Hello from Ohio.

[Bluetoed]

My wife and I have been married for 22 years. I am 52 and she is 46.

We were both raised in very conservative Christian families. But about 10 years ago I for lack of a word de-converted. The more I studied the faith the less believable it became to me. I tried to continue in the faith even though I no longer believed it, but it just because a huge source of stress for me. Credit to my loving wife for accepting my de-conversion the way she did. We are still very much in love despite it. And she is still committed to her faith as much as she ever was.

My wife has always had a self esteem issue. She does not think she is attractive at all. I don't get it. I could go into the details, but what it comes down to is that she was a late bloomer... really late. She was 24 when we got married and that was right around the time her legs, rack and butt transformed in to the hot woman she still is today. But her experiences in high school and college prior to her late blooming as formed this poor self esteem that I can't break.

Five, maybe six years ago I literally searched on Google for the phrase "how to convince your wife that she is hot". Google gave me results from many mainstream magazines about how to improve a woman's self esteem issues. And those articles were what I was searching for, and they were helpful.

But Google also gave me some other results that I wasn't looking for. They were links to blogs that were titled something like "how to convince your wife to become a hotwife".

At the time I had no idea what "hotwife" was. I had no reason to think those articles would be anything different than the other ones Google gave me. Needless to say I got my first lesson in what a hotwife is that day after clicking a few of them.

After learning what it was, I was like "okay, whatever". Seemed like a real easy way to get divorced to me at the time.

Sometime after that I was awakened in the middle of the night for some reason, and couldn't go back to sleep. And I was without a doubt horny. My wife was asleep, and I refuse to wake her up at 2:30 in the morning to fix my problem. I really didn't want to masturbate while just lying there in the dark. I wanted some mental stimulation. My chromebook was on my nightstand so I flipped it open and turned the brightness down as to try to avoid waking her up.

Watching porn was out of the question. Can you imagine a very conservative christian woman who was raised in the church waking up one night to her husband watching porn tight next to her in bed?

But my wife and I have enjoyed sex stories together. Not only do they not bother her, but she likes husband/wife sex stories as long as they are pretty tame. So on to literotica I went. While I was searching the loving wives section I was presented with a few hotwife options. I had leaned what hotwife was before from my previous google search, and began to wonder if a hotwife story would do anything for me. I came to think that it would make sense in my mind that I am masturbating because I am lying here as my wife is having sex next to me and I am watching and getting off to it. So I decided to give a hotwife story a shot.

O M G I had the most earth shattering orgasm I have ever had in my life! I fell asleep immediately.

A few weeks later... maybe a couple months... I don't remember, I had another middle of the night relief requirement. Since the first hotwife story did the trick, I try another. And yep another earth shattering orgasm.

Of course when it happened again, I tried it a third time, and I was hooked. Hotwife stories have been doing the trick on me for years now, and nothing else comes close.

But it was my secret. Some of the stuff I found in hotwife stories did not appeal to me at all, and I thought if my wife ever found out about my kink and did some research on it, she would find a world that I was totally and completely embarrassed about. So I never said a word to her, and I never planned to. I was perfectly content keeping this fantasy to myself.

Over the years my wife from time to time asks what my most recent sex fantasies are. I would share some vanilla stuff, knowing I have a huge glaring fantasy that I absolutely love, but that was off limits to her. I never intended to tell her.

This past Saturday, December 23rd, my wife and I were lying in bed after some morning sex. We're talking about this and that and other things, when she casually asks "what's your latest sex fantasy"?

Have you ever said something and see it hanging in the air in front of you, and you want to put it back but you can't, and you know nothing will be the same now?

For some reason that I cannot explain I heard her question and just naturally responded with the truth. "I want to watch you have sex with another man."

Silence.

The last seven days have been entire blur to me. It's been a roller coaster of emotion. Questions of "how do I undo this... how do I fix this... what do I say next.... how do I explain this.... I was all over the board, a complete mess.

To make a long story short:

1) It's never going to happen. She made that abundantly clear.
2) She admitted when I had a previous job where I traveled a lot, she had a fantasy that I would send over a man to meet her needs. But that was years ago. She hasn't had that fantasy in a while.
3) Despite it never happening, she is not turned off by us sharing the fantasy. But she wasn't sure it would do anything for her. She might find she can't continue with it.
4) Worst case scenario, if she finds the fantasy just doesn't work for her, she is not against me having the fantasy with stories and my hand.

Despite her being understanding of my kinky desire, I was still day after day after day scared to death that she may do research into this and find stories of humiliation and jealousy that I know she would have zero appreciation for.

While I never had a reason to figure out just what it is that turns me on about this kink, I knew humiliation did nothing for me, and I also knew jealousy did nothing for me. The stories I liked were focused on the wife just loving it. I was turned on by what she gets out of it.

What has made the last week even harder for me to process through is that I have been in California for the past 4 days, 2000 miles away from her. I want so much to be sure of myself that my wife and I are on the same page, and that is very difficult to do over phone calls and text. Up to Thursday night I was a complete mess.

But after today, OMG we are on the same page, and this is now amazing! I never in a million years thought that my conservative church going Christian wife would share in this fantasy with me. But here we are. And I may have found out tonight that it does as much for her as it does for me.

1) She loves it when I call her "Hotwife". She may be acting like it, but after 22 years with her, I am 99.99% sure that she is not acting that she likes me to call her that.
2) and that is confirmed when she texted me a picture this morning of the anklet on her ankle that I bought for her on Amazon. It arrived Thursday night. And it was on her ankle Friday morning. And she was wearing it out in public.
3) I bought The Faithful Hotwife on Kindle for $3. We both read it together today. She was very interested to learn what things in it apply to me, so she can ignore the stuff that doesn't
3) Before I left for California she asked me to write a Literotica type story that would hit all my buttons in this kink. I thought she wanted it to learn more about what makes me tick. I wrote a story about the two of us having amazing sex, and the other man was only necessary so that I could do things to her that i would have to defy the laws of physics to achieve on my own. The story gave her zero reason to have any emotional attachment to the other man.
4) I sent her the story tonight and she ended up masturbating to it, and a good hot one at that! The story had her lying on top of me with me licking her clit while a nameless/faceless man fucked her. She told me she has that fantasy too. And I got the feeling that he has fantasies of other positions that would please her that would require another nameless/faceless man for me to do to her. I am going to start writing the next story tomorrow.

I am flying home tomorrow and both of us feel like we're back in our honeymoon stage. We are dying to be back together again. And both of our libidos are on fire!

I have zero desire to try and take it reality. She is still "never going to happen in real life", despite being all in in sharing this fantasy with me, including wearing her anklet out in public when we go out. I know people could comment "they all say never in the beginning... give it time". But again, I don't want it to be real. There's just to much risk and not enough reward. Sometimes the fantasy is better than reality.

I could not be happier that we are where we are right now! I just wish I hadn't hid it from her for so long.

[swl2608]

[snoogaloo82]

My wife and I have been married for 22 years. I am 52 and she is 46.

We were both raised in very conservative Christian families. But about 10 years ago I for lack of a word de-converted. The more I studied the faith the less believable it became to me. I tried to continue in the faith even though I no longer believed it, but it just because a huge source of stress for me. Credit to my loving wife for accepting my de-conversion the way she did. We are still very much in love despite it. And she is still committed to her faith as much as she ever was.

My wife has always had a self esteem issue. She does not think she is attractive at all. I don't get it. I could go into the details, but what it comes down to is that she was a late bloomer... really late. She was 24 when we got married and that was right around the time her legs, rack and butt transformed in to the hot woman she still is today. But her experiences in high school and college prior to her late blooming as formed this poor self esteem that I can't break.

Five, maybe six years ago I literally searched on Google for the phrase "how to convince your wife that she is hot". Google gave me results from many mainstream magazines about how to improve a woman's self esteem issues. And those articles were what I was searching for, and they were helpful.

But Google also gave me some other results that I wasn't looking for. They were links to blogs that were titled something like "how to convince your wife to become a hotwife".

At the time I had no idea what "hotwife" was. I had no reason to think those articles would be anything different than the other ones Google gave me. Needless to say I got my first lesson in what a hotwife is that day after clicking a few of them.

After learning what it was, I was like "okay, whatever". Seemed like a real easy way to get divorced to me at the time.

Sometime after that I was awakened in the middle of the night for some reason, and couldn't go back to sleep. And I was without a doubt horny. My wife was asleep, and I refuse to wake her up at 2:30 in the morning to fix my problem. I really didn't want to masturbate while just lying there in the dark. I wanted some mental stimulation. My chromebook was on my nightstand so I flipped it open and turned the brightness down as to try to avoid waking her up.

Watching porn was out of the question. Can you imagine a very conservative christian woman who was raised in the church waking up one night to her husband watching porn tight next to her in bed?

But my wife and I have enjoyed sex stories together. Not only do they not bother her, but she likes husband/wife sex stories as long as they are pretty tame. So on to literotica I went. While I was searching the loving wives section I was presented with a few hotwife options. I had leaned what hotwife was before from my previous google search, and began to wonder if a hotwife story would do anything for me. I came to think that it would make sense in my mind that I am masturbating because I am lying here as my wife is having sex next to me and I am watching and getting off to it. So I decided to give a hotwife story a shot.

O M G I had the most earth shattering orgasm I have ever had in my life! I fell asleep immediately.

A few weeks later... maybe a couple months... I don't remember, I had another middle of the night relief requirement. Since the first hotwife story did the trick, I try another. And yep another earth shattering orgasm.

Of course when it happened again, I tried it a third time, and I was hooked. Hotwife stories have been doing the trick on me for years now, and nothing else comes close.

But it was my secret. Some of the stuff I found in hotwife stories did not appeal to me at all, and I thought if my wife ever found out about my kink and did some research on it, she would find a world that I was totally and completely embarrassed about. So I never said a word to her, and I never planned to. I was perfectly content keeping this fantasy to myself.

Over the years my wife from time to time asks what my most recent sex fantasies are. I would share some vanilla stuff, knowing I have a huge glaring fantasy that I absolutely love, but that was off limits to her. I never intended to tell her.

This past Saturday, December 23rd, my wife and I were lying in bed after some morning sex. We're talking about this and that and other things, when she casually asks "what's your latest sex fantasy"?

Have you ever said something and see it hanging in the air in front of you, and you want to put it back but you can't, and you know nothing will be the same now?

For some reason that I cannot explain I heard her question and just naturally responded with the truth. "I want to watch you have sex with another man."

Silence.

The last seven days have been entire blur to me. It's been a roller coaster of emotion. Questions of "how do I undo this... how do I fix this... what do I say next.... how do I explain this.... I was all over the board, a complete mess.

To make a long story short:

1) It's never going to happen. She made that abundantly clear.
2) She admitted when I had a previous job where I traveled a lot, she had a fantasy that I would send over a man to meet her needs. But that was years ago. She hasn't had that fantasy in a while.
3) Despite it never happening, she is not turned off by us sharing the fantasy. But she wasn't sure it would do anything for her. She might find she can't continue with it.
4) Worst case scenario, if she finds the fantasy just doesn't work for her, she is not against me having the fantasy with stories and my hand.

Despite her being understanding of my kinky desire, I was still day after day after day scared to death that she may do research into this and find stories of humiliation and jealousy that I know she would have zero appreciation for.

While I never had a reason to figure out just what it is that turns me on about this kink, I knew humiliation did nothing for me, and I also knew jealousy did nothing for me. The stories I liked were focused on the wife just loving it. I was turned on by what she gets out of it.

What has made the last week even harder for me to process through is that I have been in California for the past 4 days, 2000 miles away from her. I want so much to be sure of myself that my wife and I are on the same page, and that is very difficult to do over phone calls and text. Up to Thursday night I was a complete mess.

But after today, OMG we are on the same page, and this is now amazing! I never in a million years thought that my conservative church going Christian wife would share in this fantasy with me. But here we are. And I may have found out tonight that it does as much for her as it does for me.

1) She loves it when I call her "Hotwife". She may be acting like it, but after 22 years with her, I am 99.99% sure that she is not acting that she likes me to call her that.
2) and that is confirmed when she texted me a picture this morning of the anklet on her ankle that I bought for her on Amazon. It arrived Thursday night. And it was on her ankle Friday morning. And she was wearing it out in public.
3) I bought The Faithful Hotwife on Kindle for $3. We both read it together today. She was very interested to learn what things in it apply to me, so she can ignore the stuff that doesn't
3) Before I left for California she asked me to write a Literotica type story that would hit all my buttons in this kink. I thought she wanted it to learn more about what makes me tick. I wrote a story about the two of us having amazing sex, and the other man was only necessary so that I could do things to her that i would have to defy the laws of physics to achieve on my own. The story gave her zero reason to have any emotional attachment to the other man.
4) I sent her the story tonight and she ended up masturbating to it, and a good hot one at that! The story had her lying on top of me with me licking her clit while a nameless/faceless man fucked her. She told me she has that fantasy too. And I got the feeling that he has fantasies of other positions that would please her that would require another nameless/faceless man for me to do to her. I am going to start writing the next story tomorrow.

I am flying home tomorrow and both of us feel like we're back in our honeymoon stage. We are dying to be back together again. And both of our libidos are on fire!

I have zero desire to try and take it reality. She is still "never going to happen in real life", despite being all in in sharing this fantasy with me, including wearing her anklet out in public when we go out. I know people could comment "they all say never in the beginning... give it time". But again, I don't want it to be real. There's just to much risk and not enough reward. Sometimes the fantasy is better than reality.

I could not be happier that we are where we are right now! I just wish I hadn't hid it from her for so long.

Isn't it wonderful to have discovered this? I'm happy that you two have found a common ground that you two can share with each other. Feel free to take it as far or as little as you want as it's the two of your happiness that counts the most in this. Please keep us up to date on what happens with the two of you!!
Take care,
Rik

[leggysman]

Enjoy this new fantasy that you can share. Nicely done :-)

[2inUPMichigan]

Isn't it great when sharing openly and honestly with the one you love can bring you closer together
And the extra hot sex is a bonus

Have fun you two!!

[aztd]

Over the years many women say no way only after time and the right situation go for. Must don't.

Be careful for what your wish. With some you maybe getting sloppy seconds.

[Bluetoed]

*UPDATE*

Today is the 11th day since my wife became aware of my fantasy. As I mentioned before she is wearing my anklet and loves it when I call her "hotwife". We spent two days at her parents where her sisters, brothers in law, nieces, nephews and our kids were all spending extended family quality time together, wearing her anklet all the time and easy for anyone to see. I love it! Despite her wearing the anklet in real life , the fantasy is never going to happen in real life, and we both agree to that. It scares the hell out of me if it were to happen in real life and she feels the same. To us, the anklet says to me "she is my fantasy" and to her it means "I am your fantasy". It being a symbol of a hotwife simply means that the fantasy is a hotwife fantasy. That's all it will ever be... a fantasy we share together.

We are still both new to this but here is two ways we play out the fantasy, at least for now. We have discussed that this will be modified continually as we learn about the fantasy and need to make adjustments. 11 days is hardly enough to know how it will work best, but this is what we have planned so far.

First off, we we agreed we don't play fantasy all the time. The sex life we had before the reveal was good, and we both want to continue non-fantasy sex. And we think variety will make it all even better. I have job where I take 30 to 40 business trips a year and spend 130+ nights a year in a hotel. As for our non-sex lives, this job of mine actually works out well for both of us, as I enjoy seeing new places each week, and she feels less guilty about all the activities she is into during the week because she's not leaving me alone when I am 200+ miles away. She even loves to go with me on trips during the summer when she is off from her high school job. The day I leave on a business trip the "pinch hitter" fantasy begins and the fantasy "stories" get used until I return to reclaim her. The fantasy fits in perfectly for the times we are apart.

Secondly, we have solidified that our fantasy is that of a stag and vixen. What gets me off about thinking my wife is having sex with someone else is my feeling of compersion for her being sexually pleased triggers the release of a huge wave of pleasurable hormones. So my wife being pleased causes me to be pleased. I've read stories about the wife making the husband feel jealous and/or humiliated, and that does nothing for me. There may be some level of excitement I get from some small level of jealousy, but when I read stories of a husband watching his wife get dressed up for a date and asks' the husband "don't I look pretty for the man that will fuck me tonight", that does absolutely zero for me. I do however get a rush at thoughts that other men desire my wife.

What works for my wife in this fantasy is she likes being submissive. She is very dominant in her career, being in administration at our local high school. She is also very dominant as a mom, as well church events that she manages. But in our sex life, she has always preferred that I take the reigns, and she enjoys the ride. That may be why she has so willingly accepted my fantasy and willingly decided to share it with me.

While I am gone on a trip, my wife can always contact me to let me know she's got sexual tension that she needs relief from and she wishes I was there to take care of her needs. I ask her what she will need to be satisfied. It will typically require being licked to orgasm as well as hands on her body, but will it also include breast activity, intercourse, anal, etc? Once I know what she needs that's the moment where I as the stag find and send someone in to "pinch hit" for me in my place and limit what they are permitted to do to what she requested. My "pinch hitter" has a name that we call him. In reality the "pinch hitter" is just the different toys I have bought for her. But to blow my mind, in the fantasy she let's me believe that she has a huge sexual crush on her "pinch hitter". In fact, one of the reasons I picked him to satisfy her is because I want her pleasure to be that of someone she has a sexual desire for. Sex with someone she does not have a sexual desire for wouldn't be as good, and wouldn't trigger compersion in me. But I also know the "pinch hitter" well enough that I trust that he would never break the rules even with the crush she has on him. He is not a friend with benefits though. They aren't friends. They are just lovers that are only allowed to do what I permit. She also tells me that the pinch hitter is constantly wanting more. He also has a huge crush on her, and who could blame him. He knows if he asked me for more, that I would say no, but he also knows that if my wife tells me that she wants it, I tell her yes. So he is always trying to convince her to want it and for her to ask me for it. Every time she sends me a text telling me what he is asking for, the hormones just fire off and I love it. I love feeling like he is lusting after her. On my way home she keeps texting me that he keeps asking for one more roll in the hay before I get back, but she keeps telling him no because she has something better arriving soon. This is because despite her having a sexual crush on the guy who also has a sexual crush on her, she loves me more and is excitedly waiting for my return later that day. I get back, and we have great reclaim sex. The fantasy ends but then picks back up for the next trip.

The other way we play out the fantasy is she has asked me to continue writing stories of my fantasy with her. These are stories where I can write about the threesomes we share together, where the third is essentially nothing more than a living breathing sex toy. She has no desire to have a 2nd emotional relationship, but the thought of the things she could experience in a threesome totally turns her on, especially since the experience feeds on the emotional connection she has with me as we experience it together with the nameless/faceless man. She has shown zero sign of ever wanting to enjoy another man on her own, even in my stories. She reeds the stories while I am away and needs to use her toys. I as well can use the stories when I am away. I can also use the videos of us having sex while away. Everything I need if I need sexual release while away is about her.

When I am home we have our regular sex life. We have been having sex at least once a day and our libidos are on fire. Our talks have been more intimate. I've learned things she has never shared with me before and vice versa. We're spending a lot more time together, sometimes just relaxing in each other's arms on the couch, sometimes even making out. We haven't spent time just making out since our honeymoon. I never want to go back, and I can't believe I was so afraid to let my wife know about my secret fantasy.

I know some people will still say that "I let the cat out of the bag.... before I know it she'll want to do it for real." We've talked about this possibility. Our open discussion about this has been very broad, including what it is, where it is going, and where it could potentially go, and more importantly what are the risks now and in the future. We see zero risks of sharing this fantasy together. But we see a TON of risks if either one of us, or both of us, would ever want it to become real. We both agree that it would be foolish to gamble the solidity of our marriage and relationship simply to increase the thrill of the fantasy by making it become real. The risk is just not worth the reward. I sincerely doubt this will ever go beyond a fantasy for us, and I am perfectly fine with that.

[snoogaloo82]

*UPDATE*

Today is the 11th day since my wife became aware of my fantasy. As I mentioned before she is wearing my anklet and loves it when I call her "hotwife". We spent two days at her parents where her sisters, brothers in law, nieces, nephews and our kids were all spending extended family quality time together, wearing her anklet all the time and easy for anyone to see. I love it! Despite her wearing the anklet in real life , the fantasy is never going to happen in real life, and we both agree to that. It scares the hell out of me if it were to happen in real life and she feels the same. To us, the anklet says to me "she is my fantasy" and to her it means "I am your fantasy". It being a symbol of a hotwife simply means that the fantasy is a hotwife fantasy. That's all it will ever be... a fantasy we share together.

We are still both new to this but here is two ways we play out the fantasy, at least for now. We have discussed that this will be modified continually as we learn about the fantasy and need to make adjustments. 11 days is hardly enough to know how it will work best, but this is what we have planned so far.

First off, we we agreed we don't play fantasy all the time. The sex life we had before the reveal was good, and we both want to continue non-fantasy sex. And we think variety will make it all even better. I have job where I take 30 to 40 business trips a year and spend 130+ nights a year in a hotel. As for our non-sex lives, this job of mine actually works out well for both of us, as I enjoy seeing new places each week, and she feels less guilty about all the activities she is into during the week because she's not leaving me alone when I am 200+ miles away. She even loves to go with me on trips during the summer when she is off from her high school job. The day I leave on a business trip the "pinch hitter" fantasy begins and the fantasy "stories" get used until I return to reclaim her. The fantasy fits in perfectly for the times we are apart.

Secondly, we have solidified that our fantasy is that of a stag and vixen. What gets me off about thinking my wife is having sex with someone else is my feeling of compersion for her being sexually pleased triggers the release of a huge wave of pleasurable hormones. So my wife being pleased causes me to be pleased. I've read stories about the wife making the husband feel jealous and/or humiliated, and that does nothing for me. There may be some level of excitement I get from some small level of jealousy, but when I read stories of a husband watching his wife get dressed up for a date and asks' the husband "don't I look pretty for the man that will fuck me tonight", that does absolutely zero for me. I do however get a rush at thoughts that other men desire my wife.

What works for my wife in this fantasy is she likes being submissive. She is very dominant in her career, being in administration at our local high school. She is also very dominant as a mom, as well church events that she manages. But in our sex life, she has always preferred that I take the reigns, and she enjoys the ride. That may be why she has so willingly accepted my fantasy and willingly decided to share it with me.

While I am gone on a trip, my wife can always contact me to let me know she's got sexual tension that she needs relief from and she wishes I was there to take care of her needs. I ask her what she will need to be satisfied. It will typically require being licked to orgasm as well as hands on her body, but will it also include breast activity, intercourse, anal, etc? Once I know what she needs that's the moment where I as the stag find and send someone in to "pinch hit" for me in my place and limit what they are permitted to do to what she requested. My "pinch hitter" has a name that we call him. In reality the "pinch hitter" is just the different toys I have bought for her. But to blow my mind, in the fantasy she let's me believe that she has a huge sexual crush on her "pinch hitter". In fact, one of the reasons I picked him to satisfy her is because I want her pleasure to be that of someone she has a sexual desire for. Sex with someone she does not have a sexual desire for wouldn't be as good, and wouldn't trigger compersion in me. But I also know the "pinch hitter" well enough that I trust that he would never break the rules even with the crush she has on him. He is not a friend with benefits though. They aren't friends. They are just lovers that are only allowed to do what I permit. She also tells me that the pinch hitter is constantly wanting more. He also has a huge crush on her, and who could blame him. He knows if he asked me for more, that I would say no, but he also knows that if my wife tells me that she wants it, I tell her yes. So he is always trying to convince her to want it and for her to ask me for it. Every time she sends me a text telling me what he is asking for, the hormones just fire off and I love it. I love feeling like he is lusting after her. On my way home she keeps texting me that he keeps asking for one more roll in the hay before I get back, but she keeps telling him no because she has something better arriving soon. This is because despite her having a sexual crush on the guy who also has a sexual crush on her, she loves me more and is excitedly waiting for my return later that day. I get back, and we have great reclaim sex. The fantasy ends but then picks back up for the next trip.

The other way we play out the fantasy is she has asked me to continue writing stories of my fantasy with her. These are stories where I can write about the threesomes we share together, where the third is essentially nothing more than a living breathing sex toy. She has no desire to have a 2nd emotional relationship, but the thought of the things she could experience in a threesome totally turns her on, especially since the experience feeds on the emotional connection she has with me as we experience it together with the nameless/faceless man. She has shown zero sign of ever wanting to enjoy another man on her own, even in my stories. She reeds the stories while I am away and needs to use her toys. I as well can use the stories when I am away. I can also use the videos of us having sex while away. Everything I need if I need sexual release while away is about her.

When I am home we have our regular sex life. We have been having sex at least once a day and our libidos are on fire. Our talks have been more intimate. I've learned things she has never shared with me before and vice versa. We're spending a lot more time together, sometimes just relaxing in each other's arms on the couch, sometimes even making out. We haven't spent time just making out since our honeymoon. I never want to go back, and I can't believe I was so afraid to let my wife know about my secret fantasy.

I know some people will still say that "I let the cat out of the bag.... before I know it she'll want to do it for real." We've talked about this possibility. Our open discussion about this has been very broad, including what it is, where it is going, and where it could potentially go, and more importantly what are the risks now and in the future. We see zero risks of sharing this fantasy together. But we see a TON of risks if either one of us, or both of us, would ever want it to become real. We both agree that it would be foolish to gamble the solidity of our marriage and relationship simply to increase the thrill of the fantasy by making it become real. The risk is just not worth the reward. I sincerely doubt this will ever go beyond a fantasy for us, and I am perfectly fine with that.

You take whatever time it is that you want and need. There's no rush into this. Nice to hear that you two are at least talking about everything!!

[gacs3737]

Wow. That is a great story. I like the honesty.

[BFofGF]

The beginning stages are soooooo damn hot ! Keep it going sir