanted to see him jack off, but he couldn't cum. He went into the bathroom and washed up and left.

When we talked about it later, she said she had a lot of fun, but she thinks if there is a next time we know some things to do. We think that he put on some kind of numbing cream because when she first started sucking him he had a medicine type smell. We suspect that he wanted to make sure he lasted long, between the viagra, numbing cream, the condom and the huge amounts of lube(He almost used a whole bottle) he really could not have felt much. I am not sure if that is some kind of trick that is used in the lifestyle or not. She said there were some very sexy parts, and she said he felt great, but would have liked him to have a bigger girth. We had great sex the next morning, our daughter came home for the weekend and my wife and her are at the beach for a week, so we really have not had a chance to talk about it any further. I am glad we did it, it was super hot, but my feeling is different that going in. I thought I would love it and need to do it every weekend. I would like to do it again, but I want to make sure we get the right guy next time. She has said she may do it again, but is okay if it doesn't happen again. She said she does not want to talk about it for 2 weeks so we can both think about it, and then we can regroup and figure out what is next.

Let me know if you have any questions.

I just love your experience. This is really interesting and hot first time. Love it and would like to have same with my wife.

[aztd]

Any new adventures ahead?

[Lkncouple]

So we have a lot of family things going on this summer. Our son getting married and other family weddings so we are on hold. The other day, I thought we were done with it by some comments that she made and told me to remove all of our pictures off of SLS. Then the next time we were fooling around she told me to talk dirty to her and talk about the threesome. I told her that she is really sending mixed messages. She agreed and said she is really struggling with it. She liked the flirting and texting, and the sex was okay, but she is really having a tough time separating sex from love. Our threesome was the only other cock she has touched, sucked or fucked, so lots of emotions. We listen to a lot of swinger podcasts and one had a counselor on it that is a regular counselor, but she is in the lifestyle, so she has started some online coaching for people in the lifestyle. My wife booked an online appointment with her and it went really well. She is planning on a couple of other sessions, so we will see how it goes. After her first session she seemed to be more interested in playing, but we will see. If she wants to stop, then I am happy we had one threesome and I will support her decision. I will keep you up to date.

[Long Lurker 34]

So we have a lot of family things going on this summer. Our son getting married and other family weddings so we are on hold. The other day, I thought we were done with it by some comments that she made and told me to remove all of our pictures off of SLS. Then the next time we were fooling around she told me to talk dirty to her and talk about the threesome. I told her that she is really sending mixed messages. She agreed and said she is really struggling with it. She liked the flirting and texting, and the sex was okay, but she is really having a tough time separating sex from love. Our threesome was the only other cock she has touched, sucked or fucked, so lots of emotions. We listen to a lot of swinger podcasts and one had a counselor on it that is a regular counselor, but she is in the lifestyle, so she has started some online coaching for people in the lifestyle. My wife booked an online appointment with her and it went really well. She is planning on a couple of other sessions, so we will see how it goes. After her first session she seemed to be more interested in playing, but we will see. If she wants to stop, then I am happy we had one threesome and I will support her decision. I will keep you up to date.

LKNC - Does your wife ever venture onto the OHW? Especially the ladies only page.

[Lkncouple]

No, she doesn't come to this site. She has some swinger friends that we have met at desire and she talks to them. They are very supportive.

[12345whatsnext]

I have enjoyed reading about your experience and discussions with your wife. Unfortunately society dictates how women should behave and it sounds like your wife is learning to break through those barriers. I will keep a lookout for more updates.

[Lkncouple]

Our first online counseling session was uneventful. We have our second one this week. I plan on talking about the lifestyle and her comfort with it.

We are planning a trip to South Florida and are planning to go to the Trapeze(Swingers club) on one of the Saturdays that we are there. She said she is very nervous about going, even though we have been a bunch of times. We have never done anything at the club or have I pressured her to do anything in the past, so I am not sure why she is nervous. If things go well with counseling, I would like for her to agree for us to put a posting on SLS that we are going. It would be nice to have another couple to talk to (Even is we don't plan on doing anything).

[Lkncouple]

We have continued to have our online counseling sessions, they have really gotten better. The counselor is a swinger, so she is very open to talk about unique sexual lifestyles. We have talked about fantasies and our threesome. We have definitely take a step back from the threesome and learning more about how to make my wife more comfortable. We are heading to South Florida this weekend and are heading to the Trapeze. The Trapeze is an on premise swingers club. The front of the club is like an extremely sexy nightclub and the back is a bunch of beds that you can have sex on. Our counselor gave us homework to go to the club and meet some other couples and find out their "Origin" stories. This is to make my wife more comfortable talking about sex and talking to others. We are not allowed to engage in any sexual activities with them, just talk. Then we are supposed to go to the back walk around and watch other couples. (We have been there a couple of times, but my wife has been very embarrassed to watch). So she is supposed to watch for a while and tell me what turns her on. Then we are supposed to have sex with each other while we are there. Pretty tame for most on here, but I am excited to help her gain some confidence and get excited about the lifestyle.

[spyguy24]

I appreciate the updates! Just want to encourage you and say I hope things keep going well. It sounds like you two are on a good track.

[Lkncouple]

Well, lots happened since the last post. We made it to the Trapeze. My wife was very nervous, but this time I let her pick whatever she wanted to wear. She picked a sexy black dress, that she looked great in. It was not overly slutty, like I would have picked but she was very comfortable in it. One of the tasks our counselor gave us was to talk to other couples and we did that. We had a good time in the "front" area of the Trapeze, dancing, watching and talking. She doesn't like wearing a towel in the back area so she brought some black lingerie. She looked great, but she got really overserved before we went in the back. She is not a big fan of watching lots of people have sex and if you have not been to the Trapeze, the back room has lots of beds and you can seen 10-15 couples having sex. Some in pairs and sometimes larger groups. I took her to a private room where we could fuck, and it turned out one of the walls had a window with another private room and there was a foursome in it. We played in that room for a while and left. The beginning of the evening was great, the end of the evening really went downhill. The next week I was really discouraged. I thought what am I doing, she hates this, and I am not having fun. I was pretty depressed, and thought that our playtime was over and we are back to vanilla boring sex. We had our call today with our counselor, and she asked how it went. We both gave our side of the story and she said it seems like my wife enjoyed alot of it, but just drank too much and didn't like the in your face room with a ton of people having sex. She said that we put too much pressure on doing something that night, because we only do something like that one time a year. She said we need to make plans for us to go our more and have sexy nights out more often so my wife can get used to dressing and acting sexy and not getting nervous. We need to plan these away from home so she can loosen up and act a little more wild. It turned out to be a great session. I never thought counseling would be good, but this really is helping our relationship.

[Lkncouple]

Another note that I think is interesting, we have some friend that live down the street from us. We know that they have been to nude resorts and we have gone skinny dipping and hot tubbing with them nude before. I have always suspected they were swingers or at least had a couple of experiences, they completely deny it, just as we do with them. They have a place in south Florida, so we went down to visit them one night. The wife in the couple is very hot, long blonde hair, fake boobs. Great shape. So we were out drinking all night, and throughout the night she was flirting with me, touching my leg, casually touching my crouch. My wife sent me a text telling me how much she was flirting with me. We made it to another bar, and her husband and I were getting drinks, and he tells me to watch our wives. He said watch these young guys they are going to start dancing with our wives. I think it is great. Lets watch and see how far they go. I could tell he was loving watching these guys dance and rub up against his wife and my wife.

The next day my wife and I were talking and we both agreed that they definitely have played and we are pretty sure they have done some Hotwife stuff.

[Mad Dog65]

What a great update and sharing the ups and downs. It sounds like you are communicating well with each other and figuring out with the counselor what works for both of you. All the best for 2023 and your journey!

[avid fan]

I've loved reading your thread and seeing how you're both progressed; hope to continue hearing how things develop, thanks

[Lkncouple]

Slow progress continues. My wife listens to the "We Gotta Thing" podcast a lot. It is a swingers podcast and the one where we found the counselor we go to. My wife really gives lots of mixed messages, one minute she says that she will never do another threesome or swing, then she is saying she wants to go to the We Gotta Thing Meet and Greet weekend in DC. Of course, I said yes. We signed up immediately and are planning on going in May. She is already talking about how she wants to get into better shape and lose 5 pounds before we go. She asked if she could get botox and wants to go much blonder with her hair. She also is talking about both of us getting waxed. It certainly doesn't sound like someone that is not interested in playing.

She made a comment over Christmas about me having snacks in the bed so I told her that I would stop that if she would read 30 minutes of Erotica every week and she agreed. She has been going to Literotica and reading there. She also downloaded "The Faithful Hotwife" on Amazon. This weekend the our grown kids were home for one night and my wife walks into the kitchen and when the kids were not around she lifted her leg up and she was wearing an anklet that I had gotten her in the past. She whispered in my ear, "Do you know what this means?" I played dumb and said, "You have a great husband that buys you pretty things". She said, "It means I am a hotwife!" She got that out of "The faithful Hotwife" book.

I am looking forward to what other things she learns and starts doing.

[inflorida94]

I just wanted to post to say that I have been following your progress so far. Keep posting please. It gives us other wannbe hope.

Thanks

[Lkncouple]

Thanks. It certainly has been a roller coaster. I look back and I have really screwed some things up and would have done some things very differently. If anyone has any questions, feel free to PM me. Certainly, the more exposure you can give her to the lifestyle the better off you are. For me, swingers/swinging has been the easiest because of the amount of content. Going to Desire and having her meet some females that she can talk to and message when she has questions has been great.

One thing that I did not mention is that when we signed up for the We Gotta Thing trip to DC in May, you have to sign up for their "Community". They are mainly swingers and they are extremely active on chats and posts. What has been really great is how many different shapes and ages that you see posting nude pictures. I think it is really giving her confidence. Last night, she said it was time for us to post an introduction and post some pictures. I had a long day so I asked to hold off until we could spend some quality time on it. She has 3 good swinger friends(They all have done MFM's) that she talks to, but I really hope that she can build some more friendships with some people going to DC. She said she really needs to have a friendship with someone to have sex with them. Should be a fun couple of months.

[Whosbeensleeping]

Thanks. It certainly has been a roller coaster. I look back and I have really screwed some things up and would have done some things very differently. If anyone has any questions, feel free to PM me. Certainly, the more exposure you can give her to the lifestyle the better off you are. For me, swingers/swinging has been the easiest because of the amount of content. Going to Desire and having her meet some females that she can talk to and message when she has questions has been great.

One thing that I did not mention is that when we signed up for the We Gotta Thing trip to DC in May, you have to sign up for their "Community". They are mainly swingers and they are extremely active on chats and posts. What has been really great is how many different shapes and ages that you see posting nude pictures. I think it is really giving her confidence. Last night, she said it was time for us to post an introduction and post some pictures. I had a long day so I asked to hold off until we could spend some quality time on it. She has 3 good swinger friends(They all have done MFM's) that she talks to, but I really hope that she can build some more friendships with some people going to DC. She said she really needs to have a friendship with someone to have sex with them. Should be a fun couple of months.

Congrats on all your progress!

[whosbeensleeping]

How are things going with you guys?

[Lkncouple]

No real progress other than talking. We have another online "Lifestyle" counseling session this afternoon. We are getting excited about going to our first weekend lifestyle event the first weekend in May. The group that is putting it on, has lots of Zoom meetings and chats. One minute my wife talks about going to just check things out, then the next she is talking about hooking up with others. This is really couples oriented. This is the first time she has really talked about both of us swinging. I am certainly more interested in an MFM, but I certainly won't be disappointed if we we find a couple that we hit it off with.

[Lkncouple]

So it has been a long time since I have provided an update. We have really spent a lot of time talking about what we want, and it seems like just a pure sexual relationship is out. She feels that we need to have a connection and it has really moved more towards a connection with a couple and not just a guy. My interest really are still in watching her with a guy, I have to say it has been fun to talk and think about playing with another woman. We invited a Lifestyle couple to our house to go out on the boat for the day. They were about 10 years younger than us, she was very attractive. They gave signs throughout the day that they wanted to play, but then cooled off in the evening. My wife thought for sure she was not interested and told me to not push it, however they kept hanging around despite having an hour and a half drive home. One interesting thing that the couple did talk about was that he said he was uncomfortable was that she found a single guy and started fucking him on the side with out him around. She did it for a while and he didn't like it, so she quit. As he was telling the story she kept a complete straight face, so they obviously had played in the hotwife/Cuck lifestyle at one point.

The husband finally made a comment something about full swap, soft swap and parallel play. I asked if they wanted to do some parallel play and they said sure. We went to the guest bedroom and got naked and started playing around. While I was going down on my wife, the husband leaned over and started kissing my wife and playing with her tits. I really loved watching this. We got to watch the other couple fuck inches away from us while we played and fucked. I had a tough time staying hard, so I went down on my wife again. they both stopped and watched and he started playing with her tits. My wife came extremely hard and loud. I think they both enjoyed it, because after she was done they started fucking again. We were all laying there naked, I made a comment that my wife has fucked another guy, and sucked two other guys cocks, but I haven't even kissed another woman, so I asked if I could kiss her, she leaned over and we made out for a couple of minutes.

The next day my wife said she would absolutely would have done more with the guy, but said he had a vary long and skinny cock. She said she want a thick cock that skinny long cocks don't really turn her on, but she would be happy to try it. The other wife had a pierced clit, and I really wanted to lick her pussy. We invited them back down in a month, hopefully they can come down and we will both have an opportunity to try then.

In the Meantime, my wife has asked me to start to get more active on the swingers dating sites, and we are talking about going to our first hotel takeover party. I know this is not exactly just a hot wife scenario, but I am hoping that we she will get comfortable

[Lkncouple]

This weekend things really took a turn. We had a very tough week with a lot going on personally, with family, financially. She basically said she wanted to slow everything down. The way that I work, I try to fix everything, I took that as we stop all lifestyle activities. We finally had some alone time and had a chance to talk. She told me that she wanted to make sure we were communicating if and we still had a great connection. She said that she wanted to slow down really pursing another couple, but if we came across one that we both connected with that would be great. She then said something that really surprised me, she told me that she had been thinking about it, and would like to give a MFM another try, and that all that we have learned since our first one she thinks that we could have a great experience. She asked me to get back on SLS and see if I could screen some guys. She said, she doesn't want someone that just wants to come in and have sex, but she wants to have a connection with and have fun with before they fuck. We are still planning on going to a local swingers hotel takeover and see if we can meet some couples, but I already have found a couple of interesting guys for her. Hopefully, we will be able to have a more fulfilling experience.

[Lkncouple]

Things are really starting to pick up. We have found two guys that she is interested in on SLS. We have been actively chatting with one and she is ready to meet him in person. We are working on setting up our first face to face meeting with him. Hopefully it will be this week. However, we are also planning on going to a Swingers hotel takeover party on Saturday night. The plan is to hopefully find a single or a couple that we connect with that we can have some fun with. We have already connected with a number of couples and they are excited to meet at the event. I am shocked that she is this open about doing this. In the past when we would go down this road, she would freak out and be ready to back out. She seems like she is on board and ready to go. That being said our arrangement is that we are looking to meet someone and for a connection, and not go out and have sex with them. Once we have a connection, then we can have sex with them.

[inflorida94]

This is awesome to hear. I am excited for you two...