Finally Told wife I want her to Hotwife

[whenwillshe]

She is in the driver's seat.
You can tell her how hot she gets you and how you love to see her get off without bringing up the HW scenario.
Maybe buy some toys and just play together and explore.
She will either grow into it or just continue to blow your mind one on one.
Enjoy the ride!

[2inUPMichigan]

Her body is telling you that she was turned on in that moment.
That doesn't mean it has anything to do with your conversation.

I can tell you that during my 20 years of monogamy it simply didn't occur to imagine a man I met in a sexual situation. Of course I recognized if he was hot but it always stopped at that point. As far as a man hitting on me, I would have taken it as a joke or been pissed because I was obviously married. (And yes it is rude)

If you have told her your fantasy and your wish for her to become a hotwife then it is up to her at this point. She is the one who will know if this is a good fit for her. She has to find answers (with your help) to all the questions she will have.

Becoming a hotwife is a lot more complicated than simply answering the question "Do you want to have sex with someone else?" For many of us it is a transformation in how we view ourselves (not always an easy process).

[aztd]

She has been thinking about alot

[nevertoolate]

Becoming a hotwife is a lot more complicated than simply answering the question "Do you want to have sex with someone else?" For many of us it is a transformation in how we view ourselves (not always an easy process).

The women are doing the heavy lift.

[OZCPL]

Sounds as though she is feeling it more than she used to and you guys are having more fun.

What is the latest. What are you and your wife doing now.

[ThePerfectHubby87]

Sounds as though she is feeling it more than she used to and you guys are having more fun.

What is the latest. What are you and your wife doing now.

Nothing new to report. I have made a few slight hints with no reaction. Last convo was horrible so I'm trying g to respect her and not bring it up. Waiting for the seed to grow.

[Mumfred]

Nothing new to report. I have made a few slight hints with no reaction. Last convo was horrible so I'm trying g to respect her and not bring it up. Waiting for the seed to grow.

It might make sense to just let this one go. I know it’s hard but it sounds like she just isn’t interested. Maybe try to find a new hobby to move it out of your mind.

[leggysman]

I think it means she's been turning it over in her mind, and at least internally, it's turning her on.

Whether she admits that to you, or decides to move the fantasy a little closer to reality, only she knows.

Hopefully you know her mind better than any of us could.

In my case, it just needed more communication about my desires, to prompt her to recognize her own. Posting on this site, in fact, and having her read it. But it was a long journey, before that. When the dam finally broke, it was a gusher. Our sex life was always good, but lately it's incendiary. Her first hotwife sex date is scheduled for next Tues. She's already planning more, and talking to more men.

[ThePerfectHubby87]

I think it means she's been turning it over in her mind, and at least internally, it's turning her on.

Whether she admits that to you, or decides to move the fantasy a little closer to reality, only she knows.

Hopefully you know her mind better than any of us could.

In my case, it just needed more communication about my desires, to prompt her to recognize her own. Posting on this site, in fact, and having her read it. But it was a long journey, before that. When the dam finally broke, it was a gusher. Our sex life was always good, but lately it's incendiary. Her first hotwife sex date is scheduled for next Tues. She's already planning more, and talking to more men.

I'm hoping for the best but I'm currently just waiting. I don't want to be pushy. Doubt anything goes anywhere for a while.

[ThePerfectHubby87]

So we had some role play one night and she got into it! Also had fun sending her some mfm porn and she didn't get pissed about it. I said you know we never have to do anything but we could always try one time and see howbit goes. She said maybe. She's not ready yet but maybe were getting closer to trying...she seems nervous about it bc I think she wants to try it but can't admit it yet. I'm going to lay off and give her space but maybe just maybe I'm gonna have a Hotwife someday. What do you guys think?

[Greggg]

I read your post previously but I forget exactly what's been shared. So if this is redundant, I apologize but I think one of the big problems is the wife's body image. Rejection is tough to deal with when dating and is over once we are in a committed relationship. Even extrapounds or changes that come with age are expected and gradual enough and are ignored. But putting our women back out in the meat market world of dating and feeling attractive comes with a lot of trepidations. Especially with how we view ourselves. We see every flaw.
Many men post mild pictures and use the feedback to reassure our wives from what I read and see on this site. I never had to deal with that with my ex because we were young and she was a hard body. The one thing we did right was our communication. We shared all our fantasies. Some were so crazy and would never happen but we still felt safe sharing anything. We had so much fun talking and sharing my and then our, hotwife fantasy. I won't summarize but I think you get my points. They are the same points shared on this site over and over. So you know what your job is.

[ThePerfectHubby87]

I read your post previously but I forget exactly what's been shared. So if this is redundant, I apologize but I think one of the big problems is the wife's body image. Rejection is tough to deal with when dating and is over once we are in a committed relationship. Even extrapounds or changes that come with age are expected and gradual enough and are ignored. But putting our women back out in the meat market world of dating and feeling attractive comes with a lot of trepidations. Especially with how we view ourselves. We see every flaw.
Many men post mild pictures and use the feedback to reassure our wives from what I read and see on this site. I never had to deal with that with my ex because we were young and she was a hard body. The one thing we did right was our communication. We shared all our fantasies. Some were so crazy and would never happen but we still felt safe sharing anything. We had so much fun talking and sharing my and then our, hotwife fantasy. I won't summarize but I think you get my points. They are the same points shared on this site over and over. So you know what your job is.

I think the dating is intimidating for sure. That's why I offered to help her find a bull to join us and I think it made it less intimidating in her mind. Instead of bringing up hotwifing again I said maybe we try one threesome and see if you like it. She was way more open to that. I feel like after a great experience it should be an easy transition. We will see....she has been open before to only go back to a hard no real quick. I'm hopeful but it's easier to not be pushy now.

[ThePerfectHubby87]

So we talked after all the fun we had this weekend. She said it's fun during sex. She likes to talk about it during sex. She hasn't gotten mad like a few months ago when I brought it up. She was 100% down for role-playing this weekend. Looking me straight in the eye while giving me head. I was telling her how much she deserves a big cock amd she was loving it. Things are changing. A hotwife is in the making. I would really appreciate any advice from where to go from here.

[allways]

So we talked after all the fun we had this weekend. She said it's fun during sex. She likes to talk about it during sex. She hasn't gotten mad like a few months ago when I brought it up. She was 100% down for role-playing this weekend. Looking me straight in the eye while giving me head. I was telling her how much she deserves a big cock amd she was loving it. Things are changing. A hotwife is in the making. I would really appreciate any advice from where to go from here.

Woh woh cowboy slow down it took us many years before her being a consummated hotwife all be it with just the one man long term. Enjoy the journey. Just remember Newtons Third law Action and reaction. For every action ( you pushing) in nature (and women) there is an equal and opposite reaction. Your task is to make it her idea

[Mumfred]

Your task is to make it her idea

That is a pretty big task.

[ThePerfectHubby87]

I got chewed out just a little bit ago for bringing it up. This was a big change in attitude towards the idea.

[Mumfred]

I got chewed out just a little bit ago for bringing it up. This was a big change in attitude towards the idea.

That is what I mean. It’s hard to have her warm to an idea that you can’t even discuss.

[ThePerfectHubby87]

I got chewed out just a little bit ago for bringing it up. This was a big change in attitude towards the idea.

That is what I mean. It’s hard to have her warm to an idea that you can’t even discuss.

I mean a few weeks ago I got chewed out. She really warmed up to it for the first time this weekend. She said we could try an mfm some time. Ibjust need to get the right guy talking to her. It's been almost a year since I first brought it up.

[TheHammer]

Great news! Maybe start slow by going to a bar/club separately and have her flirt/dance with another guy.

[ThePerfectHubby87]

So I would like to share an update. I got my wife to watch some mfm porn. She acted like she didn't like it but I think she watched it when she was alone. Obviously I have been at this for a while now and I got her to open up enough to take a sex quiz. It turns out she wants me to be dominant. So I dominated her into being a hotwife (roleplay). She fu king loved it. There was a shift at that point. She wants me to make it happen. Now that we got here I'm going to give her some time to think about it more but she pretty much said she was ready.

[BDJ]

It's time to get her in the sexy, flirty mood, too. If you're in or close a large enough metropolitan area take her to a singles bar and hang back, let her get hit on. Strokes her ego and yours too! Make it a game...tell her she can't wear panties or bra. You're there, watching, and she's safe. It's a win-win!

BDJ

[ThePerfectHubby87]

She got home late from work last night and was reading on reddit. Sent me an article. She is 100% ready. Now we're going to talk about boundaries and what we want. She wants to look at profiles together. She about her earn her HW wings.

What should I do now that we're going to have this talk? Worked so long on getting her to be ok with this and haven't planned this part as much. She wants to look at profiles together. Big step. Never thought I would be here.

[Nothing2see]

There is a rather old saying in the HW world : she who has the pussy sets the rules.

If you are too insecure to abide by that, drop it. Otherwise support and encourage whatever set up she wants.

[TheHammer]

Communicate communicate communicate. And listen to her. Go into this together and don’t be selfish or demanding. Don’t force any “rules” down on you. Yes, of course, you have dealbreakers but don’t get nitpicky. It’s her pussy.

[ThePerfectHubby87]

I think I should clarify. I don't have many or any rules. I meant her boundaries and rules.

The whole point is to spoil her.