Sexting without spouse knowing

[BallSpanking]

Dishonesty is the problem.
How can you trust, make a home, with someone you cannot trust to be honest?

Essentially this has two avenues of solution:
A) She comes clean with her texts and is forthright in her communications with you, or,
B) You accept she is going to be dishonest and cannot be trusted.

[BallSpanking]

Your wife's sexting was done furtively to keep you from knowing about it. She is hiding a behavior from you that is gratifying to her, segregated from your relationship.
Your question as to 'why' can be quickly answered with readily accessible explanations, she thought you would be pissed, it is frowned on socially, etc. There is probably some truth to that, but also that she fucked-up, liked it, and continued engaging in a non-disclosing/cheating behavior.
It is difficult to believe her assertions/justifications, but probably equally hard for her to understand the source of your ire. It is not so much the flirting/sexting, it was the secrecy in doing so, not sharing this intimacy with her husband.
Perhaps one underlying factor that has not been mentioned is the reason for her doing this.
It implies a need to have something for herself, apart from her husband, in which she can revel and cherish secretly, as a prize. Something her own.
To me, that is a more intriguing question.

[Mkane]

Dishonesty is the problem.
How can you trust, make a home, with someone you cannot trust to be honest?

Essentially this has two avenues of solution:
A) She comes clean with her texts and is forthright in her communications with you, or,
B) You accept she is going to be dishonest and cannot be trusted.

I agree 100%.

We have 4 rules:
No cheating
No lying
dont take one for the team.
No means no.

if any of us can't follow those we are done with this.
My wife has full access to my phone at any time she wants too and I have the same with hers.
Whats the point of being in an open relationship like we are and have to hide it or lie about it.

[2inUPMichigan]

Did anyone happen to notice that they talked and resolved the issues on September 7th??

Weeks later and there are still people pointing fingers here while they have found a resolution and moved on.....

[BrunetteLover]

My wife talks, texts, sexts, etc, etc, sometimes from home, sometimes even from work.

Sometimes when she is up later and I am asleep.

She has a library of hardcore fuck pics she has taken with several of her clients.

Pics of cocks sliding in and out, pics of cum dripping down her thighs.

I have not even seen the vast majority of them. I have no desire to.

And you know what?

She always goes home with me.

I have nothing to worry about, sending fuck pics and fuck messages back and forth is part of the lifestyle.

If you are secure in your marriage, this should be meaningless.