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My wife is down with finding a regular fuck buddy here very soon.

Any suggestions on the best site/app to find a guy for a regular hookup with my wife? We've tried Kasadie and SLS in the past.

I'm not sure if there's something better now. AFF maybe? Or some dating app? Or just stick with the swinger sites/apps like Kasadie?

Any suggestions are appreciated!

We've had good luck with Feeld. We were very specific what we were looking for and so was the regular we hooked up with. Although we did say we weren't looking for a BFF or poly relationship, it is turning into a friend relationship as well.

CaliLondon wrote: ↑

Wed Aug 23, 2023 1:38 am

We've had good luck with Feeld. We were very specific what we were looking for and so was the regular we hooked up with. Although we did say we weren't looking for a BFF or poly relationship, it is turning into a friend relationship as well.

I haven't heard of Feeld, might have to look into that one.

feeld is good, adult friend finder, doublelist if in your area is good, ashley madison can be good, sometimes the local bar scene can be good as well.

I second Feeld, but I'd add this to the mix. Cast a net far and wide, don't just use one app. Be super quick to eject someone if they are futzing around, asking for pics, etc. Move to meet as soon as possible, either via video chat, or coffee date. On one of the podcasts I listened to in the past, she said she had very clear and explicit details on her profile, and if they didn't meet those, she immediately rejected it. Dick is free, so your job is to filter as much as possible to what you want.

Ok so, sounds like a lot are mentioning Feeld and I'm also hearing doublelist which I was kinda surprised to hear about since I thought that might be a bunch of fakes on there. I might have to rethink that though.

I like the idea of casting a wide net. That is why I was also thinking about AFF.

In the past we have just stuck to the normal swinger sites SLS, Kasadie, etc.

Fetlife, doublelist, reddit. They are free and can get locals there. Granted we are looking for bi couples which is hard to find. Had some luck.

Stick with the swinger sites. No mistaking intentions there and you can read any endorsements from others who have played with them, so you have an idea of what you may be getting. We use Kasidie, AFF and SLS. Those keep us busy enough between sorting, vetting, and now and then actually meeting people. When you get to the free sites it will become a full-time job just sorting the flakes and fakes due to the sheer volume.

If you are in the PHX area, try going to a couple swing clubs (Particularly if they allow single men). After all, some couples (like us) allow solo play with others, and a solo married guy might work out well as a longer term FWB.

Swing clubs.

Feeld. Every Bull we have met! Verified accounts… still some occasional BS. But success.

we have used Swinglifestyle (SLS) and Swingdateclub (SDC), we are also looking into comperssionclub
I just checked out feeld looks interesting but it's only a phone app as the others I listed before we can put on our (compueter) big screen Tv together to check out guys she would want to date. ( we are not tech savvy)

Don't overlook everyday opportunities. You are in a good position as the two of you have already agreed that extra men for her is what you both want. If your wife is just a little bit flirty she can easily let guys know she's interested. My wife of about one year (at the time) met a guy she found VERY attractive one day at the child care place. He was a single dad dropping his kids off. This was a good lesson for me as the guy wasn't "buff" but rather, charmed her with his personality. One evening two weeks later I watched her having an orgasm with him in our marital bed. She had succinctly left the door open a bit when she took him to the bedroom, so that I could see and that turned her on even more. That was the first of many nights I slept in our extra bedroom while she entertained him in our bed. We set up a Saturday night schedule built around our kid's weekends with their other parent. Best we could do with young kids!

My wife is considering making an EX boyfriend her fuck buddy. An easy plug n okay it seems. I know there is still feelings there too. They haven't fucked in 13 years although they do connect every few months on the phone. He lives 1.5 hrs away.
Anyone had good or bad situations with your wife fucking her ex bf?

Watchinu69 wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 12, 2023 7:32 am

My wife is considering making an EX boyfriend her fuck buddy. An easy plug n okay it seems. I know there is still feelings there too. They haven't fucked in 13 years although they do connect every few months on the phone. He lives 1.5 hrs away.
Anyone had good or bad situations with your wife fucking her ex bf?

I have had an experience with my best friend. She fell in love with him and out of love with me. Even though I said that I would stay even if she loved me, she said no, and left me for him.

snoogaloo82 wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 12, 2023 7:43 am

Watchinu69 wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 12, 2023 7:32 am

My wife is considering making an EX boyfriend her fuck buddy. An easy plug n okay it seems. I know there is still feelings there too. They haven't fucked in 13 years although they do connect every few months on the phone. He lives 1.5 hrs away.
Anyone had good or bad situations with your wife fucking her ex bf?

I have had an experience with my best friend. She fell in love with him and out of love with me. Even though I said that I would stay even if she loved me, she said no, and left me for him.

Hi- how long was their fuck buddy relationship before things began to deteriorate ? Was his bedroom skills a major factor in her falling in love - or do you feel you two tan it's course? Thanks for sharing

Watchinu69 wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 12, 2023 7:51 am

snoogaloo82 wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 12, 2023 7:43 am

Watchinu69 wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 12, 2023 7:32 am

My wife is considering making an EX boyfriend her fuck buddy. An easy plug n okay it seems. I know there is still feelings there too. They haven't fucked in 13 years although they do connect every few months on the phone. He lives 1.5 hrs away.
Anyone had good or bad situations with your wife fucking her ex bf?

I have had an experience with my best friend. She fell in love with him and out of love with me. Even though I said that I would stay even if she loved me, she said no, and left me for him.

Hi- how long was their fuck buddy relationship before things began to deteriorate ? Was his bedroom skills a major factor in her falling in love - or do you feel you two tan it's course? Thanks for sharing

I think the fuck buddy stage lasted all of a week because since he was my best friend he would go out with us a lot. that's kind of why i suggested him as i totally trusted him. i have no idea what turned it for her, but she says she fell out of love with me and wouldn't even accept me as part of her life.

Watchinu69 wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 12, 2023 7:32 am

My wife is considering making an EX boyfriend her fuck buddy. An easy plug n okay it seems. I know there is still feelings there too. They haven't fucked in 13 years although they do connect every few months on the phone. He lives 1.5 hrs away.
Anyone had good or bad situations with your wife fucking her ex bf?

My wife has had relationships with three ex boyfriends. All three we enjoyable experiences for her and the relationships lasted until they found another partner.

I should mention that although she enjoyed them again, she did say that two of the three did not have the same ability to perform as they did when they were younger and she was also much more experienced and more wild than any of the three.

Because we have two adolescent kids and because being on a sex website could jeopardize my wife's job, we do not use them. My wife prefers meeting men in person. We used to go to a nightclub that had mostly a younger crowd. Lots of US Marines went there. She likes fucking US Military personnel because they can't risk getting in trouble. But that club went out of business during CA shutdowns.

We're regulars at a couple sports bars. She's found suitable men at sports bars.

My wife is always looking to take advantage of opportunities as they arise.

She prefers to meet men in person. She does not trust Internet men. She's heard too many horror stories, many from her girlfriends, about men they met on the net who weren't as portrayed. The net poses too much risk that out kids could find out that their angelic mom is a bedroom porn star. He employer has an extremely strict sexual harassment policy. Her contract has a morals clause that is supposed to protect her employer's goodwill.

MarknSusan wrote: ↑

Tue Nov 14, 2023 10:00 am

Watchinu69 wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 12, 2023 7:32 am

My wife is considering making an EX boyfriend her fuck buddy. An easy plug n okay it seems. I know there is still feelings there too. They haven't fucked in 13 years although they do connect every few months on the phone. He lives 1.5 hrs away.
Anyone had good or bad situations with your wife fucking her ex bf?

My wife has had relationships with three ex boyfriends. All three we enjoyable experiences for her and the relationships lasted until they found another partner.

I should mention that although she enjoyed them again, she did say that two of the three did not have the same ability to perform as they did when they were younger and she was also much more experienced and more wild than any of the three.

Hi MarknSusan,

Ex-boyfriends seemed like logical choices for my wife. She has already fucked them, so she knows what to expect. I brought up the idea of her contacting former boyfriends for MFM sex. She immediately responded to the effect, "No way!" She was emphatic that there is not one ex-b/f she'd fuck again. They're ex-b/fs for a reason. She might have ended relationships as positively as possible, but that did not imply she'd fuck them again.

BTW, I cannot recall my wife talking in negative terms about any dude she used to date. About the worst I heard her say about a couple of her former boyfriends was that they were BS'ers. Most college age guys are good BS'ers when in comes to getting clothes off of coeds.

BTW, for those of you considering using the net for prospects, always remember that what goes on the net never leaves the net.

I have had good luck finding fuck buddies for the wife using a local dating app. I am very upfront with the candates...tell them they are talking to the husband of the woman in the pictures. tell them what we are looking for, have a few phone conversations....basically i vet them.
its worked pretty well. we keep it very private...these guys will never be in our home or even know our real names or where we live. she meets them at a hotel, they talk a little, fuck a lot, she comes home. thus far she's had 6 in two months...we might do a repeat with 2 of them. not sure. we dont want any attachments forming.

There is one guy my wife fucked a lot when she was 19. He was 30. They were each attracted to each other. My wife's attraction was seducing an older man. Obviously the guy loved fucking a 19 year old college sophomore. My wife fucked him every chance she had. She was the pursuer. She developed romantic feelings for him. He was extremely patient with my wife. He reassured her that she was beautiful and had a beautiful body. He taught her how to enjoy sex without guilt. They didn't date as in going out to dinner or movies. My wife didn't want to risk being seen by her friends with an old man. She went to his house where they fucked. He knew how to go down on her and used his mouth and tongue to coax her clit to release euphoric orgasms. She repaid the gesture by sucking his cock a lot. She'd spend the night with him if she could. She said he was the best sex she ever had until she met me.

If I could find him, I'd arrange for my wife to meet him, not for sexual reasons, but because she authentically liked him.

After they broke off their sexual relationship, my wife vowed to never again to comport her sexuality to norms of society or others. She became sexually confident and enlightened.

Hey there Tank,

I found it interesting that my wife had three ex boyfriends that she still spoke highly of, and they even remained friends even after they broke up.

I knew one of the guys very well because he was also a good friend of mine. I didn’t meet the other two until she introduced me to them and I found them to be very successful with pleasant personalities

So I guess some ex’s might be ex’s for a reason…. but somehow it worked out fine for Susan to hook up with them.

MarknSusan wrote: ↑

Tue Nov 14, 2023 12:06 pm

Hey there Tank,

I found it interesting that my wife had three ex boyfriends that she still spoke highly of, and they even remained friends even after they broke up.

I knew one of the guys very well because he was also a good friend of mine. I didn’t meet the other two until she introduced me to them and I found them to be very successful with pleasant personalities

So I guess some ex’s might be ex’s for a reason…. but somehow it worked out fine for Susan to hook up with them.

That's so cool that things worked out so well with them!!!