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Thinking more, the timing is pefect to pull this crap right now. Busy work period for me leading into a long weekend with 3 days of having me home and away from work with no escape.

The next round is on again, knew the quiet period wouldn't last. "wife" seemed ok when I got home from work a bit later than usual (busy work week and heavy traffic). Dinner was still cooking and we agreed we'll eat later when I get back from the park. I spent a little longer than usual but not TOO ...

NAC - The workplace I spent the longest time at, nearly 20 years, the crew chief was exactly like this to a 'T'. Then we ended up with a new manager above him and he was as bad or even worse. I, and a bunch of others, got layed off and it was almost a relief to go. Yes I understand that psychopaths...

NAC - The workplace I spent the longest time at, nearly 20 years, the crew chief was exactly like this to a 'T'. Then we ended up with a new manager above him and he was as bad or even worse. I, and a bunch of others, got layed off and it was almost a relief to go. Yes I understand that psychopaths...

I just purchased the below book. It has good reviews and I can listen while driving to work. I started listening this morning and have already learned quite a bit. The title has a double meaning. Splitting as-in separating, however the other meaning is what the person with personality disorder does ...

NAC - You have to be thinking of your own long term welfare, physically and mentally. Thank you, you're right. That's exactly what my psychologist told me last year, but I keep forgetting while thinking of how to avoid the next unpleasant event. That brings my thoughts to her more than is helpful.

Talk to the lawyer. Get a list of steps. Do them. I'll be making a call tomorrow. The call was made. Next step is to gather some info, fill out some forms and make an appointment. That may take some time. Very mixed feelings. "Wife is being extra nice this last day after a brief episode a few days ...

NAC - Since covid, at least where I am, the driving of many more people has just become incrementally worse. I think that sentence is partly what accounts for it. Now this has me wondering if a lot more people were affected, mentally, by covid than has been realized. - Reading the rest of that para...

NAC - You have no idea. - Plus it's concern for your safety. With mental health issues such as she has displayed at times you can never be sure what might cause her to break with reality and become violent. Thank you, and yes agreed. I need to be careful. I've seen enough already to warrant caution.

" No weapon in the arsenal of the controlling person is as strong as the guilt message. People with poor boundaries almost always internalize guilt messages leveled at them; they obey guilt-inducing statements that try to make them feel bad. " " Here are a few tips about dealing with these external ...

I have been re-listening to the audiobook on boundaries. I can't emphasise enough how good it is and how helpful it has been to me in navigating through this. If anyone reading this finds themselves in a similar situation you will also likely find it helpful. I got into, and stayed in, this situatio...

Talk to the lawyer. Get a list of steps. Do them. I'll be making a call tomorrow. There may potentially be a new person of interest I can call C. C is very different from all the other "park girls" I've mentioned before. She's closer to my age for a start (however still 13 years younger). I've actu...

My 2 cents. I've followed this for YEARS. I thought you almost achieved liftoff about a year ago. Then.... you chickened out. WHY do you stay married? Why do you feel obligated to a person who treats you so badly? Call the lawyer. Get it done. She'll be happier, you'll be happier. Let her threaten ...

Later yesterday evening I was on the couch watching tv and wife was over on the other one watching tv and on her phone. I got up and used the bathroom and then my dog came over wanting some attention so I picked her up and cuddled with her on the lounge. She fell asleep in my arms. Wife got really j...

Why do you keep doing this to yourself? I would bet from your research you know there is no fixing a narcissist. Sometimes the best deal you can make is the one you walk away from. Granted I do not know your total circumstance but all this seems to be beating you down to the point that you must ask...

How are things going? Well I wish I could report that things are going well. There was another incident happened around Valentines Day. I pre-booked and took her out for dinner that night but it ended up being pretty awkward. I could see she was determined to make an incident around that time. Pre-...

As an antidote to future gaslighting it would be good to get all this down in a journal. At this point it seems like everything she's doing is designed to make you complicit in her bad behaviour. It's funny that you mentioned gaslighting. She was watching a tv show (some dating show) and it came up...

Also to mention that even after all the drama of last week, last night was another night where she didn't come to bed until 1am.

In regards to last Monday might, I'm not even sure if it's worth writing about now, I'm pretty scarred and don't really want to dredge it all up again. However it's probably important that I don't just gloss over it either. It was a really major event, probably the 2nd biggest that I've writren abou...

Yes, I think you did over-interpret their interest, but it's pretty natural considering what you're going through at home. The thing is, women can tell when a guy is desperate and they don't want that, so if you become too eager, they will back off. But it should of course also be noted that all of...

Unfortunately things escalated again last night, the grenade went off anyway. I'm too tired and beat to write about it just now after zero sleep. Some veiled threats were made though. In regards to L2, unfortunately that has also run into a dead end. I eventually managed to get in contact with someo...

I feel like you alot. How do you handle the lonely feeling from her ignoring you and talking to someone else online. My wife actually spent alot of time on the phone in her native language. I have alot of friends but spent too much of my time talking about my marriage problems with them. I don't se...

In terms of letting her make the big decisions, remember the week when she wanted us to save up to knock the house down and rebuild, then to go on a trip to Africa, then to put a pool in our backyard. After what she did for all that time online and not going to the hospital or my dad's funeral etc. ...

Sorry guys but I jumped on the grenade. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do in the moment. I had to de-escalate. Things were getting pretty crazy and then things turned verbal. She gaslighted me saying her comment about "what are YOU doing on Friday" was about my work situation and whether ...

OK, so things are escalating very rapidly!! She asked for the pass again last night and I got it for her. As I was leaving for the park she said she'll be gone about an hour. I said ok and left. An hour or so later while at the park I saw her about 50 meters away walking towards the park with her ph...