Poly with a Cuckold Twist
Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2022 7:20 am
I have a thread under the Cuckold Forum called Big New Development in Our Cuckold Marriage. I’ve posted since 2016. My wife, Sarah, and I have been married for 20 years and we have two children together.
My wife has been in a long-term relationship with her lover, Aaron, for 6 years (with the exception of a period where she had another primary lover). The three of us have decided it’s time to recognize that we’ve evolved from a cuckold marriage to a polyamorous cuckold marriage. People have different definitions of poly. To us, poly means my wife has fallen in love with another man and she will essentially (not in reality) have two husbands. It’s an emotional bond. However, we will also retain the sexual cuckold aspect to our poly arrangement. I remain the cuckold husband because there is a “sexual pecking order” in our marriage. Aaron will be her primary sexual partner. It has been this way for the past 6 years.
Why have a “wedding” now, you might ask? I guess for the same reason that people who have been living together, unmarried, for years, finally decide to tie the knot. It feels like a good time to acknowledge our relationship in a symbolic way. My wife’s lover says he’s being “elevated” by recognizing his “position.” That’s probably a good way to look at it.
My wife and I will continue to have sex, but we will have no, or very limited, intercourse. That’s just part of the agreement. Maybe we’ll have intercourse on special occasions. This is a difficult concept for many people to understand. All I can say is it works for us, although things change and never say never.
Below is the script for our cuckold wedding commitment ceremony. It will take place tomorrow. I’m referring to myself as Subguy because that’s my username in my thread, although that is obviously not my real name. Bill is a friend and he will act as the officiant for the ceremony. Because Sarah and Aaron don’t want their part of the vows posted here, I’m only including the vows and ceremony from my perspective.
Bill starts: “Welcome everyone. My name is Bill and I’ve been asked by Sarah and Subguy to officiate their commitment ceremony today. As most of you know, Sarah and Subguy have been married to one another for twenty years. Today they will renew their marriage vows, but in a new and very different manner. Today, they will commit to what is called a cuckold marriage and the nature of their previous marriage will change today. The vows they took 20 years ago remain, but the vows today will enhance and modify those earlier vows.
A cuckold marriage is a unique, complex and rewarding bond. At its core is the concept that the wife is a sexual being, with strong sexual desires and attractions. The husband loves and honors her sexuality and takes pride in supporting her sexuality throughout their marriage in ways that demonstrate his devotion. Most important, the husband recognizes that he cannot fulfill all of her sexual needs. He acknowledges his sexual inadequacies and encourages her to obtain sexual satisfaction in ways she desires, especially through sexual interactions with other men. The husband is sexually excited and aroused by the knowledge his wife is sexually active with other men.
In their cuckold marriage, the wife may choose to use sexual denial with her husband. She and her lovers may choose to use the power of humiliation with the husband. The husband may be forced to abstain from sexual activity from time to time. The wife may choose to cuckold her husband with multiple lovers or she may choose to have a regular lover, or both. All of these techniques are ways to increase the husband’s love and devotion to his wife and to intensify their bond.
Today is a special day, not just because Sarah and Subguy are committing to their new cuckold marriage, but also because they are inviting someone to join their marriage. Subguy, would you now invite this individual to come and join you and Sarah?”
At this point, I motion to Aaron, who comes up to us from his front row seat. I take his hand and put it in Sarah’s hand. I say to the invitees, “I’d like to introduce you to Aaron. He has been a long-time lover to Sarah and today he will formally join our marriage.”
Bill: “Subguy, Sarah and Aaron will now start the part of the ceremony where you state your commitment to your marriage vows. You make these vows to each other and to all of us as your witnesses. Do you, witnesses, pledge to support Sarah, Subguy and Aaron and help them fulfill their vows?” The witnesses answer “We do.”
Bill turns to Subguy and after each question, Subguy answers “I do.”
“Subguy, do you pledge to love, honor, cherish and protect Sarah? Do you pledge to accept and obey her sexual needs, desires and choices? Do you accept that she has sexual needs you are not able to fulfill? Do you acknowledge that Aaron and other men are able to fulfill those needs better than you? Do you welcome and accept Aaron into your marriage? Do you acknowledge that just as you and Sarah share a special bond and relationship, do you acknowledge and accept that Sarah and Aaron have a special bond that is separate from you? Do you accept that these special bonds are private matters between the parties? Do you believe that your marriage to Sarah will be stronger and more loving with the addition of Aaron to your marriage? Do you accept that he is superior to you in matters that are sexual? Do you willingly choose to give control of your sexual life and sexual satisfaction, including your penis, to Sarah and Aaron? If he desires, do you agree to surrender yourself sexually to Aaron? Do you agree to accept humiliation and denial from either Sarah or Aaron? Do you accept that Sarah may publicly refer to Aaron as her husband and that Aaron may publicly refer to Sarah as his wife?
Subguy, in what ways do you show your agreement with your vows to these witnesses today?”
At this point, I disrobe and face the witnesses. I’m completely naked and wearing a chastity cage. Sarah and Aaron clap in approval and the audience joins in the applause. While I stand naked, Bill turns to Sarah and Aaron and goes through their vows to each other in a similar manner. They are not included here because Sarah and Aaron want them more private. Their vows were personal, sexy and intimate. Then Bill says: “The participants would like to seal their vows by the exchange of rings.”
Sarah gives me my original wedding band that has been "updated" with a cuckold inscription inside the band. Rather than puttng it on my finger, however, she ties it to the end of my chastity cage with a red ribbon. She and Aaron then exchange rings. At the end of their ring exchange, I undress Sarah and then undress Aaron. Sarah stands between us and we join hands and face the witnesses. My wedding ring from Sarah is tangling from my chastity cage.
Bill says: I now pronounce you Husband, Wife and Cuckold Husband. There is more applause. He closes with: Please join Sarah, Subguy and Aaron for refreshments and drinks to celebrate this new marriage. Later in the afternoon, Aaron will take Sarah to the marital bedroom to “consummate” their marriage, along with Subguy. You are all invited to watch the consummation and to participate in a celebration of sexuality."
There was discussion about whether I should stay naked while Sarah and Aaron dressed during the reception. We decided that I’d make the call at the time.
Sarah initially wanted the “consummation” of the marriage to be private. Aaron felt strongly that he wanted the friends to see them fucking and me watching or assisting. He felt it would send a strong visual message about our roles. Sarah acquiesced and he won on that one.
We know there will be at least five guests, in addition to Bill. Aaron has two close friends, Zach and Kelly and both will be there, for sure. Zach has already come to town and Kelly is local. I have a friend, Eric, from Atlanta. He has already arrived in town. Nate and Sally, a couple who swing with Sarah and Aaron have committed and they hope to bring another couple I have not met, but who are also part of that swinging group.
We haven’t scripted an orgy as part of the ceremony, but this is a celebration of sexuality. So, we are all fully expecting there to be a lot of sex among the couples and with Sarah and Aaron after the marriage “consummation.”
My wife has been in a long-term relationship with her lover, Aaron, for 6 years (with the exception of a period where she had another primary lover). The three of us have decided it’s time to recognize that we’ve evolved from a cuckold marriage to a polyamorous cuckold marriage. People have different definitions of poly. To us, poly means my wife has fallen in love with another man and she will essentially (not in reality) have two husbands. It’s an emotional bond. However, we will also retain the sexual cuckold aspect to our poly arrangement. I remain the cuckold husband because there is a “sexual pecking order” in our marriage. Aaron will be her primary sexual partner. It has been this way for the past 6 years.
Why have a “wedding” now, you might ask? I guess for the same reason that people who have been living together, unmarried, for years, finally decide to tie the knot. It feels like a good time to acknowledge our relationship in a symbolic way. My wife’s lover says he’s being “elevated” by recognizing his “position.” That’s probably a good way to look at it.
My wife and I will continue to have sex, but we will have no, or very limited, intercourse. That’s just part of the agreement. Maybe we’ll have intercourse on special occasions. This is a difficult concept for many people to understand. All I can say is it works for us, although things change and never say never.
Below is the script for our cuckold wedding commitment ceremony. It will take place tomorrow. I’m referring to myself as Subguy because that’s my username in my thread, although that is obviously not my real name. Bill is a friend and he will act as the officiant for the ceremony. Because Sarah and Aaron don’t want their part of the vows posted here, I’m only including the vows and ceremony from my perspective.
Bill starts: “Welcome everyone. My name is Bill and I’ve been asked by Sarah and Subguy to officiate their commitment ceremony today. As most of you know, Sarah and Subguy have been married to one another for twenty years. Today they will renew their marriage vows, but in a new and very different manner. Today, they will commit to what is called a cuckold marriage and the nature of their previous marriage will change today. The vows they took 20 years ago remain, but the vows today will enhance and modify those earlier vows.
A cuckold marriage is a unique, complex and rewarding bond. At its core is the concept that the wife is a sexual being, with strong sexual desires and attractions. The husband loves and honors her sexuality and takes pride in supporting her sexuality throughout their marriage in ways that demonstrate his devotion. Most important, the husband recognizes that he cannot fulfill all of her sexual needs. He acknowledges his sexual inadequacies and encourages her to obtain sexual satisfaction in ways she desires, especially through sexual interactions with other men. The husband is sexually excited and aroused by the knowledge his wife is sexually active with other men.
In their cuckold marriage, the wife may choose to use sexual denial with her husband. She and her lovers may choose to use the power of humiliation with the husband. The husband may be forced to abstain from sexual activity from time to time. The wife may choose to cuckold her husband with multiple lovers or she may choose to have a regular lover, or both. All of these techniques are ways to increase the husband’s love and devotion to his wife and to intensify their bond.
Today is a special day, not just because Sarah and Subguy are committing to their new cuckold marriage, but also because they are inviting someone to join their marriage. Subguy, would you now invite this individual to come and join you and Sarah?”
At this point, I motion to Aaron, who comes up to us from his front row seat. I take his hand and put it in Sarah’s hand. I say to the invitees, “I’d like to introduce you to Aaron. He has been a long-time lover to Sarah and today he will formally join our marriage.”
Bill: “Subguy, Sarah and Aaron will now start the part of the ceremony where you state your commitment to your marriage vows. You make these vows to each other and to all of us as your witnesses. Do you, witnesses, pledge to support Sarah, Subguy and Aaron and help them fulfill their vows?” The witnesses answer “We do.”
Bill turns to Subguy and after each question, Subguy answers “I do.”
“Subguy, do you pledge to love, honor, cherish and protect Sarah? Do you pledge to accept and obey her sexual needs, desires and choices? Do you accept that she has sexual needs you are not able to fulfill? Do you acknowledge that Aaron and other men are able to fulfill those needs better than you? Do you welcome and accept Aaron into your marriage? Do you acknowledge that just as you and Sarah share a special bond and relationship, do you acknowledge and accept that Sarah and Aaron have a special bond that is separate from you? Do you accept that these special bonds are private matters between the parties? Do you believe that your marriage to Sarah will be stronger and more loving with the addition of Aaron to your marriage? Do you accept that he is superior to you in matters that are sexual? Do you willingly choose to give control of your sexual life and sexual satisfaction, including your penis, to Sarah and Aaron? If he desires, do you agree to surrender yourself sexually to Aaron? Do you agree to accept humiliation and denial from either Sarah or Aaron? Do you accept that Sarah may publicly refer to Aaron as her husband and that Aaron may publicly refer to Sarah as his wife?
Subguy, in what ways do you show your agreement with your vows to these witnesses today?”
At this point, I disrobe and face the witnesses. I’m completely naked and wearing a chastity cage. Sarah and Aaron clap in approval and the audience joins in the applause. While I stand naked, Bill turns to Sarah and Aaron and goes through their vows to each other in a similar manner. They are not included here because Sarah and Aaron want them more private. Their vows were personal, sexy and intimate. Then Bill says: “The participants would like to seal their vows by the exchange of rings.”
Sarah gives me my original wedding band that has been "updated" with a cuckold inscription inside the band. Rather than puttng it on my finger, however, she ties it to the end of my chastity cage with a red ribbon. She and Aaron then exchange rings. At the end of their ring exchange, I undress Sarah and then undress Aaron. Sarah stands between us and we join hands and face the witnesses. My wedding ring from Sarah is tangling from my chastity cage.
Bill says: I now pronounce you Husband, Wife and Cuckold Husband. There is more applause. He closes with: Please join Sarah, Subguy and Aaron for refreshments and drinks to celebrate this new marriage. Later in the afternoon, Aaron will take Sarah to the marital bedroom to “consummate” their marriage, along with Subguy. You are all invited to watch the consummation and to participate in a celebration of sexuality."
There was discussion about whether I should stay naked while Sarah and Aaron dressed during the reception. We decided that I’d make the call at the time.
Sarah initially wanted the “consummation” of the marriage to be private. Aaron felt strongly that he wanted the friends to see them fucking and me watching or assisting. He felt it would send a strong visual message about our roles. Sarah acquiesced and he won on that one.
We know there will be at least five guests, in addition to Bill. Aaron has two close friends, Zach and Kelly and both will be there, for sure. Zach has already come to town and Kelly is local. I have a friend, Eric, from Atlanta. He has already arrived in town. Nate and Sally, a couple who swing with Sarah and Aaron have committed and they hope to bring another couple I have not met, but who are also part of that swinging group.
We haven’t scripted an orgy as part of the ceremony, but this is a celebration of sexuality. So, we are all fully expecting there to be a lot of sex among the couples and with Sarah and Aaron after the marriage “consummation.”