Hello from a wannabe Hot Wife!

[Sally7]

Hello,
I’m new to the OHW site and new to some of the ideas and lifestyles discussed here. I’ve always enjoyed sex (very much) but I guess I’ve been what you would call a “serial monogamist”. Although I’ve had fantasies outside of the normal sexual relationship, I’ve kept those to myself. Finding myself more often stimulated by pornographic videos that involve soft control, submission and more than two people – particularly MMF scenes – but, so far, never able to tell my husband or partner. A large proportion of porn content can be degrading for the woman, and seems to be aimed at the man’s point of view. I haven’t found strong independent women truly enjoying sex on the porn sites I’ve visited. I’ve found that frustrating. My ex-husband was quite a jealous man and was unhappy with me having any kind of male friendship.

After a long three-year divorce process, I have met an amazing man. He is so open minded, listens and does not judge. He makes me feel amazing. I sense that I’m at the beginning of an exciting journey. We are both interested in the idea of him being cuckold. We talk a lot. That’s exciting. I think that this might be an opportunity for us to both look out for each other as we go forward and explore just exactly what it is we want, individually and, I hope, together.
I’m reading the fantastic posts on OHW and learning SO much, especially from the stories about the first times - thank you for being so honest! I have to say that having him inside of me is what drives me insane with happiness. We have yet to find a bull for me. But the stories are so exciting for me, I don't want to go back now.
If we can support each other and look after each other I think this can work. Sally7 x

[hubudig2]

Hi Sally7,
Welcome to the forum.
I'm curious how you both arrived at the idea of him being a cuckold.
Was it something he's always liked the idea of but never tried? Or did you propose the idea?
Did hearing you talk about your extra-marital ambitions make something click for him?
Would love to hear more.
Thanks

[leggysman]

Hello, and welcome to fellow UK members!

My wife is 'leggysandy' and she officially became a hotwife ... exactly one year ago today!

Please keep us updated on your situation

[zorro]

Welcome, Sally. There are many good and experienced people here (including wives) to help you here.
Do consider becoming a Verified Hotwife.
Looking forward to hearing more from you.
It is a brave but wonderful world you are contemplating.

[Wantsomefunto]

If you have any questions Sally, feel free to ask, lots of experience here from members that can help you with the journey

[Carlas husband]

Welcome, Sally.
Sounds like you and your partner are at the point where Carla and I were a month or two ago (apart from the fact that we have been married for 20+ years). So if you need any ‘recent learnings’, ask.

[irishmusicman]

Welcome!

[Sally7]

Welcome, Sally.
Sounds like you and your partner are at the point where Carla and I were a month or two ago (apart from the fact that we have been married for 20+ years). So if you need any ‘recent learnings’, ask.

Thanks, Carlas Husband - I'm wondering how you decided that she would meet solo with her lovers and that you would not be involved. It sounds as though that is an aspiration of yours.... ?

[Sally7]

Hi Sally7,
Welcome to the forum.
I'm curious how you both arrived at the idea of him being a cuckold.
Was it something he's always liked the idea of but never tried? Or did you propose the idea?
Did hearing you talk about your extra-marital ambitions make something click for him?
Would love to hear more.
Thanks

Thanks hubudig2,
He hinted at it. My response must have been positive He has been on the site and I would say, a wannabe cuckold for some time now. He would have to give his own reply - something I really like about the site is that we have independent profiles. Ask Handye12 for his take on when and why he started to be interested in being a cuck... We talk about lots and very openly. I would say that he loves the anticipation, the feeling that his HW is desirable, the excruciating intensity of emotions. I have heard some more experienced members talk about "reclaiming" their HW and think (and hope) that is part of it too! Very much looking forward to finding out about that!

[handye12]

What a great intro. Especially as I'm the loving, very lucky, recipient of Sally's affections. I've been turned on by the cuckold dynamic for over 30years. In the beginning it was very much internal. I eventually did mention it to my then wife, and there was one occasion, over 20yrs ago, when it could have happened but all the stars weren't aligned, and from that moment it was off the agenda.
I had been single for the last 8 years and I started looking for another partner in the last three. I came upon OHW and joined in 2019. I had 3 girlfriends during this time, and casually mentioned my cuck yearnings but I never felt we were suitably matched to progress the relationship. Always for me the relationship is the essential ingredient, so if the cuck lifestyle was not on the table then I could still have a happy life.
Anyway, then I came upon Sally. The first time I saw her, my immediate reaction was Wow,(yes she is stunning), and then discovered she is a great conversationalist, intelligent, empathic, with a great sense of humour. So my first thoughts were don't damage my chances by mentioning my 'kink(s)', however she is so easy to talk to, that it entered into the conversation on our third date. Her reaction was simply to smile, which as it wasn't a slap, I took as a positive. What made me happy wasn't that she may consider the lifestyle, or where it might lead, but by far the much more important point, was that I could be honest. However the more we've talked about it, the more we've been excited by actually exploring.
So definitely more to come. One key ingredient to our journey in this lifestyle is Sally's admission to "I’ve always enjoyed sex (very much)". This modest comment stresses the urgent need for some active bull/bulls very soon otherwise I'm going to be completely worn out

[Carlas husband]

Welcome, Sally.
Sounds like you and your partner are at the point where Carla and I were a month or two ago (apart from the fact that we have been married for 20+ years). So if you need any ‘recent learnings’, ask.

Thanks, Carlas Husband - I'm wondering how you decided that she would meet solo with her lovers and that you would not be involved. It sounds as though that is an aspiration of yours.... ?

The short answer is that Carla preferred it that way. Nah, ‘preferred’ is too weak. She demanded it. It was her terms and conditions. And they are what we go by.

She knows about my desire to watch and participate, but she is not yet ready for it. She is excited about meeting and fucking other men, but on a 1:1 basis. I will have to do with the excitement of knowing about it beforehand, and the thrill of her summary of events.

I am OK with that. Had I not been OK with it, I would not have a hotwife.

This is where we are at right now. We don’t know where we will be in a month or a year. Exciting!!

[Wantsomefunto]

Sally,
You two seem ready to give the HW life a try! It will be a fun time for you, seems Handye12 is all into it. You mentioned reclaiming. I feel reclaiming is a very important part of the HW life. It brings the two of you back together after you have been with another man. Reclaiming comes in many forms, for us it is for me to lick her pussy after a date as she tells me every detail. What would you idea if reclaiming be? Have you discussed who your first experience will be with?

[Sally7]

Sally,
You two seem ready to give the HW life a try! It will be a fun time for you, seems Handye12 is all into it. You mentioned reclaiming. I feel reclaiming is a very important part of the HW life. It brings the two of you back together after you have been with another man. Reclaiming comes in many forms, for us it is for me to lick her pussy after a date as she tells me every detail. What would you idea if reclaiming be? Have you discussed who your first experience will be with?

Yes, I'd agree Wantsomefun. The idea of being reclaimed is very arousing ... although I'm not sure that would not be top of my thoughts while with my bull. Reclaiming could come in the form of kissing, if I decide that one rule is that I won't kiss the bull. Reclaiming by licking your wife's pussy while she tells you every detail... that's hot. The anticipation and then the telling afterwards, that's what I find really exciting. Can I ask if you and your HW do anything special to prepare for her date with her lover? I'm thinking shaving, bathing, or perhaps a massage? Is that too much to ask?

[handye12]

Sally,
You two seem ready to give the HW life a try! It will be a fun time for you, seems Handye12 is all into it. You mentioned reclaiming. I feel reclaiming is a very important part of the HW life. It brings the two of you back together after you have been with another man. Reclaiming comes in many forms, for us it is for me to lick her pussy after a date as she tells me every detail. What would you idea if reclaiming be? Have you discussed who your first experience will be with?

Yes, I'd agree Wantsomefun. The idea of being reclaimed is very arousing ... although I'm not sure that would not be top of my thoughts while with my bull. Reclaiming could come in the form of kissing, if I decide that one rule is that I won't kiss the bull. Reclaiming by licking your wife's pussy while she tells you every detail... that's hot. The anticipation and then the telling afterwards, that's what I find really exciting. Can I ask if you and your HW do anything special to prepare for her date with her lover? I'm thinking shaving, bathing, or perhaps a massage? Is that too much to ask?

Excuse me Mistress, butting in when you are talking to another man,, but I'd just like to say, It's certainly not too much to ask.
I've ordered warming massage oil, and massage table

[aztd]

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[Wantsomefunto]

Hi Sally
Thanks for the reply. For us the prep for her to meet a guy begins with her showering and doing her makeup as I watch and we talk about the upcoming date. She will ask me to help her pick out her bra and panties, and I help her choose her out fit. Before she dresses I like to lay her back on the bed, suck on her breasts, and eat her pussy to make sure she is very aroused for the date and in need of an orgasm. But I don’t let her cum before she leaves. I just take her to the edge of cumming once or twice. When she comes home we kiss, she strips for me and lays on the bed, I kiss all over her body and finish by licking her swelled pussy as she tells me every detail. I always make sure she cums for me with the oral and sometimes combination of oral and fingers. She can take 3 and sometimes 4 fingers after a date. Normally she can only take two fingers, but his much bigger cock sends her how stretched a little bit.

Hope this helps and if you want to chat here or private PM me

[Sally7]

I love these ideas for preparing. I'm surprised at myself, but talking about this with my bf has opened up a kind of yearning. With the different scenarios that we've discussed and some of them touching on fantasies that I've kept subdued for so many years, I've told him that I'd like to take the next step. I hope he doesn't think I'm rushing him! We have agreed that we will look for a bull for me. The anticipation of what might be about to happen is making me more aroused than I think I've ever been in my life. I'm not able to send or receive PM's yet, but Handye can. As a result, we're spending time talking about what we'd like, looking at profiles on this and other sites, reading about other members' experiences, putting in place some boundaries, and discussing how we might meet to make the first time a success. It's a lovely lazy, close morning in bed this Sunday. We live about an hour apart and I've come to stay with Handye for a few days. So, instantly turned on this morning as we were waking up. I think that dreamed of a very large bull last night. There are some fantastic accounts of other members experiences on here and we've agreed that I can write about mine. In the meantime, I'm smiling. A lot

[Wantsomefunto]

Sally
You seem so ready to give this a try. That is a good thing. So now you need to decide how it will happen. Set up with a bull? Random pick up at a bar? Will Handye watch it will he have to wait alone to get the details as he reclaims you? What kind of guy you desire? Younger? Older? Race? What you are looking for? Emotional connection? Pure lust? A cock larger than your Bf? Do you want condoms or do you want to return to Handye dirty? So many questions for you to consider. Can’t wait to hear more from you!

[Carlas husband]

Sally and Handye,
I mentioned your post to Carla, hope that is OK with you.
Here is her advise (and mine):
Remember to talk about other topics. What you are doing feels life-changing, but it does not change everything.
Handye, I know the thought of reclaim turns you on (and Sally too), but do not break down if it does not happen. Even if Sally’s first date is one big triumph, she could be exhausted and in need of some quiet time afterwards. (Tough as hell to accept, I can assure you!)
This is your first time. When has a first time ever been a complete success without room for improvement? Talk about it from a ‘what can be even better next time’ perspective.
Keep in mind that all of this worked for Carla and her husband. That does not mean it will work for you. You need to figure that out yourselves.
Best of luck, sweet couple!

[Sally7]

Thanks for all of your great advice and support!

[Wantsomefunto]

So what is next for you Sally?

[handye12]

As a wannabe for many years. I like most of the cuckold scenarios mentioned in the forum. And bizarrely this include SPH. To demonstrate how ideally Sally, her intelligence and sense of humour, is ideally suited this lifestyle, we were discussing about piercings, whether we found them erotic and if we would consider having one.
With seemingly no forethought, she said she's being considering a clit piercing, but with bells hanging from the piercing. Perplexed,I asked why the bells, and she replied saying," hopefully the bells would ring when you enter, otherwise I'm never too sure".

[BallSpanking]

With seemingly no forethought, she said she's being considering a clit piercing, but with bells hanging from the piercing. Perplexed,I asked why the bells, and she replied saying," hopefully the bells would ring when you enter, otherwise I'm never too sure".

She is going to make you a cuckold for sure!

[Sally7]

Yesterday, Handye drove me into the city. I had a hair appointment and spent some time buying new clothes. H had mentioned that he would like us to go shopping together for underwear for me to wear. He picked me up and then suggested we go and look at lingerie as we were already in town.
As we looked through the shop, I tried on things that I wouldn’t normally wear. I asked H “What would a bull like?” partly I was teasing. I think that H was pointing out things that he would like me to wear. In the changing rooms, I think he was hoping I’d show him anything I particularly liked. But the shop attendant guided H out to a seating area for the men. I tried the lovely bra and pant set and a dress on and realized that this was really “first date” lingerie. H paid and we left the shop and this is going to sound awful, I wasn’t sure how to tell him, but I told H that he wouldn’t get to see the lingerie on me until after the bull had.
Maybe a photo. Sent from me. On the night. I think H would like that.

We dropped into a local pub on the way home. We walked in and the room was full, buzzing – a pub quiz was in full swing. I thought I might know the answer to the question that was being asked at that moment. I leaned in close to H and said the answer quietly, but there was a group of young people at the bar and a very good-looking young man looked straight at me and smiled and said thank you!” Gorgeous eyes.

H and I have been playing a game. If we see a man that would consider having a date with I would say - "yes" or "No". We've had fun with it over the last couple of weeks and it's helped to plant the seed of possibility in my mind as well as help us think about what we want. When this young man looked at me and smiled, normally I’d look away, but I smiled back directly at him. My heart was pounding. It felt so good. He caught my eye again and was blatantly flirting, asking if I would stay and help them win.
We left, but I feel amazing. I think that a lot of this has to do with what’s in my head. H was great. He stood back and let this guy openly flirt with me. Small steps …

The lingerie is still in tissue paper in it's bag, with a ribbon tied.

[BallSpanking]

What an exciting adventure you have ahead of you. It sounds like your husband is eager to encourage you with whatever you might need, so the only impediment now is finding the proper Bull to give you a rocking first HotWife experience. Hopefully, your Alpha will possess all the attributes you need to become wet and turned on ...
From your description of your expectations, you will be taking your first HW cock solo with your Bull and sending pics to hubby?