Thank you for checking in on us.Long Lurker 34 wrote: ↑Mon May 16, 2022 7:26 amI second this post.Guhunkadorn wrote: ↑Mon May 16, 2022 5:45 amDid a double-take to confirm it's been over 6 months since last post on this thread.
Your story is right up there with the best, most instructive, on this site.
Hope you and Julie are doing well and, obviously, would love an update.
CoHus - It's been a very long time since the last post, hope all is well and would like to learn of any intervening adventures.
I realize it's been a while since I last updated on our situation. Juli and I continue to do well, but there have been some changes in our situation with our friend Brian.
The short version is that Brian has now remarried.
He was single (divorced) for many years, and the last 7 he spent meeting with my wife Juli and they became very intimate lovers.
As naturally happens with an on-going sexual relationship, the two partners develop an emotional bond out of their sex. And Brian and Juli had that exact experience.
It had gotten to the point quite frankly where a decision was necessary as to how long their "intimate friendship" could continue as it was, or if something more was desired.
As as you can probably deduce, it was either continue in a much deeper relationship with Brian, or agree that it had realistically run it's course.
All three of us were part of this discussion.
So it was during that time....this was in the fall of last year (2021) that Brian began dating a woman that he had been in contact with (not sexually but socially) and their relationship developed nicely...to the point where Brian informed us of his intent to proceed with his new relationship. This was toward the end of 2021. Brian continued to meet with Juli for sex until December.
(In fact, Brian and his girlfriend were married just a week ago).
A lot of detail can be written about the transition and the feelings that were involved for us all. And perhaps I can write more about it in a subsequent post, but I'll, not try to tell everything here.
So bottom line for now is....that while extremely difficult for both Juli and Brian, the decision was made by them to end the sexual relationship that they have enjoyed with each other for so long.
Their relationship had naturally developed over 7 years of intimate contact, into a deeper relationship than any of us had foreseen when we first began in 2015.
Juli and Brian love each other. And the ending of their intimate relationship truly is akin to a divorce. A mutually amicable divorce, but the separation is as emotionally traumatic as most break-ups. It's been 6 months now since their last sex...and I've watched Juli go through the natural stages of mourning. Been difficult as a husband to watch frankly.
I always have appreciated the kind comments that I have received here. And again I will be glad to discuss more about the ending of our relationship with my wife's lover.
Mark