Hello from the UK!
Posted: Sun Nov 12, 2023 9:25 am
Hi, I just wanted to post here to introduce my wife and I.
We are 40 and am from the UK, in the Southeast. We have been together 20 years and married for 10 of those. We have a young family. We are both University educated, hold good careers and have a stable home life which is centered around family first. We are very in sync with each other and our personalities, like most couples, have melded over the years to create a fantastic bond. Not to say we don’t see and think about things very differently at times.
I am 6ft3+, slim to athletic build. I have blue/green eyes and dark hair with pale skin. I am quite a nerdy guy, introverted but not socially inept. I am the assertive one in our relationship and generally lead in most areas (but we’re always equal). I am extremely sex-positive and curious on the whole and as I age I find that seems to be increasing along with my emotional empathy/range/desire. I would describe myself as a giver and people pleaser, I am dedicated to my wife and my family and will do anything and everything that is required because I love it. As a result of this I have often found it hard to communicate my feelings to loved ones if I feel it’s going to cause problems.
I must briefly summarize my wife otherwise I might be here all day and hit character limits. She is 5ft4, blonde, blue eyes, great teeth with a fantastic smile. Her body is classic hour-glass, she is has fantastic breasts and has a butt that hasn’t quit in 20+ years and counting. Intelligent and beautiful British Rose. She is (un/self) diagnosed neurodiverse which runs through her family quite obviously in some areas. This does mean that sometimes her emotional range can be more limited. This can sometimes make communication difficult, and she can be plagued by anxiety. Meeting new people or going new places often daunt her. Like most women in modern society, she has body confidence issues; possibly more so since having kids, but she’s still gorgeous and she has been working out for a long time to help change this and improve her overall health and state of mind. She doesn’t see what others see.
Our relationship is extremely strong and we are both fairly accepting, liberal and open minded - generally speaking. We are a great team and almost all facets of “life” we are generally doing pretty good in. What more could you want…?
We have great sex, which is vanilla to many standards but it’s so damn good we just don’t/haven’t questioned it. However we’ve never really, as a couple, sat down and been able to express ourselves fully talking about our sex life. Partly down to my inability to communicate effectively and also because of her anxiety and difficulty in linking into her emotions. We have tried several times but it just never quite gets there or we fall back into routines (Hi complacency and neurodiversity!!).
As I’ve reached a certain age my thoughts on our life and sex are shifting. I’m seeking more emotional intimacy as well as physical/sexual. We’re not unhappy in our life routines (far from it), but I’ve been thinking more lately about how to improve our bond on all levels. For me it’s specifically about emotional intimacy as it is the bedrock to everything else that could follow. There is potentially much more to life and sometimes you just must go and make it happen.
A lot has happened in the last year which I believe has enabled me to start to put the right foot forward in these areas, slowly and steadily. Making some fundamental lifestyle changes/choices which I think enable me to dedicate my focus to relationship improvement. Which brings us to here. I’ve lurked for some time reading this amazing forum and many other online sources of relationships, intimacy, sex, etc (I’m a nerd, remember?) After discussions (which I’ll share in my future posts) we agreed to join in here to say “Hi everyone!”.
I hope that our journey and progress continue even if it’s just to diversify ourselves and step out of some comfort boundaries by exploring. Maybe we can grow to be productive members here. We’d be happy to answer any questions and hope to participate and engage with you all soon!
Thanks for reading!
UKSECouple
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We are 40 and am from the UK, in the Southeast. We have been together 20 years and married for 10 of those. We have a young family. We are both University educated, hold good careers and have a stable home life which is centered around family first. We are very in sync with each other and our personalities, like most couples, have melded over the years to create a fantastic bond. Not to say we don’t see and think about things very differently at times.
I am 6ft3+, slim to athletic build. I have blue/green eyes and dark hair with pale skin. I am quite a nerdy guy, introverted but not socially inept. I am the assertive one in our relationship and generally lead in most areas (but we’re always equal). I am extremely sex-positive and curious on the whole and as I age I find that seems to be increasing along with my emotional empathy/range/desire. I would describe myself as a giver and people pleaser, I am dedicated to my wife and my family and will do anything and everything that is required because I love it. As a result of this I have often found it hard to communicate my feelings to loved ones if I feel it’s going to cause problems.
I must briefly summarize my wife otherwise I might be here all day and hit character limits. She is 5ft4, blonde, blue eyes, great teeth with a fantastic smile. Her body is classic hour-glass, she is has fantastic breasts and has a butt that hasn’t quit in 20+ years and counting. Intelligent and beautiful British Rose. She is (un/self) diagnosed neurodiverse which runs through her family quite obviously in some areas. This does mean that sometimes her emotional range can be more limited. This can sometimes make communication difficult, and she can be plagued by anxiety. Meeting new people or going new places often daunt her. Like most women in modern society, she has body confidence issues; possibly more so since having kids, but she’s still gorgeous and she has been working out for a long time to help change this and improve her overall health and state of mind. She doesn’t see what others see.
Our relationship is extremely strong and we are both fairly accepting, liberal and open minded - generally speaking. We are a great team and almost all facets of “life” we are generally doing pretty good in. What more could you want…?
We have great sex, which is vanilla to many standards but it’s so damn good we just don’t/haven’t questioned it. However we’ve never really, as a couple, sat down and been able to express ourselves fully talking about our sex life. Partly down to my inability to communicate effectively and also because of her anxiety and difficulty in linking into her emotions. We have tried several times but it just never quite gets there or we fall back into routines (Hi complacency and neurodiversity!!).
As I’ve reached a certain age my thoughts on our life and sex are shifting. I’m seeking more emotional intimacy as well as physical/sexual. We’re not unhappy in our life routines (far from it), but I’ve been thinking more lately about how to improve our bond on all levels. For me it’s specifically about emotional intimacy as it is the bedrock to everything else that could follow. There is potentially much more to life and sometimes you just must go and make it happen.
A lot has happened in the last year which I believe has enabled me to start to put the right foot forward in these areas, slowly and steadily. Making some fundamental lifestyle changes/choices which I think enable me to dedicate my focus to relationship improvement. Which brings us to here. I’ve lurked for some time reading this amazing forum and many other online sources of relationships, intimacy, sex, etc (I’m a nerd, remember?) After discussions (which I’ll share in my future posts) we agreed to join in here to say “Hi everyone!”.
I hope that our journey and progress continue even if it’s just to diversify ourselves and step out of some comfort boundaries by exploring. Maybe we can grow to be productive members here. We’d be happy to answer any questions and hope to participate and engage with you all soon!
Thanks for reading!
UKSECouple
x