Thank you Shall54,shall54 wrote: ↑Fri Nov 06, 2020 12:17 amHi Mark, With your amazing three way relation between you, Juli and Brian, have you noticed any changes to these dynamics since the start of the Pandemic? Does Juli share anything about hers and Brian's relations (i.e., sex or otherwise)? I believe there are still some of us who live vicariously through the life we feel you live.
Thanks again for sharing your story with us!
I know some on the forum have followed my posts since my wife and I started down this road with our divorced friend, so I think it's probably a good thing if I at least give a current update. The relationship is now in its 5th year (pretty amazing to think about), but I'll try to be succinct in my update.
> Back in 2015 when I first brought up the idea to my wife about her giving mercy sex to our friend who had been divorced the previous year, she agreed to it because having been a shared wife in her first marriage years ago, the concept of having sex with another man was not a foreign or shocking concept for her. So she did sleep with him on Valentine's Day 2015.
Since then the relationship has had up and down moments, even taking a break from it for almost a year in 2016.
But after restarting a "Friend-with-Benefits" relationship again in 2017, their emotional bond steadily grew to where in early 2018, I came to the realization that we had "crossed the Rubicon" with Brian, and there was no turning back. Juli and Brian were bonded to each other, not as a husband and wife bond, but very similar at least sexually and even emotionally, to the point where Brian had his own unique sexual relationship with my wife. Exclusive from anyone else including me. I do not mean that he was having sex with her and I wasn't at the time, I mean that what they experienced together in the privacy of the bedroom, was exclusively their's. Even I was not privy to what they did with each other. (except for general understanding of various sex positions that they enjoyed, but what I mean is their bond was unique, just as my bond with Juli is unique).
While our marriage (now almost 40 years) is still very solid, Brian is an undeniable part of our relationship.
Because I know some have been faithful to read my posts and allow me to use this forum as a personal journal, I will admit that Juli and I did abstain from sex with each other for several months earlier this spring and summer. There were reasons for that which I won't take time to enumerate in this particular post, but will say that we both had our reasons for the abstention. Juli did continue to see Brian throughout that time,
We are now once again back to having marital sex ,and our bed is as good as it has been in a while.
I hope all of you are well and enjoying your own Hot Wife experiences.
Mark