my fiancee

[snoogaloo82]

My fiancée is living overseas right now and I am encouraging her find someone to be romantic with while the two of us can't be together. This is the first time we've done anything like this. Any advice?

[dr_zeus]

Patience, patience and more patience which is second only to communication... I am sure you have seen it countless times on here, the natural reaction is suspicion assuming you are just asking for your own hall pass or excuse to cheat. Read most of the posts, if you havent already, it takes years and sometimes decades for couples to get to the point of actually acting on these desires. Not sure where you are in your relationship but you have to be careful what you wish for and then enjoy the ride if you are lucky enough.

You cannot communicate enough in a relationship especially when these types of subjects come up. Let her process what you have shared with her and be ready for some complex and at times difficult emotions between you both. Last but not least, make sure you have this straight in your head and be ready because you cannot "pull the rug out from under her" after she has faithfully fulfilled your request.

[SilverStag]

You need to clarify to her if you mean for her to have sex with someone (absent a romance) or actually find a romantic partner (which may end badly for you). In either case, as noted above, you and she need to be on the same sheet of music about the idea.

[snoogaloo82]

Patience, patience and more patience which is second only to communication... I am sure you have seen it countless times on here, the natural reaction is suspicion assuming you are just asking for your own hall pass or excuse to cheat. Read most of the posts, if you havent already, it takes years and sometimes decades for couples to get to the point of actually acting on these desires. Not sure where you are in your relationship but you have to be careful what you wish for and then enjoy the ride if you are lucky enough.

You cannot communicate enough in a relationship especially when these types of subjects come up. Let her process what you have shared with her and be ready for some complex and at times difficult emotions between you both. Last but not least, make sure you have this straight in your head and be ready because you cannot "pull the rug out from under her" after she has faithfully fulfilled your request.

Thank you for the wonderful advice! I totally agree with you on everything and especially the communication part. We are separated by a huge ocean (the Atlantic lol) so we talk via text on WhatsApp. So far everything has gone really well, and no matter what happens I'm not even thinking of pulling the plug what so ever as it has given her a new lease on life that I couldn't have wished for even if I'd tried She has said that she is so happy that we have done this as it has given her a new sense of worth...me being okay with her to see other men guilt free being the major one for her. I'm happy that I can give that to her, but I'm also glad that she took that as she so deserves to have a lot of happiness in her life even if I'm not there.

[snoogaloo82]

You need to clarify to her if you mean for her to have sex with someone (absent a romance) or actually find a romantic partner (which may end badly for you). In either case, as noted above, you and she need to be on the same sheet of music about the idea.

Her and I are definitely on the same sheet of music as you say. We've talked about this and the ramifications, and she's totally on board. She's just hoping that I can handle things. She's actually more worried about my emotions than her own emotions or pleasures. To me that's love on both our parts as we both want the same thing in life. To live a happy life together even if that means that she might sleep with other guys.

[54321]

Any news?

54321

[snoogaloo82]

Any news?

54321

As a matter of fact yep. I just posted an update. I think maybe I should post here, too. Here's the update.

The latest update.

They actually watched a porn video together! It was a black couple trying different positions and they followed the video and did it doggy style as well as standing up with him lifting up one leg and penetrating her pussy nice and hard i imagine. Here it is in her own words:
"It was just a black couple trying out different positions and it was actually nice. We ended up trying doggy, and the standing position while he lifts my one leg up and missionary"
"I don't want to spill our everything now I'll tell you all later. Bye darling. Let me enjoy Fidel now"
"btw I love the selection you've made on jumia"
That's the current update. He was looking for a place to go and eat so she had a little time to fill me in.
Jumia is a web site like amazon but it's in Kenya. I picked out some sexy panties for her to try out...I had gone overboard in buying her some things that I got duplicates and she scolded me for it, and said I had to pass anything I got her on Jumia through her first. lol I'm nothing but a good cuck!

[54321]

Wow! congratulations! You hot fiancée has done it!

I imagine you two will now have quite a bit of processing to do and a lot of hot 'Tell Alls' too!

How long is she overseas for?

54321

[snoogaloo82]

Wow! congratulations! You hot fiancée has done it!

I imagine you two will now have quite a bit of processing to do and a lot of hot 'Tell Alls' too!

How long is she overseas for?

54321

Yep, she's done it, and she's smiling, too! She's so loving being able to sleep with a guy and not have to worry about any obligations to him as well as enjoying that she is making me as horny as all get out! lol

I can't wait for more action on their part...and for them to explore more sexual endevors!

She's over there until the US govt lets her come over. I just might move to Kenya and become a resident/ex-pat

[54321]

She's over there until the US govt lets her come over.

Surely if you two marry, immigration to the US will be a done deal?

54321

[snoogaloo82]

She's over there until the US govt lets her come over.

Surely if you two marry, immigration to the US will be a done deal?

54321

one would hope but not necessarily
lots of bells and whistles that i can see
but then again i don't read govt very well lol

[54321]

The key is to get the ink on the paper.

After that, there may be a series of forms and processes, signings by notaries yada yada but it will all work out no question.
In the meantime, your fiancée has a bunch of hot adventures ahead. I hope she shares ALL the details!

54321

[snoogaloo82]

The key is to get the ink on the paper.

After that, there may be a series of forms and processes, signings by notaries yada yada but it will all work out no question.
In the meantime, your fiancée has a bunch of hot adventures ahead. I hope she shares ALL the details!

54321

I hope she shares it all, too!
Good to know that it won't be too bad
You promise, right?? lol

[trecital]

Yeah, share it all.