New Relationship and Learning About Lifestyle

[PantyPrincess]

I am 45 and doing through a divorce. I've been talking with a woman I've known for over 20 years that is recently divorced. Through some talks we have found some similar thoughts and fantasies. We both are coming from sexless marriages and both have a desire to have a partner open and willing to have active sex lives.

I communicated that I wanted to have experience with men. She not only was open to that but come to find out she has enjoyed bisexual men in porn. She has encouraged my more feminine side of being bisexual. We looked up cuckolding and are here to learn more about what that looks like and if that could he a route that works for us.

She has joined here as well and hopefully this can be an outlet to learn as well as share our journey.

[afagehi7]

Welcome to ohw. Can't wait to hear what your lady has to say about this.

[Smolderingspark]

Ever have one of those conversations with someone you have known for a really long time, but come away pleasantly surprised? I am not as great at sharing as my partner, it is a work in progress. My sex life has been pretty Vanilla to non-existent. The idea of getting to experience other men with my partner is very exciting to me. I am interested in learning more and watching our journey unfold.

[Mr1SexyGILF]

Sounds like better times are ahead for you PantyPrincess. Welcome to OHW.

Also welcome to you Smolderigspark. Are you the new woman in PantyPincess’ life?

Mr GILF

[PantyPrincess]

Yes, smolderingspark is the woman in my life.

As I have read through stories about others it seems most have picked this up after many years together. As a new relationship is it better to start off without any kind of external people to find a baseline between us or would it be better to work through lifestyle dynamic right from from the start.

I think a piece of info that wasn't shared is that we are long distance. That does play a large part into how dynamic is currently.

[leander99]

Be carefull playing this game when you are long distance.

It requires very strong communication and a genuine trust in each other. I'm not sure hotwiving is a recommended activity of you far apart. It can so easily go wrong, and then the distance is a real probkem suddenly

[PantyPrincess]

I would be curious to hear why you think it's a bad idea and what are some of the pitfalls that could happen because of the distance.

[leander99]

If you are far apart, if is much easier for her to start feeling attraction to the other guy.
Also, you are not around to "reclaim" her afterwards.

Furthermore, this relationship style requires a lot of communication.
For most couples communication will be harder when the partners are not together.

This is especially a risk when starting the lifestyle because maybe one of you felt unsatisfied when the partner is far away.
If one partner felt "bored" and wanted more than the long distance relationship could offer, that could be a red sign.

Now, it doesn't mean that is not possible. Some couples can manage this lifestyle extremely well, even long distance.
The distance can even add extra excitement, since you do not fully know what may be happening.

But the risk of a car crash (so to say) is undeniably higher, long distance.
If you are a great driver, then by all means go for it. Just be aware of what the risks may be.

[PantyPrincess]

I think some of the variables here is that we have known each other for a long time. Our kids grew up together.

Another is that I believe that if she did meet someone else that was a great fit for her and we didn't work out I would be genuinely happy for her.

I have read the term reclaim and I'm not sure I like that. It makes it sound like she's my property. Not my style and wouldnt allow anyone to feel like they had to be with me just because they were with someone else. Maybe reconnecting would be a better term for how I view that.

I feel like there could he some benefits to being able to chat about things as they happen. We have both shared that we would prefer the other person to be present. She did encourage me to go to a glory hole to try my first dick. I shared a couple pictures and told her the details. I think that went well.